MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

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I am always not comfortable with that statement that no one owes anyone nothing especially from family members.
I hope when the elder brother is sick or having financial problems, he shouldn't expect any help because no one owes anyone nothing?
A family that lack loves usually exhibit such traits.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

I was waiting for u to ask for his account details

Had similar experience,
send me your acct No. Use the money to prepare delicious food for your elder brother tell him somebody you repaired phone for dashed you money.

Do things to please him:
...wash his clothes
...Iron his clothes
...polish his shoes
...clean the house and toilet

Do those things and he will definitely feel your impact and he will give you money.

Pls don't beg him money for transport or feeding it will provoke him.

After all the things I mentioned above,
Skip work. If he ask you reason you didn't go to work then tell him you are very very broke and you were about to ask him for money but you don't knw how to beg him for it.

Nazgul:
Your problem with your brother is over familiarity and entitlement mentality. Like someone rightfully pointed out, he doesn't owe you anything, cos he didn't bring you into this world.

If you want your current predicament with him to come to an end, do the following...

1. See him as your oga and see yourself as an apprentice in his shop, stop seeing him as your equal.

2. Call him sir whenever he calls you. And run errands for him without grumbling.

3. Wash his clothes, polish his shoes, clean the house and sweep the shop whenever you get there. Make cleanliness your best friend. A lazy person cannot succeeded as an apprentice.

4. Respectfully beg him for lunch, eg. Good afternoon sir, please I'm hungry. Don't ever call him by his name.

See how foolish you are

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Discuss with him, if he doesn't change, report to your parents. If you have friends in Lagos that can accommodate you and understand your plight....please relocate

weslay:
If the elder brother knows he is not up to the task, he could have left his younger brother to stay back wherever he was.

were you there when the elder brother TOLD HIM TO COME? how do you guys jump into conclusions like this?

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Okra 100 Naira?

🤣😂

Gajagojo:
. When times are hard yes even a father giving an adult child is entitlement
Nobody owes you anything in this life
If a grown man who should be married is a bachelor eating noodles he is not doing well and not in a position to be carrying another adult

Well you are very right but I hope the elder brother or you his supporters don't say otherwise when it's the junior brother's turn to show him pepper too cos in this life nothing stays the same forever.

phemmyfour:
Discuss with him, if he doesn't change, report to your parents. If you have friends in Lagos that can accommodate you and understand your plight....please relocate

you are a small boy. that is why you can only give childish suggestions. Your brain is still in your mother's womb.

Family is all we've got.

Don't let anybody decieve you, once a person is under your roof, you have that responsibility to take care of them. This is why before you take a person under your roof, make sure you are able to carter for his/her basic needs if not, kindly tell them you are not yet ready for that responsibility.

It's a different thing if the person expects you to provide luxury for them.

OP, your brother owes you accommodation, Healthcare, feeding and transport. People should stop sounding smart by saying nobody owes you nothing. It's dumb, we all owe ourselves some kind of responsibility.

Having said that, you also owe your brother respect, running errands without any form of grudge, taking care of the house, wash his clothes, manage his business as if it is your own, obedience, cooking etc.

You see, nobody is an island, we all need each other and the paradox of life doesn't work in the theory of "the eldest son/sibling will forever be the wealthiest or the backbone of the house". These days, God can bless anybody and he may choose to bless you over your brother tomorrow. Remember the story of Joseph and David.

Shalom

GO0DHardDick:


If I can't feed my junior brothers until they can stand up on their feet, dude I have no business talking about marriage whatsoever!

If I can't feed my parents comfortable without them lacking anything, oga I have no business talking about marriage at all.

How can someone who can't even eat comfortably well let alone helping or assisting his brothers be talking about being ripped for marriage? U smoke? Or u think marriage is child's play?

Brother, you are still too young.

Listen to this very clear advise:

While you assist your siblings with what you can, ensure that you are growing. While you assist your siblings, ensure that you are ahead on all fronts.

While you are at it, ensuring that your siblings are educated and standing on their feet, ensure that you are educated and standing on your feet too. You’re not Dangote or Elumelu, who are super rich. Do not turn yourself into the family sacrificial lamb.

I want to freely inform you that you may train them and ensure all the need in life and they throw you away when they are in better positions.

While you are training them and they begin to have children, you will be left behind. There is a difference between Uncle and Daddy. Their children will call you uncle, while you do not have one child of your own.

Time waits for no man, as they say.

Please help your siblings as much as you are able to. If you are not there, they will stand on their feet. You cannot arrogate the position of God to yourself in their lives. Responsibility of taking care of children falls on parents, not on first sons and first daughters. Many of them suffer what they never expected many years after ensuring that their siblings stand on their feet.

Mindlog:


Fact is that OP is his younger brother, assisting him while he is still carving out his own path in life with food and the occasional transport fare is not out of place. When he starts earning something from the phone repairs he is learning, then he can contribute.

In the future when they are both married and this present issue becomes the root of their acrimonious relationship, na wife whey no know how the problem take start na im dey go dey blame for causing disunity between brothers.

Omo, the response I am seeing on this thread are terrible...

Somebody that is easily swayed by opinions may come here and see this and think that the senior brother is doing nothing wrong. And begin to imbibe all this their poverty/sapa induced mentality

A stranger is not supposed to be treated the op is being treated, not to talk of family.. and yes siblings are responsible for the wellbeing of their younger ones..

Openfortruth:


He knows I'm not earning currently. He should do better with me.

Thank you for your words

He thinks of you as been Lazy, reason he is starving you. I guess you were too spoilt by ur mum while growing up so he wants u to face hard life before he can feed u. I suggest u go to building sites and do some work. Wash cars and do menial jobs to survive. Learning handwork doesn't stop u from making money except u jus want to be lazy

AllBlack:


you are a small boy. that is why you can only give childish suggestions

You are useless ....kí lomode ẹ mọ

If you can't be your brother's keeper when your parents are alive, you won't be when they're dead

correctguy101:


Don't mind the itk...

Why on earth would he even take him to the city if he knows his pocket is too lean to cater for his own younger sibling? Your own blood brother o. And the werey go dey spend on drinks and women o...

And some oversabi are supporting nonsense behavior. Will they still say a parent has entitlement mentality if they ask their own son to take care of his younger ones?

The young man is even learning trade from him.. smh

Yeye elder brother wey he be. Shame on him.

Eediots everywhere...

Two things

Where did you read
that he is learning trade FROM HIM
That HE TOOK HIM to the city

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

So Sorry for your present condition.


My solid advice for you is not to retaliate.

Share Your Garri with him.

This should teach him some sense if he has conscience.




If He doesn't change, leave him unto God Almighty.



Don't Waste Your Time Building HATE for His Unkindness.




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MS247:


I am saying you are not a disable or an imbecileee so work for your own food

Give others and don't have entitled mentality to recieve like a beggar

some of u sha, so u can't help ur younger ones. If they come and stay with u, they will be on their own abi? People who are stingy to their family but will not find it hard spending on women.

MS247:


This kind of entitlement mentality is very very wrong

There’s nothing like entitlement here, how can an older brother cook and eat and wash the plate as if nothing happened and watch his brother starve ?

Granted he doesn’t owe him anything, why let him leave the village at all only subject him to this kind of treatment ? Is that training or what ? Exactly what training is that.

The true show of love is sacrifice.

Your brother should be helping you out. How can he cook food and eat without leaving anything for you or pretend like he has not eaten anything? That is pure wickedness. I'm sorry he's being unkind and cruel to you. You're better off leaving his place as soon as you can, because he doesn't care about you or your wellbeing. Can you go back to your parents?

Tokskob2008:


Well you are very right but I hope the elder brother or you his supporters don't say otherwise when it's the junior brother's turn to show him pepper too cos in this life nothing stays the same forever.

This is not about showing pepper
I have been in that same situation before and felt bitter and angry

Now I am very grateful that it happened because It was good education that cured me of all sense of entitlement and made me a man.
From the story it sounds like
the young man just got up in the village and decided to transfer his responsibility to his brother without discussion or negotiation,
The brother is not really doing well
The brother feels bitter and trapped.

At my age I have seen that scenario in Nigeria dozens of times
It never ends well
Even when the brother struggles to help in future it will still lead to quarrel that he did not do enough.

The correct attitude is to be grateful that he even accommodated you in his house

When you listen to. Japa. stories from Diaspora you will be shocked
People will throw their siblings out of their houses after a while

It is only in abundance that we can be generous
When times are hard it is every man for himself
We should not take that personal. Life is hard

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Bros you can arrange with your boss where you are currently learning how to repair phone that 2 days out of the 6days in a week (apart from Sunday) you won't be coming to work, use this 2 days to find what you can do that will fetch you money so you can use the money to survive.
You can even look for job you can do at night e.g security or factory job then in the morning you go to where you are learning work.
Na my own little advice be this ooo to be a man no easy oo

BarrElChapo:


There’s nothing like entitlement here, how can an older brother cook and eat and wash the plate as if nothing happened and watch his brother starve ?

Granted he doesn’t owe him anything, why let him leave the village at all only subject him to this kind of treatment ? Is that training or what ? Exactly what training is that.

The true show of love is sacrifice.

Sentiment

do you know the meaning of starve?

Why let him leave the village? Did his brother invite him? Ask questions before passing one sided judgment. Let the OP tell us what conversation they had before they started living together
Was there any discussion or he just arrived one day with his bag?

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Instead of you to ask him if his brother is capable of feeding extra mouth, you are here telling him he owe him nothing. This is the same self centered behaviour that made Nigeria remain backwards. If you can't help your blood brother in time of need, is it total strangers you will have feelings for when you attain position of authority. This is what have been happening with our leaders, they have the same mentality of owning anyone nothing but themselves.

Will you say the same thing if the said brother got sick and his junior brother watch him die doing nothing? Do you ever think that the same brother might also need his help in future? Let stop this foolish selfish attitude to make our society works. The only person that should not help those around him are people that don't have the capacity to do so.

I am not surprise about your plight, I faced similar issue too when I was saying with my sister. It was really a bitter experience. She even orchestrated me leaving her house, she thought I didn't know. Know this for real: your family is someone that stay loyal to you through thick and thin; blood is not family.
So sorry you had to learn the hard way.

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Mindlog:


If you are the elder brother, will you be confident enough to sit down and eat the served Eba and Okro soup?

Your brother is an ass. What about your parents

relagze:
I am not surprise about your plight, I faced similar issue too when I was saying with my sister. It was really a bitter experience. She even orchestrated me leaving her house, she thought I didn't know. Know this for real: your family is someone that stay loyal to you through thick and thin; blood is not family.
So sorry you had to learn the hard way.

Maybe you were just occupying space and not contributing anything hence the reason your sister wanted you out of her house

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

This line of reasoning is warped. If he doesn't owe him anything like you think, why did he bring him in in the first instance? The moment he brought him in, he owes him love and care. When I read line of thought like this with all the likes it gathers, I wonder how callous and irresponsible the world has become, it baffles me how dysfunctional families have become that brothers can wickedly turn their back on their siblings when they have power to help claiming they didn't bring them into the world. I grew up in a family where we were told that we owe each other love and care, we share what we have. Your line of thinking is horrendous and alien to a person like me.

Openfortruth:


When did you start making money? When learning how to make money or after learning how to make money?

he's actually supposed to help you out in terms of feeding but I want to ask two vital questions: did you have a solid arrangement with your brother before setting out for the city

2: Do you respect him very well presently and before now??

tete7000:


This line of reasoning is warped. If he doesn't owe him anything like you think, why did he bring him in in the first instance? The moment he brought him in, he owes him love and care. When I read line of thought like this with all the likes it gathers, I wonder how callous and irresponsible the world has turn, it baffles me how dysfunctional families have become that brothers can wickedly turn their back on their siblings when they have power to help claiming they didn't bring them into the world.

Did he bring him?

Dpen11:
Try to have savings and leave on your own.

He might think you are being a burden to him, maybe that's why he is acting that way.

I pray you find something that will pay well so you can stand on your own

Since his brother wakes up first before him, he is as useless as anything! He never stated what he does in the house or anything! I think he lacks discipline or communication skills.

We all must consider his elder brother, he needs to tell us what he does everyday especially in the morning to help his elder brother?

yemmit90:


Instead of you to ask him if his brother is capable of feeding extra mouth, you are here telling him he owe him nothing. This is the same self centered behaviour that made Nigeria remain backwards. If you can't help your blood brother in time of need, is it totally strangers you will have feelings for when you attain position of authority. This is what have been happening with our leaders, they have the same mentality of owning anyone nothing but themselves.

Will you say the same thing if the said brother got sick and his junior brother watch him die doing nothing? Do you ever think that the same brother might also need his help in future? Let stop this foolish selfish attitude to make our society works. The only person that should not help those around him are people that don't have the capacity to do so.

Well said my man!