Marriage is a lifetime serious emotions Business.
One with low EQ has no Business in Marriage!.




Wittyness.

Na wah..
I don't even know what to say self.


Anyways, I just remember the days of FTC and Front front page madness on nairaland.

Time flies sha and every situation sha pass away. Always remember that apart from God, nothing is worth fighting for.

Your only mistake was that you accepted her when she came back,to her you are just an option.


But tank God children are not involved, just move on swiftly like something never happened, it's easier for a man to get partner for a woman.

For your next relationships go in as a player untill you good one that worth the struggle,then you can wife

You need 2 by 2, how you manage to resume a relationship you got dumped for, even after 2 years of consistent shagging.

She left you and when she discovered her backup was still there, she came and you wasted no time in getting married to her.

A woman that breaks your heart once will do it again, the only reason to go back to such is to use and dump, not marriage.

Your case is a lesson, I hope you understand now, love does not exist.

Mhizzard:
A woman you love wholeheartedly,initially left you for another man just because she foolishly thought ahead about how your striving for success after your service would be.meanwhile she later asked for reconcilation of which you accepted her cus of the love you have for her;you are not to be blame for that though,from the on set you should have know that she is a Gold digger.

This Love is making a lot of Men not to use there head

The red flag was there but the guy didn't read the signs
Now he is all in pain and regret


Op should just move on
Focus on his life to get better and with time it will be all right

Just be wiser next time


Note: guys should be very cautious when it comes to relationship with the opposite sex

Vet everything
Be watchful and shrewd
If you notice any red flag abort immediately
There is no Mercy on this street
So use your brain

Good for you

She'll call crying again.

sparko1:
You need 2 by 2, how you manage to resume a relationship you got dumped for, even after 2 years of consistent shagging.

She left you and when she discovered her backup was still there, she came and you wasted no time in getting married to her.

A woman that breaks your heart once will do it again, the only reason to go back to such is to use and dump, not marriage.

Your case is a lesson, I hope you understand now, love does not exist.

Infatuation not Love is a disease

Unittyy:
Any woman that once dump you doesn't love you at all, and can dump you again and again in future. I'm speaking from experience
My University babe broke up during NYSC and came back again after 2 years begging for a reunion. Also because of the love we shared, I gave her a second chance. Same babe that was begging for a second chance still broke up again and followed another guy.

you didn't fúck ?

Watcharena:
■ Your only mistake was that you accepted her when she came back,to her you are just an option. But tank God children are not involved, just move on swiftly like something never happened, it's easier for a man to get partner for a woman. For your next relationships go in as a player untill you good one that worth the struggle,then you can wife

How is that a mistake? You think that if that part of the relationship had never happened, it would not have still ended the way it did? Come on now.... you people need to stop using the delusions to try to explain away reality. Even people who have been together since childhood dey break up after marriage and many children. This is rubbish thinking!

Unlike so many out there can say for themselves, OP followed his heart and did what he wanted to do in his relationship. That it didn't end up the way he gambled, does not take any from that fact.

Kobojunkie:
How is that a mistake? You think that if that part of the relationship had never happened, it would not have still ended the way it did? Come on now.... you people need to stop using the delusions to try to explain away reality. Even people who have been together since childhood dey break up after marriage and many children. This is rubbish thinking!

Unlike so many out there can say for themselves, OP followed his heart and did what he wanted to do in his relationship. That it didn't end up the way he gambled, does not take any from that fact.

you as a man can you marry a lady you have dated for a very long time that she left you bacause she has found a man that is ready for marriage when you're still process,then she decided to come back to you when her best option is no longer available.

Her leaving him when nothing has gone wrong was a red flag.it shows it's not difficult for her to walk away from him when ever she feel like not untill when things are going wrong.


I'm not saying that if such even had not happened they would still be together by now.
No I'm event is a red flag for him

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

i dont knkw how u want to do it but in all u do please dont take advice from kobojunkie...shes full of barg@ges and neg@tivities, i warned you.

Wait....na now I read am finish oooo...please come again sir, u mean she left u and packed away...mogbe ooohhhhh


My brother she just used you, she used you big time.

Chaii

Watcharena:
■ you as a man can you marry a lady you have dated for a very long time that she left you bacause she has found a man that is ready for marriage when you're still process,then she decided to come back to you when her best option is no longer available.
■ Her leaving him when nothing has gone wrong was a red flag. it shows it's not difficult for her to walk away from him when ever she feel like not untill when things are going wrong. I'm not saying that if such even had not happened they would still be together by now.
No I'm event is a red flag for him

Different strokes for different folks. That is not the issue here. You cannot say because you can't do something that it then means that something, which in and of itself is not a crime, cannot work for anyone else out there. So let's keep our heads in check here.

2. She left him and they assumed the relationship ended after 2 years. It ceased to be a red flag the moment both of them declared the relationship ended and moved on from there until they later reunited. People date and even marry former lovers, so there is nothing wrong with that at all.

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

When we talk, they say it's because we hate women bla bla bla

But at the END they always come back crying like a baby!!

Women only love their children genuinely, if she's not your mother.... then deal with her like a terrorist🙄🙄

You don't take back a cheating woman!

You don't forgive a woman that has left you before!!

You don't commit to a woman if she isn't a
virgin or has many penile milage!!!

And more⚠️

Death to ALL simps😆😂😂

Nah u fvck up....
Why u go take her back.....
Person wey never rate u for once.






But guess what, if she comes back asking for forgiveness again u go still accept her back cuz a simp (mumu) will always stays a simp!

I knw people like yourself...

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

She left you for a better options, then her best option disappointed her and the next thing she did was to look for a mumu simp like you to plan her retirement with, after chopping multiple dicks in her prime. And your common sense didn't tell you to chase her away like a plaque. How did you manage to graduate from school? Na only your parents I pity! So sad!

If she was'nt good enough for that her supposed husband to be, then she ain't good enough for you. And most importantly never accept back your EX, you guys never learn because you play too much...

Just see how she carry you over 2.5...!! While she's depriving you of her puss, another guy was busy banging it 24/7 while you thought she's doing business. But guess what, she will return back crying and begging as usual and you will still accept her because your simping level is on a very fast bullet train...!!

Kobojunkie:
Op, in this life, you win some and you lose some. Take heart and try to move on.

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Kobojunkie:
Op, in this life, you win some and you lose some. Take heart and try to move on.

the plus is, no child or children between them.

Idaytesj29:
■ the plus is, no child or children between you guys.

Yep! No need to pretend love or marriage comes with a guarantee when they never ever have.

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.
It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

Try reading these books below.
the way of the superior man by David Deida pdf

Men are from Mars women are from Venus pdf

You will thank me later.

Na wa ooo


Never accept your EX back, if she was the one that broke up with you
(If your bad character was the cause of the break up initially then you can accept her back is she want you)


FACT: EX are meant for SEX not for marriage or relationship.


I still F*ck about four of my married EX's till day (Their Kpekus is too hard to resist), even though i am also a married bachelor.

If you ever had an encounter with a Kpekus that have hands and can grab your balls while you thrust and swim deep down in her Well you will understand the term called "irresistible Kpekus"

Move on bro you deserve a better life, if you have the money go on vacations, meet people, and make new friends. And get yourself a modest lady, trust me she will regret all her actions.
I won't blame you bcs I don't want to add to your depression, this is a lesson for another set of SIMPle guys out there. "It sucks to go back to the past, never consider your ex or runaway old childhood friend for a marriage. The only reason why most of these old babes come back is because they have no option at that point and immediately they see better options they will fly away, OP wife used him as the last resort to survive the moment and she left him immediately she got better option". Learn to move on in life , say no to dating an ex, runaway childhood friend and any form of evening newspapers 📰

Aaaaarghmed:
hope you are not currently simping.you talk like one

That person u quoted....kobojunkie abi werin be hin name...

Na she, but she's a dam@ged soul...with a lot of barg@ges...

No matter what a woman do to a man, the woman is always right to her, u will never see her criticise a woman, never

It's not hard to tell a fake story.

She never loved you from the beginning, she only used you to pass time.
Now she has found who she really loves

First, it is not right to accept a woman who has left you for another man, back into your life. She is certainly not the same person anymore.

Secondly, you should have opened the business in your own name.
Marriage is built on trust, but wisdom is profitable to direct. If she has issues with you opening a business with your own name, then it's a flag you should look into closely.

You loved, albeit foolishly and got punished for it. Learn your lesson and do better next time.
Sorry about that bro

You didn't enjoy living with a productive woman who brought a lot to your table.

Why?

She was busting her balls to give you both a better life. Did you ever try dressing sexy and help relieve her stress? Or did you ever at any time make her feel less than? Did you give her peace of mind? Were you able to hold conversations about her business with her, or were you after her body all the time? Because this sounds like a weird story, or you haven't told us what you did to get to that point.

We need to hear her side of the story.

Go outside and meet another woman


Women plenty , you fit get luck see better woman

The biggest mistake you made here was to take her back. Never take back a woman who has gone to date another man after you break up.

The person coming back isn't the same as the person that left.

The smaller mistake was to open the business in her name. You should have done it in your own name and just allow her to run it.

defendedvictim:
First, it is not right to accept a woman who has left you for another man, back into your life. She is certainly not the same person anymore.

Secondly, you should have opened the business in your own name.
Marriage is built on trust, but wisdom is profitable to direct. If she has issues with you opening a business with your own name, then it's a flag you should look into closely.

You loved, albeit foolishly and got punished for it. Learn your lesson and do better next time.
Sorry about that bro

It's built on trust, but you wanted him to open the business in his name, while she would slave away at him for him?

Some of you love talking about red flags in women without really seeing what you feel is a red flag for what it is: another unrealistic expectation.

Mistake 1 : Accepting her back after she had been used and dumped by someone she left u for

Mistake 2: You were not in charge of the marriage from onset.

Correction: Give her your rules as you have done . If she is proving stubborn file for divorce. Her brain go reset