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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by komzy589(m): 5:06pm On Oct 24, 2023
Benekkk:
When I was getting married, I told myself one truth - what’s good for the goose is sauce for the gander I.e. I wasn’t going to expect from my life partner a standard that I couldn’t hold myself up to, no hypocrisy.
I didn’t even really look at her physical statistics because I was more interested in her mind. (The beauty I noticed in a woman was always the eyes - the window to the soul).
We’re still happily married after 30 years. I think it’s because I became a Christian.
I think you’re also just lucky too. Most people are 2-faced. You’re married for 30years so you must have seen people change after getting married.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by blaise26abj(m): 5:09pm On Oct 24, 2023
Please your inner demons are not cured by another person .It is your personal willingness with God’s help ( if you are religious ) that will help .the day she brings out your inner demon ( and it will happen ), you will catch up on all escapades you have missed.

In selecting a wife , you select the qualities you want and have seen her do almost as second nature . Look at those things you do not like and see if you can work with them .

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Elxandre(m): 5:36pm On Oct 24, 2023
Ahmed0336:

Not once after I got married. The last match I played was two days to my wedding cheesy
Impressive. More success boss.
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Nobody: 5:39pm On Oct 24, 2023
Carcholce:
Please if you are not married, I don’t need your comment. If you are a single father, don’t comment either, if you are a divorcee, please save your strength. Only a happily married man should comment.

I have a question to ask, and I need a very good answer,

What qualities made you pick the woman you are married to?


Why I asked this question is, I used to think you must look out for your preferred qualities in a woman to qualify her for marriage.

Is it just the qualities or the impact those qualities are having on you?


I have been seeing a woman for some months now. I must confess that since I met her, the urge to fornicate has completely disappeared. I used to be a serial womanizer and fornicator. Everything is changing at a very fast rate and for the first time since I have been praying and fasting for changes in this regard, I am very much satisfied with my new found will power.

Is this one of the signs of the qualities a woman possesses or am I getting matured or etc etc?

But The idea of me getting matured is flawed because even married men young and old get married and still cheat with numerous women.

Sorry for the many questions! I just need answers to help me understand why I have started ignoring other women advances and sex invite. This is unlike me but don’t get it wrong, it’s my number one prayer being answered.

I was 23 and and she was 19. I was drawn to her because of the following qualities:

1. She was ambitious
2. Liked Education
3. Honest and down to earth
4. Kind
5. Beautiful
6. Sabi cook my local dishes.
7. Had one of the most beautiful smile you will ever see.

It was my first real relationship, 5-6years of courtship and married after her university.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Fountainofyouth(f): 5:40pm On Oct 24, 2023
So Op,

Will you modify most of your previous comments filled with trash talks on women, especially Nigerian women since we are your go-to cure for your constant frustrations, ehn Op? You should create an apology thread and delete your comments on that hatred filled red-pill thread on romance section if truly all you're feeling is permanent, because i for one knows it's temporary, your kind cannot change, you go with the tide when another opportunity presents itself

Nonsense and ingredients

Some comments from monikers be giving amazement nonstop, they are the constant women trash talkers not knowing they are happily living with their wives at home, what a nonsense.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by just4dem(m): 6:01pm On Oct 24, 2023
Oyindidi:
Most of the married men wey you trust for answer na their women dey make the decisions. You for ask the women

No sexual attraction there, you may regret after marriage.
...Please, listen one more time..."
No sexual attraction there, you may regret after marriage."
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by stevups(m): 6:09pm On Oct 24, 2023
Carcholce:
Please if you are not married, I don’t need your comment. If you are a single father, don’t comment either, if you are a divorcee, please save your strength. Only a happily married man should comment.

I have a question to ask, and I need a very good answer,

What qualities made you pick the woman you are married to?


Why I asked this question is, I used to think you must look out for your preferred qualities in a woman to qualify her for marriage.

Is it just the qualities or the impact those qualities are having on you?


I have been seeing a woman for some months now. I must confess that since I met her, the urge to fornicate has completely disappeared. I used to be a serial womanizer and fornicator. Everything is changing at a very fast rate and for the first time since I have been praying and fasting for changes in this regard, I am very much satisfied with my new found will power.

Is this one of the signs of the qualities a woman possesses or am I getting matured or etc etc?

But The idea of me getting matured is flawed because even married men young and old get married and still cheat with numerous women.

Sorry for the many questions! I just need answers to help me understand why I have started ignoring other women advances and sex invite. This is unlike me but don’t get it wrong, it’s my number one prayer being answered.

First and foremost, thank God for your life. That woman seems to be your bus/stop. Before I got married, each time I saw a woman the first thing on my mind was to get down under her pant, but when I met my wife there was no that urge at all. Although we stayed away from each other to avoid fornication. When I eventually got married to her, it was a lovely experience. To be honest many challenges came but God made us to triumph over them. A quick one, I don't use ring, my wife has lost her ring too, but I discovered that I do not have urge for any lady again. Sometimes work takes me away from home more than three months at a go, but I always find joy in the bossom of my wife alone. What I notice is that my wife and my baby take a larger percentage of me.. There's something I cherish most in my life which is loyalty. My wife is a paragon of loyalty. If she does any other bad attitude I used to overlook it because of her loyalty. When suffering comes I make sure that I enjoy 85% of it. Just to protect them. Hence marriage is for the rugged. If you are not dogged don't enter marriage because you will soon run out it. If you are ready, please grap your copy and sentence yourself.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by descarado: 6:13pm On Oct 24, 2023
Like carchoice like Nigerian politicians.
Next topic please!

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by nosa2ekundayo: 6:13pm On Oct 24, 2023
Carcholce:
Please if you are not married, I don’t need your comment. If you are a single father, don’t comment either, if you are a divorcee, please save your strength. Only a happily married man should comment.

I have a question to ask, and I need a very good answer,

What qualities made you pick the woman you are married to?


Why I asked this question is, I used to think you must look out for your preferred qualities in a woman to qualify her for marriage.

Is it just the qualities or the impact those qualities are having on you?


I have been seeing a woman for some months now. I must confess that since I met her, the urge to fornicate has completely disappeared. I used to be a serial womanizer and fornicator. Everything is changing at a very fast rate and for the first time since I have been praying and fasting for changes in this regard, I am very much satisfied with my new found will power.

Is this one of the signs of the qualities a woman possesses or am I getting matured or etc etc?

But The idea of me getting matured is flawed because even married men young and old get married and still cheat with numerous women.

Sorry for the many questions! I just need answers to help me understand why I have started ignoring other women advances and sex invite. This is unlike me but don’t get it wrong, it’s my number one prayer being answered.

Urge to knack other punna disappear ...Abi Na Wetin I de read so?

1. Tell us about your job and recent events threatening you there ....this one dey reduce libido.

2. Tell us about your financial income when you were womanizing and now....if now is lower....this one dey depreciate libido, make you dey fear skin to skin, marriage, club, womanizing ,etc

3. Let us know if this babe pass you for status,income, background etc well well....make we get clarification say you no de talk from a position of fear, or on Ur kneels...if Na your case be this, e fit streamline your libido

4. If you suspect say babe infect you too, please let us know....this can also frustrate a man's libido in like manner.

Just share your overall state of being so that we can know exactly how to approach the situation

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by grandstar(m): 6:46pm On Oct 24, 2023
Carcholce:


30 years? shocked

I have to stop engaging banters on this forum because we have elders here. Thank you very much for this response sir!

I was born in the 70s and I have been called a "kid" and other senseless things. Some here are just very rude.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Pharaoh4rin(m): 6:52pm On Oct 24, 2023
Benekkk:
it’s just like yesterday to me (in my mind).

Congratulations bro. I'm so damn happy for you. I know what I'm saying. I hope to get marry someday but then, I respect married men a lot.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by ceasare: 7:02pm On Oct 24, 2023
Ibbawa:
There is only one thing you need from the woman you will marry. That is can I endure her bad side? That is the only quality you need because only love, only money, only sex cannot sustain a marriage.

Also as you are before marriage so you will be after marriage men do not change, some many only mature.

I guess why you have changed is that you are going through a phrase in life nothing more, when your wife just delivered a baby, after some weeks alone and with some money you will return to some old ways but with some maturity.

Men that do not cheat, do so not just because they love their wife.It is because of lack of money, more responsibility, no time due to work pressure, no time due to religion, or they are just tired of women nagging all the time.

It is in our DNA to have more than one woman, accept it and you will manage your marriage better, This my 8 years and I have 5 kids and not more than I girlfriend outside at any time. There is no perfect or finest woman.

Good Luck

Good luck


U deserve an award brother.....u ve finish talk .there is nothing to say again.goodluck OP.
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Tayorshd87: 7:08pm On Oct 24, 2023
phorget:
There is a time in a man's life that he feels he has found the right one, there would also come a time when you'll question your decisions.

No man or woman will ever find the whole percentage in a single individual but whenever you feel a particular individual has ticked many of your boxes then that individual becomes the right one...


Shalom!

Love this ur idea 💡

That's d real kókó because u can't get all qualities at a goal 🤔

Kai that's d irony of life
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Isolock: 7:35pm On Oct 24, 2023
Very good question..
You have been with her and can tell just how much she's contributing to your life (words, care, love and more). If she's particular about your development as a Man and not about your finance then she's one to keep. If she's got a solid foundation as a Christian then by all means, commit yourself and try to settle down.
About your personal changes, Yes, a woman can help stir you in the right direction but the Holy Spirit is the one that's responsible for the changes you've seen. As long as you're willing to change and you ask God for help. His grace is available.
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by okoroemeka(m): 7:45pm On Oct 24, 2023
Ahmed0336:
I won't lie, I married my wife so she could help in adjusting my then way of life.
She's so spiritual and me? Na Nafdac Approved Fornicator grin
Bro, I studied her for 7years + and I just knew that I needed someone like her in my life if not na express I dey. Glad I did and I will say that's the best decision I have made in my life. Almost 18years in marriage now grin

I pray yours too will be the same

nafdac approved womanizer just got me laughing,it really made my miserable day,I saw a friend and companion in my wife that's why I choose her and for 23 years through the darkest of days we always believe that after a dark night there is a bright day after

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by sonofthunder: 7:45pm On Oct 24, 2023
Carcholce:
Please if you are not married, I don’t need your comment. If you are a single father, don’t comment either, if you are a divorcee, please save your strength. Only a happily married man should comment.

I have a question to ask, and I need a very good answer,

What qualities made you pick the woman you are married to?


Why I asked this question is, I used to think you must look out for your preferred qualities in a woman to qualify her for marriage.

Is it just the qualities or the impact those qualities are having on you?


I have been seeing a woman for some months now. I must confess that since I met her, the urge to fornicate has completely disappeared. I used to be a serial womanizer and fornicator. Everything is changing at a very fast rate and for the first time since I have been praying and fasting for changes in this regard, I am very much satisfied with my new found will power.

Is this one of the signs of the qualities a woman possesses or am I getting matured or etc etc?

But The idea of me getting matured is flawed because even married men young and old get married and still cheat with numerous women.

Sorry for the many questions! I just need answers to help me understand why I have started ignoring other women advances and sex invite. This is unlike me but don’t get it wrong, it’s my number one prayer being answered.



You wasted the destinies of other women and you are leaving them for who?


Hope you have gotten the advice you need by now.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by newoffer: 8:27pm On Oct 24, 2023
When the chemistry is not just about knacks and kpekus. If the conversation is all about the future and caring. You will understand when u find a woman ready for the task. A woman will make u see lots of potential in yourself that u never imagined. There is this drive that comes.over you that makes you think of possibilities. She won't come with one night stand values but something u long to see in a woman . A real woman is Total in configuration. Beware of jokers though
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by efficiencie(m): 8:30pm On Oct 24, 2023
Carcholce:
Please if you are not married, I don’t need your comment. If you are a single father, don’t comment either, if you are a divorcee, please save your strength. Only a happily married man should comment.

I have a question to ask, and I need a very good answer,

What qualities made you pick the woman you are married to?


Why I asked this question is, I used to think you must look out for your preferred qualities in a woman to qualify her for marriage.

Is it just the qualities or the impact those qualities are having on you?


I have been seeing a woman for some months now. I must confess that since I met her, the urge to fornicate has completely disappeared. I used to be a serial womanizer and fornicator. Everything is changing at a very fast rate and for the first time since I have been praying and fasting for changes in this regard, I am very much satisfied with my new found will power.

Is this one of the signs of the qualities a woman possesses or am I getting matured or etc etc?

But The idea of me getting matured is flawed because even married men young and old get married and still cheat with numerous women.

Sorry for the many questions! I just need answers to help me understand why I have started ignoring other women advances and sex invite. This is unlike me but don’t get it wrong, it’s my number one prayer being answered.

Look for 5 things. Yes, 5 things only. Purity, Piety, Purpose, Submission and Loyalty. Her score in each of these 5 areas will determine if she will be a solution or a problem.

Purity means her heart is unspoiled from the corruption of the world. Piety signifies her reverence and recognition of God. Purpose requires that she situates herself in the plan of God. Submission requires that she identifies and submits to the leadership of a man whose purpose aligns with hers. Loyalty require that she stays true to God and her husband no matter the situation or circumstance.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Oyindidi(f): 8:37pm On Oct 24, 2023
Goalminded1:

Must you talk?
Did you have to?
I bet you couldn't resist the urge not to disobey the OP's directives.
Majority of the topics you come across, you must see it as an avenue to do gender comparison and subtly pit one against the other. Nawa o.
You are not okay
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Father4all: 8:51pm On Oct 24, 2023
Na this rubbish question that made you to be shunning ever. Everyone. Rubbish
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by BRATISLAVA: 9:14pm On Oct 24, 2023
Magnoliaa:
Oh. You're growing up, ba? Why are you specifically barring some group of men from commenting? I would think they'd be in the best place to advise you on what to do seeing as you used to be one of those young men.

You badmouthed women and made degrading comments about them, while being a redpilled guy and contributed to other people's threads on where they were seeking for an advice...you literally were a voice in the pool of hate posts again women, but now you are in want of a clear, balanced view free of bitterness and whatnot (expecting what you've not given). You want a nice meal of sensibility after you've spoiled the broth of public commentary and cooked nonsense in the kitchen of misogyny.

There are many of your kind I've seen. Spread dangerous narrative and ride on the wave of hating women thinking you're an invincible Dorian Gray. But na feminists una go dey threaten with settling down and life humbling them everytime.

You're a man that marriage doesn't benefit, so wagwan now?

And you're regular visitor at the infamous redpill thread; why didn't you take this matter to them? You don't trust your bros' judgments? Aren't you an authority on humans', especially women's, behaviour?

Now you want the advice of men that you've branded as simps (i.e., happily married to their wives) at other times?

Whoo would have thunk!

Lol. The forum definitely missed this.

Prrrrreach.

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by mikemike50: 9:16pm On Oct 24, 2023
Carcholce:


Another definite answer I am looking for! This right here is what I think I am experiencing! “The positive impact to end an addiction”


Mr Mike, please take the mic and answer this important question. Are you saying she’s the right one? embarassed
Been the right person depends on what you want as a person. What I want is different from what you want. But, a woman that goes out of her way to add some value in your life is a keeper. You should also find a value to add to her so that tomorrow she will not say I made you who you are.
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Oyindidi(f): 9:19pm On Oct 24, 2023
ibechris:




U will not heaven... angry grin grin
Why?
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Carcholce: 9:25pm On Oct 24, 2023
Magnoliaa:
Oh. You're growing up, ba? Why are you specifically barring some group of men from commenting? I would think they'd be in the best place to advise you on what to do seeing as you used to be one of those young men.

You badmouthed women and made degrading comments about them, while being a redpilled guy and contributed to other people's threads on where they were seeking for an advice...you literally were a voice in the pool of hate posts again women, but now you are in want of a clear, balanced view free of bitterness and whatnot (expecting what you've not given). You want a nice meal of sensibility after you've spoiled the broth of public commentary and cooked nonsense in the kitchen of misogyny.

There are many of your kind I've seen. Spread dangerous narrative and ride on the wave of hating women thinking you're an invincible Dorian Gray. But na feminists una go dey threaten with settling down and life humbling them everytime.

You're a man that marriage doesn't benefit, so wagwan now?

And you're regular visitor at the infamous redpill thread; why didn't you take this matter to them? You don't trust your bros' judgments? Aren't you an authority on humans', especially women's, behaviour?

Now you want the advice of men that you've branded as simps (i.e., happily married to their wives) at other times?

Whoo would have thunk!

Lol. Shanice!! Can you quiet it down please. Nothing in my post says I am ready for marriage or wanting to get married. The post was seeking answers to why I lost interest in pulling numerous skirts coming my way. Help me with answers.


Response to your other question, I still stand on marrying two wives. Nothings changed.
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Carcholce: 9:29pm On Oct 24, 2023
Fountainofyouth:
So Op,

Will you modify most of your previous comments filled with trash talks on women, especially Nigerian women since we are your go-to cure for your constant frustrations, ehn Op? You should create an apology thread and delete your comments on that hatred filled red-pill thread on romance section if truly all you're feeling is permanent, because i for one knows it's temporary, your kind cannot change, you go with the tide when another opportunity presents itself

Nonsense and ingredients

Some comments from monikers be giving amazement nonstop, they are the constant women trash talkers not knowing they are happily living with their wives at home, what a nonsense.

Modify which comment? All I said about women hasn’t changed! The only thing that has changed is I no longer womanize
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Carcholce: 9:30pm On Oct 24, 2023
sonofthunder:




You wasted the destinies of other women and you are leaving them for who?


Hope you have gotten the advice you need by now.

Destiny helper!!! I leave them for you
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Carcholce: 9:31pm On Oct 24, 2023
Father4all:
Na this rubbish question that made you to be shunning ever. Everyone. Rubbish

Rev father, what do you mean? Have I been shunning you?
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Magnoliaa(f): 12:19am On Oct 25, 2023
BRATISLAVA:
Lol. The forum definitely missed this.

Prrrrreach.

Lol cheesy.

Hope you're good? Chilling and enjoying life, huh?
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by sonofthunder: 12:51am On Oct 25, 2023
Carcholce:


Destiny helper!!! I leave them for you


Be cracking jokes. What goes around comes back around in multiple folds. Always unexpected also.


Dey play ⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️

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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Carcholce: 12:52am On Oct 25, 2023
sonofthunder:



Be cracking jokes. What goes around comes back around in multiple folds. Always unexpected also.


Dey play ⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️

Tell that to your president before he rules for 8 years.
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by RealityGod: 1:58am On Oct 25, 2023
Ahmed0336:
I won't lie, I married my wife so she could help in adjusting my then way of life.
She's so spiritual and me? Na Nafdac Approved Fornicator grin
Bro, I studied her for 7years + and I just knew that I needed someone like her in my life if not na express I dey. Glad I did and I will say that's the best decision I have made in my life. Almost 18years in marriage now grin

I pray yours too will be the same
NAFDAC approved statement is funny

Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by teesquad007: 3:39am On Oct 25, 2023
Carcholce:
Marry someone that gives you peace of mind, doesn’t interfere with your phone, finances, God fearing & doesn’t question your life & in return respect her & don’t use that to your advantage..

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