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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by ORIAYO70(m): 3:47pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Bros days r bad Experience is a teacher, she might fear molestation. Call her and settle the issue rather than blocking her... Note when u want errands, send the boys not the girls, if there is no boys go ursf... |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 3:48pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Qatar2022:I guess giving someone food to eat amounts to paying that persons salary for some folks and it is for that reason you feel some kind of return payment is necessary. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by BrooklynBoy: 3:53pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by BrooklynBoy: 3:54pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Forget that thing, calling her mother to call her daughter so that you can send her on an errand is totally wrong, if na me i no go take am. If say u see her child outside and sent her on an errand, that one is quite okay 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by DrFunmisticGlow: 3:55pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:she is envious of you and feels inferior but also feels that she can look down on you since you don't have kids, but she will not stop the kids from freeloading in your house. Sounds like she wants to use you. Limit your association with such a person because the next thing now is to accuse you of snatching her husband. 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 3:56pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
BrooklynBoy: I don forget o. I dey my lane now. lesson learnt. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by BrooklynBoy: 3:58pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:Nothing like lessons learnt, what you did is wrong. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Olumaeme: 4:01pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
I usually keep my distance from poor people, maybe I know them or not. They have a very bad mentality. They want to milk you dry but will never want to also support you. I remember one family my wife used to literally feed, even though I have told her to leave them in their poverty but she's won't listen. One day, my wife was sick, and she declined coming to assist stay with her in the hospital so I can stay with my daughter she declined giving lots of foolish excuses. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 4:03pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
DrFunmisticGlow: Thanks. I've limited my time with them. one day she came to visit me and said I no longer come to her house. I just smiled to myself , didn't reply her. she's pregnant currently with her 7th child in this harsh economy. I pray God provides for them, and for me cos the kids still come to eat in my house . I don't know how to drive them away. i feel sorry for the kids who sometimes go to school on empty stomach and eat eba for morning and night for days without end. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 4:05pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
BrooklynBoy: na the same thing my brother. wrong or right, the most important thing in life is to learn. no be fight. I don give them space. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Xcelinteriors(f): 4:07pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
6 children in this emilokan era? Odiegwu |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 4:08pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
BrooklynBoy:When I was a kid my mum used to send us out on errands for her friend. Her friend had kids much younger than we were and she also had a business that kept her busy much of the time so understandably she needed help with babysitting from time to time. I remember having to go babysit her kids or pick them up from school to take them home when their mum was too busy to do it herself. I understood quite well how the relationship benefitted my mother as well, plus visiting the woman presented an opportunity for me to hang out with my own friends at the time. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by ObaaOfYorubaLan: 4:08pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: But don't let her mother know that she told you anything, she fit kill the girl for house. Just pretend as if the girl no tell you anything, but women no know how to keep secrets ooo |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by DrFunmisticGlow: 4:08pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:she's clearly responsible for her current situation. 7children in this economy. Is labor pain a joke to her? Is family planning a joke? Unfortunately the kids suffer for parents lack of wisdom. Be careful sha. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 4:09pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Olumaeme: please be happy they didn't come to help your wife. by now people would have called you heartless and wicked that you're using them as slaves. I'm sure your wife's eyes have cleared and she no longer associates with them. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Chee59(f): 4:09pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Children are where most people draw the line. Never send anyone's kids without express permission from their parents. What if someone kidnaps them on the road? You can't feel entitled to your friend's children. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Banbanna(m): 4:09pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: Wow! People really go through so many unpleasant experiences with so called old pals. I had to cut off ties with one sometime ago. Both of your life situations have since changed. There she is, probably looking unkempt, locked down for life with 6 children, struggling hard to cater for them alongside a less supportive husband. Whereas you're still looking prime & proper, independent. I think she's envious of you and hates the way her life situation has turned out to be. A friend you'd thought would have your back in times of trouble was sort of siding with your challenger. Abeg, try redefine your relationship with her and give her some yards. She's shown her true colours to you enough for you to caution up sharp sharp. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 4:10pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Kingson28:Your questions shock me. In that case, abeg go hire house-help naw! |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by DrFunmisticGlow: 4:12pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:while I get your point, because accidents can happen when she sends the child on an errand, why didn't the friend tell her directly to limit the errand runs. It screams Judas iscariot behavior to me. Btw was she sending the children on errands all the time? |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by DrFunmisticGlow: 4:14pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Chee59:Then the friend should also stop feeling entitled to children freeloading in op's house. It's not hard. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Banbanna(m): 4:15pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:Wow! People really go through so many unpleasant experiences with so called old pals. I had to cut off ties with one sometime ago. Both of your life situations have since changed. There she is, probably looking unkempt, locked down for life with 6 children, struggling hard to cater for them alongside a less supportive husband. Whereas you're still looking prime & proper, independent. I think she's envious of you and hates the way her life situation has turned out to be. A friend you'd thought would have your back in times of trouble was sort of siding with your challenger. Abeg, try redefine your relationship with her and give her some yards. She's shown her true colours to you enough for you to caution up sharp sharp. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Amwitty(f): 4:16pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth:You are wise!! 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Chee59(f): 4:17pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
DrFunmisticGlow:She knows what to do to stop that. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 4:22pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
DrFunmisticGlow:From OP's description of her friend and the relationship they have together, my guess is the friend does not hold equal standing with OP in the relationship and she knows it. 2. OP didn't seem like she only sent them out on errands once a month though. While OP says what she had with their mother is a "friendship", she describes it more like a relationship based on pity and something tells me the mother of the kids may have been aware of it too. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Tbarz(m): 4:24pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:[quote][/quote]you know get wahala jare my sister entitled person/people full these naija I just tire for them too |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 4:26pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Alaigbo:You have no right to send other people's kids on errands unless you have explicit approval from the guardian, and have possibly agreed to pay for the service rendered in some way |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by maasoap(m): 4:28pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:Let her know what she did to you that's making you angry with her. Her response to that will tell you whether to continue your friendship or not. I ended two long time friendships with two of my best friends when I realised that they were taking our friendship for granted. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Tbarz(m): 4:30pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
[/quote][quote author=Kobojunkie post=126519085]1. It is OK that they come to your house by themselves but sending them on errands outside of your house that they came to? No!bros leave matter for Mathias the neighbor with 6 kids na ungrateful and entitled person. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Kobojunkie: 4:31pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Tbarz:She is entitled because she has six kids or because she changed her mind regarding OP sending them out on errands? |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by fineberry(m): 4:37pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Op my submission at this junction is for you to reduce how you send those kids erran , do what you can to help them...What You Can[i][/i]"...don't do beyond your power . |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by maasoap(m): 4:38pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth: I don't know what you are blabbing about here, na by force to help? Or, Op resemble father Christmas in your eye? She wouldn't let her kid be useful to her friend knowing fully that she doesn't have her own kid. Then, she should stop sending her kids to her for free loading. She sends the kids on errands, not her friend. If Op wants the friendship to be transactional, so be it. If her friend is not comfortable with the arrangement, then she should stop her kids going to her house for free loading. She wouldn't let her kids be useful for her friend but she could send them to her house to eat her food. Under this harsh economy? Why is she still calling the Op? Even you who is running mouth diarrhoea against Op, when was the last time you helped someone outside your family? To hell with you 1 Like |
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