| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by ferhyntorlah(f): 4:33pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
Am a human am aren't perfect, I can't be everything a man wants in a woman, I have my good and bad sides, I can't change but can adjust because I love and care for that person, tried to adjust to suit him that was when he told me I was pretending and acting up to love him which wasn't true. I was trying to adjust because I cared about him too even though am not as rich as those ladies supporting him financially. I knew it! The guy is just a taker, taker, taker. A leech in a parasitic relationship. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lordnkem000(m): 4:34pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
[sub][/sub] DestinedForGrea:
She said he constantly complained that she didn't support him. Though she didn't explicitly state the kind of support, the context of her story deals with financial support.
She included that she did the best she could do, considering that she's still young and without a good means of financial support for herself. Shes just focusing on the financial and you guys are judging him based on that
So how is this a toxic trait from her, and how does that not add up? You're not making a point here. All I see here is sentiments borne out of your hatred for women. And how do u believe a man will rely on her for financial support or Budden when she clearly doesn't have? Doesn't add up. And please I love women, been a women man all my life so please don't go there. How do we know she did her best when we're only hearing her side of the story? Can't you see her other comments about how another girl is feeding her bf and giving him money etc? U is it not clear ahes just seeking cheap sympathy? I'm being logical here ans not sentimental |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Ikpunnegi01: 4:36pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
judatech:
Christmas discharging... country hard for men with many chicks this period. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lordnkem000(m): 4:37pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
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| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by JudeAfoo(m): 4:40pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
That guy is not with 5 minutes of your life |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by olamoses75(m): 4:44pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional, over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of that, and I happen not to fall in that category, so because of that he keeps comparing and making reference's all the time it's always brings issues between us every now and then.
Some months ago he was facing serious financial problems, and all I was able to do the little I could even though it was chicken change but again he met a lady who did more than I did and the comparison started again, it again brought fights and arguments, off recent he has met a lady who according to him supported him greatly which he told him he has been able to bounce back and things are getting better, after some days he told me thesame lady confessed that she was in-love with me it was after that confession he then told me that he has seen and known how a woman can love unconditionally, that the lady never asked him of anything , that she supported his dreams and is encouraging something I couldn't do. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him.
I just got fed up of the whole thing and told him that if the lady is the kind of woman he wants in his life he should be with her, he has always talked about a supportive woman and since I couldn't or didn't fall in that category I decided to let him go in other for me to have peace of mind. So I blocked him everywhere just so it will be easy for me to forget about him and everything, I don't know if I did the right thing?.
you blocked him everywhere but your heart. Trust me, a man who has experienced true love from a woman before will find it dificult to settle for less, or in another way; he might just be one of those ungrateful Playboy who isn't ready for anything serious. Whichever it's; you've to let it go. Truly you may be doing your best, but the comparison will continue until you're able to outdo those ladies he has been dealing with, which might not be good for your mental health. Erase his memory and move on, though it'll be difficult, and will also take time. 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Tonytonex(m): 4:45pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Dminister:
I just want help send money. If you know you just want help |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Misterone: 4:45pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional, over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of that, and I happen not to fall in that category, so because of that he keeps comparing and making reference's all the time it's always brings issues between us every now and then.
Some months ago he was facing serious financial problems, and all I was able to do the little I could even though it was chicken change but again he met a lady who did more than I did and the comparison started again, it again brought fights and arguments, off recent he has met a lady who according to him supported him greatly which he told him he has been able to bounce back and things are getting better, after some days he told me thesame lady confessed that she was in-love with me it was after that confession he then told me that he has seen and known how a woman can love unconditionally, that the lady never asked him of anything , that she supported his dreams and is encouraging something I couldn't do. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him.
I just got fed up of the whole thing and told him that if the lady is the kind of woman he wants in his life he should be with her, he has always talked about a supportive woman and since I couldn't or didn't fall in that category I decided to let him go in other for me to have peace of mind. So I blocked him everywhere just so it will be easy for me to forget about him and everything, I don't know if I did the right thing?.
That your man is a quack! If not, what type of man will always need a woman's support to get on their feet. The only men I know that do this are Pastors because their wives need to support their ministry for it to grow. Apart from that, any other man is a quack, wayorist. Real men don't need women to stand on their feet. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Autonomous01(f): 4:47pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Since 9:55am How can someone with something meaningful in their life keeps on arguing and arguing on a faceless forum since morning till evening  I was viewing dis topic as a guest , b4 I logged in cos of awon daddy wa , Omni-knowest |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 4:53pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
lordnkem000:
You haven't taken my advice before now in the comments so why take this one? Go back to your man and work things out since you love him. I can't tell him anything because I don't know him. These validation you are seeking here won't help you, you know the truth you didn't tell us and that truth will make you feel guilty as long as you ignore that truth i am not feeling guilty of anything whatever i did what wasn't healthy for the relationship we talked about it and I appologised countlesss times and we had moved on i was trying to adjust and when he saw that I was doing so that was when he told me I was pretending or acting up just because of what I will gain. I have made up my mind this time around because have been through breaking up and coming back. But this time around I want him to be happy so its cool he's with a woman more mature and willing to support him just as he has always wanted. I can't have everything I can only amend and since he doesn't appreciate the fact that I was trying to amend he's now calling it pretence it's better I let him go. Am done!! 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Charly68: 4:58pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Immatured men always make stupid comparison,better thank God for your life that it is not your marriage that got broken .. move on and leave the man alone to keep sampling others until he gets hooked to his likes . Have you wonder why most men do end up yoking their destiny with Luciferic women ? It is what they sow that they are reaping .. the best will come your way. Don't ever allow anybody tamper with your emotions again . Get your sanity because your best is on the way . 2 Likes |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Futurecrown(m): 4:58pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional, over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of that, and I happen not to fall in that category, so because of that he keeps comparing and making reference's all the time it's always brings issues between us every now and then.
Some months ago he was facing serious financial problems, and all I was able to do the little I could even though it was chicken change but again he met a lady who did more than I did and the comparison started again, it again brought fights and arguments, off recent he has met a lady who according to him supported him greatly which he told him he has been able to bounce back and things are getting better, after some days he told me thesame lady confessed that she was in-love with me it was after that confession he then told me that he has seen and known how a woman can love unconditionally, that the lady never asked him of anything , that she supported his dreams and is encouraging something I couldn't do. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him.
I just got fed up of the whole thing and told him that if the lady is the kind of woman he wants in his life he should be with her, he has always talked about a supportive woman and since I couldn't or didn't fall in that category I decided to let him go in other for me to have peace of mind. So I blocked him everywhere just so it will be easy for me to forget about him and everything, I don't know if I did the right thing?. Different people with different melancholy. However, you can move on with your life, your suitor will locate you soonest. My own issue was based on religion line, just that I am a realist and I think Humanity first before Religion. My own Girl jettisoned me cos I didn't follow her to Church after many commitment. Life is Film on its own in which no one can wash the scenario finish. Good evening fams.
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| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 4:59pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
TheWinterBird:
He cheated on you with two women but somehow flipped the script on you to blame you? Make that make sense. Girl, you should've done the breaking up. You need to up your standards and self-worth. I have tried to leabe countless times because of all of this but he woudnt let me, he tells me he isnt cheating of which i dont believe. But I have made up my mind this time because honestly I am so fed up. 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 5:00pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
very4tune8:
I am glad you did block him for your sanity.
Those are the type that depend on women. Lazy bone.
Move on sis. Your perfect man will find you and you don't even need to support hm financially because he will be well- to-do. Amen!! 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Exceed15: 5:07pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
You'll be fine |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lordnkem000(m): 5:07pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
i am not feeling guilty of anything whatever i did what wasn't healthy for the relationship we talked about it and I appologised countlesss times and we had moved on i was trying to adjust and when he saw that I was doing so that was when he told me I was pretending or acting up just because of what I will gain. I have made up my mind this time around because have been through breaking up and coming back. But this time around I want him to be happy so its cool he's with a woman more mature and willing to support him just as he has always wanted. I can't have everything I can only amend and since he doesn't appreciate the fact that I was trying to amend he's now calling it pretence it's better I let him go. Am done!! Did he tell you all this or you made it up? Did he tell you he wanted you to go so he would be happy? You shouldn't bring your relationship flaws here my dear, he didn't do well yes by comparing but you too should explain yourself to him. You clearly love him and I can tell he wants you too so why torture yourself? Your words shows he didn't treat you bad so it's not a major issue, try to fix it and chase that intruder away. Except you don't want because you have seen a better man then cool. All these men here talking are not better than that your man, including myself. Fix your relationship and you will enjoy your man |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 5:09pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
amadiama:
My question is are you the demanding type? If your the type that is always collecting and never supporting then I guess his tired of you...for him to be telling you wat other ladies do for him..but breaking up with him is d best for you..am a guy but according to your story seems the guy needs a sugar mummy and not a girlfriend The times i demanded he never gave me alwaga telling me he doesnt have and when i get angry he calls me toxic, he tells me i dont respect him, he tells me that non of his ex ever talked down on him because of money, he starts telling me how all his exes where with him when he had nothing how theu supported him and all, making promsies of things he will do all that for over 9 months, the circle comtinued. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 5:18pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
lordnkem000:
Did he tell you all this or you made it up? Did he tell you he wanted you to go so he would be happy? You shouldn't bring your relationship flaws here my dear, he didn't do well yes by comparing but you too should explain yourself to him. You clearly love him and I can tell he wants you too so why torture yourself? Your words shows he didn't treat you bad so it's not a major issue, try to fix it and chase that intruder away. Except you don't want because you have seen a better man then cool. All these men here talking are not better than that your man, including myself. Fix your relationship and you will enjoy your man he musnt tell me am noy stupid mr man, i can read in between the lines and the handwriting is clearly written on the wall, i might be young but i know when someones dooesnt want me anymore, he doesnt want to say it so it wont look like it came from him. Relationship with him has been hectic and emotionally draining, am tired of the constant comparison with different women, the believe that because am trying to amend is now a pretence I can't deal with it as I have been doing so for months. I did the little I could do but if there was one thing I told him, the little I gave to him I didn't make prostitution to give to him. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lordnkem000(m): 5:19pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
i am not feeling guilty of anything whatever i did what wasn't healthy for the relationship we talked about it and I appologised countlesss times and we had moved on i was trying to adjust and when he saw that I was doing so that was when he told me I was pretending or acting up just because of what I will gain. I have made up my mind this time around because have been through breaking up and coming back. But this time around I want him to be happy so its cool he's with a woman more mature and willing to support him just as he has always wanted. I can't have everything I can only amend and since he doesn't appreciate the fact that I was trying to amend he's now calling it pretence it's better I let him go. Am done!! Did he tell you all this or you told yourself that? Stop making excuses here because none of these people actually do care about you, no relationship is perfect. If he never told you he didn't need you then go and chase the intruder away. Fix your relationship and tell your man where he's messing up |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lordnkem000(m): 5:22pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
he musnt tell me am noy stupid mr man, i can read in between the lines and the handwriting is clearly written on the wall, i might be young but i know when someones dooesnt want me anymore, he doesnt want to say it so it wont look like it came from him. Relationship with him has been hectic and emotionally draining, am tired of the constant comparison with different women, the believe that because am trying to amend is now a pretence I can't deal with it as I have been doing so for months. I did the little I could do but if there was one thing I told him, the little I gave to him I didn't make prostitution to give to him. He did wrong so make him understand this time, hear his reaction and words then make your conclusions. No relationship is hundred percent. You love him and the comparisons hurt you so tell him. Tell him you actually aren't pretending and fix things. Trust me you no get issues for your relationship |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lordnkem000(m): 5:24pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
The times i demanded he never gave me alwaga telling me he doesnt have and when i get angry he calls me toxic, he tells me i dont respect him, he tells me that non of his ex ever talked down on him because of money, he starts telling me how all his exes where with him when he had nothing how theu supported him and all, making promsies of things he will do all that for over 9 months, the circle comtinued. You are still making mistakes telling people your disagreement with your man? You will learn the hard way soon. Go and fix your relationship or leave in peace. No need for this issues you are starting online, he might be of help to you tomorrow. Ask people with experience. Don't make this mistake |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by TheFinesseKid: 5:25pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional, over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of that, and I happen not to fall in that category, so because of that he keeps comparing and making reference's all the time it's always brings issues between us every now and then.
Some months ago he was facing serious financial problems, and all I was able to do the little I could even though it was chicken change but again he met a lady who did more than I did and the comparison started again, it again brought fights and arguments, off recent he has met a lady who according to him supported him greatly which he told him he has been able to bounce back and things are getting better, after some days he told me thesame lady confessed that she was in-love with me it was after that confession he then told me that he has seen and known how a woman can love unconditionally, that the lady never asked him of anything , that she supported his dreams and is encouraging something I couldn't do. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him.
I just got fed up of the whole thing and told him that if the lady is the kind of woman he wants in his life he should be with her, he has always talked about a supportive woman and since I couldn't or didn't fall in that category I decided to let him go in other for me to have peace of mind. So I blocked him everywhere just so it will be easy for me to forget about him and everything, I don't know if I did the right thing?.
sorry baby.  You would meet a better dude. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by TheMostComplex1: 5:32pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Jeon:
This happens when you placed love at the top of your life budget instead of improving yourself, you are trying to improve for someone.
Remember this "Men can never be pleased no matter how good and dedicated you are" .
Not one lady, not two, but all the past ladies supported him before you came into the picture,yet he left the supportive relationships .Why did you not ask him why he left the supportive ones?.
You ask Wahala, you no ask Wahala.
Omo ,you don suffer for relationships since I know you for NL. Sorry dear. Next time open your eyes and don't love with all your heart
Love takes advantages of good girl. Your below lines left me in stitches Omo ,you don suffer for relationships since I know you for NL |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Jeon(f): 5:39pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
I feel for her. TheMostComplex1:
Your below lines left me in stitches
Omo ,you don suffer for relationships since I know you for NL
Seriously this is the 3rd or 4th thread I have seen about her relationship crashing. And again she is the type that is quick to jump into relationship without taking time to heal from the previous r/ships. 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Connected1: 5:55pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
This story is just like mine and I am the boyfriend 😂
I had an ex who always misbehaved, she cheated but I didn't caught her red-handed though, during Xmas and New Year, she was no where to be found with her phone switched off, I already broke up with her in my mind but I didn't want to tell her it's over because I know she loves me but she's just a greedy woman 😥
We had a quarrel and she requested for a breakup which I didn't say No to ( I always wanted it to come from her end). A year later she came back acting all good, nice and caring, even buying meals for me 😂. But as your boyfriend felt too, it all seemed like pretense for me but it's been over 2 years now and she's still that way but heck, I can't date her again, we are just friends now. |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Myhusband(m): 5:59pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
your 9months situationship crashed, that post I read has nothing like relationship values
you need to work on your self esteem, values, worth and your pride as a woman, it's not an obligations to support a man dream, does he even care to know what your dream was? is the relationship all about him only? that's selfishness at its peak!. doesn't he have family that can support his dreams?
anyway congratulations for gaining your sanity back 3 Likes |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Revolva(m): 6:26pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:
Am a human am aren't perfect, I can't be everything a man wants in a woman, I have my good and bad sides, I can't change but can adjust because I love and care for that person, tried to adjust to suit him that was when he told me I was pretending and acting up to love him which wasn't true. I was trying to adjust because I cared about him too even though am not as rich as those ladies supporting him financially. Love is for fools , that guy is just using you gals....lol...he de find helper...make una go find money oooo notin like love....in this life..and youthful age 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Anny69: 6:31pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
BscHolder:
your Ex I don't have an ex, be serious. 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by VULCAN(m): 6:39pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Yes, you did the right thing. Now, look for a man who doesn't want your support. You may find a few out there Prettygirl200:
According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional, over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of that, and I happen not to fall in that category, so because of that he keeps comparing and making reference's all the time it's always brings issues between us every now and then.
Some months ago he was facing serious financial problems, and all I was able to do the little I could even though it was chicken change but again he met a lady who did more than I did and the comparison started again, it again brought fights and arguments, off recent he has met a lady who according to him supported him greatly which he told him he has been able to bounce back and things are getting better, after some days he told me thesame lady confessed that she was in-love with me it was after that confession he then told me that he has seen and known how a woman can love unconditionally, that the lady never asked him of anything , that she supported his dreams and is encouraging something I couldn't do. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him.
I just got fed up of the whole thing and told him that if the lady is the kind of woman he wants in his life he should be with her, he has always talked about a supportive woman and since I couldn't or didn't fall in that category I decided to let him go in other for me to have peace of mind. So I blocked him everywhere just so it will be easy for me to forget about him and everything, I don't know if I did the right thing?.
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| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by AdisaOwala: 6:52pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Anny69:
🐈⬛ Meow. Haha Are you okay? |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by qtguru(m): 7:12pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
This is a rare case, it's usually women leaving men for someone more financially well off, there's nothing you can do, just move on and focus on yourself.
Personally you can't give what you don't have, so just move on, this is what most men face. Na so life be
Peace 1 Like |
| Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Moneyyman: 7:13pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
If it is real, then you're lucky.
Move on and become better.
No man or woman has a right to demand financial "support" from their partner when dating. You can and should only give according to your heart and pocket.
Let's not enable bad behaviour in both genders! 2 Likes |
