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Then you don’t know the definition of a family
A true family doesn’t care about your poverty
They’ll help you come out when they can

money121:
If you are the poorest amongst your siblings or not doing well financially, avoid family gatherings until you have money - Nigerian lady says

Lolo Nneka Obani Wrote on her Wall:


If you know you are the poorest amongst yoursiblings or you aren't doing well financially, l recommend that you avoid family occasions or gatherings until you have money. If you must attend, kindly sit at a corner like a visitor.
Let the people that are serving the food and souvenir serve you like one of the guests, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself.
Do not go close to where the food and drinks are being served, sit at a corner and observe. Stop setting yourself up for insults.

Source: https://gistmeloveblog.com/if-you-are-the-poorest-amongst-your-siblings-or-not-doing-well-financially-avoid-family-gatherings-until-you-have-money-nigerian-lady-says/

What about cases where the poorest is actually a victim of witchcraft? A case where he or she is the sacrificial one on witchcraft altar. The one whose glory was used to appeal forces so the others can have seeds and continue the legacy of the so-called family name?

BadBradley:
When I saw the heading I knew the op mist be from the South East

It has nothing to do with SE bigot. You either accept or reject her opinion. We all see it around us except you have eyes but cannot see.

adioolayi:
Avoid and remain poor na..

You think anything on earth beats human resource and quality of relationships you have with other people

You think someone that is termed "poor" because he or she doesn't have money don't have other ways they are indispensable

There are problems money cannot and won't solve..quality relationship can do.



If you think you are poor...make sure you are useful in other ways...with that, luck and fortune can smile on you

Plesse money is key bro quality relationship follows money sir I'm talking from experience..

chidiakwari:
Women always want to make everything about money.

For the average Nigerian woman, it's definitely all about money. They would deny it though.

Being poor is relative.. So far d person no dépend on u for survival.

tutudesz:
Than you no get siblings be that O! You can hardly tell who is rich or poor among some siblings during family events. The senior will always be the senior and the junior will always be the junior

Not in the South East.

Nackzy:
Omo i don see shege banza i am the eldest and poorest, good abeg ooo, the fight we had few days ago was that my mum respect them more than me, na today my papa settle the fight

as a crypto baron, you shouldn't be the poorest, the opposite actually should be the case, well what do I know? Maybe you should reduce your nackanack to know whether divinity will open a big door for you sha...

Focusmind:
So true, especially in the SE. Not just among siblings but cousins and extended families. The intimidation no be here o from the super rich siblings. The competition and show-offs too much. I pity those struggling in the midst of their wealthy siblings and cousins. To talk or contribute in family gatherings is always difficult. For the married ones, the pressure from their wives increases when the wife sees what Oga's siblings and cousins are doing for their wives and children. May God prosper all men struggling legitimately.

Exactly.

iuni:
What happened. Have I in anyway offended you sir?

stop begging and go and find something to do, or if you want to beg, beg with your full chest and use your original account to beg so that we know how useless you are. Omoluwabi, the great tinubu supporter.. You just open account of Dec 27, you don dey beg. who teach you say the first thing to do with new acc na to beg if no be say you don dey do am before?

ahnie:
We Don't roll that way in my family... Anybody wey do anyhow go see anyhow....simply put everybody na king/queen for their own lanes. If you get money na for yourself....No body reason you.

Maybe all of you are doing well and financially independent. Problem arises when you are poor and can't contribute your own quota and probably have to frequently ask for help from the other siblings. In the South East, you typically will be disrespected.

I'm the poorest in my family but my family respects me more


No be to get family, your own day loving and caring ??

tommy589:
Very very rare here. Neighbors won't even see the family in a good light if they get to know the eldest,even any of the siblings got disrespected because of poor status

Wealth and privilege can insulate ones experience of how the world works and obscure the realities of marginalization. There is also some scientific evidence that wealth and privilege can reduce empathy and compassion for those less fortunate.

The combination of assuming everyone has the same rights, privileges and opportunities, ignorance of differential treatment/exclusion/discrimination, victim blaming and a belief that hard work is always a path to success makes it easier to justify the differences between people and focus energy on policy that helps those who are perceived as helping themselves or contributing to society (and ignore those who are not).

y. Before you argue about poor people who made it big - there is a big difference between temporary poverty and marginalization, so I’m not talking about the rags to riches crowd. Marginalization can be crippling, learn about it before you judge people. When you are poor you gat no power, and when you are powerless you become desperate! this is psychology not social studies 😝

Successful people are not better, they don’t work harder, and they are not more deserving, they are just lucky. Imagine a scenario where in your wisdom you have a family project that requires maybe a million naira and your idea is super but you can only make a maximum contribution of 10k do you think your suggestion would overide that of someone who will provide maybe 800k towards the goal? Please understand the lady's point and let's stop tribalising this issues.

Fatbam005:
Though naturally, one can feel timid but that does not mean hiding. Also, what is her definition of being poor. Poverty gets levels.

Wow! A Nigerian (poverty capital of the world) asking for the definition of poverty?

Speak for yourself. Our family move together.

SWATMan:
It has nothing to do with SE bigot. You either accept or reject her opinion. We all see it around us except you have eyes but cannot see.

I'm not a bigot. I have been in several geopolitical zones in the country and no where does money replace values, age, title than in the South East.

It's no coincidence the OP is from that region.

Quote me again and I will reply with real-life instances.

Nackzy:
Omo i don see shege banza i am the eldest and poorest, good abeg ooo, the fight we had few days ago was that my mum respect them more than me, na today my papa settle the fight

na who say make you no get money? It served you right. Next time you go hustle well well and be rich like us



Prettygirl200 go like big boys with big plantains

tiswell:
Sad,but true

Not in all families o.

Coldspice:
In Igboland, [/b]I have seen a father being told to stand up for his son to sit, simply because the boy has money.[b]

But you see this issue of money and respect, it wrong to say it is Igbos. Na everywhere.

Lie.

This is so rampant in the south Eastern part of Nigeria. Everyone feels like oppressing and then parents aren't helping matters. Even when you as a man earns a decent salary, they'll be pointing to emeka that is raking in millions monthly. Poverty has eaten deep into that part of Nigeria so much. Some families there are good sha

money121:
If you are the poorest amongst your siblings or not doing well financially, avoid family gatherings until you have money - Nigerian lady says

Lolo Nneka Obani Wrote on her Wall:


If you know you are the poorest amongst yoursiblings or you aren't doing well financially, l recommend that you avoid family occasions or gatherings until you have money. If you must attend, kindly sit at a corner like a visitor.
Let the people that are serving the food and souvenir serve you like one of the guests, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself.
Do not go close to where the food and drinks are being served, sit at a corner and observe. Stop setting yourself up for insults.

Source: https://gistmeloveblog.com/if-you-are-the-poorest-amongst-your-siblings-or-not-doing-well-financially-avoid-family-gatherings-until-you-have-money-nigerian-lady-says/

Lolo Nneka Ubani is simply telling the pure truth, don't avoid only your family gatherings also avoid community or village meetings... The highest disgrace is when you are educated and poor!!! Strive to make money this 2024 and also help others who deserve a supporting hand.

BadBradley:
I'm not a bigot. I have been in several geopolitical zones in the country and no where does money replace values, age, title than in the South East.

It's no coincidence the OP is from that region.

Quote me again and I will reply with real-life instances.

Wealth and privilege can insulate ones experience of how the world works and obscure the realities of marginalization. There is also some scientific evidence that wealth and privilege can reduce empathy and compassion for those less fortunate.

The combination of assuming everyone has the same rights, privileges and opportunities, ignorance of differential treatment/exclusion/discrimination, victim blaming and a belief that hard work is always a path to success makes it easier to justify the differences between people and focus energy on policy that helps those who are perceived as helping themselves or contributing to society (and ignore those who are not).

Before you argue about poor people who made it big - there is a big difference between temporary poverty and marginalization, so I’m not talking about the rags to riches crowd. Marginalization can be crippling, learn about it before you judge people it has nothing to do with tribe or region. When you are poor you become powerless and when you are powerless, you become desperate! This is psychology and not social studies.⁷

Successful people are not better, they don’t work harder, and they are not more deserving, they are just lucky.

Enemyofpeace:
na who say make you no get money? It served you right. Next time you go hustle well well and be rich like us



Prettygirl200 go like big boys with big plantains

You think some people hustle that much before they make it big? There are people who hustle so much throughout their lifetime but can't even build a bungalow. Most times, connection to the right people helps

No wonder Prettygirl200 no dey attend meetings

Azazyel:
You think some people hustle that much before they make it big? There are people who hustle so much throughout their lifetime but can't even build a bungalow. Most times, connection to the right people helps

person no fit play with you again? Abeg no vex o

That is one sided mentality. I disagree with it because the same family you are running from can uplift you out of poverty.

Nackzy:
Omo i don see shege banza i am the eldest and poorest, good abeg ooo, the fight we had few days ago was that my mum respect them more than me, na today my papa settle the fight

Bros, it's normal for them o. Some parental love is for sale. No mean say you no go dey okay ooo. When you dey alright, enjoy yourself and be happy.

Enemyofpeace:
na who say make you no get money? It served you right. Next time you go hustle well well and be rich like us



Prettygirl200 go like big boys with big plantains

keycash:
Plesse money is key bro quality relationship follows money sir I'm talking from experience..

I have not said money is not good...I have only emphasized the need not to be so ashamed of associating with one's family members simply because of being financially backwards.

I have tried to encourage being useful to them in other ways, so that they can be of help to lift such individuals

Idaytesj29:
Bros, it's normal for them o. Some parental love is for sale. No mean say you no go dey okay ooo. When you dey alright, enjoy yourself and be happy.

I know I will be alright one day, my firm believe, thanks for the encouragement