TheGift:
This advice is for people that come from families that do not value family. But place money above everything. As long as the person is taking care of their responsibilities and not begging or stealing ,why should they be ashamedly comparing with anyone, talk less of their siblings.

Thank God I don’t come from that kind of family. Everyone plays their part for family responsibilities, no one is looking to anybody else to take care of their own family business. Even though we know we would all contribute to support anyone of us in need.

People that do that are useless and usually come from a particular part of the country. Na witchcraft mentality, how can you be competing with your siblings, or snubbing your siblings in a family gathering. Na useless people dey do that one.

Abeg na which kind family be that?

franconian:
Which kin family be that?

Na the type family wey dey use their siblings do ritual be that

Your famy must be a nonsense family, Money monger family.. I never chop family

Absolute nonsense generalisation coming from an idiot.

tutudesz:
Than you no get siblings be that O! You can hardly tell who is rich or poor among some siblings during family events. The senior will always be the senior and the junior will always be the junior

That's all, it's not about money, but age and respect...this is the human way.

Coldspice:
In Igboland, I have seen a father being told to stand up for his son to sit, simply because the boy has money.

But you see this issue of money and respect, it wrong to say it is Igbos. Na everywhere.

It's not everywhere, you are on your own, in this despicable character.

Fearyourcreator:

Lolz... Most Nigerian family and putting children with money first ... Just dey your dey ...

Aswear ah dey my dey

Mrfeel:

Wealthy is power , it's a global phenomenon it's human nature

If you get money lift up your brother otherwise you be winch.

Even, if you are the richest...avoid family gatherings.

May be that's your family..I don't know y people just dey yarn dust.if your family doesn't live in peace pray they live in peace.

money121:
If you are the poorest amongst your siblings or not doing well financially, avoid family gatherings until you have money - Nigerian lady says

Lolo Nneka Obani Wrote on her Wall:


If you know you are the poorest amongst yoursiblings or you aren't doing well financially, l recommend that you avoid family occasions or gatherings until you have money. If you must attend, kindly sit at a corner like a visitor.
Let the people that are serving the food and souvenir serve you like one of the guests, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself.
Do not go close to where the food and drinks are being served, sit at a corner and observe. Stop setting yourself up for insults.

Source: https://gistmeloveblog.com/if-you-are-the-poorest-amongst-your-siblings-or-not-doing-well-financially-avoid-family-gatherings-until-you-have-money-nigerian-lady-says/

What happened to lifting one another up in turbulent times or turbulent cycles of life?
It's only a dyfunctional culture or society that would elevate such practices and put older siblings into negative societal pressures.

A dysfunctional family wouldn't experience such even if they have all left their parents' home and started their own families. When you truly love yourself, you would love others and give genuine assistance to them. Period.

Focusmind:
So true, especially in the SE. Not just among siblings but cousins and extended families. The intimidation no be here o from the super rich siblings. The competition and show-offs too much. I pity those struggling in the midst of their wealthy siblings and cousins. To talk or contribute in family gatherings is always difficult. For the married ones, the pressure from their wives increases when the wife sees what Oga's siblings and cousins are doing for their wives and children. May God prosper all men struggling legitimately.

That cultural value system has to change in the South East. I'm certain you are making reference to majorly Anambra State. Even Ibos complain in back-and-forth intra-Ibo thread arguments and convos on NL and elsewhere online about the hubris, overbearing attitude, and cockiness of a lot of Anambra people.

There have been many Ibo kidnappers, bank and interstate highway armed robbers who were arrested by the crack teams of policemen in my over 25 years of relentlessly following crime stories and patterns in the media.

One of the several armed robbery confessions that STRUCK me was that of a less than 30-year-old young interstate armed robber from Anambra State in 2010 who said from where he comes from, if you are NOT yet a millionaire at the age of 30 years, the age group members would make fun of you and look down on you. He said some youths like him from Anambra are going into crime in order to get rich quickly. Another drug trafficker from Anambra who was arrested at MMIA while trying to fly to the Far East of Asia with the heroin on him said his impending marriage made him to engage in drug trafficking for fast money because of the heavy expenses!

It then occured to me that the reason many young Ibos especially from Anambra where going into these crimes of drug barons, meth and heroin drug trafficking, fake drugs production, fake malt drinks, fake wines, money rituals, kidnappings, armed robberies, etc, was due to these SOCIAL pressures and very unhealthy competitions and show-offs from their home villages and age-grade societies in the SE. These pressures to become millionaires by any means necessary have to stop otherwise there's gonna be more killings and trouble ahead. Period.

BadBradley:
when an Ariaria market tout picks up few words from Google he tries to impress people with words and terms he hasn't finished understanding himself.

Always remember, my son, the South East doesn't have the aristocratic class. Don't make me slap you with hard Okpa.

You're a peasant and dealer in pirated DVDs.

Hairy forest gorilla

Bigot i didn't make a mistake reading your mention. You were just spot on. Xenophobic slowpoke.

Mom007:
Tell me you are from a dysfunctional family without telling me you are from a dysfunctional family...
The number of people concurring is what shocks me the most.

Nigerians are generally a dysfunctional people. How can you discriminate against your own blood because he is poor?

The weird ways the average Nigerian thinks, need to be studied in details. They have an absurd, fûcked-up mindset

Nackzy:

Aswear ah dey my dey

I tell you ...

Natbrowny:


Comrade.. See ehn.. Been crazy now na good trait.. Else people go carry u goal goal oo.

I met one posting shit and she can't explain what it means.. Turns out she saw it somewhere and decided 2 share and doesnt want to be questioned.. Just read and understand automatically.

Na so one Q and A session dey online.. Babe said men are misogynistic and interviewer asked what she understood by been misogynistic and babe was mute.

She just knw say girls dey use d word. Mofo decide to use it and when asked what it means she turn to deaf n dumb.

Most families in the south come together to pool resources, you can hardly tell who is richer during events, that's the way it should be.

Good one there...One can't overemphasize d significance of money in one's life.... Sometimes l do not blame those that toe d path to do money rituals cos d embarrassment facing them must have taken them to d point of ending it...Forget it,every family does this irrespective of ethnic affiliations...

Damian911:

See am here


https://twitter.com/whatever/status/1739330167057666248?t=-gaODBLy6hhUK2PNDyzyPA&s=19

SWATMan:




Bigot i didn't make a mistake reading your mention. You were just spot on. Xenophobic slowpoke.

your mistake was trying to pretend your heritage were of the educated class. Bro, your patriarchy is marked with pirating goods from DVDs to paracetamol.

Oh...and xenophobia is hatred of foreigners or aliens and never used to describe apathy between compatriots

What a blooming ignoramus.

That's the culture of those whose real god is money. They claim to worship the most high, but their real allegiance is to the god called marmon.

We are where we are today because all our values have been substituted for money.

God have mercy!

mrjojo:
if you can't be vulnerable, poor in peace among your own family then maybe you need a new family.

True.

I won't subscribe to your assumption. It depends on family.

Some families don't bother if you have or not. What they are after is the happiness of the whole family like mine.

Nackzy:
Omo i don see shege banza i am the eldest and poorest, good abeg ooo, the fight we had few days ago was that my mum respect them more than me, na today my papa settle the fight

Eeya!! It will all become story this year. Just Hussle double.

XAUBulls:

That cultural value system has to change in the South East. I'm certain you are making reference to majorly Anambra State. Even Ibos complain in back-and-forth intra-Ibo thread arguments and convos on NL and elsewhere online about the hubris, overbearing attitude, and cockiness of a lot of Anambra people.

There have been many Ibo kidnappers, bank and interstate highway armed robbers who were arrested by the crack teams of policemen in my over 25 years of relentlessly following crime stories and patterns in the media.

One of the several armed robbery confessions that STRUCK me was that of a less than 30-year-old young interstate armed robber from Anambra State in 2010 who said from where he comes from, if you are NOT yet a millionaire at the age of 30 years, the age group members would make fun of you and look down on you. He said some youths like him from Anambra are going into crime in order to get rich quickly. Another drug trafficker from Anambra who was arrested at MMIA while trying to fly to the Far East of Asia with the heroin on him said his impending marriage made him to engage in drug trafficking for fast money because of the heavy expenses!

It then occured to me that the reason many young Ibos especially from Anambra where going into these crimes of drug barons, meth and heroin drug trafficking, fake drugs production, fake malt drinks, fake wines, money rituals, kidnappings, armed robberies, etc, was due to these SOCIAL pressures and very unhealthy competitions and show-offs from their home villages and age-grade societies in the SE. These pressures to become millionaires by any means necessary have to stop otherwise there's gonna be more killings and trouble ahead. Period.

You are correct. I am from Anambra and I know what happens. Nevertheless, there are lots of legit business men and hustlers. Living in an extended family setting, where you are not doing well could be very depressing for the man or the young guy. You could see their countenances on certain family issues. Sometimes, they thread softly to avoid any body yabbing them stylishly. For married ones, the pressure from madam will make the man to lean by force. For families where they cook together and live in the same compound, you just have to contribute, no matter how small to avoid you and your wife being used for side talks.

Foodqueen:


Eeya!! It will all become story this year. Just Hussle double.

Amen, I am trying, Abeg if you hear job connect don't hesitate, make my story jst change

Nackzy:
that's what's happening, not like i am not working but I got a loan for business so nothing remains from my salary at the end

Just keep pushing.....it could be depressing. I always feel for married men in this situation. They wouldn't want to let their wives or children down before their co-wives, cousins and distant relatives, thus increasing the financial pressure on themselves. Remain strong bro!

Stop worshipping money.

Nackzy:
Amen, I am trying, Abeg if you hear job connect don't hesitate, make my story jst change

What's your qualification

XAUBulls:

That cultural value system has to change in the South East. I'm certain you are making reference to majorly Anambra State. Even Ibos complain in back-and-forth intra-Ibo thread arguments and convos on NL and elsewhere online about the hubris, overbearing attitude, and cockiness of a lot of Anambra people.

There have been many Ibo kidnappers, bank and interstate highway armed robbers who were arrested by the crack teams of policemen in my over 25 years of relentlessly following crime stories and patterns in the media.

One of the several armed robbery confessions that STRUCK me was that of a less than 30-year-old young interstate armed robber from Anambra State in 2010 who said from where he comes from, if you are NOT yet a millionaire at the age of 30 years, the age group members would make fun of you and look down on you. He said some youths like him from Anambra are going into crime in order to get rich quickly. Another drug trafficker from Anambra who was arrested at MMIA while trying to fly to the Far East of Asia with the heroin on him said his impending marriage made him to engage in drug trafficking for fast money because of the heavy expenses!

It then occured to me that the reason many young Ibos especially from Anambra where going into these crimes of drug barons, meth and heroin drug trafficking, fake drugs production, fake malt drinks, fake wines, money rituals, kidnappings, armed robberies, etc, was due to these SOCIAL pressures and very unhealthy competitions and show-offs from their home villages and age-grade societies in the SE. These pressures to become millionaires by any means necessary have to stop otherwise there's gonna be more killings and trouble ahead. Period.

Some of those who become successful in those heinous crimes, start answering ridiculous names on social media to showcase their ostentatious lives.

Focusmind:


You are correct. I am from Anambra and I know what happens. Nevertheless, there are lots of legit business men and hustlers. Living in an extended family setting, where you are not doing well could be very depressing for the man or the young guy. You could see their countenances on certain family issues.
Sometimes, they thread softly to avoid any body yabbing them stylishly. For married ones, the pressure from madam will make the man to lean by force. For families where they cook together and live in the same compound, you just have to contribute, no matter how small to avoid you and your wife being used for side talks.

That's awesome! I didn't even realize you're from Anambra when I responded. I appreciate your forthrightness in confirming the facts that I earlier stated. I'm more of a solution-based person than always complaining about issues in the society.

Do you think that the pressures from the families members can be stopped by the communities through persuasive examples like I earlier stated showing the negative effects of these on Anambra society for example? If people in the villages and town unions get to see the statistics of these crimes, I believe things can change.

Second, indeed I'm aware of legit business people from Anambra such as Coscharis (Cosmas Maduka) whose inspiring story I have read from back in the day and how he made his money by supplying scarce motorcycle parts to the East (and he made a huge profit because there was demand), which he got in the late 1970s from a major Lebanese importer and supplier in Lagos State.

But there are also opaque young guys from Anambra and other states who do NOT have verifiable sources of income but suddenly became millionaires overnight. "Bitcoin Lord" is someone I used to be suspicious of, but he has come clean and shown evidence of how he made his money from crypto investments after he took the EFCC to court and won the case over his detention.

There have been many arrests of criminally-minded Ibo drug barons from Anambra (who were living in Lagos and other states) and they were busted within the last 17 years by the NDLEA and police intelligence teams for manufacturing, exporting, and locally distributing the mentally dangerous methamphetamine (meth or ice) from several poisonous and illegal laboratories located within private residential areas and estates (such as VGC, Satellite Town, Iba New site, Lekki, etc, in Lagos), Asaba, Nnewi, Ozubulu, Obosi, etc, with the aid of their South American drug partners. So, I have been sceptical about quickly believing any stories of so-called young millionaires and Naira billionaires until I get to see some legit evidence of how they made money. The supposedly legit but criminally-minded Obinwanne Okeke (Invictus Obi) and Hushpup come to mind here.


Happy New Year to you.