lendahand:
as a crypto baron, you shouldn't be the poorest, the opposite actually should be the case, well what do I know? Maybe you should reduce your nackanack to know whether divinity will open a big door for you sha...

hmmm okay ah don hear but funny enough I am not that type

BluntCrazeMan:
How did your dad settle the fight??
What exactly did your father do -- which settled the fight...??

he called everyone to the main house around 5am then strated with bible reading and prayers, talked about everything that happened, then he said he's not calling us to find out who was right and who was not right that we should forgo everything then sealed everything he said with a Bible portion

tochez24:



We're in the same shoes my brother.... My dad is late shaa buh you see my mum, she respects my Older married siblings because of what they give her⚠️

But treats me like shit because I'm still struggling, she uses every minute she can get to remind me of how i have failed countless times in past, though I'm the youngest but I'm still hurt🥺

I have really suffered

bro Everything will be alright, let's stay positive keep working hard and trying new opportunities, a lot of people have encouraged me on nairaland.com

boom99:


Stop wasting money on drinking and chasing women then before you know you get back to your feet

Honestly it's not, I got about 900k loan for business but someone scammed me so every month nothing remains from my salary that's why I am in this

vickydevoka:

My mama did worst. You just have to endure

hmmmm

Kay25:

I pray God will lift ur head up and bless ur pocket but ur mom is doing the wrong thing tides do change

Amen I just need that blessings pls if you can pray abeg pray for me too

Well like what has money got to do with family gatherings.
You are who you are and nothing else.
Find ways you can contribute, can you cook, find your position in the kitchen.
Can you slaughter the ram take joy in doing that also.
This has made children run from their inheritance, just because they want to level up.
Well it will take a bulldozer to take me out of a family gathering, even if I'm freshly released from Kirikiri,I go still show face.

Focusmind:


So sorry. It does happen. I have seen lots of it. If you are the first son and not able to provide, respect will just vanish. I am not talking from the angle where younger siblings are richer than you. It is different. They may be richer but you are still doing well yourself, no problem....your respect remains. It becomes a problem when you are struggling and you are depending on handouts from younger siblings, my brother, na Oyo.

that's what's happening, not like i am not working but I got a loan for business so nothing remains from my salary at the end

Jamie1000:


This is common in African homes. They start to make decisions without involving you. My advice to you is detach yourself and contribute from far. Humans are wird

Aswear i have already made this decision

The richest men come to weddings sit and the back , spend 15 to 30 minutes and when its time to spray and congratulate the couples , the shake hands and pass a thin envelope with 1 , 2 , 3 , of 4 million naira and exit , those with the most expensive clothes could spend 100k or 500k and no one know 4m naira has never been an issue

Tell me you are from a dysfunctional family without telling me you are from a dysfunctional family...
The number of people concurring is what shocks me the most.

The worst think that could happen to a man is to be money insufficient, there will be no positive thinking or ideas.

Which kind family una come from? For our family we Dey respect elders. I be last born. That one no mean say I go talk to my senior anyhow for family meeting or gathering because say I get money pass am.

SWATMan:


Wealth and privilege can insulate ones experience of how the world works and obscure the realities of marginalization. There is also some scientific evidence that wealth and privilege can reduce empathy and compassion for those less fortunate.

The combination of assuming everyone has the same rights, privileges and opportunities, ignorance of differential treatment/exclusion/discrimination, victim blaming and a belief that hard work is always a path to success makes it easier to justify the differences between people and focus energy on policy that helps those who are perceived as helping themselves or contributing to society (and ignore those who are not).

Before you argue about poor people who made it big - there is a big difference between temporary poverty and marginalization, so I’m not talking about the rags to riches crowd. Marginalization can be crippling, learn about it before you judge people it has nothing to do with tribe or region. When you are poor you become powerless and when you are powerless, you become desperate! This is psychology and not social studies.⁷

Successful people are not better, they don’t work harder, and they are not more deserving, they are just lucky.

bro, pass the joint or go back to the usual crack your brain is used to.

Whatever you do, just stop experimenting with strange weed.

BadBradley:
bro, pass the joint or go back to the usual crack your brain is used to.

Whatever you do, just stop experimenting with strange weed.

Because you are an ignorant lout who doesn't read but likes to lean on his own myopic understanding. Shame on you olodo

SWATMan:


Because you are an ignorant lout who doesn't read but likes to lean on his own myopic understanding. Shame on you olodo

when an Ariaria market tout picks up few words from Google he tries to impress people with words and terms he hasn't finished understanding himself.

Always remember, my son, the South East doesn't have the aristocratic class. Don't make me slap you with hard Okpa.

You're a peasant and dealer in pirated DVDs.

Hairy forest gorilla

spencekat:
Lie.

What is my gain if I lie about this?

Why should u be poor when ur siblings are doing well? Unless u're not from a good home or polygamous family. If u're rich & ur siblings are poor, u're still poor my friend.

The life of Igbo poor man, or not doing so well among his so called rich brothers.

money121:
If you are the poorest amongst your siblings or not doing well financially, avoid family gatherings until you have money - Nigerian lady says

Lolo Nneka Obani Wrote on her Wall:


If you know you are the poorest amongst yoursiblings or you aren't doing well financially, l recommend that you avoid family occasions or gatherings until you have money. If you must attend, kindly sit at a corner like a visitor.
Let the people that are serving the food and souvenir serve you like one of the guests, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself.
Do not go close to where the food and drinks are being served, sit at a corner and observe. Stop setting yourself up for insults.

Source: https://gistmeloveblog.com/if-you-are-the-poorest-amongst-your-siblings-or-not-doing-well-financially-avoid-family-gatherings-until-you-have-money-nigerian-lady-says/

Is he his siblings that made him poor? Stop misleading people with your stupid advice.

No sensible person will take this foolish advice from this girl, cos it promotes hatred, competition, entitlement and division among siblings.

SWATMan:


Wealth and privilege can insulate ones experience of how the world works and obscure the realities of marginalization. There is also some scientific evidence that wealth and privilege can reduce empathy and compassion for those less fortunate.

The combination of assuming everyone has the same rights, privileges and opportunities, ignorance of differential treatment/exclusion/discrimination, victim blaming and a belief that hard work is always a path to success makes it easier to justify the differences between people and focus energy on policy that helps those who are perceived as helping themselves or contributing to society (and ignore those who are not).

y. Before you argue about poor people who made it big - there is a big difference between temporary poverty and marginalization, so I’m not talking about the rags to riches crowd. Marginalization can be crippling, learn about it before you judge people. When you are poor you gat no power, and when you are powerless you become desperate! this is psychology not social studies 😝

Successful people are not better, they don’t work harder, and they are not more deserving, they are just lucky. Imagine a scenario where in your wisdom you have a family project that requires maybe a million naira and your idea is super but you can only make a maximum contribution of 10k do you think your suggestion would overide that of someone who will provide maybe 800k towards the goal? Please understand the lady's point and let's stop tribalising this issues.

For me to see from the lady's angle you have to come with this write up that supports this lack of order. So,poor but intelligent older siblings has to be disrespected and ignored because their penury is of their own making.


I did not even indicate my tribe,but you already formed an opinion that I am tribalising the issue. Are the Japanese,Chinese,Indian,Korean etc tribes that gives reverence to their older but poor siblings tribalist too?

You start to disrespect your older siblings when the spirit of show off,pride and arrogance colonised your life. In my family I don't know of yours, your wealth won't make you dare to cross the line or expected to be bestowed with the family traditional chieftancy title ahead of your senior siblings that are not well to do.

money121:
If you are the poorest amongst your siblings or not doing well financially, avoid family gatherings until you have money - Nigerian lady says

Lolo Nneka Obani Wrote on her Wall:


If you know you are the poorest amongst yoursiblings or you aren't doing well financially, l recommend that you avoid family occasions or gatherings until you have money. If you must attend, kindly sit at a corner like a visitor.
Let the people that are serving the food and souvenir serve you like one of the guests, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself.
Do not go close to where the food and drinks are being served, sit at a corner and observe. Stop setting yourself up for insults.

Source: https://gistmeloveblog.com/if-you-are-the-poorest-amongst-your-siblings-or-not-doing-well-financially-avoid-family-gatherings-until-you-have-money-nigerian-lady-says/

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Your family is an armed robber family

But why are family members competing amongst each other?

That's already part of me. Not even when a fortuneteller told me to avoid family gatherings for my own good. They see me as a ghost if I mistakenly met one of my family member for event or anywhere, seems they fear who I have become.

Natbrowny:


No mind am.. Just because hers or some1 she knws ain't perfect. She just drop bullshit call am advice.

Everything you read on the Internet na manipulation

Find out now.. Na inside film or inside one quote she read am decide to post. Thats what people do. Dey wont drop all d quote dey stole. Dey will pick the ones dey wanna use to drop points like preachers do

You're a crazy observer comrade

Nackzy:
Omo i don see shege banza i am the eldest and poorest, good abeg ooo, the fight we had few days ago was that my mum respect them more than me, na today my papa settle the fight

Lolz... Most Nigerian family and putting children with money first ... Just dey your dey ...

Nonsense post! If your helper is amongst the family members nko?

Damian911:

You're a crazy observer comrade

Comrade.. See ehn.. Being crazy now na good trait.. Else people go carry u goal goal oo.

I met one posting shit and she can't explain what it means.. Turns out she saw it somewhere and decided 2 share and doesnt want to be questioned.. Just read and understand automatically.

Na so one Q and A session dey online.. Babe said men are misogynistic and interviewer asked what she understood by been misogynistic and babe was mute.

She just knw say girls dey use d word. Mofo decide to use it and when asked what it means she turn to deaf n dumb.

Until you are getting much older and they can't utter a word without using style to shade your singleness

UnfairLife7:
Unmarried is not too prevalent like money

This advice is for people that come from families that do not value family. But place money above everything. As long as the person is taking care of their responsibilities and not begging or stealing ,why should they be ashamedly comparing with anyone, talk less of their siblings.

Thank God I don’t come from that kind of family. Everyone plays their part for family responsibilities, no one is looking to anybody else to take care of their own family business. Even though we know we would all contribute to support anyone of us in need.

money121:
If you are the poorest amongst your siblings or not doing well financially, avoid family gatherings until you have money - Nigerian lady says

Lolo Nneka Obani Wrote on her Wall:


If you know you are the poorest amongst yoursiblings or you aren't doing well financially, l recommend that you avoid family occasions or gatherings until you have money. If you must attend, kindly sit at a corner like a visitor.
Let the people that are serving the food and souvenir serve you like one of the guests, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself.
Do not go close to where the food and drinks are being served, sit at a corner and observe. Stop setting yourself up for insults.

Source: https://gistmeloveblog.com/if-you-are-the-poorest-amongst-your-siblings-or-not-doing-well-financially-avoid-family-gatherings-until-you-have-money-nigerian-lady-says/

You don't expect every family to walk in the same trend or lift styles as your family.

There are family who shares bond despite they are not equal.
Deal with your family issue, don't extend your problem to us

Na people wey value money pass human being dey do that one, the name speaks for itself. Not all family have this witchcraft behavior, stop making people see Nigerians as useless evil people. Mention your state and tribe.