Uptheante:

At the bolded, decent ladies don't get slept with so many times.
She's not a decent lady as long as she has sex with someone who's not her husband. She has been fornicating with you & fornication is a sin. So she's not a decent lady

I guess the white people told you that fornication is a sin.

UncleSuru:
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I also have the feeling this lady wants to keep in touch even after marriage.

Whether you attend or not,, the above line is 180% true..

Once she meets you after the wedding, and you apologize for not attending the wedding, she would want to re-ignite old flames still..

UncleSuru:


Virgin or no marriage bro. As scarce as virgins may be, they're still out there.

If I'm this skeptical about something that wouldn't bother many, then you should know I won't end up with someone like the lady.

Virgin or no marriage.

Dem plenty. I know like 6 when I nor gree touch like 3 years ago when don marry and move on.

Now sef like 3 dey around forming friendship. I nor dey reach that level with virgin. You must wear your cloth back once I discover you be virgin.

My guy met one girl that smokes and drinks. He just look her like runs girl cos she was always coming around him and hanging with bad guys. He thought she was forming hard to get and forcefully slept with her one of the times she flew in to stay over the night.

Nor be small shock and begging when he discovered she was virgin. She refused to have anything to do with him after that.

Local man is shocked too o.

OP must really like said "decent girl"...but not enough to put a ring on it.

immortalcrown:


I didn't know that decent people mess around.

UncleSuru:
There's this good friend of mine we met in uni days. We maintained the friendship after school and I've slept with her countless times. She's a decent lady and her wedding is later this year. She insists I must attend but I keep asking myself if it is proper.

I will have to see the guy that will take over from where I stopped, buy aso ebi, take pictures, laugh and dance with someone I've slept with his to-be wife multiple times?

Maybe I just have a very active conscience.

I also have the feeling this lady wants to keep in touch even after marriage.

Isn't it better not to just attend?

The only thing you wrote about her is that you slept with her countless times. Couldn’t even list one good attribute.

since you are not responsible, go and see how responsible man behaves

My experience was rather like yours, OP.
Was on a job far from where I live. My hosts younger sister looked at me and began to invite me to visit her at her own place. I was a bachelor but already dating...I turned the table and invited her the location where the work is situate. She came, dressed to kill, I knew then what game she was up to.

Hard as she tried, I never succumbed to her tempting moves. I swore never to invite her again.

I got to hear she had a fiance based in Cameroon and that made it better for me to stay away from her.

The first time her fiance visited she introduced me as brother Jay and he shook my hand and said he'd heard good things about me!!
Imagine how I'd have felt meeting him and hearing that statement if I had ever had anything with her!!

jaszplus12:
My experience was rather like yours, OP.
Was on a job far from where I live. My hosts younger sister looked at me and began to invite me to visit her at her own place. I was a bachelor but already dating...I turned the table and invited her the location where the work is situate. She came, dressed to kill, I knew then what game she was up to.

Hard as she tried, I never succumbed to her tempting moves. I swore never to invite her again.

I got to hear she had a fiance based in Cameroon and that made it better for me to stay away from her.

The first time her fiance visited she introduced me as brother Jay and he shook my hand and said he'd heard good things about me!!
Imagine how I'd have felt meeting him and hearing that statement if I had ever had anything with her!!

Good to see we still have men with honour. Kudos bro.

UncleSuru:


Are you even aware some women even throw themselves at men willingly?

You better don't kill yourself.

Virginity would not replace a good woman. A virgin doesn’t equal a good woman.

If you think some women who have extra marital affairs weren’t virgins at marriage then you’re living in a bubble.


I liked when you said she’s a decent lady, instead of doing a 360 you could have elaborated on why she’s a decent person to you.

Good luck with finding that virgin of your dreams.

UncleSuru:


Virgin or no marriage bro. As scarce as virgins may be, they're still out there.

If I'm this skeptical about something that wouldn't bother many, then you should know I won't end up with someone like the lady.

Virgin or no marriage.

Even if you married a virgin, in the marriage another man go fvck her toto well well because you don fvck someone else before in your past life
You can't outsmart God because karma is real

yewit37486:


Good to see we still have men with honour. Kudos bro.

Thanks sir...I appreciate.

You don Bleep her and you say she's a decent lady yet no bi you marry her. Thunder🌠

Kobicove:


Times have changed, those days of waiting strictly till after marriage before having sex are gone for good.

The fact that a lady was sexually active before marriage does not necessarily mean that she is not decent

Times have changed but the word of God doesn't change one bit.
Fornication is a sin no matter how you wanna sugarcoat it. The bible clearly condemns it: 1 Corinthians 6:13 & 7:2; Colossians 3:5, Ephesians 5:3, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4, Revelations 21:8, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, 1 Corinthians 6:9, Galatians 5:19,
Any lady that is sexually active outside marriage is INDECENT.
Even if she preaches, sings in choir, help the poor, speaks in tongues, prays & fast, it doesn't remove the fact that she's still indecent.
I know my message is unpopular in today's world that is riddled with so much vile acts that pple see as normal, but God's word can never change.

The ability of a lady to control herself & wait Till marriage before having sex (with only her husband) , is what defines her decency. That's one of the hallmarks of decency.

I know my opinion is quite unpopular to many pple in today's world & I'm not a saint either because I also have my own shortcomings, but I can never call sin good

Penisman:


I guess the white people told you that fornication is a sin.

The bible did, not the white pple.
I follow God's word not the white folks

Jeje247:
Decent is not same as holy

You are just either being mischievous deliberately or you don't understand the meaning of the 2 words you just used.
For a lady to be holy, she must first be decent.
If she's not decent, then whatever facade of holiness she displays, is null & void.
You can't claim to be holy & still be getting banged by a man that is not your husband. Fornication has been condemned as a sin in the bible.
You can't also claim to be decent & still be getting banged by a man you are not married to

UncleSuru:


Virgin or no marriage bro. As scarce as virgins may be, they're still out there.

If I'm this skeptical about something that wouldn't bother many, then you should know I won't end up with someone like the lady.

Virgin or no marriage.

how will you know she is a virgin before marriage

To marry a virgin u need connection

tuoyoojo:
This is no need for all this long talk

It was just ur turn then when u were piping her

Just the same way , someone else is most probably piping ur future wife to be, who would be invited to ur wedding with her

We are all someone ex, so it's not that deep

The only ish is after she has sworn her love to her husband, you and her start doing hanky panky shit

Olohun, Na you get the Drift ...

People would really have to emancipate from this Premordial Maturities....

Women are human being same as we Men !

Segzy19:
Be like say you don't how the female gender thinks sha! She has moved on and forgotten all the sex you guys had. To her, it was an exercise which she enjoyed while it lasted with you. Her ultimate aim like most women is getting married to a man, which is now happening. Na you still dey worry yourself abi past sex experience...

If you want to attend and if you don't want to, then do not. The lady don move on...

She might not have moved on .. Women could be stoned cold lover if they wanna be ... Marrying someone while shagging someone else ... E deep !

I just respect those gender, You can Never-Ever enjoy a woman unless you are a Full Man!

Men just have the notion that they are the one that have the right to be wild but when a man sees a wilder woman, they open books of lamentation..

Oju gbogbo wa jo ma boo ni In This Game ...

All of una shaggin Men & Emotional Boys Aka Simps .... Una Mind no go touch Ground

Medici777:
I wouldn’t attend

Because Another Nigga is Carrying your Candy Away ....

If I have time, Na this wedding I go like attend ..

What a better atmosphere to train one's heart on how to let go & become solidly Matured...

I will even sprayed them money still go greet the husband & peace out like a Real Odogwu!

Life na turn by turn ... no wahala

UncleSuru:


Not everyone is like the LovePeddler who gave birth to you.

It is people like you that will be sleeping with your neighbour's wife and still be laughing with him.

You must be very pained you didn't marry a virgin.

Werey.

Calm down .. That dude was just trying to improve Ya understanding of the situation you find yasef ... ...

Jeje247:
Decent is not same as holy

too many people get sense of nairaland ...

Coded Olosho is Decent ...

Uncoded Olosho is Indecent

....

While Sister Mary wey never fvck before is "Holy"

Jesus, see people wey u die for

Penisman:


I guess the white people told you that fornication is a sin.

Forget white people ...

Fornication na Sin...

But Me I am Decent But Not Holy ...

Nairaland don teach me one Sense today ...

NothingDoMe:
Dem plenty. I know like 6 when I nor gree touch like 3 years ago when don marry and move on.

Now sef like 3 dey around forming friendship. I nor dey reach that level with virgin. You must wear your cloth back once I discover you be virgin.

My guy met one girl that smokes and drinks. He just look her like runs girl cos she was always coming around him and hanging with bad guys. He thought she was forming hard to get and forcefully slept with her one of the times she flew in to stay over the night.

Nor be small shock and begging when he discovered she was virgin. She refused to have anything to do with him after that.

Imagine ....

Many Girls are very razz but They ain't dicked before .... they are just tagging along their friend just to feel among so nobody go dey call dem "Jew" !!

jaszplus12:
My experience was rather like yours, OP.
Was on a job far from where I live. My hosts younger sister looked at me and began to invite me to visit her at her own place. I was a bachelor but already dating...I turned the table and invited her the location where the work is situate. She came, dressed to kill, I knew then what game she was up to.

Hard as she tried, I never succumbed to her tempting moves. I swore never to invite her again.

I got to hear she had a fiance based in Cameroon and that made it better for me to stay away from her.

The first time her fiance visited she introduced me as brother Jay and he shook my hand and said he'd heard good things about me!!
Imagine how I'd have felt meeting him and hearing that statement if I had ever had anything with her!!

odogwu you go dust am Noni ... E be Things ... smile for the Camera

DonroxyII:
odogwu you go dust am Noni ... E be Things ... smile for the Camera

E be things but e no be easy bossu!
The fiance turned out to be a great guy, always wanted me by his side!
No go easy to smile and wave!

jaszplus12:

E be things but e no be easy bossu!
The fiance turned out to be a great guy, always wanted me by his side!
No go easy to smile and wave!

You No fit do Politics ... You be Mekunnu ....

It's Good sha, to only carry wetin one emotion fit carry because by the time Review Comes, Your Heart no go carry Burden ...

DonroxyII:
You No fit do Politics ... You be Mekunnu ....

It's Good sha, to only carry wetin one emotion fit carry because by the time Review Comes, Your Heart no go carry Burden ...

Gaskiya you get the drift! Even though it was spontaneous, I never knew it will be like that...
Politics no dey my blood at all,...my strength lies on soft things!
I hail those that do things I can't!

jaszplus12:

Gaskiya you get the drift! Even though it was spontaneous, I never knew it will be like that...
Politics no dey my blood at all,...my strength lies on soft things!
I hail those that do things I can't!

.. You don't have flare for wahala ni .. That's some people major courses on Daily Basis ..

Good for You Na ... You Get Conscience too Much

DonroxyII:
.. You don't have flare for wahala ni .. That's some people major courses on Daily Basis ..

Good for You Na ... You Get Conscience too Much

Bro...the action wey dey my body na for driving loooonngg distance and adventure!
For there, I dey shine!!

Kobicove:
I don't see anything wrong in attending the wedding of an ex

tell me, during the ceremony, you won't be mocking that guy in your mind ...


Knowing you've engaged in numerous coitus with the said lady..

You should attend her wedding
I see nothing wrong in attending her wedding.

It is past, let bygone be bygone