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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 6:40pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Mondisweets:well said , No document surpasses a will in any marriage ... as long as the trust is there ... if you dont trust your spouse's will , then you should never be too sure he acquired properties in his name , he may have done that in the name of his extended family members .... you might be thinking as long as you got the certificate , its an assurance ..... it is best to know what your spouse is upto. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 6:40pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Blebleswag:All I said is if she is evil and she don't want the marriage she need the certificate to file devoice to get half of the man property |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 6:42pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Now man need prenuptial and a will If u have asset before u marry if u have a certificate What will a certificate do for u , if u are not in the will? |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 6:47pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
GoodFaith:Dats it! because they ve evil tot in their mind dats y they re askin 4 'solid certificate,' n dats nt compulsory. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 6:48pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
GoodFaith: |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:02pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Blebleswag:not evil thought per say ... it may be needed for some official reasons ... any lady who thinks the court marriage automatatically gives her a right to the man's property after divorce or death is just decieving herself . if the court marriaages actually does that in Nigeria , the women complaining of abusive relationships would not be complaining because they would be having a swell time with their new lovers . some women even wish to walk away but they cannot beause the marriage cannot be dissolved. the court divorce process costs money and your chances of winning so so so so slim. in the case of death , it is best you and your spouse have a will because you both may die at the same time ... this may then cause problems between your kids or between them and your inlaws....go with whatever pleases you not a compulsory court marriage. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Mclick(m): 7:08pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
GooseBaba:contract, some of them makes it look like that sha, Lol do you mean that's what the lady imply by her post |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by MadCow1: 7:14pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
webdezzi: [b]You can never know a person fully.. Stop this old wives tale.. Even your mama get some things wey she no fit swear for you... A court marriage is simply to even the playing field. So tomorrow you can't kick her out after over 25 years together with her kids and leave her helpless. After all, many people have talked about people changing. A Nigerian woman who enters into a marriage without the backing of the federal marriage license is like an Engineer that is working in a potentially hazardous environment without the proper PPE.. Yes, many traditional marriages have run their course well.. My grandma had only a traditional certificate and her marriage was long and fruitful though she was married at age 14.. But I have uncles that have kicked out their wives of many years (mostly when the pepper ripens) together with their kids and left to fend for themselves.. Maybe if they had a federal marriage license, they would have been able to legally nullify the new marriages by their husbands, get court ordered child upkeep allowances, even spouse maintenance allowance and also a house over her head.. All you men, remember you have sisters who would become someone's wife o.. Ask for me, none of my children would even do trad without first going to court.. /b] |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:29pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
MadCow1:bros , my only question is in this Nigeria majority of us are living in now, how many men have been charged to court for bigamy .... abi all these sugar daddies no do court marriage . some men even pack their stuffs and leave the house ? what do we call that ? is it not better for a woman to make proper use of the opportunity to gather enough while the man still dey than to wait for him to go? she may want to go freely tomorrow and her husband may not allow her. we are only looking at it from the angle of the man being successful ... go ask well to do women married to men of lower class if they are ok with this kind of marriage? |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 7:40pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
MadCow1:End of relationship is not the end of the world Any woman that support U in ur marriage u must support that woman U must not forget the past where both of u started from" likely without nothing" Men have sisters and daughters All the women that want to chop u die have brothers and sons too it is a two way street |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ubijus1(m): 7:51pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Sweetlemon:op, are you a counsel? You need to understand that most people here won't understand the essence of marriage documents bc of their ignorance of the law.[no insult meant] The Op meant that the court won't give effect to ur supposed marriage if it's nt done in a legally recognised form. It would then strike u 2 knw that there is no such thing as 'church marriage' under our law. Btw, court marriage won't cost u more than 11k as it mostly excludes much spending on meriment. No one is prayin 4 ur marriage 2 brk dwn but should such happen, valid marriage documents will, atleast, help in getting u a deserved justice. I'm resisting the temptation to assert that some men are daft. So, u guys can only see it 4rm ur angle? What if ur wife is richer than u or u both built an empire 2geda, how then would you even get a pin if u weren't legally married? Pls, let's nt let our culture blindfold us. Yes, we have a culture but knw it that the law, at most times- as in instant case, is at variance with custom/culture/tradition. Importantly, the court will give effect to the law and invalidate any custom that is inconsistent with any written law. Pls, make sure u contract a legally valid marriage for your good interest. Lastly, know it that marriage is a contract! Now, since the law treats invalid contracts as though they neva existed, would u go into an invalid marriage? Dnt be fast to rebuke me, i'm talking from the legal angle as every action you take has legal implication. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by ademi87(m): 7:51pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
r u 4gettin d fact dat I worked for my money to take care of my family nd fwens not to squander on a day wedding dat ll fade away after few days, u wnt white wedding? Bring 20million bliv me any guy ll be api to walk u down d isle |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 7:53pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Ubijus1:It was an insult why ? some people here have better education than u "You need to understand that most people here won't understand the essence of marriage documents bc of their ignorance of the law.[no insult meant]" " i'm talking from the legal angle as every action you take has legal implication."------ A will and prenuptial will still make the certificate useless paper I am talking from a protected zeno The thing in life is we need to be good to each other we work together and we eat together |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ubijus1(m): 8:00pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
When ur husband or wife is legally married 2 u, he/she 'cnt' contract another marriage without divorcing you. However, he/she just cnt wake up nd divorce u for no proved just cause. Customary law empowering traditional marriage, in most places, grants no right to succession/inheritance. Now i understand why a proffesor of history could be rightly termed an ignorant in law. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 8:03pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Ubijus1:A will grant right to succession/inheritance. Prenuptial exclude u from taking over No 50/50 (might) |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ubijus1(m): 8:09pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
GoodFaith:good try! Marriage documents are meant to protect ur marriage while it lasts. In the case of will, what if ur he/she dies intestate? Even at that, a will cn only be executed to favour u as a husband/wife when u had a valid marriage. Eg, if the will says, 'i gv so so property to my husband upon my demise' how on earth would u have a valid title to the said property if u weren't legally married? |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 8:13pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Ubijus1:Let me break this down property that are will are protected by law If my name is on that property and I owe that property before marriage U have to show that the person that will the properties sold it before his death U can not take ownership of property because u are the wife I bought a property that was foreclosed by the bank right There was a car in the garage, full paid Who did u think now that car? |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by elvis07: 8:24pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
All this greed nd focus on wat i get or dnt get is wat makes pple get wise. Shine ur eyes majekdom2: |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:29pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
GoodFaith:if it is the case of being recongnised the customary law recognises you as a spouse once a customary certificate is issued. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by nnamxxx(m): 8:32pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Blebleswag: U dey mind them? Person wey no no culture go just come here come dey write rubbish. When did white wedding became our culture? |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ubijus1(m): 8:37pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
GoodFaith:relate it to marriage and spouses. Dnt derail. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Fourwinds: 8:42pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Rival:which is in comparison seeking d kingdom of God and every order thing will be added |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 8:48pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Ubijus1:The will exclude her for the inheritance she will have to go to court to fight to get any things There was a case of a billion that was marriage this lady The lady fought the son for share of the property Guess what she didn't get any thing |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Fourwinds: 8:53pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
ademi87:ask d girls to contribute to d wedding., u will be surprise to hear them grumbling but dey expect u to spend a hell of money. just imagine a day thing.!! haba female being.!!! 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by PrettyClare7(f): 8:55pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
slimmy05:hahahahahaha.... It is only the ignorant that resort to insult when they fail to make points. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by PrettyClare7(f): 8:56pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
majekdom2:there are more,but the certificate should not be over-looked |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 8:59pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
2sExy1: So even u at ur age is still doing this childish act? What is so interesting abt commenting first? I am disappointed in u big time. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by PrettyClare7(f): 9:01pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
Blebleswag:if u marry the traditional way it is your choice,you can get a certificate without a church wedding,but i am sure presenting a certificate will be better than bringing elders to swear that your married when it is required. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by PrettyClare7(f): 9:09pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
majekdom2:my dear this is the era where you shine your eyes,to prevent people from reaping where they did not sow. Especialy where a man dies intestate. |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 9:14pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
PrettyClare7:Yes agreed "shine your eyes,to prevent people from reaping where they did not sow." what about a woman that did not work for stuff That think she might have access because she have kids for U But are u trying to kill somebody in intestate.? God forbid oh Back to sent of all evil |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 9:17pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
PrettyClare7:hmmm , I understand what you mean ... in that case you should be ready to soak garri with a young man who is outhere searching because a man who is well to do and who is just looking for a woman to raise kids would also conclude the wife wants to reap where she did not sow. 1 Like |
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by GoodFaith: 9:25pm On Oct 06, 2014 |
majekdom2:Are there man like----"a man who is well to do and who is just looking for a woman to raise kids would also conclude the wife wants to reap where she did not sow " Or people have f up mentality |
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