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SWG1:
He that finds a wife finds what? a good thing and obtained favour from sight of God.

Op, you are only entitled to your opinion if uv not really found a wife or Maybe ur operating outside God's principles and favour.

We are not meant to marry out of feelings or solely Cos of sex. So don't tell me stories about stale sex.

Infant Il revist this thread when I have ample time.

watch out for season 2 lol

I am surprise to see half-backed Christians, who only quote scriptures that supports their own opinions ignoring the fact that, the same scriptures also support also supports the OP's position for men of God...look through the Bible in the old and New Testament, great men that God used did not marry, as such fully dedicated their focus on the things of God without the many distractions that marriage undoubtfully brings. For every one married man mightily used by God either in the old or New Testament that you can mention, I will mention two who were not married and were used more mightilier by God.

The OP want to channel that same Focus and energy towards a career, an endeavor, etc....so arguing that the OP is wrong based on the Bible shows one's ignorance of the Bible.

Some scriptures for you to think about:
1 Cor 7:8 says.."Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do."

1 Cor 7:24-27.."Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God....Art thou bound unto a wife?seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

Matt 19:12.."For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it"

ferdiii:
but rich bastards appeal to u.

Tell em.Steve Jobs was a suppose bastard but yet a great man,Oprah Winfrey also a Suppose Bastard is a billionaire and philantropist.People need to think outside the box.I mean,people need to see life's big picture

Funny though buh,point 4 kontradictz everyoda point u med;"a family? U already belong 2 one" & since u don't want 2 mek-up urs,so ur kidz kuld belong 2 urs,worst-still u don't want odaz 2 mek-up theirs either.Would u've had a family 2 belong 2? I suggext u keep ur ideas 2 urself & go get a life!

whoever wrote this!!!may u never go dry of wisdom....u're so f**king right.apart from sex and kids i don't see anything in it.it such a waste of time nd money..u have to live with spouse characters and habits.damn who's gat dat time.remember *yolo*...live life to the fullest..

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Dcmg:
God instituted marriage bla bla bla.Why din't his son Jesus Marry?
See,not everybody will marry.Some people have a greater purpose than marriage.

And that is why I said in my earlier post, " It is immoral to have sex outside marriage. If you refuse to get married, but can hold yourself, then there is no problem with it".
Even St Paul said he wished all men would be unmarried like him, but for the sake of avoidance of immorality, those who can't hold themselves should go and get married (1 Cor 7:2).
The problem is when people denounce marriage, and yet go on and eat the fruit of marriage which is sex.

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

Finally, a guy that thinks like me,.Why would i get married while i can hit a Billion dollars before my 40th birthday and stay cool. Lots of adoptions and baby mamas,grannies,cooks,baby sitters etc without any woman questioning my whereabouts or business mettings.The world has changed.

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

You're so gay

traware:
Hmm...you sound exactly like me.Women must have shown you hell like they've also shown me.From my personal experience,marriage,women and children are a total waste of time and energy.Married men are slaves to their wives and children.My advice to young men out there is to never ever get married instead,use that energy to build a business or concentrate on better endeavours.Louis Vuitton,Harley Davidson,Steve Jobs even Lipton,these are all men who are dead and gone but their legacies live on.Do you think I'm lying?Pray tell,what is the name of Chinua Achebes' wife/wives?How many child/children does he have?There is no such thing as 'happily married',its an oxymoron.its like saying a person is 'happily dead'.Read the book "The Manipulated Man" by Esther Vilar and learn more

Wow that book "The manipulated man" is epic. I can't believe a woman can be this honest about women. Thanks Fr recommending the book. I have learnt a lot from it.

ILIDEFI:
And that is why I said in my earlier post, " It is immoral to have sex outside marriage. If you refuse to get married, but can hold yourself, then there is no problem with it".
Even St Paul said he wished all men would be unmarried like him, but for the sake of avoidance of immorality, those who can't hold themselves should go and get married (1 Cor 7:2).
The problem is when people denounce marriage, and yet go on and eat the fruit of marriage which is sex.

Mehn,i so much love the way i was created.Sex to me is irrelevant.Or should i say i'v found a greater purpose for life that sex looks like a child's play to me.

No matter your reasons, It cannot supersede God's plan for man. It is God who
instituted marriage and we must get married. Just believe in God who owns marriage

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

U de form tough guy, I can almost guess ur age. Ask ur grandfathr how miserable his life would hav been if he didn't hav ur fathr n his siblings, u neva knw the worth of family until ur aging, who would look aftr u, ah......yes, u talk abt maids, u can hav 20 if u want, sickly old fart they'll call u, if u grow very old n blind, u'll become a tin of ridicle, u call n call evry1 will just be busy doing whtevr they want, if u become deaf, a neighbor would be banging ur maid in the next room wit the door wide open, they'll scorn u, steal ur moni, laugh at u. U tink evrytin to life is jst moni, n whn u grow older some of ur maids will evn quit. U might say u would go to home of the elderly n pay ur moni to be proprly taken care of, wht abt all ur business, who would tak good care of dem, I used good to mak u see enphasis cos any1 can tak care of anytin, stangrs will run ur businesses, stangrs will eat ur moni, all ur sweat, ur lawyer would evn steal frm u, u'll become an open haus full of wealth evry1 can steal frm. U talkd abt obama, saying u'lld remembr him as being the first US black president, not becos of his children, yes, and whn US hav had many othr black president, 10years pass, 20years, 40, 60years, the 80th century would remembr you only whn they'r in history class, our first black president, wow!! Som of them would evn fail to get the ansa in their exam, who was our first black president? They might evn write my name. Whtz d ratio of men that married to those that didn't, my guess is 100k : 1, den ur saying the most acheiving once r in the 1, ur kiddn urself. Its a shame to evn hav peopl notoriously screaming on the streats yelling doom toward the wondrfully institution of marriage. Personally though I find, any many that has successfully raised a good health family to be very successful, the strong men not the weaklin's dat believ family would draw u back frm becoming "micheal faraday". Keep opoooonion to urself. Stop contaminating people

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

I hope U will practice what u preach, and grow old with your career, money and sentimental believe.
As for me marriage is Honorable in all.

GAY idiots you can't succeed,Africa is pro family

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

GoodcasHMan:
No matter your reasons, It cannot supersede God's plan for man. It is God who
instituted marriage and we must get married. Just believe in God who owns marriage

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MAN PROPOSES, GOD DISPOSES

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To avoid being disposed...

Do not propose!!!

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lahit14:
U de form tough guy, I can almost guess ur age. Ask ur grandfathr how miserable his life would hav been if he didn't hav ur fathr n his siblings, u neva knw the worth of family until ur aging, who would look aftr u, ah......yes, u talk abt maids, u can hav 20 if u want, sickly old fart they'll call u, if u grow very old n blind, u'll become a tin of ridicle, u call n call evry1 will just be busy doing whtevr they want, if u become deaf, a neighbor would be banging ur maid in the next room wit the door wide open, they'll scorn u, steal ur moni, laugh at u. U tink evrytin to life is jst moni, n whn u grow older some of ur maids will evn quit. U might say u would go to home of the elderly n pay ur moni to be proprly taken care of, wht abt all ur business, who would tak good care of dem, I used good to mak u see enphasis cos any1 can tak care of anytin, stangrs will run ur businesses, stangrs will eat ur moni, all ur sweat, ur lawyer would evn steal frm u, u'll become an open haus full of wealth evry1 can steal frm. U talkd abt obama, saying u'lld remembr him as being the first US black president, not becos of his children, yes, and whn US hav had many othr black president, 10years pass, 20years, 40, 60years, the 80th century would remembr you only whn they'r in history class, our first black president, wow!! Som of them would evn fail to get the ansa in their exam, who was our first black president? They might evn write my name. Whtz d ratio of men that married to those that didn't, my guess is 100k : 1, den ur saying the most acheiving once r in the 1, ur kiddn urself. Its a shame to evn hav peopl notoriously screaming on the streats yelling doom toward the wondrfully institution of marriage. Personally though I find, any many that has successfully raised a good health family to be very successful, the strong men not the weaklin's dat believ family would draw u back frm becoming "micheal faraday". Keep opoooonion to urself. Stop contaminating people

Don't mind me jare
Maybe he has been frustrated a lot because he is sound like 1

GoodcasHMan:
No matter your reasons, It cannot supersede God's plan for man. It is God who
instituted marriage and we must get married. Just believe in God who owns marriage

all these people bringing God into it. i guess you have not seen this

1 corinthians 7 vs 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.

linearity:
I am surprise to see half-backed Christians, who only quote scriptures that supports their own opinions ignoring the fact that, the same scriptures also support also supports the OP's position for men of God...look through the Bible in the old and New Testament, great men that God used did not marry, as such fully dedicated their focus on the things of God without the many distractions that marriage undoubtfully brings. For every one married man mightily used by God either in the old or New Testament that you can mention, I will mention two who were not married and were used more mightilier by God.
The OP want to channel that same Focus and energy towards a career, an endeavor, etc....so arguing that the OP is wrong based on the Bible shows one's ignorance of the Bible.
Some scriptures for you to think about:
1 Cor 7:8 says.."Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do."
1 Cor 7:24-27.."Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God....Art thou bound unto a wife?seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
Matt 19:12.."For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it"

The reasons the bible, specifically St Paul gives for saying it's better to remain single is so all your time can be focused on the things of God 1st Cor 7:33. Not the misguided reasons killjoy gives. Come to think of it, I'm not into marriage myself, but not because I hate Men, but because I don't feel it's my calling. Everyone must not marry, but you need to be HAPPY About being single

Dcmg:
God instituted marriage bla bla bla.Why din't his son Jesus Marry?
See,not everybody will marry.Some people have a greater purpose than marriage.

dont mind them. Paul made it clear marriage is optional.
then again nigerians have it twisted....
the girls marry for money and marry old. white women understand the importance of young marriage... there is less cheating. the reason many nigerian marriages hv problem is because most ppl marry after their time is overdue.

killjoy:
as a matter of fact, d good tins marriage has to offer to a man r tins he can enjoy while still single. wot I withheld r more downsides to marriage. my parents r separated n seem happier that way. my friends Dada died of heart attack caused by his wife, look marriage shud be a no go area for a man who intends to live eida happy or long or both.

ur thread got me cracking real good,*seven reasons why u shud nt get married* u shud av made t more personal*seven reasons why I will not get married* I mean ur points r filled with poo!!!ts just like an atheist giving me seven reasons y I shud bliv I av no creator,dats way too backward for a civilized generation!!right nw,marriage is poo to me cuz putting up wit a woman for d rest of ma life seems like a puzzle witout a solution,but dat doesn't mean ion respect d institution,cuz am a product of one,a very good one for dat matter n someday I'l outgrow d figments of ma imaginations,n walk down d aisle, Ur displeasure bout marriage came as a result of d experiences u had,cuz as rightly said by u,dis wasn't ur initial disposition bout marriage,life aint atall a bed of roses,n marriage aint made for all,so speak for ur self n stop tagging along every oda guy cuz of ur personal experiences!!!!

linearity:
I am not totally taking sides on this, but the OP made some very valid points....A man is never the same again, when he gets married. That is why it is important that, you have a direction in life, know your destination, get a job before you get marry.

And, there is nothing like 'love' or the 'one'....Love is in the eyes of the beholder and it means different things to different people....To Bisi love is a 6 feet tall man, with good manners, smiles, goes to church, from a good family, etc....but to Mary, love could mean any guy that can pay her bills....yet to Nkechi, love could be a man from her tribe, who is educated, etc...You cannot say Bisi's definition of love is more better and tangible than Mary's...both of them are happy...Bisi got her God fearing man and Mary got a guy that pays her bills and they both got love and they are happy...You might say..but Mary's is focus on temporary earthly things..what if the guy stop paying her bills, or got poor...well there is no guarantee that Bisi's object of love will not backslide, stop going to church, etc....

The truth is the Genesis 6:6 states and I quote "And the Lord regretted that he had made man on the earth, and it grieved him to his heart"

You can slide and dice it all you want, but the plain truth of that scripture indicated without ambiguity that God regretted creating man and it grieved him for doing so.

Adam was just fine in the Garden before Eve came into the picture, he never questioned God's commands, instructions....we all know what happened when evi came into the picture.

are you saying God could not see the future when he was about to create man.

Nice post op. you are indeed on a mission to KILL THE JOY in the lives of youth. Your name says it all ~killjoy~

@OP, ur alive 2 be writting all dis irrational scraps simply bcoz ur dad or ur mum had never given in 2 d sentiment nd write ups u put here

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What is dis all abt? Fogive me bt i dnt undastnd!

It is simple to pick a thousand holes from the OP's write up.
wishing same thing for everyone simply means you're not broad minded. Even the bible says marriage is a gift. some are created to stay single others (who are in overwhelming majority) are created to marry. just because you tried love and failed miserably shouldn't dare you to make a satanic and unethical suggestion for everyone. your suggestions are devoid of one with a healthy mind. Your advice if taken is far more catastrophic than a nuclear bomb. You're encouraging having bastard kids, who will grow up unloved, from homes qithout love ans will end up terrorizing their neighbours.
You're also an unromantic male. Dinner for romantic men isn't just to fill the stomach, with a good food from our women, we stare into her eyes as we appreciate her kitchen talent and all romantic couple know what happens after a good dinner. We also like coming home from work to be with the woman we love, where everything is quiet and peaceful. And yes we need children esp in our old age and for many other obvious reasons. your parents failed with love and marriage and you have exhibited same trait.
Marriage is beautiful with the right person. it calls for understanding and sacrifice, but that's why I'm a man. It gives me pride and joy to work my butt out for SHE that I love, SHE who is THE ONE. And every man has that SHE, that ONE all he has to do is find her and when he does, he is few steps away from living his destiny. No good man with a good heart will listen to a bunch of crap from a failed lover that happened to make FP.

postmann:
these same words wer on my lips as at January first 2013. pray u don't hv to drink dsame portion I had to drink. all d same, all d best


It is simple to pick a thousand holes from the OP's write up.
wishing same thing for everyone simply means you're not broad minded. Even the bible says marriage is a gift. some are created to stay single other (who are in overwhelming majority) are created to marry. just because you tried love and failed miserably shouldn't dare you to make a satanic and unethical alternative for everyone. your suggestions are devoid of one with a healthy mind. Your advice if taken is far more catastrophic than a nuclear bomb. You're encouraging having bastard kids, who will grow up unloved, from homes that will end up terrorizing their neighbours.
You're also an unromantic male. Dinner for romantic men isn't just to fill the stomach, with a good food from our women, we stare into her eyes as we appreciate how kitchen talent and all romantic couple know what happens after a good dinner. We also like coming home from work to be with the woman we love, where everything is quiet and peaceful. And yes we need children esp in our old age and foe many other obvious reasons. your parents failed with love and marriage and you have exhibited same trait.
Marriage is beautiful with the right person. it calls for understanding and sacrifice, but that's why I'm a man. It gives me pride and joy to work my butt out for SHE that I love, SHE who is THE ONE. And every man has that SHE, that ONE all he has to do is find her and when he does, he is few steps away from living his destiny. No good man with a good heart will listen to a bunch of crap from a failed lover that happened to make FP.

the earlier you guys remove the Bible and God from this, the better for you. The African is naturally lazy and uses christianity as excuse.

What has God/ Bible have to do with nigerian girls love for money, general carelessness for marriage, bad attitudes, the fact that women dont actually go for interested guys, they go for uninterested bad bois who give them thrills and suspense, while you are there harping "Gods institution"; bad boys get with all the good girls in town.

Anyways, my point is leave christianity out of this for once and think rationally for once!

MrsBreezy:
You're a bit pessimistic.

u no see him name? killjoy
hes unhappy wiy Gods first institution

tensazangetsu:
so because am 18 i dont know what i want i placed a curse on myself that if i ever get married on that day as i say i do lemme drop down and die yes but i will have kids definitely but marriage no and besides i dont want that provincial life like everyone else

Perception always change. I am not the same dude I was when I was 16, or 20 or 25. I am quite sure that I wont be the same dude when I clock 40. Values systems and world views are shaped by experiences and environment. U have way too many experiences to encounter so take a chill pill.

Life is meant to be enjoyed and also remember that the world does not give a hoot about bitter people. Women are neither bad or good. So are men, so is money so is everything. its all perspective.

killjoy:

yep

killjoy:
it amazes me wen pipl kip telling me one day, I wud find true love, or I wud be interested in women. I wish God wud open ur eyes to see d depth of my heart. I am a self sustaining realist. hv I ever been on lyf support because of d lack of a woman in my lyf? if at all der was such a tym I was at d brink of death, it was because of a woman in my lyf! I am nt searching for tru love ooooo, at least nt wer it doznt exist. any love beyond my immediate family is just a scheme to hook me. and Jay wud Neva be hooked. mark. my. words

[b][/b]I sense so much hurt in your voice! Hmmmm