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bluelover:
na only the person way get the brain fit reset am. no one else can

What are u insinuating?

killjoy:
I went into a relationship without any intention to hurt her. I truly loved her n wanted to marry her. I gave her more dan I had, I gave her everything. she cheated on me n married someone else, I was very hurt n decided to knw beta about ladies so no woman can hurt me eva again. I started reading books on books bout women n relationship. den I learnt about men n women, I decided to share my knowledge with my fellow guys, den I created dis thread.

Exactly,I have had similar experience with girls too. I came to realise that It's not about how much you love a girl that matters But how much benefits she can derive from you.

I swear, some girls can claim to die for me because they know I am ambitious, I have a plan and I am following the plans to be "very" rich. They act like their lives depend on me just to brainwash me into thinking they love me. And I play along.

I have three sisters and they let me know What they make men go Through, one of my sisters told me once she gets another richer guy into her life,she would ditch the old one. I was like wow,am lucky I have sisters telling me the truth about themselves.

There is Nothing like love. Women hurt the people they claim to love So much,they break hearts and play the victims.

They manipulate the minds with tears and emotions. Women aren't soft. They are game players. A man who still thinks women are weaker vessels is still under the veil of the emotional blackmail from women.

Be warned.

To the guys: you can get married If you trust your lady, no qualms It's ur life.

op you forgot one more reason.

8. Devil will take away your marriage from you one day if you dem born again - for the christian marriage does not bring peace; devil somewhere and evil spirits maybe working to destroy it. so one more problem! the spirits dont care about your sex life!

killjoy:
readers discretion adviced: this is a long post. get a bowl of popcorn and your glasses. turn off the TV , you don't want to get distracted. if it took me time to write such a lengthy post, I wonder why you should complain about reading it. below are the reasons.

1. We're too different to live together: women love people and relationships, men love objects (like cars, houses, gadgets, game consoles etc), a man's lot is his career, a woman's is marriage (according to the curse after the fall of man), women are indirect, men are always direct, men want sex before they develop feelings for women, women can't have sex without emotional attachment first(unless they r who.res, even if they are who.res lolzzz), a man wants to hv sex, a woman wants to make love (I swear she doesn't even mind just cuddling), men see having dinner as a time to quench hunger, women see having dinner as time for bonding, let me continue? A married man without money feels unfulfilled, a wealthy woman without a man feels similarly, I can go on and on! But no time, my point, you need a lot of patience, tolerance, understanding, endurance, compromise etc to survive in marriage. But life is too short, stay single and be free to be urself or get married and spend the rest of your life struggling to be another person. Continue reading, this is just one of seven.

2. Love doesn't exist: if you intend to stake your future with a woman on an emotion as erratic as love, then you need to have ur head examined. Love is an emotional convulsion which, like other sicknesses, are recovered from with time. Experience has thought me that a woman's love is only skin deep, but you can accentuate it with money. Ohhhh how women react to the smell of cash. Bleep love and go make some muller.

3. You don't need a child: the world will remember you by the kids you left behind. That's a big fat lie!! You don't need a carbon copy of yourself roaming the earth after your demise to ensure your immortality. Instead, the world will remember you by the feats you surmounted! Obama will be remembered not as the father of, I don't even know his child's name and I don't give a fvck bout it! But as the first black US President. Mother Theresa never had a child, Einstein's legacy is not his kids but his discoveries. My point! You are not remembered by the kids you had but the records you set. But if you badly want a kid, adopt one, or get a baby mama and impregnate her but never, never get married just to have kids. marriage is too great a price to pay.

4. There is absolutely nothing new marriage has to offer you: just be honest with yourself. A family? You already belong to one (or do you think you just appeared out of thin air?), love? Your mother loves you like die, trust moi. A woman to manage your home? Get a maid! pay her well and she will manage your home without complications like disrespecting you, PMS, etc. Sex? Gone are the days men marry for sex ooo!!! Sex is damn cheap, you don't need marriage to enjoy it. By the way, what makes you think getting married entitles you to sex when you want it, ie, if at all?? U never jam female Hitler. Continue reading, I'm not even close to the end.

5. Marriage is expensive: a woman's problems end when she gets married (at least on financial level), while a man's problems just begin. Most ladies don't have plans of making money(some stop after getting married). for a woman, after graduating from uni, a husband is top on d list above a job ie, if a job is on the list. Guys, stay alone and worry for one. Apart from financially, marriage drains you emotionally. You have to deal with a partner suffering from PMS five days in a month for life (by the time she reaches menopause, you'd be probably dead) and when she ain't suffering PMS, its worse cos she is pregnant!! Don't forget regular mood swings, test games, among other complicated female emotional ailments. Plus wait till you get divorced before you know how much financially and emotionally expensive marriage could be. That brings us to...

6. It may end up in divorce: possible causes of divorce. She gains weight, sex with one person for years gone stale and boring, the love (or whatever dumb ass name you call it) fades, you want a new woman, (men are polygamous by nature, hard truth. Deal with it), she is no longer the woman you married, (true, women do change after marriage for many reasons, that is story for another day), you cheat on her, she cheats on you, many many more. Don't scar yourself with a painful divorce. Stay single and happy.

7. You get to focus on your dreams without distractions. Like I said earlier, a man's career is his lot (or curse). As s man if you haven't got a successful career, you will probably die unhappy and unproductive. The compromise you have to make to keep her happy will retard you from achieving your dreams to the fullest. Pleasing a woman and pursuing your dreams are mutually exclusive. don't get married.

disclaimer: its ironic when people say honesty is a virtue yet can't bear to hear (or read) the truth.

nota bene: I am not prejudiced towards women. I hate all equally.

Nice write up, at least to your point of view, but I remember the words of a book which says "He that finds a wife has found a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord" .

Peterpan1:
Nice write up, at least to your point of view, but I Ali remember the words of a book whish says "He that finds a wife has found a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord" .

but devil may someday destroy the maRRIAGE so whats the point?

@BigBashiru
That lies in your hands, and most importantly the grace of God. So bro stand firm and stop giving the devil too much credit.

Dapo777:
What are u insinuating?

you said u are trying to reset her brain.

what i m trying to say is that u cant change someone's mindset no matter how u try. except the person decides to change on their own accord.

@peterpan
is it me that made devil and gave devil power?

the biggest issue i hv with marriage is the girls arent ready at the right age... in north america 23 year old is settled, there is no reason to cheat on such. but nigeria due to strike and naija factor and lack of planning on the part of most babes, they r ready at 28-32. at that time men want younger blood. so its a vicious cycle. i also find women will only stick with men that r never too interested even after marriage - always keeps her on her toes. those that go away to experiment soon come back...

bluelover:
you said u are trying to reset her brain.

what i m trying to say is that u cant change someone's mindset no matter how u try. except the person decides to change on their own accord.

Ok I get you now. I tot u trying to insult me. Was abt to spark.

Dapo777:
Ok I get you now. I tot u trying to insult me. Was abt to spark.

linearity:
I am surprise to see half-backed Christians, who only quote scriptures that supports their own opinions ignoring the fact that, the same scriptures also support also supports the OP's position for men of God...look through the Bible in the old and New Testament, great men that God used did not marry, as such fully dedicated their focus on the things of God without the many distractions that marriage undoubtfully brings. For every one married man mightily used by God either in the old or New Testament that you can mention, I will mention two who were not married and were used more mightilier by God.

The OP want to channel that same Focus and energy towards a career, an endeavor, etc....so arguing that the OP is wrong based on the Bible shows one's ignorance of the Bible.

Some scriptures for you to think about:
1 Cor 7:8 says.."Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do."

1 Cor 7:24-27.."Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God....Art thou bound unto a wife?seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

Matt 19:12.."For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it"

I am Even more disappointed when I see people that feel like they are full baked Christians trying to exaggerate flaws and showcase themselves as. all knowing.

Like I said , Il highlight more on this issue when I have ample time, But since u have done some justice to it. God bless u.


U don't really have to quote me, in such a manner to make your point. Remain blessed

@Bashiru

Pls kindly explain to me how the answer to that question affects the longetivity of your marriage, that's if you are married bro.

eminentme:
among everyone here, you are the only nuisance; i see the adulterous b!tch who claims to be your mom didn't bring u up d way she should. you have no regard for mothers and thats exactly how ur b@stard kids will insult you, c0ck sucker!

My mama raised me well, your way of thinking clearly shows how ur dad and ur mum lived their lives, (I never knew ur mother was a RoosterDrinker, an adulterous bitch, and u are a bastard son from an adulterous mother)

@OP that is the way you see marriage, that is not the way it is. thess reasons point to two things
it is either you are a flirt, who uses women when he wants and dump them, or you are not from a responsible loving family.
Children raised from a responsible family will tell you what love is from how their parents treated them and how their father treats their mom

avosoft:
@OP that is the way you see marriage, that is not the way it is. thess reasons point to two things
it is either you are a flirt, who uses women when he wants and dump them, or you are not from a responsible loving family.
Children raised from a responsible family will tell you what love is from how their parents treated them and how their father treats their mom

woteva nigger

tbaby534:
My mama raised me well, your way of thinking clearly shows how ur dad and ur mum lived their lives, (I never knew ur mother was a RoosterDrinker, an adulterous bitch, and u are a bastard son from an adulterous mother)

una get power to fyt o. me dey chop guguru dey watch una.

killjoy:
eyaa. all is well sha. don't let anyone pressure u against ur will my dear

Thanks

na to leave the country sure pass.

killjoy:
una get power to fyt o. me dey chop guguru dey watch una.

Lol, the guy lacks motherly guidance If only his father had a wife,he would have been a better man

tbaby534:
Lol, the guy lacks motherly guidance If only his father had a wife,he would have been a better man

isoryt, eminentme na 2:1 against u. wot u waiting for

killjoy:
isoryt, eminentme na 2:1 against u. wot u waiting for

He should bring it on

dedetosin:
Good for you but what if "SHE" doesn't sleep with one man for the rest of her life.??

lol

loswhite:
it is biased because u come from a broken home. Ppl frm different home background will have a different view based on experience too.

wot abt me. I don't av a broken home and yet my parents are not happy with each for over 16yrs now and yet they are still married bt belive me d fault is frm my mum. We (d children) tried all possible ways to settle dis dispute bt it ain't jst working and my dad is now developing H.B.P coz of my mum.

Dapo777:
Exactly,I have had similar experience with girls too. I came to realise that It's not about how much you love a girl that matters But how much benefits she can derive from you.

I swear, some girls can claim to die for me because they know I am ambitious, I have a plan and I am following the plans to be "very" rich. They act like their lives depend on me just to brainwash me into thinking they love me. And I play along.

I have three sisters and they let me know What they make men go Through, one of my sisters told me once she gets another richer guy into her life,she would ditch the old one. I was like wow,am lucky I have sisters telling me the truth about themselves.

There is Nothing like love. Women hurt the people they claim to love So much,they break hearts and play the victims.

They manipulate the minds with tears and emotions. Women aren't soft. They are game players. A man who still thinks women are weaker vessels is still under the veil of the emotional blackmail from women.

Be warned.

To the guys: you can get married If you trust your lady, no qualms It's ur life.

Thanks my guy! I also was once in this emotional stuff and the stuff called 'break up' just happened like a flash of light (though we weren't dating) and couldn't get myself for some days. Don't think this account stemed from this situation cos this account started as a prank. It started by someone (a lady) telling se..un to ban me for expressing my honest view about her. What started as a play has now changed how I look at women nowadays, though you may think my posts need to be censored but I actually don't look at it that way- its fun.

I don't think what happened to me and that girl will ever repeat itself- God forbid! I've now taken it as a job to study the behavior of women, I've found these out :
-An ugly woman is not confident.
-Women are mostly lazy and less hopeful.
-Women are deceitful.
-If you gaze at a beautiful woman, she tends to belittle you.
-Keep your conversation with a woman brief and make sure she ends the conversation.
-Women delight in the fall of a man and are mostly money-oriented.
-Women are too emotional and extremely different to men, most men don't know this and therefore beat their wives.
-Women can't manage wealth(become pompous).
A woman's greatest asset is her beauty
-Make sure you give a clear signal to any girl that you are not in the relationship to spend money on first date. If she loves you, she won't run.
-Don't be emotionally(love) attached to a woman and make sure its either a commensal or saprophytic relationship.
Women are naturally submissive, until external forces act on them to make them change their natural instict turns them to something that's not desireable.



Its not that I hate women, I'm only being critical about them. It is when you know the bad side of people, that's when you are able to tolerate and appreciate them the most.

killjoy:
leme make this clear. der r guys who live in utopia (a perfect world were gals love n respect u for who u r irrespective of ur dead broke asss) n guys who live in reality (dey knw very well hw honey attracts flies n Hw money attracts gals). used to be lyk ur bf( by nw u shud knw d category he belongs to) I dated this gal for two years without sex (God is my witness) until she cheated on me, dumped my sorry assss n married a guy who had wot I was lacking - money. its just a matter of tym before reality jolts ur guy out of his dream.

gbam

@OP Great write-up... Love i guess is for the Feeble-Minded... A prison that shuts out Reality from the eyes of Men... There's virtually nufn a single dude cant enjoy while being single...

Misogynist2014:
Thanks my guy! I also was once in this emotional stuff and the stuff called 'break up' just happened like a flash of light (though we weren't dating) and couldn't get myself for some days. Don't think this account stemed from this situation cos this account started as a prank. It started by someone (a lady) telling se..un to ban me for expressing my honest view about her. What started as a play has now changed how I look at women nowadays, though you may think my posts need to be censored but I actually don't look at it that way- its fun.

I don't think what happened to me and that girl will ever repeat itself- God forbid! I've now taken it as a job to study the behavior of women, I've found these out :
-An ugly woman is not confident.
-Women are mostly lazy and less hopeful.
-Women are deceitful.
-If you gaze at a beautiful woman, she tends to belittle you.
-Keep your conversation with a woman brief and make sure she ends the conversation.
-Women delight in the fall of a man and are mostly money-oriented.
-Women are too emotional and extremely different to men, most men don't know this and therefore beat their wives.
-Women can't manage wealth(become pompous).
A woman's greatest asset is her beauty
-Make sure you give a clear signal to any girl that you are not in the relationship to spend money on first date. If she loves you, she won't run.
-Don't be emotionally(love) attached to a woman and make sure its either a commensal or saprophytic relationship.
Women are naturally submissive, until external forces act on them to make them change their natural instict turns them to something that's not desireable.



Its not that I hate women, I'm only being critical about them. It is when you know the bad side of people, that's when you are able to tolerate and appreciate them the most.

U have said it all.

tbaby534:
My mama raised me well, your way of thinking clearly shows how ur dad and ur mum lived their lives, (I never knew ur mother was a RoosterDrinker, an adulterous bitch, and u are a bastard son from an adulterous mother)

in times like this: you allow a fool rant after which he shamefully walks away, scum!

tbaby534:
He should bring it on

i'm not a coward like he is

eminentme:
in times like this: you allow a fool rant after which he shamefully walks away, scum!

and finally eminentme has evened tins up, I'm happy to announce we hv a draw! dis in indeed a fierce battle. let's see who takes d next attack.

eminentme:
i'm not a coward like he is

and d draw was short lived as eminentme has moved a step furda. the battle is raging

Smh @Op