This are the questions u ask when u've supplanted ur culture. Guy,dis is Africa. U don dey watch American film too much.

Ppl should stop decieving themselvs by going contrary to ones own tradition. Do the rt tin and espect the rt reward @d rt time.

Thinkr:
Lie. For EG. Igbo parents always want their first daughters to marry from their home town. Even their LGA. Against the person's choice which could be harmful.

Where did u get that from?
Though you may be right base on the fact that igboshas a unique tradition.
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Parental consent is very important, it begins from the Biblical days. Even when our parents reasons are selfish, we don't have to disobey them, all we need to do is keep on pleading on them and above all comit the issue to God's hand through prayers and God will certainly change their mind. Provided the person in question is ur wife/husband, there is only one bone/rib that will fit to urs.JENESIS 2:21~23.
The Bible say honour ur father and your mother so that your days will be long, They are our caretaker here on earth.

I love my tradition I musnt behave lyk d whites.......... What an old man sees lyingdown a child will see ntn even if he climbs a mountain

Haaa awa omode insin yin!!, We pikin of nw adays, hum hum hum, 2 my own best knowlegde nd according 2 sum instances nd pratice in d bible d rite fin is when ur parent consented to d marriage, like a yoruba adage says; wats an elder sees sitting a young one cane see it standing, especially mothers, dey sees beyoung ur intellect. Well in d case of dere refusal 2 ur choice it depends, in sum strong intances u can go ahead bt u must look 4 ways 2 make ur choice acceptable later nd receive dere blessings make baba God help us sha oo[/color][b][/b][color=#000099]

stupid question.your eyes will clear when the love expired and throws your load out on the streets.dont worry go agead and marry without your parents consent.dont even inform them.just text them'mummy i jus got married.he is so niceeeeee u will like him/her when u see him/her'.

may u not learn the hard way in life honey.

preshuzpearl:


I really love this question and would love to learn the repercussions of going ahead with marriage without full parental consent.

In my sister's case, my parents forbid over their living bodies for her to marry a guy from another church.
You see, it's not their fault. They happen to be top notch leaders of the church we attend and it will damage their reputation seriously if such happens.

People tell my sister, do you want to miss your happiness for parent satisfaction? I say, why can't we have both? But its getting really difficult and I'm beginning to think they should just go ahead and fashi my parents. They will come around later.
But what if something happens in the marriage? Won't my sister feel guilty for going against my parent's orders

with all due respect , i think the reason given by your parents holds no water as i find that reason totally selfish and without any consideration to your sister's future happiness . i will advice your sister to forge ahead with or without their consent , it wont be easy but they would surely come around . besides prayer changes things .

MrPresident1:
These is Africa, the land of values and culture, where values are cherished. In African culture, marriage is between families and not between individuals. You must seek parental consent, and it must be given before marriage can be consummated.

What a parent sees bending down, a child may never see even if he climbes the tallest Iroko tree.

my dear u just on point.
yes we still have some person that know our culture and values.

BreezyRita:
[quvote author=kristina1 post=28402767]Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

At times the reasons could be quite selfish......
Say, tribal for instance.

no, they do mislead at times, imagine mum telling u its a must to marry a rich man forgeting dat d today poor man might be very rich tomorrow,

i keep telling people, what ever happens to you, it's your fault. you can blame the whole world but when the effects of any influenced decision starts (either good or bad) only you will feel it's full effects.
I personally don't believe in the institution of marriage, as it's become a platform for our ladies to have a male servant, trying to fulfill all her needs and wants.

Yes, if they are still alive.

tpia5:


What exactly is wrong with a parent preferring their child not marry from a particular tribe?

If u have a daughter, can u give her to a family where the hubby siblings can have sex with her when they want or if the husband isn't around to do his duty for him?

Parent consent and blessing is good but at times our parent get it wrong when it comes to marriage! I know this will surprise some people here yeah am sure of this

I have seen people that they said they can't marry each other ( to tell you the fact it happen to my elder sister as a testimony for you people) but with the help of God and prayer they are doing well in life today even they have celebrate 25years marriage anniversary now this year, they have four grown up kids, good job and they can travel to any where in the world, let me say they succeed in life

My own believe is seek God consent and God approval, pray very well, then once there is love between the two lover every other things is small because LOVE Conquers all

Another good example is Atiku Abubakar formal Vice president and his wife Titi Atiku their parent go against them not to marry each other due to tribalism but they went ahead to do so secretly and marry each other look at where they are today

To me as far as you put God ahead of you and you know where you are going in life move on and go ahead, at last Titi Atiku family is enjoying from Atiku purse till today there is saying that said if you don't know where you are going in life, you will follow them to where they are going and if you follow crowd, you miss the crown, your life is not a TV channel where anybody can control or tune with their own remote control cos marriage is for a mature mind not a childish play!

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preshuzpearl:


I really love this question and would love to learn the repercussions of going ahead with marriage without full parental consent.

In my sister's case, my parents forbid over their living bodies for her to marry a guy from another church.
You see, it's not their fault. They happen to be top notch leaders of the church we attend and it will damage their reputation seriously if such happens.

People tell my sister, do you want to miss your happiness for parent satisfaction? I say, why can't we have both? But its getting really difficult and I'm beginning to think they should just go ahead and fashi my parents. They will come around later.
But what if something happens in the marriage? Won't my sister feel guilty for going against my parent's orders

so, if your sister marries from your church, there is a guarantee that something will not happen in the marriage? someone is forgetting that we are actually one body in Christ or is it that this other church have some demonic doctrines? Your parents are concerned about their own reputation, who is concerned about your sister's happiness? Unless they have reasons stronger than what you have said, they have no case at all. But should she fashi them? not until she tries these:

If she and the guy can access your parents' pastor (even if they are pastors, they must have spiritual fathers); let her speak to their pastor, he should see reasons with her and convince them to support the marriage.

The guy's pastor can also speak with your parents' pastor or with your parents depending on which he prefers.
If they respect their pastor, they should agree: she isn't marrying an unbeliever for Christ's sake.

if the pastors themselves do not support them JUST BECAUSE OF DENOMINATION, then she can fashi them all and go ahead.

Many of us are only ignorant, it is God's blessing that makes our marriages successful, not any man's (even if they are parents: seen to many parents destroy their children's lives especially maritally). It is well.

stexsy:
no, they do mislead at times, imagine mum telling u its a must to marry a rich man forgeting dat d today poor man might be very rich tomorrow,

That's one reason which a lot or parent won't care about but what if its a tribe where the eldest man in the man's family will have to s*x their daughter first before the husband on the marriage day which a lot of tribe keeps as secret And no one must say it out, what wld u do?

I wont go on with a relationship that does not have family support, especially from mother and father. This is very necessary for me. I am not in the league of those that deceive themselves that it does not matter, it very much does for me. What is the essence of marriage if it starts with the notion that family does not matter?

you see here in Edo state south south Nigeria it important. but not a factor don't no it u get me

kristina1:
Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

nonsense....while parental consent is advisable and should be sought,I beg to differ on its importance. Your parents aren't the one who is gonna live with your would be spouse...for life. Moreover this is the 21st century...I thought we don't do that now

stexsy:
no, they do mislead at times, imagine mum telling u its a must to marry a rich man forgeting dat d today poor man might be very rich tomorrow,

stexsy:
no, they do mislead at times, imagine mum telling u its a must to marry a rich man forgeting dat d today poor man might be very rich tomorrow,

stexsy:
no, they do mislead at times, imagine mum telling u its a must to marry a rich man forgeting dat d today poor man might be very rich tomorrow,

Not all parents who want their daughters to marry rich and prominent men are selfish. Some just want the best for you to lead a comfortable life, my dear love is not the only basis for marriage

habiolah:


so, if your sister marries from your church, there is a guarantee that something will not happen in the marriage? someone is forgetting that we are actually one body in Christ or is it that this other church have some demonic doctrines? Your parents are concerned about their own reputation, who is concerned about your sister's happiness? Unless they have reasons stronger than what you have said, they have no case at all. But should she fashi them? not until she tries these:

If she and the guy can access your parents' pastor (even if they are pastors, they must have spiritual fathers); let her speak to their pastor, he should see reasons with her and convince them to support the marriage.

The guy's pastor can also speak with your parents' pastor or with your parents depending on which he prefers.
If they respect their pastor, they should agree: she isn't marrying an unbeliever for Christ's sake.

if the pastors themselves do not support them JUST BECAUSE OF DENOMINATION, then she can fashi them all and go ahead.

Many of us are only ignorant, it is God's blessing that makes our marriages successful, not any man's (even if they are parents: seen to many parents destroy their children's lives especially maritally). It is well.

'nough said!

Thinkr:
Lie. For EG. Igbo parents always want their first daughters to marry from their home town. Even their LGA. Against the person's choice which could be harmful.

wat is dis one saying.pls get ur facts right n stop generalising ok.Daluu

Saying that parents can neva mislead u is not true.. we've seen parent giving their daughter to a friends son just to bind deir friendship and enlarge deir business empire.. not putting d girls feeling/choice into consideration.. what will u call that? Wake up pal.. dis is 21st century..

kristina1:
Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

kristina1:

Maybe such tribe have bad history and they are protecting the interest of their child.

There is no such thing as a bad tribe only bad people. Individuals differ in traits. Tribalism/racism is a disease. You should be able to marry from anywhere you so desire and your parents shouldn't determine that by tribal sentiments. If they give you a good reason you shouldn't marry the person, don't be blinded by love consider it but never on tribal grounds.

incrediblestev:
I wont go on with a relationship that does not have family support, especially from mother and father. This is very necessary for me. I am not in the league of those that deceive themselves that it does not matter, it very much does for me. What is the essence of marriage if it starts with the notion that family does not matter?

you're on point, marriage is not a bed of roses when the going gets though yes we should pray but we're humans we need to talk to some1 and the best person to talk to at this stage is your parents- mothers especially, and to say you were warned against the marriage who would give you the support you seek for. Marriage is not a child's play, parental consent being important is just an understatement it's way bigger that important.

Purity1:
[b][/b] Not all parents who want their daughters to marry rich and prominent men are selfish. Some just want the best for you to lead a comfortable life, my dear love is not the only basis for marriage

It might not be selfish but it is myopic to deny your daughter marriage based on financial capability. If the person has potential and is driven, making money is easy.

Short answer = NO.

Longer answer = You should want it, but do NOT need it.

Necessary for a Broke guy

To a very large extent, what u are saying is true, even both quran and Bible says that we should neva disobey/disrespect our parent cos of d consequences or aftermath of doing so.. but if ma parents doesn't want me to get married to a girl I love and perceive to be d right one for me, dey must have good reason for me to switch her for a girl of their choice.. cos if their reason has to do with her poor background, and maybe a finance benefit dey stand to get from d parents of d girl dey want me to marry,.. instead of going against their wish.. will remain single for a long time ooo

emusmith:
Hmm... The guy that goes against his father's suggestion and comes to you for marriage... ( he is not in good terms with his parents, perhaps)


How would you view him?

Will he value your parents?

Charity, they say, begins at home.

My dear, save yourself the ache.
Many that treaded that path didn't return or did return with broken bones and hearts.

A Timely Advice To All My Gullible NL Sisters.

Its not a necessity.

Frenzydili:
wat is dis one saying.pls get ur facts right n stop generalising ok.Daluu

I have seen more that 2 instances where I stay. Sorry for generalising. Daluu

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.
I am not really surprised with this question, considering that morality is dead and buried
in today Nigeria.

Sit down and think, who chose Eve for Adam?
Why did God say honour your parents and the
elderly, so you can last long?
If you have spiritual knowledge and understand the world you live in, you will understand you need to be of age to receive God wisdom, ask me why ?
Who ordained marriage ? What are the fundamental principle for marriage?

Please if you have kids, the greatest responsibility for you is to teach me the purpose of live.
Success in life is not dependent on Havard,MIT
,UCL rather on your understanding of life and
forces that bind things.

Ciao

kristina1:

Maybe such tribe have bad history and they are protecting the interest of their child.

in every tribe there must be atleast one God fearing, piety and person of good character.