marriedvirgin:
sing to the bank & collect your millions.While some people sit down there & rant because there is no one left to pamper their ego

Edusouls:
foolish girl, and why should an african man, live with rude,bossy and bitchy women? you go and live with a man that beats u up regularly, abuse you and is very rude to you, cos u are an african woman, what kind of brain do you girls have, human own or dog.?

Seanixking:

All this things you are posting are getting you more confuse than ever' cos wen u reach 35yrs and no man to settle down with, even with all your riches then you gonna come back and rephrase this your post that it's good for a woman to be humble and submissive and not try to boss a man around no matter how small or broke he might be, coz itx a pain to our EGO...
#Strollout

PunkyBrewster:


If you say so, you Chinese fortune cookie you.

Btw, I don't bossy anyone around. I give respect where respect is due. I just don't like weak & whiny men. Or men who expect to be treated like kings when they provide no castles, no armoured horses or even a plastic tiara to adorn my head with It makes absolutely no sense

Seanixking:

I never said you, cos i knw u cnt even boss a maid cos u'r still climbing the ladder of success, buh eventually u reach there, dnt be a snub cos u will think they witches in ur village are dancing samba dance with ur happiness....(Rolling Eyes)
#Strollout

PunkyBrewster:


Rolls eyes back at you. What's a "snub" ? Lolz!

I don't have a single snobbish bone in my body because I too have a past, you know? Looking down on people is not my thing, I just expect people to put on their big girl panties/big dyck briefs & walk the talk.

Seanixking:

If u gah a past,take it to the musuem (laughing 2) as for the big pant thingy, u dnt really need dat cos u jst cnt rub our Ego on the floor by tryna Boss us... Ever wonder y most relationship dnt work out? Dat's is ur assignment (Crack finger's)
#Strollout

dajoaneke:
Power intoxicates. A woman was not created to be the head but be submissive. When a woman is independent, she has too much control outside her jurisdiction of purpose. Therefore she has no clue how to manage her power. #SlashMe

PunkyBrewster:


Senile gibberish.

You've been dismissed. No time to discuss stupid kak this early in the AM. Bye

Seanixking:

You need to work on ur sense of humour!
#Strollout

PunkyBrewster:


But I'm not a clown or a comedian.
Caffeine does wonders to my tickle bone, let me finish this cup & I might just find all of this funny after all.

Sense of humour loading...

Wait for it, wait for it...

DollyParton1:


Lol.... you refused to adress my post. But instead u started crying feminist. Dang!!! What is wrong with yall. Adress the issues I raised. You just expect to submit because the bible says so. Why don't yall adress the selfishness amongst your fellow men first.
if u read my post very well, I never allude to an independent woman in marriage.
My points are
1. Most husbands don't like the idea that their wives does not need them. This doesn't mean the wife doesn't respect them, but the fact that the wife can and will survive without them threatens them.
2.Men do not fully understand the role and sacrifices involved in being a leader.
3.Men need to go back to Christ and study and understand the way he leads the church. Then they can be good leaders.
The word of God has more than one side.

And pray tell me, what is a man's role as the head?

liliana:

@dajoaneke,

I am not sure I totally agree with you. The same applies to men too. Or how do you explain GEJ wanting to run for presidency again, for example? Are you saying he is just being a man? Don't you think he is also intoxicated by power too?

@OP,

Your post is a sweeping statement. I think it depends on the woman. It's good for women to be independent, things are changing fast. You tell me, would you not want your daughter to be independent? A woman, just like any child has to be trained to cope with different situations in their walk in life, power being one of them.

I rest my case!

winner01:
by chance, I hope I'm not arguing with a minor....How can a woman not need a man in MARRIAGE and otherwise...Even widows survive, how much more married women and why will the survival of a human threaten another?...
Maybe you need to go back to christ, God won't direct you to be the husband or the head of the house even if you earn more money than your husband..
And I'm talking about responsible men, not the irresponsible fathers that the feminists are trying to avoid...
And you don't need to tag me "independent-woman-phobic", you don't even know me... No human is independent, and we have great,successful women doing well in their homes..
Once again, good luck to y'all.

CloneX:
No matter how independent, rude, disrespectful, bossy, bitchy, mean they are or want people to think they are, someone always fvcks them from behind, and they submit to him on bed.

That's right, a man.

PunkyBrewster:


It's girl power. LMFAO.

My point is, you can't expect the woman of today to act or behavelike the woman of yesteryear when things ain't like they used to be. It's a no brainer, really. If I make my own ends, I have a right to tell you to go fvck yourself if you're becoming a headache because I'm not dependant on you for my livelihood. The qualities that y'all seem to be searching for had a lot to do with the fact that men were the only breadwinners back then, so the women had no choice but to play possum aka "passive" & all the other lame qualities that seem to get some of you guys hard because they make you feel like a big boy about town. Independence gives assertiveness & it's not about to change. Not today!

Just keep singing along to Neyo's Ms Independent because she seems to be what most guys are searching for, since they no longer want to foot the bill alone. But just remember that she'll be sassy since she doesn't need you to survive.

Can't believe the nerve of wanting to go 50/50 with a woman in other things, but yet expect her to be a silent partner when it comes to voicing her opinions or whatever the heck she wants to do. We're equals. WTH? Make her a housewife & provide for her if you don't want her rolling her neck at you with attitude. That's it!

DollyParton1:


Lol... Am not a minor.

Yea, it is possible not to need a man in marriage and vice versa. Some women and men do not need the other partner per se but they just want them. You said it urself, widows and widowers do survive without their other half.

You write as if you live on another planet. You need to get out there and talk to women who earn more than their husbands or equally as them. It is a common knowledge that men generally like the idea of their wives depending on them, mainly due to their ego and the I have to be in control mentality. Now we all know that a woman who earns well does not need to depend on a man to survive and she is not afraid to show it. That is a bruise on their Ego. They know they have nothing to hold that woman down except of her own free will. Additionally we know there are many women who would have left their marriage if they were financially secured.

Yea yea we all know the bible instructs the wife to submit and the husband to lead/head. Can I ask you again, what are the roles of the husband as the head? Who is a good leader according to Christian principles?
I tell you it is not a matter of being a responsible father or not. It is a matter of a common misconception of that bible passage, most men whether Christians or not, does not know what it entails to lead.
That is why I said most women unknowingly have picked up the roles of the men in the house. Leading is not about making decisions. Infact, I believe a good leader should always seek the opinion of the "followers". How many husbands are Ok when their wives who earn more than them questions their actions, even if it was politely or innocently. The first thing they say is how dare you question me.
There is much more to leading than that. Its a marriage and not a dictatorship dispensation. That is why I get agitated when men come forward and start quoting that passage in Ephesians without having a full understanding of what it entails.
Why dont you lead by a good example and watch the and most independent woman on earth submit to you.
You dont need to force anyone to submit to you.

And also most men are confusing submission with obedience. That is a story for another day.

jadaugo:
i am not surprised that most independent women are not married...the truth is no African man can live with most of them. They are so rude, so bossy headed and bitchy and very mean. It's so bad that they think that no man can tell them what to do.

pls am i the only one who has noticed this?

winner01:
All your sermon still talks about irresponsible men...You seem to know a lot about irresponsible men.
Well, there is a difference between a woman and a wife, even the teachers of feminism have ruled out that marriage is not an achievement,..Most of you trying to be men, I think its best for y'all to stay single and adopt children and be the man and woman in your lives.
God has put man and woman in positions that can not be swapped...The "wifes submit to your husbands" scripture was not referring just any woman, God was referring to a wife. Cos God didn't create the wife to be the husband.....

We know there are many ladies, as well as wives out there...As a christian wife, you MUST submit, its just as simple as that even if you find yourself on the presidential seat...over and over again there is nothing like independence, if you wanna be independent, don't go into marriage or get out of marriage....
Anyway, its still feels good to know that good wives outnumber ladies, and we thank God for this.

winner01:
by chance, I hope I'm not arguing with a minor....How can a woman not need a man in MARRIAGE and otherwise...Even widows survive, how much more married women and why will the survival of a human threaten another?...
Maybe you need to go back to christ, God won't direct you to be the husband or the head of the house even if you earn more money than your husband..
And I'm talking about responsible men, not the irresponsible fathers that the feminists are trying to avoid...
And you don't need to tag me "independent-woman-phobic", you don't even know me... No human is independent, and we have great,successful women doing well in their homes..
Once again, good luck to y'all.

SirPedro001:
No matter how wealthy a woman is....she still needs a man to be there to meet her other needs; most especially her emotional need. If a woman is bossy because of her achievement,it's only natural because many a women a very lazy and totally dependent of men for virtually all their needs. So such a woman who think different have lots of reasons to feel special but whenever she meets a man who is able to meet those her extra needs her's or a man whom she feels is up to her standard or a man who has the key to unlock her heart,trust me she will bow totally but such men has to be bold and full of confidence....Men of intellects and charisma usually subdue such ladies.

DollyParton1:

simple question. ... what are the roles of the husband? You gave refused to answer. I have asked it like twice now. Instead you keep shouting feminist; like u are programmed to do so. You need to read and comprehend my posts.

jpphilips:


What do you guys mean by being head of the house, I have really followed the convo with keen interest and I don't seem to get something straight.
How can a man be the head by virtue of having a third leg? what if he is a m0r0n? like most guys here on Nairaland that hardly know their left from right, do you advocate the responsibility of leading the home on their shoulders?
A dumb man should not lead the home, if the wife is smarter why not? You guys really scare me!!

Seanixking:

Marry yourself then (Straight Face)...Just go ask your celebritie's if they're happy with all thier wealth without a man to love them... Except u wanna be a baby mama (Rolling Eyes) Or a divorce...(Laughing 2)

jadaugo:
i am not surprised that most independent women are not married...the truth is no African man can live with most of them. They are so rude, so bossy headed and bitchy and very mean. It's so bad that they think that no man can tell them what to do.

pls am i the only one who has noticed this?