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misspicy:
So you mean if a girl dressed waywardly she deserve to be raped? Babe dobu know wat rape entails,do u even know d pain girls who were raped go thru or even d stigma,pls pls tink wif ur head n not advocate for a rapist.dnt lemme pray one prayer for you,cos wat u say with ur mouth is wat will happen to you,like you are seriously defending d rapist?am flabbergasted,now I belive u r male not female.

RepentantTr0ll:
In a world Lecturers are bullies

In another World Students have Attitude Problems


#PROUDLY A LONGHORN

thorpido:
How many 18yr olds are getting married at that age in Nigeria?Do you live in northern Nigeria?According to the story,it was her first time of going with him to Unilag(father's reported story).There was no indication that she had had much rapport with her.
I agree with you that girls of this generation are much exposed.I just don't want to agree this incident was consensual.

halfrica:
Wat moves guys in clubs isint it d way girls are dressed
It has a long way to go even bible said a lady shd dress as a lady
Can u see a mad woman dress and approach her and tell people sge is normal?
Or see a female engineer dress as one and wen u need medical help u approach her?
See dressing has gat a long way to go in ur life

emperormero:
The guy is so cursed... I pray God forgives him.







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cococandy:
so since you've been a victim before, I take it it was your fault that the fellow came onto you.
Maybe you weren't Christian enough or maybe you wore a revealing outfit.

Let's just say you are lying and the guy didn't try to molest you. You gave yourself freely.
Or even if he did try to molest you, you deserved it. No?

montestic:
STORY EXCLUSIVE TO STELLA DIMOKO KORKUS BLOG.

Lets call her Lady X....

She called me this Morning and told me a chilling recount of how Mr Akinfolarin Baruwa the lecturer who is presently being held for allegedly raping an 18year old girl also tried same with her in his office.

She recounted how she reported him to the school authorities and nothing was done...Please read her story with proof attached.
If you are a pen pushed with a Daily News and wish to interview her,please call me and i will give you her contact...
She wishes to remain anonymous for now but she is already making moves to re-open the case she filed last year.







MY STORY:-As Told By Lady X

This happened early 2014.
I had finished my project with my supervisor a pleasant middle aged woman but because she retired before I could get time off work to have her sign off my score sheet I had been re-assigned to Mr Akinfolarin Baruwa as my new project supervisor.
I remembered immediately I got off my first call from him my roommate let’s call her K told me “omg! Is that guy your supervisor?hian” it took me a while to get around the meaning of her words.

My first impression about him was he was a no nonsense kinda lecturer. I walked into the office he was at the bus admin complex top floor he seemed to be sharing an office with another lecturer.
It was about 5pm I had a paper that day. He didn’t attend to me till the other man was done, he sent me on silly errands like “make this photocopy”, “go and buy me tom tom” all this continued till about 8pm after waiting for like forever he attended to me, glanced at my work and said it was rubbish and couldn’t believe my former supervisor who happened to be a professor could approve such nonsense I appealed to him that it was exam period I couldn’t possibly work on my project from the scratch and still meet the deadline for submission so I begged him to let me make corrections instead.


He said someone has done the same topic 2/3 years back and he would easily report me to the authorities that I copied which would guarantee I’ve an extra year. He went on and on ,he had me believe the work was so bad assuring me that I couldn’t escape an extra year he even said he would report me for plagiarism because I forgot to site a particular reference. At some point he said I shouldn’t bother with correcting the work that he’s submitting my name to Admin with the batch of students to be carried over next year, I was stoned.


After begging him over and over to make me correct [mostly typographical errors] he finally agreed, my mind was finally at rest and I thanked him, as I made to leave he looked at me and was like ‘is that how to say thank you?’ I then went on both knees thanking him profusely “thank you sir”, “God bless you sir”…. While I was at it he was closing the blinds of the office and he turned off the A/C [the office was very cold] like he was going to wrap up for the day, he was clearing the sofa that had other peoples projects next thing I know he locks the door…


I was stilling trying to wrap my head around him locking the door when he dragged me; Stella I was a size 12 5”4 then, I am big, this guy is strong ,he just grabbed my boobs and my arms to his manhood rubbing it, next thing He was forcefully trying to remove my clothes, when I tried to force myself off his grip he got more aggressive when I tried to scream he got even more aggressive.

That place is isolated and quiet at night [the office is opposite UNILAG guesthouse by the sea side] I figured screaming was a waste of time and being forceful wasn’t getting anywhere so I lay still begging, then I began to cry “I’m asthmatic I can’t breathe” so I pretended to have an attack then he stopped he started apologising he said it was a mistake and he’s usually not like that and he’s sorry then he started again apologising that he’s hard, okay he doesn’t want sex again that I should just give him a hand job, I said I needed air that he should please open the door [acting like I was about to faint], he then finally opened the door apologising, I rushed out and I was still acting like I was short of breath and fainting with plenty tears in my eyes.


He later called me apologising that he doesn’t know what got over him, it was a mistake etc. I told my best friend, i was in complete shock ,all my years in UNILAG I had never experienced such, i was so stunned that day i lost my bag.

He said we should set him up And I am like “no all I want is to just graduate in peace” because when the matter gets to the authorities now it is another thing he would say.... he can even say we are cultists.

I started using different strategies when visiting his office like going with friends, he always says he is not around [because from up he could see people down] he would later call me to say “you think you are smart abi, you are playing with your graduation”.

On another occasion I had to have him sign my score sheet and i thought to my that this was broad daylight and what could possibly happen?

I was wrong!

A lecture was going on the floor before and the noise from the mega phone clouded the office and this man started again. I was furious and I started to insult him when he was trying to pin me down and as we were dragging my shirt tore and as I was shouting he pushed me.

I stormed out and he was shouting “get out of my office”, ”you can’t graduate i promise you”.

This time I had had it and I was going to the authorities, when I got downstairs I met a friend who happened to be a staff and he saw how mad I was and I narrated all that had happened.

we went to faculty of bus admin and reported to some lecturers they then followed me to his office and met with him.

If you see the way this man painted me black, he denied what happened he almost denied knowing me sef in fact he was mumbling my name like we had just met 5min ago. “He said you know how these students can get” the way he turned the story around I know deep down they knew he was lying but they had to be diplomatic they asked me to do my corrections and forget the matter.


Baruwa then started stalking me.

I remember after an exam while hanging with a friend of mine he called my number saying something like “is that your boyfriend? Is it because of him you are doing shakara for me” I was disgusted, I couldn’t see him but obviously he could see me. This happened on 2 separate occasions.


Stella this man frustrated me because it was a finished project before I was assigned to him, he made me redo and retype, photocopy, bind about 3 times over and every given time he says “you just like punishing yourself” with a snare.

I felt bullied.

it was one thing for a lecturer to ask a student out, it was a different thing entirely to manipulate me into sleeping with you and physically and emotionally harassing me in the process.

When he saw I was adamant he held on to my score sheet without which I couldn’t submit my project or do my defence. He was eager to break me but when I had had enough I reported to the authorities and at that point I was introduced to another girl by my class governor who had complained about this same Baruwa man.

I’ve attached a copy of the handwritten letter I submitted to the authorities and I had to keep it short and brief. The other girls he sexually harassed [my roommate and the other girl] didn’t show up on the day of the report and my class governor didn’t want to have anything to do with the case too so i flew solo.

I guess everybody was afraid of the consequences of reporting a lecturer.


The school promised to look into the matter but I think because of lack of concrete evidence or other witnesses the best they could do was stop him from supervising student’s projects.

I’m not saying he raped or didn’t rape the girl but the way he’s going on about it being consensual and sounding all believable made me remember when I had those lecturers go meet him and he turned the tables around and got them all confused.

What I do know for sure is though an 18 year old is an adult one cannot expect her to show any more than the decent level of tact she did to avoid an abuser as experienced as Baruwa. She shouldn’t be expected to know how to use Witt or tact to manoeuvre her way around an experienced molester who obviously emotionally and psychologically abuses his victims and pounces on them through a little perceived window of opportunity.


The other girls Baruwa abused that were too afraid to speak up are way older and more experienced than her. Akinfolarin Baruwa sexually harasses like a tutored glutton, If she gave even a little level of physical resistance then SHE WAS RAPED.

To the victim this is for you!..I am coming out to tell my story because of you!


Many Thanks Stella for giving me this platform and God bless.

LADY X


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lastpage:
When you submit a petition to the University Authorities, your copy is STAMPED, SIGNED AND DATED "RECEIVED"!

Maybe l am the only one who noticed that the letter copied here does not have any semblance of being sent to the authorities.
How then am l to believe that it was not written afterwards,...... since we never heard of this other harassment, till there was one that was said to be consensual?

I cannot hold brief for either the lecturer or student since as an ex-Akokite, l know for a fact that some Lecturers attempt such, l also know that female students also fling themselves at some Lecturers in an attempt to get marks they are not qualified for while some, connive with their "empty-head" cult boy-friends to blackmail some Lecturers into awarding marks to them.

Either way, it is only "sheer incontrovertible evidence" that can swing the matter in favor of any of the parties...... not some "tears, sentiments or male chauvinism".

While l will like to give her the benefit of doubt, l also think the Lecturer should be accorded the benefit of "innocent until proven guilty".
How can she convince us that the sexcapade was not by mutual consent afterall, she is not under-age or else l would have called him "Yerima the Zamfara State Governor!



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cococandy:
What's enticing about the little ones that get molested too?
What about those who dress decently and were molested?

GHoJes:
The girl was ashamed after the incident which usually is the case with rape victims. Also she could not possibly have told her parents who may find out she was no virgin. If she really wanted to lie against the man as you claim, she would have lied the man took her virginity. How many 18yrs old in this country can look up to their parents and tell them they were raped, even over 30yrs olds dont easily tell the truth when raped by armed robbers or something.

You mean you are confident that the father handed over his indecently dressed daughter to his friend?
Obvious you have no single respect for yourself let alone womanhood.

oc2fish:
I am not in support of rape or abuse by lecturers. I can tell you that the lecturers have enough girl to last them a life time. The girls are ready to give and give. I know of a young lecturer who warn his students not to come un acompanied to their office or who will have boys with him anytime the mark seeking girl entered his office.

I don't give a f*** about an outdated Running Back. Football sucks. #SOCCER RULES

nduchucks:
hmmm, longhorn.....wetin you sabi about Earl Campbell?

halfrica:
I wore a dress freely bt it showed a bit of my back and front and wiv crazy jeans like i wasnt lookin like a bad girl my look wasnt appealin as a good girl i wore it freely bt d lecturer took meaning wiv it i didnt giv my sef freely cos i reported to my parents wen d signal came why cant oda girls do same?

neocortex:
Well. I hope he goes down for good, I expect Unilag to have suspended the guy by now.
Every day for the thief one day for the owner.

lastpage:
Exactly, its becomes a "case-by-case" incident.
We cant generalise.

Some r@pist are just that, R@pist.
Some are just lovers!
Some are enticed!!
Some are even victim of the person saying they are R@ped!


Little ones cannot be accused of dressing indecently because by virtue of their age, they are "little ones" (infants/ children).

But l know an 18yr old who dresses to attract the opposite gender's attention (breast popping out, all contours of her anatomy provocatively enhanced with a tight, see-through clothe, e.t.c)
Those who come to "Equity", must come with clean hands.



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XKZ:
But does that make it right.

Doesn't it then make it more imperative for us to punish Shekau (and all rapists and Baruwa, when he is proven guilty) so it doesn't happen again?

neocortex:
Well. I hope he goes down for good, I expect Unilag to have suspended the guy by now.
Every day for the thief one day for the owner.

XKZ:
But does that make it right.

Doesn't it then make it more imperative for us to punish Shekau (and all rapists and Baruwa, when he is proven guilty) so it doesn't happen again?

octopusfreaky:
lolzzzxxx,,no na all join naaa rape also...mtschewwwww...but the man no try ooi,,,he has completely lost his reputation.

ronald4lif:
Did I just read this and from a supposedly female? It's quite unfortunate that a lady will allude that the manner a lady's dress is the way she's addressed in a heinous crime as rape. In your warp mind and disjointed analogy, rape is justifiable provided a lady dresses in a certain manner?

You keep churning out innuendos in defense of a chronic and randy lecturer like you have a personal relationship with him. Discrediting the ladies letter, her story and every evidence that glaringly implicate the lecturer. Please can you stop with the hogwash already, it's an eyesore to read.

RepentantTr0ll:
I don't give a f*** about an outdated Running Back. Football sucks. #SOCCER RULES

halfrica:
Wat moves guys in clubs isint it d way girls are dressed
It has a long way to go even bible said a lady shd dress as a lady
Can u see a mad woman dress and approach her and tell people sge is normal?
Or see a female engineer dress as one and wen u need medical help u approach her?
See dressing has gat a long way to go in ur life

36STATES:
You're such a disgusting bit*ch. What sort of motor park woman is this? You're blaming an 18 yrs girl sent by her father to a friend? You're really a dirty slut.

kmcutez:
Maybe it is the rough draft since she might not be able to get back the original she submitted.

ronald4lif:
The way one dresses has no role to play in cases of rape. A randy and sick individual would still rape even if one dresses like Mary Magdalene.

Women that dresses seductively do it for a reason just like men who takes of their shirt to show off their muscled body. If a man could walk shirtless and be free of sexual assault from women then women should be free even if they dress scantily. One's attire doesn't influence rape by any slightest, it's just a silly excuse for randy men.

I am flummoxed a lady like you would make such flippant comments. What does a lady clothes have to do with wanting to get raped? Women don't wear provocative clothes to get raped. They wear them to look pretty, sexy, attractive to whoever cares, but not to a RAPIST. This question comes up too often claiming women ask for it. As if I'm passing across a jewelry store where that it's easily accessible to gain entrance and cart away items I'd come out and say the store was an easy target and tender such flimsy reason.

justwise:
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I'm with you on that but i think it will hypocritical for some female students who have been sleeping with him for mark to come out now to complain

cococandy:
Great since your dressing wasn't to blame, does it then make sense that some of the other girls who are molested weren't to blame because of their dressing.

Does the fact that some report to their parents and some don't change the fact that an offense was committed against them?
Is there ordeal any less traumatizing because they didn't report?
Why do you think everyone should handle a traumatizing event in the manner?

Whatever step they took after they were molested does not change the fact that they were molested (if indeed they were)