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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nwaraparapa(m): 11:28pm On Aug 09, 2015
Plese how do I reply or make comments that will be seen of front line
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:29pm On Aug 09, 2015
Flashh:
They give silly advice to theirselves not to visit a guy in his home.

But when the guy invite them to places and spend his money they won't advice themselves no to go right?

Dimwitted naija girls mentality. undecided
U met a random girl and you wanna form big boy by spending your money, did she FORCE you to spend the money against your wish?? Rape is when you FORCE the victim. Nobody forced u to spend your money, u did so willingly so dnt complain

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:29pm On Aug 09, 2015
Nwaraparapa:
Plese how do I reply or make comments that will be seen of front line
By being fast to comment
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Flashh: 11:30pm On Aug 09, 2015
classicB:

U met a random girl and you wanna form big boy by spending your money, did she FORCE you to spend the money against your wish?? Rape is when you FORCE the victim. Nobody forced u to spend your money, u did so willingly sound complain
So it's your thread this guy countered?

Can you point out how many victims have you seen when a guy rape a lady on a visit?

One thing about you girls nowadays is that your exaggerations about guys these days are churlish.

Yes! You didn't force him to spend on you, the best for you is to reject anything a guy buy for you if can't return the favor.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by seedgrows(m): 11:31pm On Aug 09, 2015
paulGrundy:
Me personally I don't understand why a lady would agree to visit a guy whom she knows/suspects erotic tendencies towards her. If you agree to visit him, it definitely means that you are aroused by him. Simple! Stop the hypocrisy!
best write up
some of this girls are sex Hunter's hw could u visit a man u not prepared to have sex with and u know women lie
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by ronald4lif(m): 11:32pm On Aug 09, 2015
Tell a sexually active lady who can't go a week without sex make she no visit whether she no go whoze you slap. Who dey even beg girl to visit sef, no be dem conji hold pass.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by LastProphet: 11:34pm On Aug 09, 2015
its not her fault because she is right in many ways, so so many useless boys around nowadays and the free access to pornography is a major major cause but funny enough nobody has observed that

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:35pm On Aug 09, 2015
seedgrows:
best write up
some of this girls are sex Hunter's hw could u visit a man u not prepared to have sex with and u know women lie
This is what I was trying to say in my own thread. Just see your life outside undecided u made it clear now that why should we ladies visit guys we are not prepared to have sex with. Does that mean a girl cannot go on her own to visit her male frnd?? What's wrong in visiting the opposite gender? Especially frnds with no strings attached.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by seedgrows(m): 11:35pm On Aug 09, 2015
vizkiz:
you dress like a hoe,

take pictures like a hoe,

You dance like a hoe

you make up like a hoe

Infact your friends are hoes

Your way to communicating makes you look so loose

You always task different guys the way hoes do

the way you chat is hoe-ish and you dare say we guys are rapist

Abeg who is the victim here

The way lots of chicks on nairaland thinks sometimes make me wanna ask God why he even thought about creating women in the first place. They have "worm brain" angry
99 percent of women claiming 2 have being rep are hoes

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Margauxluv(f): 11:36pm On Aug 09, 2015
all guys aiint beast..

BTW I dnt visit much buh if I do n he try such... hmmmm..
na only God nd his cabinets go safe him.
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:37pm On Aug 09, 2015
A hit dog will holler lol. Whilst not all men are rapists let's not act like there isn't an epidemic of rape and sexual violence in Nigeria so please spare us

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Sunshinelady(f): 11:37pm On Aug 09, 2015
iceberylin:
That's Wah the say online....
Bug z different offline.
. AM TELLING YOU! Anyway my comment is on d original thread, any lady who has ears let her hear!
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:37pm On Aug 09, 2015
Based on the comments, she was right on the money in her conclusion! My only gripe is she didn't decree that girls out there be born bubble-wrap in hand, and taser in the other. Such is your environment.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:37pm On Aug 09, 2015
LastProphet:
its not her fault because she is right in many ways, so so many useless boys around nowadays and the free access to pornography is a major major cause but funny enough nobody has observed that
Thanks for saying the obvious truth. A 19year old girl was.gangraped by a group of frnds in lagos
She actually went there to greet her frnd not knowing the guy already prepared anothrr 2boys for the evil work, just imagine that kind of situation, 3guys on a girl. It's sad. Not men are the same tho

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by elgizzyuplifted(m): 11:37pm On Aug 09, 2015
If i hear

Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by noblegrex: 11:37pm On Aug 09, 2015
Come to think of it she's even in a realtionship n not single,rubish what nonsense is she talking bout.u r enjoying your guy n u don't want others to enjoy theirs.moreover what biz do u have to visit a guy when u have 1 with u or what date was she talking about.that d guy should meet her at d eatry or her house_ u c yoursef .na wetin dey kill dem b that.covateousness. U won't free food n money u no won't make dem bleep u.that write up should b for single ladies not even all of them sef.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:38pm On Aug 09, 2015
Margauxluv:
all guys aiint beast..

BTW I dnt visit much buh if I do n he try such... hmmmm..
na only God nd his cabinets go safe him.
Lol
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:39pm On Aug 09, 2015
paulGrundy:
Me personally I don't understand why a lady would agree to visit a guy whom she knows/suspects erotic tendencies towards her. If you agree to visit him, it definitely means that you are aroused by him. Simple! Stop the hypocrisy!
Please shut the hell up you swine

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by idu1(m): 11:39pm On Aug 09, 2015
classicB:

U met a random girl and you wanna form big boy by spending your money, did she FORCE you to spend the money against your wish?? Rape is when you FORCE the victim. Nobody forced u to spend your money, u did so willingly so dnt complain
Na lie



U people beg a lot...

can u swear with amadioha u ve not beg for financial favour of any kind from a man?

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by JeffreyJamez(m): 11:40pm On Aug 09, 2015
Lol funny threads

My crush back in Uni came visiting on Thursday.... and I was home alone..... we were alone in the house for more than 5 hours.... sex was the last thing on my mind.... am I normal?..... oh yes!!

Whats my point?

A girl can visit a guy without fear of being raped..

Case closed!

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:41pm On Aug 09, 2015
noblegrex:
Come to think of it she's even in a realtionship n not single,rubish what nonsense is she talking bout.u r enjoying your guy n u don't want others to enjoy theirs.moreover what biz do u have to visit a guy when u have 1 with u or what date was she talking about.that d guy should meet her at d eatry or her house_ u c yoursef .na wetin dey kill dem b that.covateousness. U won't free food n money u no won't make dem bleep u.that write up should b for single ladies not even all of them sef.
Where in my post did I say that guys cannot ENJOY their girlfriends?? am preaching against rape here. Forcing yourself on a random visitor is different from ENJOYING your girlfriend

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:41pm On Aug 09, 2015
classicB:


Am an introvert kind of person, i only spare my time for good friends tongue I dnt visit guys at all anymore, the only guy I visit and comfortable with is my boyfriend. And hey!! I dnt have any grunge against the male folks
Tnk u
Be contented with your boyfriend and stop jumping from one guy to another!

Obviously, you cannot expect a guy to cool down when you've made him feel horn.y in the first place and you proceeded to start a pity thread.

I tell you, some women really do invite that kind of behavior.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by ronald4lif(m): 11:41pm On Aug 09, 2015
1bkaye:
A hit dog will holler lol. Whilst not all men are rapists let's not act like there isn't an epidemic of rape and sexual violence in Nigeria so please spare us


Perhaps you should also spare men too as we're also victims of rape. That we don't make it an issue due to the society stereotyping us as weaklings for coming out doesn't mean women don't rape us.

It's not a man's thing to be perpetual victims like women who feels men are always the culprits of rape and sexual harassment.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by idu1(m): 11:43pm On Aug 09, 2015
ronald4lif:
Tell a sexually active lady who can't go a week without sex make she no visit whether she no go whoze you slap. Who dey even beg girl to visit sef, no be dem conji hold pass.
this boy u too get sense...



Men are falling hand...

The way some guys dey worship ladies dey baffle me.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:44pm On Aug 09, 2015
idu1:
Na lie



U people beg a lot...

can u swear with amadioha u ve not beg for financial favour of any kind from a man?
I can
My father didn't train me up to be a begger. I thrive to be that kinda classy girl with her own car and her own company such that no man will look upon me as a hoe kiss
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by nwaezeubom: 11:46pm On Aug 09, 2015
teelacruz:
Nuff said, you can't force your personal opinion on other girls, they ain't daft to swallow all your advice cum sh*ts

Well said. All the advice is tantamount to blaming the victim, I live in a country where women dress very sexy but that does not mean that I am being provoked by their mode of dressing. Until, the philosophy that exonerates rapist from jail term is addressed, we as a country will continue to produce rapists and perhaps murderers. I happened to have two daughters, and if any of my own daughters are ever rapped I will make sure the man, boy or woman, girl by the way will end up 6 feet below. If the government would not take care of it, I will take matters into my own hands. some of these women that are rapped never recovers from the trauma of ordeal they suffer from their violators. some end up mentally deranged for the rest of their life. I am a man, and when a woman says no, no is no.

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:46pm On Aug 09, 2015
DeeTus:
Be contented with your boyfriend and stop jumping from one guy to another!

Obviously, you cannot expect a guy to cool down when you've made him feel horn.y in the first place and you proceeded to start a pity thread.

I tell you, some women really do invite that kind of behavior.

shocked what makes you think the victim initiated the act? I am so contented with my boyfriend. My own experiences happened bfr we met actually

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by leevi93(m): 11:46pm On Aug 09, 2015
so many kids around here...I don't giv a damn bout the ladies going nuts on rape... New elemnt Added 2 the Periodic
Table
Name : wife
Symbol : wi
Atomic Weight : Don't Even Dare
2 Ask!
Physical Proprties :
Boils at Anytime,
Can Freeze at Anytime,
Melts if Handled with Love & Care,
Very Bitter if Mishandled.!
Chemical Proprties:
Very Reactive,
Highly Unstable,
Posses Strong Affinity 4 Gold,
Platinm, Clothes & Othr Precious
Items,
Money Reducing Agent,
Volatile when left Alone.
Occurance:
Mostly found in front of mirror

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by Nobody: 11:46pm On Aug 09, 2015
ronald4lif:


Perhaps you should also spare men too as we're also victims of rape. That we don't make it an issue due to the society stereotyping us as weaklings for coming out doesn't mean women don't rape us.

It's not a man's thing to be perpetual victims like women who feels men are always the culprits of rape and sexual harassment.
I sympathise with rape victims of all gender identities

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Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by idu1(m): 11:46pm On Aug 09, 2015
classicB:

This is what I was trying to say in my own thread. Just see your life outside undecided u made it clear now that why should we ladies visit guys we are not prepared to have sex with. Does that mean a girl cannot go on her own to visit her male frnd?? What's wrong in visiting the opposite gender? Especially frnds with no strings attached.
This girl u ve comprehensive problem.

The guy is not talking of a ordinary male friend...

He mean, a guy u claim to love and starting raping his money...
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by easystudy101: 11:47pm On Aug 09, 2015
Katastrofy:
There was a thread That made front page yesterday on the topic "We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys,Rape is Real". https://www.nairaland.com/2512044/opinion-ladies-should-stop-visiting
I took my time to go through the Ops write up,it was a nice reminder to ladies to be conscious,and mindful on who they visit but in other words it is actually passing some kind of black list to "Men" and refocusing any lady that reads that thread as " All Guys being rapist" or even making ladies have the mindset that any guy you visit these days will end up molesting you.

To. Some large extent that thread was contradictory and could be misleadin and I really want to correct some mental affiliation on that thread..
I really love where the Op is coming from but at the middle and end of the write up she made some mistakes and generalisation of opinions which is unacceptable..
Firstly, Rape is a serious issue meant to be handled,demonic men are among us.. The ladies should be careful and wise on who they play along with..

Corrections of the Thread

.. especially the guys, they'd probably say things like "she seduced him" "she initiated the sex" "she brought condom along" "no evidence since nobody was there

These statement is a two way thing.. It could be true that the girl actually started the move.. Let's face it, I can tell you the major reasons why men cheat these days is not that they can't stay faithful but the ways in which our girls dress.. Men are move most time by what they see which directly induces impulse to their brains.. Check out your areas how these girls dresses..provocative way without minding, for instance if you in lagos,ph you wll know what I'm saying.. A strong godly man can get loose on seeing such things. When these ladies dress in a provocative way and come visiting, that one mistake they do, and then lay on the mans bed probably exposing other parts, and so on, so many things comes into the mans mind and at the end of the day if they are being refused they could force it on.. So we should also tackle the ladies on the stuffs thay put on and move they make when with the man alone.

This same guys come here to complain about girls coming to visit them with loads of friends, why won't we come with loads of friends when we know there's a condom waiting to be used on.us
Its a good thing for girls to come visitng the guy with her friends just to be safe.. but its also a bad idea not telling the guy or informing him before coming to visit him with your friends.. I mean let's look at it this way, I'm inviting you to my house and the next thing I see is you and bunch of your followers in front of my gate, I will be kind enough to send you all back because I didn't plan for a group visitation.. Before you go visiting know the aims and objectives, you will know when a guy want to have a carnal knowledge wit you before you coming, it could bt through chatting or calls.. When guys makes statement like "I can't wait to be with you when you come" I'm so lonely,wish to be by your side all alone" things like this could tell.. Though there are other guys that won't indicate their intention not until wen they see you..but the mast conversation before coming matters a lot. Yes! And by the way you don't expect a grown man with blood running in his veins not to have condoms in his house when he isn't married.

I have personally stopped visiting guys since 3/4 years back, it's either you agree to meet me in my parents house when everyone is home or you meet me in an eatery

This is your personal opinion and lifestlye.. And remember all opinions are opinionated.. You cant simply wish or inspire other girls to behave or do like you.. I can tell so many girls do visit guys in their houses without having issue like yours. Visitng guys in church or eatery isn't the solution, the solution is be mindful and know when and when not to visit.. People do rape ladies in church or even in the girls house.. There is this real life story of a guy going to visit a girl in her house,when the dad of the girl was upstairs, the guy followed the girl to her room, at the end of the day,the guy drugged her inside her room and had her then left..and again neglecting the Ops opinion, are you telling us for people that want to be serious with eachother should always end up meeting in an eatery or your house only? I don't think so..

Idk what else to say, but i know prevention is better than cure. I pray God deliver us from these animals disguised in human clothing called men [b]

You made a conclusionary generalisation statement here.. Trying to label all men as rapist or being bad ..

While in one of your post here :
[b] knostbrown01:
You r not ready to have a boyfriend.....the fact that all bird could fly doesn't mean the have equal feather


I wouldn't imagine you will still have a guy you go visit or love after condenming guys generally.


**By The Way (ClassicB) I went through Your Profile, All the Posts or thread Has got something Doing with Guys,If You've Got Bad Experience With a Guy,try as much as possible to deal with it don't generalise on your personal Experience** thanks


In conclusion some of your point was sentimentally written.
All MEN Aint same.. Visiting guys isn't a bad idea,but be Mindful and stop making unecessary advances when your with him because him seeing those things makes it consensual..

God save Our Laides from Bad Men.. Happy sunday! Stay Blessed!


Bleep YOU.

Going to a guy's house should be a bad thing for women now?!

Stupid 'social engineer'
Re: Correction To : "WE LADIES Should Stop Visiting Guys" by ronald4lif(m): 11:47pm On Aug 09, 2015
idu1:
this boy u too get sense...



Men are falling hand...

The way some guys dey worship ladies dey baffle me.

Don't mind all these ladies gloating on these thread because some supposedly sex starved guys are greasing their ego thereby inducing some non-existing self importance in them. Who told them that they are the only sufferers of rape.

And why should a guy care when one lady out of the billions in the world refuses to visit? You'd be surprised to know that the ones who claims they don't visit actually visit more. Conji never hit dem.

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