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Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.

Empiree:
Hello buddy, this is not the end of the road. You may be able to fix your hearing loss. I understand time long past since you had this accident but you may need to pursue professional physician for possible surgery or other recommendation like "hearing aid".

Did doctor(s) or anyone ever suggested hearing aid to you?. Try it out. I have no idea of the cost in Nigeria. Talk to your doctor first. You can do this man. You dont have to be deprived of this. Take a look at the pictures. They are hearing aids. Try it man. Good-luck.

BlackrulesDworld:



You retarded! I commented with 'ok', why quote me with this nonsense.

Swissheart:
The first thing is to be yourself.....look beyond d said deafness.You write well...so I think you are quite intelligent.Make friend with her....with dat She must have been convinced of your worth...I am not a fan of toasting by d road side actually. friendship first.Continue being a good guy.[/b]Think of getting better..both medically and career wise.

Kayoski:

I don't really know what to say..but from what u've said I think u have an advantage..at least she knows ur challenge.. [b]why not visit your aunts shop more often..try to be friends with her first,with that If u still like her after knowing her better just naturally woo her..
modified: front page..he he he...even though na night shift..half bread better pass akara

Olayinka8793:
noted,I had thought about replacing "I want to marry u" with "can we be friends" but my mind told me that is an automatic ticket to getting friendzoned.

BuddhaPalm:
@ Olayinka8793

You express yourself really well.

Ever tried a hearing aid? It could change your life.

Olayinka8793:
done that already but none works including @ LASUTH

stonecoldcafe:


Well spoken! His written english is very good; even better than so many graduates I've come across on nairaland!

Ranks007:
It might have been a mistake if I didnt read ur signature

harristo:








Hehehehe, op you are too funny.
In your post you said "I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes", then you went on to be saying that you want to skip being her friend.

Op your are miss-informed, you think that when a boy and a girl agrees to be friends, then they will never be able to move on to being a couple. You are afraid that if you become friends with the girl, you will no longer be able to start dating her.

Look it is only guys that are not interested in marrying a girl that skip the friendship stage of courtship. Friendship stage is for determining whether the other person is genuinely interested in you. Unless all you want is to have a girl that you can sleep with anytime.

Are you kidding? what kind of relationship do you hope to have with her if you are just going to jump in dating her - your relationship won't have real foundation.

Also, the fact is that, the chances of a respectable girl agreeing when you ask her to become a couple with you, is significantly higher when you've been friends with her for a while. And the chances of breakup will be lower as well, because she got to know you before accepting to go out with you.

So op don't be afraid of asking her to be a friend that you hang out with, talk about trivia things with, talk to on the phone, before you later ask her to be your girlfriend. This is the normal way to woo a girl.
The other way of jumping into dating is something a flirt / player who is not interesting in having a lasting relationship with a girl practice.

Olayinka8793:
Good day nairalanders, my name is Yinka and am also a twin. I have an issue bothering me and wished to post it here openly in the hope that I will get useful advice/opinion.

This post may seem long and therefore turn off those who hate long epistles but pls endeavour to read it as your advice/opinion might be beneficial to me.

I have thought of creating an alternative moniker to post this or at least lied that the problem is been faced by one of my friend and so he needs your advice like some pretentious nairalanders do, but decided to be bold enough and be real since this is just an online forum.

Sorry for digressing, now to the koko of the matter,I am 22 years old, will be 23 next January, earning a decent salary working as a hair stylist in a large unisex saloon, I have hearing loss as in total deafness though I could speak fluently, was not born deaf but an accident caused it while I was in primary school, the story of how I became deaf is one for another day, but with sheer determination and faith and Gods Grace I managed to complete both primary and secondary schooling but gave up on going further as I have no believe I could survive higher school.

My deafness affected me in very many ways, physiologicaly and emotionally and almost daily, but I hardly allow myself brood over it for a long time, the worst I have done was to cry in secret on more than four occasion for having such a terrible disability.

Ok well, my deafness affected my relationship with the opposite sex so much such that I have never had a girl friend meaning am still a virgin, though I relieve myself of what nairalanders called Konji by doing controlled mas2bation when I feel like, I could have used Oloshos to relieve myself but I considered them as dirty people and can't imagine losing my virginity to a prostitute.

I have tried summoning confidence to toast gals but our conversation is usually very short and not impressive due to the fact I don't know how to prolong such conversations and most of the ideas I saw online hardly applied to such conversation involving a person like me wit hearing loss. I communicate like a normal person by lip reading(hope u know what that is), though not always an effective means of communication but I had no other choice as my parents and me hated the idea of me learning sign language and they vehemently resisted those who suggested it when the deafness problem started.The only problem I have with lip reading was that whenever I don't understand what the other person was saying, I would indicate and ask him to repeat but if it persist I ask him or her to write it with the finger and you will agree with me that such inconvenience might be a big turn of when trying to talk to a stranger like a beautiful gal I admired.

There is this girl I admired that works as a sales girl in my aunt's pharmacy shop, she frequently passed in front of our saloon and have started having feelings for her, fortunately she know I have hearing loss and also knew I am a nephew to her boss and sometimes greets me when passing by like "boda taye",lol and I had just waved and answer "bawo ni", ordinarily I should not have problem toasting her but the fear of my deafness disappointing me and the fact I don't know anything to say that could make the toasting successfull apart from, what is your name, I want to marry you, where do you live, can I have your number, can I take you out on a date next Sunday? Bla bla bla.lol

Also there is the problem I usually encounter with young gals, when I told them I want to marry you, they be like "omo kekere ni mi" meaning am a small girl and I be like how old are you, but can we just be friends bla bla bla, any suggestion to how to properly deal with such response will be appreciated in case the gal I planned to toast say such(she looks 19+). It is not like she is out of my class or too beautiful, no no no not at all, even my twin sister is more classier.

Thanks for reading this far, I know this might seem like an unusual problem but I believe you will have one or two ideas/opinions which I might find useful in other to overcome my deafness and win over this gal. I have no intention of using and dumping her, just date her with the hope of finding her compatible for marriage when the time comes and lastly to relieve myself of Konji the natural way after having gained her trust and affection.

Modified. E be like say I want more opinions, oya CC: lalasticlala abeg do the needful.

ststyreal:

Huh! I am falling in rove already with u op. Just givy mi your address cum your ekwe nti(telephone), according to my IBO friends and u have gotten urself a pretty wife alleady. On a serious note, u don't have a problem my guy, in fact, don't even c ur self as being deaf cos I believe that is wat is limiting u. I for one, believe in miracles and God's divine healing, which am earnestly asking him on ur behalf. Most achievement in life are all about packaging, confidence and faith in yourself and ur God. Forget dis deafness of a thing and go all out for the girl of ur choice. It is well with u my friend.

Simitrendy:



Don't worry bro sorrow might last for a night but joy cometh in d morning.

U will share your testimony very soon. Uno God can wrath miracles in your life.

If you're closer to him, he will solve the deafness. Keep praying, trusting and obeying.

God will restore your hearing back. And at least thrice in 2 months go for medical check up in ENT dept of a good hospital if its Luth. or UTH Ibadan.


Its better you stop that thing u hear uno that prevention is better than cure.


Satan might use it as a barrier to your next testimony

papazboi1:
Broda be a man don't look at ur condition .......forget it go to her and let her know what u feeling for her she may even be more interested than u......