Yea a man of my own kind.dat mean mean u must av offended him b4 he started maltreating u Dat way.any way sha dis is my cordial advice look 4 nd elder person or a close friend of him 2 go nd help u beg him remember man is d head nd u must gv him all respect cos nw adays. Do ask my mum is there stil gud wife.anyway sha do wat I told u nd I pray he will change 4 gud.wen tin cum back 2 normal cum back nd tanks me oooooo

The Op is a very terrible evil woman who has hurt the poor innocent man so much that he has decided to keep his respectful distance. How did I know this? ANY woman who confesses openly in a public forum that she will murder her husband under any guise, is an extremely evil and dangerous woman. She never loved the man! Quote me anywhere. The husband should as a matter of urgency divorce this evil beast he calls a wife! So, rather than plan how to check into a rehabilitation center for the violently insane, you are here talking of taking anothers life. Those innocent kids should be handed over to their father as they are not safe around their murderer of an evil mother.

@OP your husband is gay, am surprised no one has told you

You people should please start a living church. ...this is spiritual wife at work. ...tell your family and some prayer warriors to back you up in prayers and I pray may God Almighty heal your home and deliver you from heart attack

Wow why I am here looking for a sexmate

christinie:
Start ignoring him too and he will turn around.
I don't mean you shouldn't talk to him.
Do everything a wife is supposed to do for her hubby but act as if you've forgotten about the word 'sex'.
Also act very happy. Act like life has never been sweeter than now.
He will begin to get scared.
He will quickly turn around.
Some guys get bored with seeing same face daily.
It's a disorder.
Give him some challenges and he will wake up.
NB be prayerful while at it.
Thanks.

this is the first matured advice on this thread, all the kids here are telling her to sit him down and beg or reason with him. that will turn him off finally

Pidggin:


Give him viagra, it will help.

What!

Cant stop laughing OMG

Who are you? This is so funny

Viagra will not bring back the love

"Bring back our love"

We all have things to deal with, sometimes I think love is not everything in a relationship

When love is to much you are blindfolded, you seem helpless, you cant think straight

Op open your heart, eyes, have heart to heart talk me with him

Any babe that need a good Bleep should contact me

oieda:
You see all these things you wrote baa??

Type it again, exactly, print it and then give you husband in an envelope addressed to him from you!!!

I agree with you.
Write in in your own hand-writing and put it in his pocket or somewhere you know he cant miss it.

Give him time to read it and digest it properly.

after a few days, wake him up in the dead of the night (Saturday night when he is likely to be less tired) and discuss it with him... softly without any aggravation.... even if his words offend you, dont react.

he will eventually get around it.



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dinachi:
The Op is a very terrible evil woman who has hurt the poor innocent man so much that he has decided to keep his respectful distance. How did I know this? ANY woman who confesses openly in a public forum that she will murder her husband under any guise, is an extremely evil and dangerous woman. She never loved the man! Quote me anywhere. The husband should as a matter of urgency divorce this evil beast he calls a wife! So, rather than plan how to check into a rehabilitation center for the violently insane, you are here talking of taking anothers life. Those innocent kids should be handed over to their father as they are not safe around their murderer of an evil mother.

God bless you, I sensed this then, when I saw that her wicked reply it was confirmed

U think say na nollywood movie b dis?... Beg ni beg ko

ojun50:
Wake ur man up around 1am nd discuss the issue with him after discussion leave the room then wait for another one hour u will see him coming to beg.

Op make yr discussion emotional

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Do you wear sexy night gown at night?

Nice perfume?

Sneak up on him and start sucking his manhood.

Tell me if he doesn't attack your v-g-na like a crouching tiger.

Men are moved by sight.

It is not rocket science.
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Ooops!

Dats wat u get when u say "No sex before marriage" u have 2 deal with stuffs like dis 4 d rest of ur life...
Amma test drive b4 i pay 4 it... #OneChance is not acceptable

He is gay.

Am $300 richer every week to join viSit www.invite2money.com/?ref=15025

itsMrIke:
@OP your husband is gay, am surprised no one has told you

She is a learner ....those frnds he is chatting with on whstsapp are his Bleep buddies.

U have gotten a lot of wrong advice. The truth is that marriage is a going concern, it's a process, he is chatting today, he will stop and u will start chatting, the table turns, he is also emotionally disturbed but as a man will not feel free to talk abt it, don't ever forget that we are still Africans evolving into western ideas.
Nothing is wrong with ur marriage, take heart and just let the music flow.
Pls don't intentionally activate psychology of revenge, u can never tell the reaction.
Ur hubby loves u but emotional feelings sometimes wades and it doesn't mean love have diminished.
Many women have passed tru very hard situations and come out glorious just by simply practicing the scripture.
I knw women naturally crave for attention but pls note that most men are wired like hunters. They wait endlessly like a sniper, they trow baits until they make the kill after which they enjoy. U really want to see his hunting skills always .... It's natural.
You are only getting to the next level of marriage.
Bonding beyond emotions.
This is the critical moment of marriage- the play or break period. U need wisdom. Talk to ur mum. She will advise better coz ur dad exhibited such characters but mum overcame.
Enjoy.

Sometimes he simply needs a boost. A boost to his ego so he will believe you want him, physically as well as emotionally. And a boost to get him in the mood to connect physically with you again. Sometimes he needs some extra effort on your part to be enticed and drawn toward you. Just as there are a myriad of reasons he might seem to have lost interest in you, there are also a myriad of ways (or at least 26...one for every letter of the alphabet) to recapture his interest and make him want to pursue you again. Here is what I call "The ABCs of Being Irresistible in Your Husband's Eyes:"

A – Affirm him.
One of the things your man finds most attractive about you is that you were at one time (and hopefully still are) attracted to him. A man wants to be around a woman who makes him feel like he's winning. Let him know he's a great provider, he is great at what he does, he can still get your heart racing– whatever it is that you can compliment him on. And mean it. A woman who sings her man's praises is a woman he'll come after...so he can hear more!

B – Be a mystery.
Men still love a challenge; just don't make it too complicated. Does your husband know everything there is to know about you? If so, develop a new skill or idea or come up with a secret he's dying to discover. When you become a mystery to your husband there are things about you that he still wants to know, things you're thinking that he'd like for you to divulge, secrets in your soul that he'll be challenged to draw out. You don't give him a chance if you tell him everything. Be mysterious, in some ways. Be to him a treasure chest full of secrets he's dying to unlock!

C – Cultivate your relationship with Christ.
What makes you truly attractive, and one worth pursuing? The beauty of Christ in you. When you have an intimate devotional life with Christ, and are controlled by His Spirit, your life will produce the fruits of His Spirit – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control (Galatians 5:22-23). What man doesn't want to chase after a woman who is truly joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle and – they love this one the best – self-controlled!

D – Dress for him.
Some women don't think much about what they wear, with the excuse that they're just not into the "latest" fashion. Or, they will dress nice when they go to church, or out with girlfriends, but not put much effort into how they look for "just my husband." But men can recognize "frumpy" even if we can't. And dress for him at night, too. Your husband might be majorly turned off by a "grandma" night gown that resembles something his mother used to wear! So, it may be time to invest in some lingerie or just something 'form flattering' or feminine.

E – Exude confidence.
He once found it attractive in you. He still does. So, regardless of how you might feel about your weight, body shape, "big knees," "small chest," cellulite, veins or whatever, get over it. He has. Honestly, he doesn't see all the body flaws you think are so very obvious. Men tend to not analyze or critique our bodies nearly as much as we do. When you are confident in your speech, your walk, your relationship with him, and your role as his wife that, too, is attractive.

F – Flirt with him.
If he loved it back then, he'll still love it today...maybe even more. Flirting is a hidden art among women today. We usually have too many other things on our mind to even think about saying something to get his attention and let him know we're thinking of him. But flirting can be sending a text message or leaving a voice mail telling him he's on your mind. Think: what did I do back when we dated? And that will help with your flirt factor.

G - Give him the best of you.
We tend to give the best of ourselves to our jobs, or our children, or our homes. And our husbands tend to get the leftovers – of our time, energy and even our looks. I know many women who enjoy remodeling their homes. But what about remodeling ourselves now and then? The Bible says our bodies are the temple of God. So how long has it been since the temple's been remodeled? Do what you can to keep your body in shape, healthy, and holy for the Lord and for your husband, too. The Bible tells us that we are not only the temple of God, but we belong to our husbands. So we take care of ourselves for them, too.

H – Have a positive attitude.
Can your husband always count on a smile or a kind word? Or does he enter the house walking on eggshells, and unsure of what kind of mood you'll be in? Positive people are enjoyable to be around. If you're pleasant, he'll generally want to be in your company.

I – Initiate.
I can't say enough here. Initiate a hug. Initiate a kind word or compliment. Initiate lovemaking. Chances are your husband dreams of the "wild woman" within you. Let your inner tigress come out now and then and show him he's still the one. You want to be pursued. So does he, now and then. Surprise him. And show him there's a side of you he has yet to discover.

J – Join him in something he enjoys.
Michelle told me she began to be more interesting – and more of a pursuit – to her husband when she adopted his interest in working out. "I was complaining to my husband that I was tired, bored, and didn't have time to exercise. He told me that the kids were always going to take my time, but that I was the only one who could make working out a priority. I started to listen. I made time for my workouts a priority. I made the kids ride their bikes, while I started running. Now, years later, I'm not the nagging, tired, old wife. I am the new wife, with a cute body, and more interesting things to talk about. We talk about workouts, nutrition, and even exercise together. It has really ignited a new passion within our marriage. I can't keep up with my husband, but the fact that I try makes it more interesting." By taking up a particular interest that her husband had, Michelle was able to accomplish nearly every one of the A-B-C's in that one "J."

K – Kiss him with passion.
Not just a peck on the cheek, like you'd do to your child. But really kiss him. Studies show that couples who kiss each other daily enjoy a higher satisfaction rate in marriage than those who don't. So take the initiative and kiss him. Yes, you'd like him to kiss you first, but do for him what you'd like him to do for you. Kiss him like you mean it. And see what happens.

L – Leave the lights on.
Need I say more? As a man, your husband is visually wired. And it's believed men see in soft focus anyway, meaning your man is not nearly as critical of your body as you are. Make the most of what you have to offer him and trust he'll appreciate it.

M – Make his favorite meal or dessert.
The best way to your man's heart may still be through his stomach. So let him know you care and whip up what he loves to eat. Food is still good pre-intimacy when it comes to men.

N – Notice the little things.
My husband really does want me to notice his latest haircut even though I really can't tell the difference. When you notice things about your husband it says to him that you're aware of him, appreciating him and – convey this one, too – admiring him. Make your observation into a compliment not a complaint. (In other words, don't notice that his shirt is wrinkled or he's wearing athletic socks with casual shoes. Notice that he still looks nice when he dresses up – or doesn't.)

O – Offer to do one thing that will make his day go smoother.
You might be surprised at how simple his one request is – pick up his suit at the dry cleaners, pack him a lunch, pray for him during a crucial meeting? Just offering to do something for him will show him your heart is tuned toward his needs.

P - Plan a surprise for him.
Men are, at times, like little boys. They love surprises and spontaneity if at the appropriate time. Find out what he's been missing and bring it back whether it's a hairstyle on your head or a favorite place to eat.

Q – Quit directing, correcting, and controlling.
(That one came from my husband and I tried not to take it personally!) Let him lead. It will show him that you do believe in him and his ability to handle a situation.

R – Respect who he is and what he does.
He needs that from you more than you realize.

S – Spontaneity.
Be unpredictable, but in a good way. Suggest you eat somewhere you never have. Wear a color you never have before. Go outside your comfort zone and take a risk with him. It will make him feel like he has a brand new wife, especially if you've been mothering him more than dating him lately.

T – Text him endearing messages
Such as "You're still the one," "I'm a lucky woman to have you" and "You still take my breath away." Chances are, he may begin to text some of those messages back.

U – Use a soft voice with him.
Few men are attracted to loud and boisterous. Talking softly conveys femininity.

V – Visibility.
See "L - Leave the lights on." It's that important to him, which is why I'm mentioning it – twice!

W – Watch his favorite movie or show with him.
Even if you can't stomach sports or another episode of "Man vs. Food," if he loves it, watch it with him. And try to enjoy it – for his sake.

X – Xercise
(Ok I cheated on the spelling here...but how many words start with X?) Exercise will improve your mood and overall health, which will, in turn, make you more enjoyable to be around. Even better, exercise along with him, if it's possible.

Y – "Yes" – say it often.
It may be his favorite word from you. "Yes, we can invite your friends over for the game." "Yes, I'll try that new type of food with you." "Yes, I'll wear that just for you." Think: "Your will, not mine." Self sacrifice goes a long way in marriage.

Z – Zealously pursue Christ and your husband.
As you look to God first as your Heavenly Husband (Isaiah 54:5), your earthly husband can't help but notice Christ-like character in you...the essence of true beauty. And when you pursue your husband, you are affirming to him that he is worth the pursuit.

Source: http://www.strengthforthesoul.com/couples-the-abcs-of-being-irresistible-in-your-husband's-eyes.html



Now, read the scripture below and pray the prayer that follows and God shall restore your happy home as you're faithful to it.

Esther 2:17, "Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any other woman, and she won his favour and approval more than any of the other virgins."

I receive today, the favour of attraction toward the man that God has made for me from the foundation of the earth in Jesus name.

Esther 5:2, "When he saw queen Esther standing in the court, he was pleased with her and held out to her the gold sceptre that was in his hand."

Lord, I pray that all my desires shall be pleasing to my husband and i will always find favour before him in Jesus name.

I paralyze the power of marriage interferers in Jesus name.
My husband shall not be control by strangers in Jesus name.
Father endowed me with favour that you gave to queen Esther that made her to receive favour from her husband, the king in Jesus name.
May my husband desire me always in Jesus name.
O Lord, instill your perfect peace in my marriage in Jesus name.
I decree that every home witchcraft or wizardry manipulation on my marriage broken into pieces in Jesus name.
I disallow the operation of evil in my marriage in Jesus name.
Father, everything I need to know to be the best helper to my husband, Lord, let me know in Jesus name.
O God, give me the grace to be a woman of noble character in my home in Jesus name.



I look forward to hearing your testimony and remain blessed!!!

Kachisbarbie:
Has he been like this? (Yes) alright then...
Well, decline in libido after kids is very normal. It doesn't always mean anyone is cheating or not well kept_ it just happens.
He could also be having issues at work, extended family...etc. Make him confide in you. Have some couple day out, lunch/dinners. It rekindles connection.

For the sex: Take the bull by the horn. Take a shower, put kiddies to bed and spray a nice cologne. You may have to change formation, we all get bored with man ontop- woman under shii. Maybe he hasn't been sexed in a way that resets his brain.

Learn to play with his D like it's a toy, that would start sending messages across first. Then, sit on him sweerie, that's after making sure you have gotten his 'maximum/minimum' attention. Make the D slide in, then ride him till he forgets his state of origin.
If the D is that type that is like a hilux's stick shift, please support yourself by the knees.

OR: if he is ontop, try to wiggle_ like you're belly dancing hah?
Touch him, run fingers down his spine and nibble on his ears. Enjoy that shii... even if he doesn't want to.

Above all, talk to him. Communication in marriage is 2way, teach him to enjoy sex and companionship, be patient with him. If he has to sleep in the bath tub, make him realise you would sleep there too.

Nna men u don make dis thing dey hungry me nowwww, chei. Huh, I wade it off, I refuse to b wet.

christinie:
Start ignoring him too and he will turn around.
I don't mean you shouldn't talk to him.
Do everything a wife is supposed to do for her hubby but act as if you've forgotten about the word 'sex'.
Also act very happy. Act like life has never been sweeter than now.
He will begin to get scared.
He will quickly turn around.
Some guys get bored with seeing same face daily.
It's a disorder.
Give him some challenges and he will wake up.
NB be prayerful while at it.
Thanks.

What if the guy wants out of the marriage and is just considering the kids for now?
Then OP will just make it easier for him.

Maybe he never really was deeply in love with OP but he thought love would come/grow.

He might be in love with another lady, whether he's currently dating her or not.
His body language suggests that he's no more sexually attracted to OP.

The whole marriage might even be like a hard chore to him now.
OP can be the most pretty or neatest lady around, it can happen.

Consider marriage counselling. But I bet the hubby would resist that suggestion. But try anyway.

Take it easy because what you guys are going through now, I want to belief the marriage is under teething period.

Best is to let him know and if he continue go for divorce cos adultery is out of it 5o what makes u happy it's ur life* this will let u live longer

Pray to God, not NL, you have lots of juvenile running keyboards here and there.

Finally and if possible arrange a short vacation with the family and take a trip to Obudu cattle ranch. You need to create an environment and an atmosphere shared by only you and him plus the kids. This will keep him away from whatever is holding back his feelings for you. Try but prayer hard and pls don't try anything adulterous. The Lord is your strength.

babysophie:
Face ur children n work if u v any,dress sexily n smart. If u nid sexual satisfaction den learn hw to masturbate n u will be too tired to fink of a husband hu doesn't v ur tym.

Shoroniyen

osile2012:



[size=18pt]If he does not approach you for s e x then you approach him instead of approaching nairalanders. You need a shoulder or 2 to cry on, you never talk wetin you dey find. .

A wise man once said, dont let your gf discuss her problem with another guy, sometimes a shoulder to lean on becomes a **** to ride on. [/size]

guy you no well oo [color=#770077][/color]

Ab025:
@poster...

I feel ur pain. Atimes, we men take away our mind from sex, especially if we have something else that is deeply troubling us. But in this case, u say he doesn't even show u attention nd care anymore, well. I think something is wrong somewhere

Either there is something troubling his mind or you dnt look sexy to him nowadays or there is another woman in the picture...

I just pray it's not the last option sha!

#And hope u are not a nagging wife or didn't insult him with unforgettable words...... Cos u ladies can be funny atimes, we just heard ur version of events now but you didn't tell us what u did to make him start treating u like this all of a sudden??

Now that you've nailed it, i have quit reading this threads comments

#Start introducing Marijuana to his pepper soup and sauce.

#Share a bottle of red wine after every meal.

#Buy vega 100 and introduce it to his fruit drink.

We could chose to let nature take its course, but remember, we weed our compounds, if not, the nature that will take its course will bring rodents into our homes.

Play Yahoo Yahoo with every aspect of life if you must succeed, you must learn to manipulate our ways in life, cos Life is NOT fair.

Atlantian:
#Start introducing Marijuana to his pepper soup and sauce.

#Share a bottle of red wine after every meal.

#Buy vega 100 and introduce it to his fruit drink.

We could chose to let nature take its course, but remember, we weed our compounds, if not, the nature that will take its course will bring rodents into our homes.

Play yahoo yahoo with every aspect of life if you must succeed, you must learn to manipulate our ways in life, cos Life is NOT fair.

Gbam! That's a killer line! Deathly nailed!