slinkman:
na so the yahoo yahoo dey first start..

lol

Rapmoney:
Have you ever dipped your fingers in a pot of Melon Soup (Egusi) without heating or getting it refrigerated? The next day, be sure that your soup will become sour!!! This is possibly what could become of your relationship and emotional feelings when 'distance' is involved, especially, when this 'distance' is not handled with enough maturity!

I personally think it is basically foolish trying to maintain distant relationships when the two persons involve do no wish to get married or are not ready to settle down as husband and wife within the shortest possible time! If your girlfriend lives in Uyo and you live in Akure, the burden and regular emotional pains that distant relationships bring could be better tamed if both of you would be tying the knot as soon as possible. On the other hand, in a situation where both of you are still confused on the future of the relationship or there are no serious plans for marriage on ground, you could both be deceiving yourselves while living in constant emotional torture!!!

'Love', no matter how fake it is, grows when the persons that are involved are physically present with each other to ignite the ingredients of romance in the relationship. When romance leaves through the door in a relationship, affection, care and attention are definitely going to leave through the windows! 'Love' would become a mirage and relationship would be recklessly abandoned and forgotten!

As partners, doing things together such as going to the cinema, shopping, strolling and holding hands in the park, watching movies together at home, cracking jokes and seeing the smiles on the faces of each other go a long way in boosting romance . On the contrary, these things are not present in distant affairs! Relationship needs physical body contact, if truth be told. That's the easiest way to reduce unnecessary tension, jealousy, accusations and counter-accusations, constant cheating and lying and all other funny things that go along with distant affairs!!!

In this world that we live in, where materialism and sex are fast becoming the foundations of most relationships, you should sincerely think about it...whether the one you romantically call 'your love' is fervently sincere with you too . I mean, phone calls and chats are just so boring and useless without physical contact!!!

I am not a misogynist and has never been but experiences and observations have clearly shown that ladies cheat more in distant relationships because they are more prone to romantic pressures from other men; some may be carried away by materialism and the pressure to have sex!!! This explains why you may be in Warri, happy that you have a loving girlfriend that lives in Lagos, not knowing that one sharp banker with slick tongue and posh car is banging her in and out! In no time, her care and attention for you would decrease; she would call and text lesser and discussions on phone would become so boring! You should know it is almost coming to an end! . If you don't have any plans of getting married soonest, don't waste your time on distant affairs! I would even suggest you use the money you spend on regular, boring and long phone calls on online betting because you cold be wasting your resources on a girl someone else is 'eating'

Distant relationship is full of pains, lies, emotional trauma, unnecessary troubles, jealousy and fear all occassioned by lack of physical presence!

Good points! But my major concern is why you had to give an example about ladies and nt give about guys. Are u saying guys are always faithful during distance relationships?

Secondly, why are u rude to people commenting? you are the owner of the thread, I expect you to embrace any comment that comes either good or bad cos it thier opinion.

Person wey go cheat go cheat if u like dey see urself every minute

Not enough reasons to leave my Emyress.

Cutehector:
I"v always wanted to meet d female frnds I chat wit online, buh dey all neva felt d same way..

distance shaaa. lest I forget you told me you would be leaving the country then..... how far?

You have only described the gains of a socially constructed love, not the natural kind of love.


Socially constructed love DIES with time, even if you live and bath together everyday.

Nina4u:
no yahoo guy ..hes a struggling musician ..he has cds out ..fanclub ..he is known but not a superstar ...

no musician that i know of in nigeria will struggle to maintain a long distance relationship... but make i no spoil person runs sha... Even pikin wey dey secondary schl here don get CD oo.. shine your eyes..

aktem:
Every relationship will sooner or later bcom a distant relationship, even if u guyz ar in dsame skul,what if u want 2 go 4 ur NYSC&she's still in 200l,300l or 400l,what ar u gonna do abt dat?..or maybe u guyz stay in dsame location @home&she's studying in a different higher institution, wont u guyz eventually go 2 ur respective skuls?.I'm in a long distance relationship(although nt dat long) bt i'm nt passing tru any emotional torment cos "babe wey go Bleep anoda guy go Bleep am,even wen u dey dsame hostel"&even in dis 21st century,most relationship is just like u're playing a game. I have my future 2 focus on than thinking if one babe is cheating on me,if she like,make she cheat&wen i'm ready 2 marry,i knw what 2 do. Guyz,just make sure u ar nt a loser in any relationship u engage in,datz d REAL DEAL.

Stop giving ursef hope.....no man I repeat...no man in a relationship will say the bolded
You just some lover sch boy who trusts his babe so much....

slinkman:
no musician that i know of in nigeria will struggle to maintain a long distance relationship... but make i no spoil person runs sha... Even pikin wey dey secondary schl here don get CD oo.. shine your eyes..

i said hes a struggling musician ...hes not struggling to keep us together ...lol we know what we want ....

jearile:

I just couldn't turn a blind eye @bold. It makes me kinda wonder the value you've placed on yourself - giving a guy licence to cheat, gosh!
Your future will require more than your present requires.

Hey,dat is i rolls with my guy!! d distance is so much,konji will hold him one day u knw

uhm

GahtU:
yes I live in Uyo n he stays in Akure n its going to work whether u like it or not. My parent lived apart for d first 16yrs of deir marriage, now dey r living together happily n till death. So OP its abt wat we want n our determination. So u can go n knock off ur head or neck in fact hit something BT if u think coming here to get supporters to destroy wat we av build is going to make us crack, den I can c how frustrated u r. Mind ur damn biz cos its enough trouble for u. Mtcheew....

Your parents case might be a few exceptions but don't blame the OP. What he's saying is factual. This is something that happens everyday. The temptation is very high for both couple when they are far from each other.

Cutehector:
priministerr

hope u knw thunder?

serendipityF:
Abegiii, its not in all cases. I dated my hubby for 5yrs, 3 out of those 5yrs I spent in the north schooling while he was in lagos, the remaining 2yrz he was out of the country, still I never cheated on him and all d while we were only dating, we didnt evn talk marriage. A good relationship will always be good and a bad 1 will always be bad irrespective of d distance. Evn if ur partner lives in ur neighborhood, itz neva a guarantee that they wont cheat

Babe nice one!!u deserve a medal!!

robosky02:



ok like we do right?

Yea

Rapmoney:
Are u sure u did not take shots of ogogoro before typing this?

sure,i did not!

This is however from a pessimistic point of view. Only sense he made is that it shouldn't go on for so long.

Truely, all those romance are missed in the relationship, but could be covered with lots of other forms of bonding by having ur spouse as ur closest friend/confidant.

GahtU:
yes I live in Uyo n he stays in Akure n its going to work whether u like it or not. My parent lived apart for d first 16yrs of deir marriage, now dey r living together happily n till death. So OP its abt wat we want n our determination. So u can go n knock off ur head or neck in fact hit something BT if u think coming here to get supporters to destroy wat we av build is going to make us crack, den I can c how frustrated u r. Mind ur damn biz cos its enough trouble for u. Mtcheew....

Parley. Truth, they say is bitter. So it's either u take it or u leave it!

File!!! Don't touch it {in Dbanj's voice}

Rapmoney:

I would even suggest you use the money you spend on regular, boring and long phone calls on ONLINE BETTING because you cold be wasting your resources on a girl someone else is 'EATING'
!

Hmm!
Spend your money on ONLINE BETTING Not on a girl someone else is EATING.
Like this part. what a revelation!
Op, You are senseful, carry on!

prettythicksme:
Yea

we will soon .............. close ranks lol

hmmm! nice write up anyway bt I wnt u to knw dt if u cnt trust ur partner at her back then u will find it difficult to trust her even if she's closer to u. did u knw dt most breakup comes frm partners who lived together? wht did u have to say about dt. i'v been involve in distance relatnship nd till date we are still together, d only thing I we try nt to lack is constant communication. u talk of sex, romance etc, pls I s dt d foundation of a relatnship, I cnt remember d last time I had sex nd dt does not stop me frm living my life, mind u I reside in ABUJA nd my lady just completed her youth service in akure. Someone calls me frm akure nd told me my lady is d only he had met dt refuse to enter a pepper soup joint with him simply bcus she cn only do dt with me. wht I'm trying to say is dt dnt generalize ur conclusion simply bcus it happened to u. I appreciate d fact dt one should nt stay long nd also if u dnt knw where d journey is leading g to, dere is no need getting involve in it. shalom

robosky02:


we will soon .............. close ranks lol

Really?

prettythicksme:
Really?

taaaaaaaaaaaa see your mind lol

sirmmykay:
hmmm! nice write up anyway bt I wnt u to knw dt if u cnt trust ur partner at her back then u will find it difficult to trust her even if she's closer to u. did u knw dt most breakup comes frm partners who lived together? wht did u have to say about dt. i'v been involve in distance relatnship nd till date we are still together, d only thing I we try nt to lack is constant communication. u talk of sex, romance etc, pls I s dt d foundation of a relatnship, I cnt remember d last time I had sex nd dt does not stop me frm living my life, mind u I reside in ABUJA nd my lady just completed her youth service in akure. Someone calls me frm akure nd told me my lady is d only he had met dt refuse to enter a pepper soup joint with him simply bcus she cn only do dt with me. wht I'm trying to say is dt dnt generalize ur conclusion simply bcus it happened to u. I appreciate d fact dt one should nt stay long nd also if u dnt knw where d journey is leading g to, dere is no need getting involve in it. shalom

I live in Akure, & I know of a sleek banker in Alagbaka constantly servicing ur girl. I know u in person, & i graduated from d same Uni wt ur girl. I do not want to reveal anyone's identity here, but if u dare me, I will nt only reveal ur own identity, but I will also do dat of ur girl.

Op is only advising u & ur there displaying how foolish u are.

lol bro e be like say you dey listen to my call sometimes...

Rapmoney:
When dem no know wetin to talk for phone again, the guy go dey ask the babe, 'What did you eat this evening?' !!! Hehehe See problem o! Tomorrow, e go still ask the same question! Is it not just so boring?

That is not true, everybody with different missions on what u want from ur relationship. Sex is not all u need to be sure that u love ur partner. Trust, faithfulness, understanding and love are the fundation of what I call mature and serious relationship. I am 101 percent in a distance relationship and is working out PERFECTLY. u just need to find the right person and let God do the rest, that is what we did. Though making plans already and please guys pray for us for successful celebration.

Tell them OP, Was serving some years ago and i met someone that was in a relationship, the bf will be calling and be professing love all the time at the same time nagging at every little thing. i just jejely put on my caring and loving skills and was doing the needful. You understand shey!!! My point is, its a no for me when it comes to distant relationship ,From experience , i wouldnt advise one, but if you feel you can handle it, good for you. i have lost 2 gf all in the name of distant relationship.

sirmmykay:
hmmm! nice write up anyway bt I wnt u to knw dt if u cnt trust ur partner at her back then u will find it difficult to trust her even if she's closer to u. did u knw dt most breakup comes frm partners who lived together? wht did u have to say about dt. i'v been involve in distance relatnship nd till date we are still together, d only thing I we try nt to lack is constant communication. u talk of sex, romance etc, pls I s dt d foundation of a relatnship, I cnt remember d last time I had sex nd dt does not stop me frm living my life, mind u I reside in ABUJA nd my lady just completed her youth service in akure. Someone calls me frm akure nd told me my lady is d only he had met dt refuse to enter a pepper soup joint with him simply bcus she cn only do dt with me. wht I'm trying to say is dt dnt generalize ur conclusion simply bcus it happened to u. I appreciate d fact dt one should nt stay long nd also if u dnt knw where d journey is leading g to, dere is no need getting involve in it. shalom

Irrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnuuuuuuuuuu...............Abbbaaaaaaacccccccccchhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaa!

I stay in Benin, my girlfriend stays in uyo and we have been dating for three years plus now.....i met her a virgin and she still remians a virgin till now.....the love has not reduced a bit........even when I was not forthcoming, she held out and kept the relationship......one thing keeping her is the fact that she is so focused on her books,nothing interests her for now....you know a virgin when you are with one.....so no doubts

IamforGod:


Good points! But my major concern is why you had to give an example about ladies and nt give about guys. Are u saying guys are always faithful during distance relationships?

Secondly, why are u rude to people commenting? you are the owner of the thread, I expect you to embrace any comment that comes either good or bad cos it thier opinion.

I wasn't rude to anyone o! Am a cool and humble dude.

Tnycee:
lol bro e be like say you dey listen to my call sometimes...

Lol bro! I nor sey listen to una conversation o!

aktem:
Every relationship will sooner or later bcom a distant relationship, even if u guyz ar in dsame skul,what if u want 2 go 4 ur NYSC&she's still in 200l,300l or 400l,what ar u gonna do abt dat?..or maybe u guyz stay in dsame location @home&she's studying in a different higher institution, wont u guyz eventually go 2 ur respective skuls?.I'm in a long distance relationship(although nt dat long) bt i'm nt passing tru any emotional torment cos "babe wey go Bleep anoda guy go Bleep am,even wen u dey dsame hostel"&even in dis 21st century,most relationship is just like u're playing a game.I have my future 2 focus on than thinking if one babe is cheating on me,if she like,make she cheat&wen i'm ready 2 marry,i knw what 2 do.Guyz,just make sure u ar nt a loser in any relationship u engage in,datz d REAL DEAL.

one of my hostel mates was dating a guy five buildings from my hostel but she would still come and have sex with me..........one day she was sick and the guy visited her in my hostel and couldnt go that night, she still sneaked out of her room to still come and collect......just buttressing your point that who would cheat would cheat