Nihilist:


What the flipping heck?

How is this related to the statement 'Bad choices are based on character'?

Nevermind strawman, you're looking like you're constructing an entire straw battalion...

If you can infer from my username, that I actually reject all forms of morality and religion, then it follows that one could infere that you are sentient Television who has somehow gained access to the Internet to engage in a particularly nauseaous brand of moral posturing.

I'm done with this. Goodnight 'TV'

Kimoni:
And so kimoni is posting here again
Francistony, Ghjoes and all the other bitter and frustrated women out there
Can you bring it on?



Guys, sorry I am doing this here. My postings on this thread is apparently giving some hypertension
I see that statement everywhere on NL
They need to bring it on right now and meet their waterloo cuz I won't stop posting here
They should go and improve their mental faculty rather than jolosing those who do

Kimoni:
And so kimoni is posting here again
Francistony, Ghjoes and all the other bitter and frustrated women out there
Can you bring it on?



Guys, sorry I am doing this here. My postings on this thread is apparently giving some hypertension
I see that statement everywhere on NL
They need to bring it on right now and meet their waterloo cuz I won't stop posting here
They should go and improve their mental faculty rather than jolosing those who do

5minsmadness:
Why are there so many "feminised" males on nairaland though. Is it so in real life?

5minsmadness:
Why are there so many "feminised" males on nairaland though. Is it so in real life?

Kimoni:
And so kimoni is posting here again
Francistony, Ghjoes and all the other bitter and frustrated women out there
Can you bring it on?



Guys, sorry I am doing this here. My postings on this thread is apparently giving some hypertension
I see that statement everywhere on NL
They need to bring it on right now and meet their waterloo cuz I won't stop posting here
They should go and improve their mental faculty rather than jolosing those who do

TV01:
Mindfulness, when you came back arrived , you presented a sunny, reconciliatory even, demeanour. And you also appeared to adopt a neutral position, being very “non-judgemental” and asking a lot of questions.

I was always happy to answer any posed my way and I know a few others were as well, Now after hearing more from you, I’d like to ask some of my own.

Most of us would consider our positions to be rooted in truth and morally sound – if we are being serious and not just having a laugh or outright trolling. I would like to believe you do too.

I’ve heard you say things like;

- A person “has a right” to pursue her feelings, regardless of the fallout or impact on others
- That that person has no responsibility for what happens to others
- That you know how to make yourself happy, and a persons responsibility is first to make themselves happy
- I’ve heard you talk “ emotional health” and throw the term “healing” around a lot. And talk of not judging or condemning
- You talk about how emotionally healthy people are not dependent or shouldn’t suffer if people leave them or walk out of their lives.

In sum, your ideology/theology appears to me to be “self(ish)-help” at best and a kind of “do as thy will at worst”?

Would you care to explain a little more, and answer the specific questions. They won’t be all at once and each response may or Appreciate if you would rather not.

As noted this one is primarily for Mindfulness, but I sense that MizMyColi is treading the same path, so I’m happy for your contributions also - and of course, anyone else who is treading this path or simply interested.

Consider it a proper invite to the men’ thread

First question; Does this "path" or journey have a name? If so what is it? Do you consider it ideology/theology/philosophy or just lifestyle. I know I said 1 question and it is really


TV

ApexTitan:


It's bad everywhere; real life, nairaland, mainstream media, everywhere. T[b]oo many men who go out of their way to appease women at the expense of their own dignity[/b], it's sad to watch.

Just five minutes ago before I logged on here I was trying to watch a tv show (The Newsroom season 3) but I had to stop in disgust - all the male characters who were supposedly reasonable men were absolute simps or buffoons. I come online and see all kinds of excuses men make for women and I begin to wonder if there is any hope at all. Everywhere you turn there is an emasculated man singing the same song.

5minsmadness:
Why are there so many "feminised" males on nairaland though. Is it so in real life?

ApexTitan:
It's bad everywhere; real life, nairaland, mainstream media, everywhere. Too many men who go out of their way to appease women at the expense of their own dignity, it's sad to watch.
Just five minutes ago before I logged on here I was trying to watch a tv show (The Newsroom season 3) but I had to stop in disgust - all the male characters who were supposedly reasonable men were absolute simps or buffoons. I come online and see all kinds of excuses men make for women and I begin to wonder if there is any hope at all. Everywhere you turn there is an emasculated man singing the same song.

5minsmadness:


Someone posts a very reasonable comment here on how to make choices in life concerning the opposite gender, and a male rushes in like voltron, like he gets paid to lay off his own gender. And there are more examples like this all over nairaland. It baffles me no end.

there is something someone said about francis here while dissing him that made me think though. Is it possible that more boys are being raised by single moms and in the process these same single moms transfer their hatred of the male species to thier male kids hence emasculating them? I mean, women are vindictive, its the kind of thing most of them can do, raise a child to hate all men because of what one man did to you.

Then again is it because they so desperately want the V? I have seen young men do extremely stupid things just so they can gain favour with the female folk so as to get into their pants. I understand that hustle but I wonder dont they have any male pride in them? Dont they have any shame at all?

Most guys I know will always stand up to defend a woman, dont get me wrong. Its the simpering weakling approach and insisting that a woman can do no wrong that bothers me.

Chillisauce:
Where is coogar.

Cooooooooogaaaaaaaar.
Come in here let's talk about putting you on a regime to work on that stomach

Since you have been shouting fit fit fit. I no no say you carry mama Ngozi belly

Coogarrrrr

Come out where ever you are .........

5minsmadness:
Why are there so many "feminised" males on nairaland though. Is it so in real life?

TV01:
Mindfulness, when you came back arrived , you presented a sunny, reconciliatory even, demeanour. And you also appeared to adopt a neutral position, being very “non-judgemental” and asking a lot of questions.

I was always happy to answer any posed my way and I know a few others were as well, Now after hearing more from you, I’d like to ask some of my own.

Most of us would consider our positions to be rooted in truth and morally sound – if we are being serious and not just having a laugh or outright trolling. I would like to believe you do too.

I’ve heard you say things like;

- A person “has a right” to pursue her feelings, regardless of the fallout or impact on others

- That that person has no responsibility for what happens to others

- That you know how to make yourself happy, and a persons responsibility is first to make themselves happy

- I’ve heard you talk “ emotional health” and throw the term “healing” around a lot. And talk of not judging or condemning

- You talk about how emotionally healthy people are not dependent or shouldn’t suffer if people leave them or walk out of their lives.

In sum, your ideology/theology appears to me to be “self(ish)-help” at best and a kind of “do as thy will at worst”?

Would you care to explain a little more, and answer the specific questions. They won’t be all at once and each response may take time to be fully understood., so this may be a convo over time. Appreciate if you would rather not.
As noted this one is primarily for Mindfulness, but I sense that MizMyColi is treading the same path, so I’m happy for your contributions also - and of course, anyone else who is treading this path or simply interested.

Consider it a proper invite to the men’ thread

First question; Does this "path" or journey have a name? If so what is it? Do you consider it ideology/theology/philosophy or just lifestyle. I know I said 1 question and it is really


TV

MizMyColi:
@Mindfulness


I'm trying not to be overly expressive here, so I don't seem socially awkward....

Y'know what?

Fvck that!

I could sooo hug you right now!!!
Waow!
That was some brilliance.
Waow! Waowzest.

Lolzzz




Quite frankly, it's either I didn't read the emboldened above, or I mumble jumbled it because, I was subconsciously keen on reading her reply.

Having said all she has, there's not one bit I disagree with.
If I were to add anything, it'd be mere repetition using different words.

If you would, I'd prefer I answer questions directed at me.

Thanks and Good Evening From Nigeria, TV01.

pickabeau1:
Please can you leave all this philosophy girlie stuff from here

This is the boys room

pickabeau1:
Please can you leave all this philosophy girlie stuff from here

This is the boys room

pickabeau1:
Please can you leave all this philosophy girlie stuff from here

This is the boys room

damiso:


Oga pick you know I don't cross your boys room boundary but because I follow you I saw this post ..


Permit me to



Am sure your madam must not dare enter your 'man cave ' study or room curl her weave on.

Mindfulness:

I am on the VIP invitation list.

pickabeau1:


Good day ma'am
We like to have the ladies post but the posts must be something we can relate to
Lol



Post something we can relate to

Mindfulness:




Nobody is responsible for someone else's happiness.



Emotionally healthy people surround themselves with people and things that are good for them. I don't want to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do but it is possible to be happy regardless of conditions and circumstances. It has been a very liberating lesson for me to understand that I do not need anyone to feel good and that my spouse's presence or absence is not necessary for me to feel great. From this place, I can love my spouse unconditionally even when the person leaves and I am so full of happiness and joy that my spouse loves to be around me. I do not place on anyone the responsibility and burden of me feeling good and satisfied. Whatever you do for me, you do it freely and if you can't do it from a place of joy, you don't have to do it at all. I, for my part, have a lot of love to share.



My ideology is that it is good to be selfish and that by being selfish I have a lot to offer. My theology is that we are all Gods / Goddesses.



It doesn't have a name. It is a spiritual journey but my personal one and not bound to any particular school of thought, philosophy or ideology. I am notorious for cherry-picking. I am in love with Buddhism as a life style and I embrace many of the Christian core values, as I understand and interpret them, but I am neither a Buddhist nor a Christian. I am a divine and eternal being and I believe that everyone else is, too. Even those who irritate me at times.