Strahovski:
End time... real end time
What some women are begging for
Cc lasisi69 Bcc Seun

honestly. see life! some people like suffer head ehn!

QueenValerie thank you. you just saved me the stress of typing. op, listen to her.

U're complaining of him being too carin nd considerate bt u called him sick d only time he would not consider what u ar doin cos he wants to have sex...



Bravo OP

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Secondly You lack the caring instinct of a mother; if you did, you would have known how to adjust your husband to fit your specs, with Love. Cant you see he is as a child to you? I wonder how you would care for kids with special needs with an attitude of insensitivity like this...
Thirdly, you are inconsiderate; Because you know that's how he is and yet you choose to exploit his shortcomings/weaknesses, then complain in the end- You should be ashamed of yourself.

I don't agree with you completely, A woman should be a woman while a man should be a man it is called a conventional family setting, if she was raised in a conventional home, chances are that she will want her hubby to lead the marriage, it is not insensitivity.
Now, she has a feeling that she married a woman and decides to put her theory to a test, that was where the ATM ish came about, it is not being inconsiderate, it is being logical and perhaps scientific, most of you don't understand that speculations are no substitute for facts, she can not appeal to anyone for advice without a practical conviction of the situation.
The man failed the test woefully, a man who allows his wife to waste his earnings on a frivolous trip without question is not a man in any sense of it, he practically believes that so long as his wife is concerned, she can eat his future for all he cares, that should call for serious intervention, it is wrong to assume that the woman is insensitive, she was actually expecting to be rebuked.

Fourthly, You are the solitary lady- basically you love doing your thingys alone. It's unfortunate you married a man who values company and companionship, now in marriage, the definition of you is "Selfish" because all you lookout for is "You" ... sorry girl thats the picture I see.
Fifth, Your perspective of marriage is so shallow... And I have a deep pity for you because you still think marriage is post courtship, an indirect reflection of your psychological immaturity (Geez I'm really sorry for the bluntness but I just cant help it)

Nothing in her expose suggests or insinuates this conclusion of yours, you must have serious comprehension problems, she only asked the hubby not to remove the damn underwears while she is studying, who needs to be reminded of that?
I believe the man must have paid for the academic exercise as such common sense demands that he should get value for his money, how does distracting your wife while studying guarantee that?
How did you mis understand her Salon story, it is embarrassing when your hubby is the only male in a female salon, the women can't talk freely because of that and the woman is watching out for him reason she complained, who knows if other customers are already making side comments?

Sixth, You are just not romantic period.... (A wife beater would have suited you just fine)
If you think people will come and sympathize with you here on Nairaland for your woes and complaints on this matter, you are wrong, very wrong .... Go and analyse your shortcomings woman and fix up your marriage.
Overall I feel bad for your husband- it's really not his fault. He married a girl not a woman. (Sorry girl just being blunt)

Removing her underwears while studying is romantic? crap! it is actually s!lly! Ecclesiastes 3 says there is time for everything, a time to study and a time to fvck, just you and her hubby doesn't understand that.
Just wondering why you skipped that part of your bible.
Most of you support this dumb man because majority of the guys here are equally dumb. Marriage is not for boys but men, quitting the marriage is not an option no doubt about that but you can not tell me this lady does not have a serious issue to deal with simply because some men are unreasonable.

uzolexis:


Shut it. I'm tired of reading silly comments like this "when others r praying for your type of husband bal bla bla" would you like to marry a woman that fflws you about like a dog, cannot think for herself and looks up to you to make every decision, does not give you personal space. Would you It's like you are in a bondage/prison.
Yes, we want caring spouses but you can do that without encroaching on your spouse's personal space.

What is a spouse personal space? Women/girls are soooo doooooommmmbbb! Well, great I love my personal space, many men do which gives them the room to have better girlfriends than the liability girls like you actually are! Well, that is why men who've seen the uselessness of girls like you know it is a man's world and will actually show it to your face! Some men try very hard to just be a good enough man to a good woman, but hear a woman still complain? Time for your man to go haywire and punch your nose and lips until they break and bleed one moment, say sorry but not really sorry because next time he will pregnant a small girl ask you to leave you beg, he lets you stay and then whips you with an iron belt, etc. I bet this is the type of man fhoolish girls like you deserve and should get.

uzolexis:


OP I totally understand how you feel? I have been in that type of blood suckling relationship, the guy was crazy about me,told all my friends to stop calling me Uzo n call me her eminence,called me 100 times a day. It's tiring I tell you,everyone needs some me time. When I made up my mind to break up with him,my brother was scared for me, he said the boy could kill me and then commit sucide so both of us would die together and advised me to do it in an open place. Yes,it was that bad.
It was easier for me to walk away cos it was a bf/gf thing but marriage is not as easy to walk away from, talk to him about it and if he doesn't change,you guys should see a marriage counsellor.
Wish you a blissful marriage.

Come and complete this story ooo.

rhymaster:


What is a spouse personal space? Women/girls are soooo doooooommmmbbb! Well, great I love my personal space, many men do which gives them the room to have better girlfriends than the liability girls like you actually are! Well, that is why men who've seen the uselessness of girls like you know it is a man's world and will actually show it to your face! Some men try very hard to just be a good enough man to a good woman, but hear a woman still complain? Time for your man to go haywire and punch your nose and lips until they break and bleed one moment, say sorry but not really sorry because next time he will pregnant a small girl ask you to leave you beg, he lets you stay and then whips you with an iron belt, etc. I bet this is the type of man fhoolish girls like you deserve and should get.

So all you do with your free time is chase girls? It's no wonder you still have this primitive mindset.
Her husband is obsessed about her and it's unhealthy and dangerous. Have you heard of crimes of passion?? It's behaviours like this that lead to that. There is a difference btw love and obsession.
My dear, pls read more with your free time and don't use all of it to go after girls.
I am dating an amazing guy who loves me but he has a mind of his own as well, he has never hit me and would never do that. We argue a lot about stuff, he doesn't lick my feet or fall at my feet like a dog, or do everything I say even if it doesn't make sense. That my friend is the difference btw love and obsession.

enstack:


I had to respond to you. Perhaps you are missing the point here. I never said he is too loving or something. If i am to write all the silly things he does in the name of love you wont even be able to read it all. I just put a few.

Even neighbors around have noticed it. They have called me to order many times! His elder sister accused me of giving him a love portion. Its that bad! You call this love? Then I'm sorry i don't want such love anymore. The other day, i asked him to purchase something for me, he had no money, instead of him to talk to me about being short on funds, he went to take a loan to get it. Something that even I dont need so urgently(He is still owing his partner for it)

So sir, read again and understand! Dont be to hasty in talking or commenting. Call me a girl, Its no big deal. After all, this same Man threatened to stand in the middle of the road if i dont accompany him on his field trip. This type of a man can commit suicide if i dont give him what he wants at a given time.

Everything is problem to women.

Opetech:


Come and complete this story ooo.

That is THE END

enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

When I first met my husband, it was in a library. We talked briefly and we became close. I have had past relationships in my life so I was careful as possible. I realised that he had no past relationship. He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Now it has gotten worse. Everytime he does anything I want without asking questions. At first I enjoyed it but now I'm starting to worry about him as it's getting out of hand. He does not display any act of manliness in the house. He behaves like my puppet or my foot stool. The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that. Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I try to talk to him but he would feel so sad like I have taken smething away. I don't understand.

If I'm studying at night, he would suddenly begin to romance me and strip me of my clothing without saying anything first when he can see I'm studying. If I rebuke him, he would be very sad. Every time he must have one intimate relation with me everyday and life does not work that way. I don't know if it's immaturity or he is sick mentally. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

Please Nairalanders what is happening? I love him still and divorce would be my last resort. I need your advice and help on how to fix this because I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you all.

Madam sorry to be rude but you really are not serious. Some of you women could be confusing, it seems you should have married a player because you don't deserve this guy at all. You should have married someone that would constantly cheat on you or has so much experience with women. That is how a lot of inexperienced men behave if you don't know, I was also obsessed with my first gf until I understood women a lot better
If he's too clingy, trust me there are better ways of handling this since you are more experienced when it comes to relationship matters. Right now, if I see an inexperienced babe I go happy die cuz I know how I'll handle the whole clingy & nagging problem
For better or worse, work it out. There are lots of ladies out there that desperately want to be married.

uzolexis:


This is not love this is obsession and it's very unhealthy not to mention dangerous as well.

They need to see a marriage counsellor and he needs professional help.

the day married men take advice from single unmarried People without experience will be he day.

uzolexis:

That is THE END

Lolz, let me just believe you, let me just.

drnoel:


the day married men take advice from single unmarried People without experience will be he day.

As you can see,i also advised her to see a marriage counsellor as I don't consider myself an expert in marriage issues.

Nigerian Crazy Mentality. NCM.




Yeye dey mess, if he dey beat you like fufu now, you go tok.

he gives yhu good loving,he gives u care,he gives u money, he gives u sex,he gives u warmth and he gives u attention....and all u hv to gv him back is complains...God how do singles like us get a good woman

Opetech:


Lolz, let me just believe you, let me just.

Lol,you don't have a choice

where is kanwuliajara when you need her mbok come give this op small injection

i understand u perfectly well. if i wasnt married i would have condemned his behaviour too. The fact is that u are a lucky woman, i dont want to say u dont deserve him cos u dont understand what God has done for u. Start treating him nicely, love and care for him. Believe me, if u lose grip of him u would not get him back!

I couldn't find the right words for your husband in any of the dictionaries here but Mama Onibooli said your husband is Andogi.
Yes real Andogi, but you can make him wise by taking one of your concubines home and have sex in your husband's presence. I swear you will know that hell is even better than some conditions

I understand the op but divorce is totally out of it y do u want to break his heart wen u knew he was like this and u still married him that's selfishness.
your husband is simply obsessed and has low self esteem like seriously when I read does submission and cuckold stories I do not even believe they exist.y would he want to follow you to a women convention that silly even going to the salon with you.make sure he never does that again before tongues start wagging cuz women generally prefer a dominating man too much of everything is bad and he is showing too much love
as for the sex when u studying there is nothing wrong jhur love dey shack am just let him knw when u're reading isn't the best time to get intimate.talk to him to stop texting u at work gosh these are what guys do that get them in d friendzone sef.no body z gonna stop me 4rm watching my football by it could that hubby wasn't enjoying the match tho.
ur hubby can't be changed but can be improved tho.he is mentally weak and feels he can't do without u.trying to change him might bring out the mike Tyson sha but seriously if my wife cums back around 12 due to traffic I go just chill let her get some rest but we must talk about it the next day same with the ATM too but ur husband z kinda weak and sister he can't be changed its your cross to take charge so do a good job in taking charge and maintaining the family. don't tell his friends oh if he finds out it will reduce his confidence and self esteem the more

Madam, i understand how you feel but the solution to this very issue is in "Communication," sit your husband down and discuss the issue with him, talk to him with sincerity and respect.
This is a very sensitive matter, ensure you talk to him in a way that you won't be chasing him out of the house/arms cause there are millions of women out there waiting to have this man you are complaining as it is always said that one man's food is another man's poison.
Finally, pray to God and commit your marriage into God's hand. Marraige isnt a bed of roses, stay positive, wishing you success.

#Team no divorce....

Enu e lo wa yen.

olamisowon1:
I understand u so well. If I were in your shoe I would feel the same way. I want a caring and understanding man for a husband but I won't appreciate one that will end up choking me- I need my space too. I broke up with a guy for this reason too. I ve a strong personality so I don't need ode for a husband.

I really don't know what you can do cos thats who he is. Just take him as he is. Best of luck.

divorce is not the option madam...u need to talk to him, he's just being too caring

the movie pyaar impossible does justice to your husbands case he might be feeling inferior to u or maybe he just feels you are more experienced and wants u to show him the way in any case simply try to but his ego,confidence level and self esteem if there is a decision to be made and he brings it to u remind him that he is the man of the house and he should make the decision with little suggestions from u

I hope you're not dating another man yet ? If not; the only thing you need to do is step up your game by doing those things he does; which obviously is your duty (House Chores) gradually he'll start gaining his pride.

Your write up also indicates you don't have kids yet ? if so, why are you staying of from sex?
I bet that part of his attention will shift on the children when you start making kids; "abi person wey go pay child school fees fit give you his ATM just like that" .. do your bit

enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

When I first met my husband, it was in a library. We talked briefly and we became close. I have had past relationships in my life so I was careful as possible. I realised that he had no past relationship. He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Now it has gotten worse. Everytime he does anything I want without asking questions. At first I enjoyed it but now I'm starting to worry about him as it's getting out of hand. He does not display any act of manliness in the house. He behaves like my puppet or my foot stool. The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that. Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I try to talk to him but he would feel so sad like I have taken smething away. I don't understand.

If I'm studying at night, he would suddenly begin to romance me and strip me of my clothing without saying anything first when he can see I'm studying. If I rebuke him, he would be very sad. Every time he must have one intimate relation with me everyday and life does not work that way. I don't know if it's immaturity or he is sick mentally. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

Please Nairalanders what is happening? I love him still and divorce would be my last resort. I need your advice and help on how to fix this because I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you all.

I have been hearing of this kind of your husband but never knew they existed. But don't loose gut, He can change with influence from friends, at least 10% . I wish am his friend, I would have bring out some manliness in him.

enstack:

I think you better leave him so, just be good on your part as a wife, one change may lead to a complete overhaul of his personality, you may end up regretting

enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

When I first met my husband, it was in a library. We talked briefly and we became close. I have had past relationships in my life so I was careful as possible. I realised that he had no past relationship. He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Now it has gotten worse. Everytime he does anything I want without asking questions. At first I enjoyed it but now I'm starting to worry about him as it's getting out of hand. He does not display any act of manliness in the house. He behaves like my puppet or my foot stool. The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that. Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I try to talk to him but he would feel so sad like I have taken smething away. I don't understand.

If I'm studying at night, he would suddenly begin to romance me and strip me of my clothing without saying anything first when he can see I'm studying. If I rebuke him, he would be very sad. Every time he must have one intimate relation with me everyday and life does not work that way. I don't know if it's immaturity or he is sick mentally. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

Please Nairalanders what is happening? I love him still and divorce would be my last resort. I need your advice and help on how to fix this because I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you all.

I have been hearing of this kind of your husband but never knew they existed. But don't loose gut, He can change with influence from friends, at least 10% . I wish am his friend, I would have bring out some manliness in him.

And your fault, you appeared not to be that Romantic

My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help
compared to
My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag

https://www.nairaland.com/1366681/husband-turned-me-punching-bag

The above is a link that appears as a related thread to this thread you created enstack. A further look at your post suggests you are not the original lady involved but a friend of hers that wants her to come over to nairaland and see people's reaction and their views.

enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

Your hubby has his flaws but I believe you are the one extreming this love.

Over many years of observation, I realised that people end up despising most what they at one time appreciated.
A good conversationalist becomes talks too much
A wonderful smile becomes always shing teeth without control
Same old thing but being too close changes how one perceives it later

He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Simple don't ask for anything if you don't really need it. In case you already have gotten it you could simply return it. Problem solved

The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that.

Secretely a lot of ladies at your work place would 'kill' I mean it really kill to be the synosure of all eyes that an hubby would create time at his to call then or do you feel that those that have not been receiving such do not want it?

Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

Seriously depriving him for weeks! This man has segregated himself by singling you out as his sex partner and no other.
Try get this orientation about sex. He has every right to use your body to satisfy his sexual desires same as you have his. Apostle paul refers to this as regular marriage relations. Do not feel as if you are doing him a favour. If you feel his libido is too high try get him a intimacy gadget to balance the time you are incapacitated to join him. On the other hand it could be you are not getting a kick out of sex as you should be, might be he comes too early or does not know all the tricks he should be performing. Tell him to get educational knowledge to up his forte (definately not porn). His friends or good google search should help him out on 'how to please your woman in bed'. By the time he gets it right you probable might be the aggressive one. Ever seen anyone spit out good honey?

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in.

Forget that thing or do you believe that those women agreeing with you that he is a woman wrapper because you said so do not wish to have his digits and get back to him later on only to play a recording of you saying so and work their way to being 'the woman who appreciates him'.
Men do follow their women to salons not a biggie. sorry if your 'friends' are not so lucky.

On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there.

I can relate to this. My wife once mistakingly felled the baby in her arms and I said nothing. She later came around to say it pained her more that I did not accuse her than if I did. I laughed. Why step on someone that is already on the floor. It was obvious it was unintentional.

The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

Wait who is the one asking for silly things - you. Who is the one complaining when he does them - same you. Now who is the source of the problem? The bible recommends that men love their wives. You have also agreed that he is kind and has love. He just cares. Well maybe excessively but you have the power to control how it goes.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

There is no way you do not know his salary or financial projections considering you virtually control him yet you went on to 'spend excessively'. No kill this man. Do not take his gentility for granted.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

You know he would assent to all thing involving you, you ask for it, he gives you and you end up complaining about him listening to your desires. He has chosen to be to you a friend married rather than a professional husband which I can assuredly say is the better of the two.

If you simply do not want him just let him go rather than do as if you are doing him a favour by staying in the marriage. One thing I do know is that man you so despise for what you call feminity is one in a million. Manage him well and you would reap its fruits. Do otherwise and you would also reap its fruits. When the years have gone by you would have one story or the other to tell. By the way I am pro #noDivorce and you deserve to be happy. I know you will do the right thing.

Wishing you well my dear - Teemy

enstack:
I had to create a new account just to post this as it's quite sensitive. It's quite lengthy too but I'll be brief. I need mature and friendly advice from people here.

When I first met my husband, it was in a library. We talked briefly and we became close. I have had past relationships in my life so I was careful as possible. I realised that he had no past relationship. He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him.

Now it has gotten worse. Everytime he does anything I want without asking questions. At first I enjoyed it but now I'm starting to worry about him as it's getting out of hand. He does not display any act of manliness in the house. He behaves like my puppet or my foot stool. The other day he was watching the soccer game and I just jokingly mentioned how boring it was and I would prefer the faith channel. He changed the channel to the faith channel just like that. Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out.

I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I try to talk to him but he would feel so sad like I have taken smething away. I don't understand.

If I'm studying at night, he would suddenly begin to romance me and strip me of my clothing without saying anything first when he can see I'm studying. If I rebuke him, he would be very sad. Every time he must have one intimate relation with me everyday and life does not work that way. I don't know if it's immaturity or he is sick mentally. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ.

I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting.

I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk?

Please Nairalanders what is happening? I love him still and divorce would be my last resort. I need your advice and help on how to fix this because I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you all.

kindly refer me to the baba that did the jazz for you


cuz from the look of things its over working

ibnzubair:


I think you better leave him so, just be good on your part as a wife, one change may lead to a complete overhaul of his personality, you may end up regretting

one change may lead to a complete overhaul of his personality

looks like thats wat she actually needs