i'm one of those introverted guys and i don't know why you guyz are making it sound cool i hate being the way i am most times.... i'm one of those introverted guys and i don't know why you guyz are making it sound cool i hate being the way i am most times....

Joy189:
Op u are correct. I have an introvert male friend. I like him very much because of his creative thinking & he is also kind.

right. guys.

this is the fate of all us introvert guys. we will dwell in the friend zone for a long time.. amen.

I think the worst part about being introverted, not just in romantic relationships but in any setting at all, is the fact that EVERYONE(note the emphasis) misunderstands you, even folks who are probably just as introverted themselves but are probably not aware that there is a thing called that.

People everywhere look at you with suspicion. Like, you talk very little and mostly keep to yourself, that means you must have something up your sleeves,and it mustn't be something nice!

Some outrightly antagonize you for no reason whatsoever.

Some can dedicate a whole day observing you, trying to DECODE your behavioral patterns.

Some believe you are just too full of yourself and wonder why a person can be so proud? As in like, wetin dey give this guy morale sef?

Some will just ignore you completely!

As for relating with the opposite sex, hmmmm, different story!

I consider myself a Charmer(quite cute too, infact a guy once told me I fine like woman.lol). And I have yet to see a girl who wouldn't fall for my charmingly beautiful smile no matter how pretty. We can hit it off right the first time. I can even "number-close"(for those of you who know a thing or two about pick-up). But immediately after that, by some strange stroke of fate, they would stop answering after the first or second phone interaction or they won't even answer the first time(well except for those who are really needy and stuff).
I don't know how that happens.

The longest relationship I've had lasted about 6 months. And that was when I was in school and mostly just involved only sex cos I was too broke and too introverted to take her out most times(although she compensated for that by keeping multiple guys).

I am fast approaching 30 with no girlfriend whatsoever. I don't want to believe its normal.
But then again, I think of the fact that many years ago, I made up my mind that my major definite goal in life was to achieve Financial Security and so, every other thing(relationships inclusive) is a distraction since I don't multi-task. I will get married when I am ready. Afterall, having a girlfriend cannot be seen as an achievement anywhere.
And on several occasions, I ve tested my "marketability" by asking random pretty girls to marry me. To which some smiled and said they would "pray" over it.
So I don't think anything is wrong with me.
Am good.

edoziebobbyyahoocom:
i'm one of those introverted guys and i don't know why you guyz are making it sound cool i hate being the way i am most times.... i'm one of those introverted guys and i don't know why you guyz are making it sound cool i hate being the way i am most times....

Recreate ursef bro. And if u can't, then just live with it!

RobinHez:
And someone is able to explain me this good?

*modified*

Yea...I can attest to the fact that I always want space...always want to be on my own. Reasons why I go fidgety when I'm around that gender. It gets worse when I'm spending more than the allocated time for them.

Lately, I've been trying to help myself from it, trying to see if I can improve....we'll see about the final results.

Haha...the 'phone-pressing' part from a comment is so true. We're not usually 'pinging' but its often misunderstood; when u're always glued to ur phone.

Hold on...
*reads title of thread*
It's for those in a relationship! Arggh...
Oh well...I already typed all that stuff up, I'm too lazy to modify again.

Typical me ^^ always doing things in reflex mode::::75%- robin-instinct 24%- actual-thinking-before-acting.
Then I sit back to watch the consequences of my un-planned actions..


What am I saying sef? I need sleep..

*runs out*

dude, chill.

if you read my diary, you'll find that I often act similarly. I tried for sometime to change my character, but I didn't succeed, so . . . i thought, what the hell, I don't give a damn.


and so I've embraced my quirks. who cares about what others think of me, right?

and I'm totally happy being nice to girls. sure, all of them will friend zone me anyway. but it's cool anyways. books can't friend zone me.

Teempakguy:
dude, chill.

if you read my diary, you'll find that I often act similarly. I tried for sometime to change my character, but I didn't succeed, so . . . i thought, what the hell, I don't give a damn.


and so I've embraced my quirks. who cares about what others think of me, right?

and I'm totally happy being nice to girls. sure, all of them will friend zone me anyway. but it's cool anyways. books can't friend zone me.

U won't get married to books.

Hmmm, I'm part of dis crew

U just defined me bro.

I wish there's a way I could thank you for this piece,short n precise. introverts are not user friendly but if/when a worthy person breaks that wall,they would have found paradise but ladies just won't learn. I've suffered this misinterpretation a lot this past six years, so unfortunate.

Hmmm

Op,stop exposing us. Geez!

Thank God i can post on nairaland

petkruz:
No way,i'v gone down that lane before! Introverts are very hard ppl to deal with.My ex was so bad that he never went out with his friends a whole year,he hardly forgives,when i'm hanging out he frowns,he doesn't like my friends coming around. The only thing that interests him is reading and sex,everyother thing was irrelevant.

If u hv the guts, den ask him honestly gently appealin2tell u hw it happened.......shocker is u caused it, u pushed him off the edge in2dat low corner......im introvt, and my ex dd ds exact same2me for two yrs out of the four yrs we were 2geda....now its 1yr3mths sins i got guts2quit and im stl sufferin@dat corner but no feeln of unfogvns doh..........he doesnt lik outside tinz 90% den cut ur outsidenes 30% nd he wil adore u nd even push u out somtyms by hmsef!

Classicman47:


U won't get married to books.

there's always bound to be an occasional girl.

petkruz:
No way,i'v gone down that lane before! Introverts are very hard ppl to deal with.My ex was so bad that he never went out with his friends a whole year,he hardly forgives,when i'm hanging out he frowns,he doesn't like my friends coming around. The only thing that interests him is reading and sex,everyother thing was irrelevant.

Your ex needed a counselor…, and you had a role to play and help him become a better person, anyway its past now

Rapmoney:
There are many introverted guys that are just so special in diverse ways that are hardly understood by many of our modern-day Nigerian ladies...this could lead to what I call a misrepresentation of attitude and character!

Psychologically, as humans, we all possess behavioural traits such as introverted and extroverted qualities. That's God's creation and whoever thinks that God's creation was senseless in the first place should better have his or her head examined!!!

Below are some characters of introverted guys in relationships. Ladies, you need to understand your introverted partner...better than the way you think you do :

1) Most introverted guys are creative: Ladies, because he doesn't talk much or brag about his exploits doesn't mean he is just another regular guy down the street! I tell you today, there's so much cooking up in that head of his that you might not know or never know. If you take a closer and more critical look at the lives of many great inventors and artistes, you will discover that they exhibited or exhibit introverted qualities wayback even before they ever came close to fame!!! I am not in any way saying that all introverted guys are creative but what I am saying in essence is that the number of creative guys that are introverted and those that are extroverted can be compared to the fans of Manchester City and Kano Pillars!!! Study him carefully and observe his passion; you just might be an instrument to push him to greater heights! He would rather think of how to create or develop something than spend time with you at the cinema

2) They are mostly shy: Even introverted celebrities are shy most times without you knowing. An assumed snubbing by a celebrity in an event or show might not necessarily be real! The young man might just be too shy to stand face to face, meeting folks he has never met before. So when an introverted guy doesn't feel like hanging out with you and friends every weekend, don't be too critical. They don't often like being in public places

3) They often love good women for real: Introverted guys are not like their counterparts who are fond of going out, meeting new people, talking and demonstrating a lot! They are mostly quiet and think deeply. They would easily approach a woman only when they admire, value and want her. An extrovert guy might just feel like talking which is a nutural aspect of his personality; this might send a false signal to the lady that she's being loved for real!!!

4) They need personal space most times: Many introvert guys hardly enjoy staying with a lady consistently for too long. They would rather need privacy to themselves so that they could merry in some creative imaginations! If you are coming to his house, you must call him on phone first! Failure to do that equals you putting too much salt in an already well cooked pot of Egusi soup with assorted meats!

5) They hardly entertain 'make-up jealousy': Don't try to make an introverted guy fall more in love with you by trying to arouse the spirit of jealousy in him! You might end up killing the emotional attachment he has with you and the relationship eventually! A lady can do this by answering suspicious phone calls in his presence romantically, telling him tales of guys who admire her and the rest

It is true that humans are dynamic in nature but learning about their psychological traits helps a lot in coping with them!

One more thing... You won't believe us when we come online! we are bold

I won't lie. introvert guys like me always get the bad girls to like them. it's always the psychotic, immature, and irritating girls that ever manage to fall for us. the sane ones always keep us in the friend zone.


if that doesn't suck then don't know what does.

This is the opinion of the OP, he could be right or wrong.

OkeEsibe:



introvert sha....abeg give me toasting tips


i don dey toast 1 babe for 4months now e neva gree

Go meet/read CharlesNneji thread and ur game will never remain the same. He's a Prof in dis game

Rapmoney:


5) They hardly entertain 'make-up jealousy': Don't try to make an introverted guy fall more in love with you by trying to arouse the spirit of jealousy in him! You might end up killing the emotional attachment he has with you and the relationship eventually! A lady can do this by answering suspicious phone calls in his presence romantically, telling him tales of guys who admire her and the rest

It is true that humans are dynamic in nature but learning about their psychological traits helps a lot in coping with them!

That's me oh!
.
I loose interest very fast

PushMusic:

Honestly, I won't. Sex to me is not a necessity.

Thank God for you then. At least you think with your brain.

uglybuthandsome:
same thing as me.. I feel shy saying it...

I know it is individual differences, but why don't you just say it as you feel it Especially if you are certain the other party feels same

RobinHez:

U have no idea how hard it is to say those 3 words 2geda...

Seriously how hard can it be

Guy I think u did a good research on this topic keep it up.

Politicos:


I can't say that to any female unless my love for her genuinely rocks my soul to the depth. I have got no delight in professing what's untrue, untried...

As long as it us true and genuine...you should say it.

Rapmoney:
There are many introverted guys that are just so special in diverse ways that are hardly understood by many of our modern-day Nigerian ladies...this could lead to what I call a misrepresentation of attitude and character!

Psychologically, as humans, we all possess behavioural traits such as introverted and extroverted qualities. That's God's creation and whoever thinks that God's creation was senseless in the first place should better have his or her head examined!!!

Below are some characters of introverted guys in relationships. Ladies, you need to understand your introverted partner...better than the way you think you do :

1) Most introverted guys are creative: Ladies, because he doesn't talk much or brag about his exploits doesn't mean he is just another regular guy down the street! I tell you today, there's so much cooking up in that head of his that you might not know or never know. If you take a closer and more critical look at the lives of many great inventors and artistes, you will discover that they exhibited or exhibit introverted qualities wayback even before they ever came close to fame!!! I am not in any way saying that all introverted guys are creative but what I am saying in essence is that the number of creative guys that are introverted and those that are extroverted can be compared to the fans of Manchester City and Kano Pillars!!! Study him carefully and observe his passion; you just might be an instrument to push him to greater heights! He would rather think of how to create or develop something than spend time with you at the cinema

2) They are mostly shy: Even introverted celebrities are shy most times without you knowing. An assumed snubbing by a celebrity in an event or show might not necessarily be real! The young man might just be too shy to stand face to face, meeting folks he has never met before. So when an introverted guy doesn't feel like hanging out with you and friends every weekend, don't be too critical. They don't often like being in public places

3) They often love good women for real: Introverted guys are not like their counterparts who are fond of going out, meeting new people, talking and demonstrating a lot! They are mostly quiet and think deeply. They would easily approach a woman only when they admire, value and want her. An extrovert guy might just feel like talking which is a nutural aspect of his personality; this might send a false signal to the lady that she's being loved for real!!!

4) They need personal space most times: Many introvert guys hardly enjoy staying with a lady consistently for too long. They would rather need privacy to themselves so that they could merry in some creative imaginations! If you are coming to his house, you must call him on phone first! Failure to do that equals you putting too much salt in an already well cooked pot of Egusi soup with assorted meats!

5) They hardly entertain 'make-up jealousy': Don't try to make an introverted guy fall more in love with you by trying to arouse the spirit of jealousy in him! You might end up killing the emotional attachment he has with you and the relationship eventually! A lady can do this by answering suspicious phone calls in his presence romantically, telling him tales of guys who admire her and the rest

It is true that humans are dynamic in nature but learning about their psychological traits helps a lot in coping with them!

Your article is true. I agree without any reservation.

Cavenchy:
I like how everyone claims to be an introvert now and if an extrovert thread is opened, same goons would claim too. No one is proper introverted or extroverted. What is important is the timing, that you are introvert when necessary and extrovert when necessary.

I disagree,there are proper introverts,,,what you also need to know is that ther are several shades of introversion and also we have ambiverts who are both introvrts and extroverts...a lot of factors determin this things lik health,parents e.t..c....but for you to say there are no proper introverts and xtroverts is a fallacy...just say you hav not met any!!!!

bibiking7:


'Nice guy' does sound gay.

Like just call me a fαggot already, which one be nice guy

Boomark:


My own 'machochest' for here no get part 2.

Hehehehe. Awon introverts
Bet you're as quiet as a mouse offline

aim5:
Many girls think that introverted guys are weak, not knowing that it's the other way around.

Part of our strengths is also being straightforward, we don't beat about the bush/we hit the nail on the head when we see a lady we like ,that's, where we're heading in the relationship. Unfortunately, many of the girls turn you down for straight talks... do they all want lies??

Though this may not be true for young introverts...

Na me you describe so, reading and smiling,assimilating stuffs easily, always trying to know about something using my phone, Girls hardly date you even if you are handsome,Nice to a fault...sometimes i try not to be nice cuz they label you a fool, well i can't stop. Can help close pals to the best of our strength, we can fight ooh...though some think we can't ...we dey watch boxing for youtube ..practising shadow-boxing...don't try us ooh,can feign forgiveness but never forget and when the feeling comes back to us, it rises so high.


We are cool if you understand us.


Team introverts-creativity is our slogan.