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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 4:41pm On Feb 04, 2016

ednut1:
baby u know wat, lets get married, send me a PM

Be the man, make d move.

But do not come without the finest of diamonds for the engagement grin

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by mopolord(m): 4:41pm On Feb 04, 2016

Selena06:
That's a natural phenomenon already.

chai,nigerians com and see d sodomite in ur territory calin sex a natural phenomenon wen dey arn't married.may GOD deliver u

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 4:45pm On Feb 04, 2016

mopolord:
chai,nigerians com and see d sodomite in ur territory calin sex a natural phenomenon wen dey arn't married.may GOD deliver u

Amen!

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by adeboizy11(m): 4:45pm On Feb 04, 2016

Selena06:
And when both of you know he isn't ready for marriage yet

Then get off!!!

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by mopolord(m): 4:49pm On Feb 04, 2016

op,i don't think there is nothin wrong dat once is ready to take care of all ur need but if not,jus wake up cos he love 4 a maid.he doesn't care at al,if he do he won't want to stres u at al

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 4:56pm On Feb 04, 2016

Wait, so judging comments, it's normal for girls to just up and land at someone else's house, start playing hostess like you own the place, going through their refrigerator and closet, doing their chores? That's home invasion.

And how on earth does one even go about asking someone over, that doesn't live with you, to come and clean up your house and stock up your fridge? Wallahi, that's fascinating.

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by elantraceey(f): 4:59pm On Feb 04, 2016

naijadeyhia:

I am not approaching anyone. I am married and happily too and just speaking for the benefit of u single ones

Wow, nice. So did you get married to a 'village girl'?

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 5:02pm On Feb 04, 2016

elantraceey:

Wow, nice. So did you get married to a 'village girl'?

Confirmed village girl with Royal blood

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by TJMighty(m): 5:03pm On Feb 04, 2016

2 me, I don't c anything bad about it in as much he s not imposing d house chores on you. N moreover, don't u tnk both of u seeing every wkend means a lot? I believe it affords u both 2 get acquainted wt each oda instead of avin a side chick n not bother u @ all thinking he s a 9c guy.

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by TJMighty(m): 5:04pm On Feb 04, 2016

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 5:05pm On Feb 04, 2016

EnlightenedSoul:
Wait, so judging comments, it's normal for girls to just up and land at someone else's house, start playing hostess like you own the place, going through their refrigerator and closet, doing their chores? That's home invasion.

And how on earth does one even go about asking someone over, that doesn't live with you, to come and clean up your house and stock up your fridge? Wallahi, that's fascinating.

home invasion!

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Ayauche(f): 5:07pm On Feb 04, 2016

That's why they always say" what u can't finish don't start" am sure the babe initiated all these in the beginning nd if nt when u did it the 1st, 2nd u shud ve told stopped there and look for reasons to tell him so he will knw its nt his right yet.

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 5:11pm On Feb 04, 2016

EnlightenedSoul:
Wait, so judging comments, it's normal for girls to just up and land at someone else's house, start playing hostess like you own the place, going through their refrigerator and closet, doing their chores? That's home invasion.

And how on earth does one even go about asking someone over, that doesn't live with you, to come and clean up your house and stock up your fridge? Wallahi, that's fascinating.

Lol @ home invasion. Reminds me of the movie Olympus has fallen and the way the whitehouse was ruthlessly invaded

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by HaneefahRN(f): 5:11pm On Feb 04, 2016

Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.

There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.

Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.

NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

Na wa o. Dictatorship. It's no big deal doing it for him, bt nt like he'll impose rules on u. Why shld u even go to his house every wkend, u no get house? Anyway na wetin eyes find, eyes will see. Continue ur wifely roles b4 marriage, more grease to ur elbows.

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by UyiIredia(m): 5:25pm On Feb 04, 2016

Those kain guys dem dey do 1, 2 for.

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 5:32pm On Feb 04, 2016

Joy1706:

Ur so wrong. Lemme tell u eh, my first guy, I neva asked anything from him not even airtime. He also never gave me a dime, not even t - fare, not to talk of gifts or even 100 naira airtime. Yet the buffoon had the guts to be demanding for sex and asking when ill come wash and cook for him. My only joy is that I never did a single one of those tinz 4 him.

Hahahaha. Well out of every 12, a Judas. There are some useless guys out there sha, that one sef dey. My point is girls that beg for money have no right to complain about their boyfriends' demands. Guys have no right to demand anything from independent ladies that don't beg for money cool

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 5:38pm On Feb 04, 2016

Nubian113:

home invasion!

I'm tryna wrap my head around this. Can you have someone that you're having over at your place walk over to the kitchen, clean themselves a glass (or go seaching your cupboards for one), and serve themselves a drink from the fridge, much less start stocking said fridge and cleaning your up messes? I would look at such a person like they just fell from the sky, wallahi, and by that I don't mean heaven.

Now say that same person walked down the hallway into the inner house, entered your bedroom, and started forraging through your closet in a bid to wash your dirty laundry?

Now, rewind, and imagine a scenario in which you're asking the person to do those things.

That's so boorish, and whack af.

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by pabjo: 5:39pm On Feb 04, 2016

Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.
And so, is not too much since you have give out more than this, mine wil do even more because LOVE cover us

There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.

Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.

NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

Selena06:
It is horrifying at times to state the length guys in relationships go to make their girlfriends do some things because they are dating.

There are relationships (not married) where the guy expects the lady to visit him every weekend, wash his clothes, cook for him and store in the refrigerator, clean the house and entertain his friends that may visit during her stay.

Sure, it is good helping your guy out but whereby he makes them compulsory and queries you when you fail to do them is not so cool although as they would say, different strokes for different folks.

NLanders, what's your take on this, is it right?
Meanwhile, I am new here. Show me some love

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by egeoffery: 5:39pm On Feb 04, 2016

Politics is ubiquitous, it is found everywhere not only as an academic discipline. It is who get what when and how. A game of interest. Ladies know what they want from men and if visiting him every weekends and doing all the domestic work will get her what she want.. It's okay.

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by vickylala239: 5:40pm On Feb 04, 2016

Selena06:
True but the fear is he might turn her to a fulltime housewife when they finally get married, thereby abandoning her career if she was meant to pursue one.

From ur response... I notice you Jst Dnt want to be doing this...which is normal for any lady...

I hardly see girls who are not doing one thing or the other when with his guy...

Please I want to say this,,if u want to use terms ur not yet my husband...that relationship may not go down well....this is because u get money,gifts other things from him...

Infact if u wnt to use that terms then u Dnt Hv to query a message of another girl in his phone...

You Dnt Hv any right to demand anything from him...he will not b answerable to u wen u catch him with another woman....

Also if u wnt to follow that by right u shuld not be found in a man's house ur not married to..

You shuld be found sleeping over night in his house,kiss or sexx..

This any many more entails when you want to start claiming that you are not married or engaged....

To me ladies find fun in this.....as I Hv seen ladies who Jst wish they can be helping him out.....

Also I want to let u knw,,that u mst not help him on condition to marry u...Cuz Evn you may not knw who will eventually pick u up....be good and he will always remember you.....

Finally to me ur reply to mst comment suggest that u are a lazy type..you fear that wen u are married he will increase it....helping you man is never purnishmnt or slavery....Bible term it as helper....

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by pabjo: 5:43pm On Feb 04, 2016

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Na wa o. Dictatorship. It's no big deal doing it for him, bt nt like he'll impose rules on u. Why shld u even go to his house every wkend, u no get house? Anyway na wetin eyes find, eyes will see. Continue ur wifely roles b4 marriage, more grease to urelbows.tnx for this, i think is enough for the op to reason

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Joy1706(f): 5:48pm On Feb 04, 2016

EverestdeBliu:
how would you feel if whenever you visits him,he does all those chores you just mentioned while you watch? Happy?

Been there, done that and felt nothing. They're HIS chores, no? Does he help with mine?

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by yusufbida(m): 5:50pm On Feb 04, 2016

Smartguy001:
U left sumtin out also hav s*x wit him...

Badest guyyyyy

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Joy1706(f): 5:51pm On Feb 04, 2016

Achilles2:
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No woman can cook my food without me giving her the go ahead.

Asking my girlfriend to cook for me every weekends should not even be sn issue. She should see it as an opportunity to show me the stuff she is made of.

The only people that will see this as an issue are those who can't cook and are too lazy.

Am sure if I tell her never to wash my clothes and cook for me she will still complain that I don't value her.

I suppose that ur gf asking u to take over her financial responsibilities won't be an issue. You would see it as an opportunity to show her the stuff ur made of. Yeah?

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by purity22(f): 5:53pm On Feb 04, 2016

naijadeyhia:

So says a lady who will someday marry a man. Dont worry life itself has a way of retraining ladies who reason the way u do.

My dear, it depend on how you understand my comment. I know that a man that you are dating will not make it a must to do all that to make him marry you. I use to do that any time i visit my my boyfriend now my husband but he never made it a must that every week end i must wash his clothes clean the house stock the freezer and all that

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Joy1706(f): 5:55pm On Feb 04, 2016

Achilles2:
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My brother.
If after 6 months a supposedly girlfriend is not cooking for her man, she is only good for one thing. SEX. (Ladies sorry to say this )

U conveniently ignored the last part

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by catso(m): 5:56pm On Feb 04, 2016

Selena06:
That's a natural phenomenon already.

Who has made it natural?
That majority accepted and are doing it does not make it right.
If u want to be different and unique in life, u hv to do it in a different n unique way.
Nothing is natural abt premarital sex.

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 6:01pm On Feb 04, 2016

purity22:

My dear, it depend on how you understand my comment. I know that a man that you are dating will not make it a must to do all that to make him marry you. I use to do that any time i visit my my boyfriend now my husband but he never made it a must that every week end i must wash his clothes clean the house stock the freezer and all that

My point exactly. The OP is surely misinterpreting what her so called boyfriend is doing and arriving at her own assumptions. She is definitely the lazy type hence her complaint. If the boyfriend was bad to her she would have said so... but complaining about helping out around the house? Common! Ludicrous.
She is just trying to throw a pity party and its obviously working

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 6:02pm On Feb 04, 2016

EnlightenedSoul:

I'm tryna wrap my head around this. Can you have someone that you're having over at your place walk over to the kitchen, clean themselves a glass (or go seaching your cupboards for one), and serve themselves a drink from the fridge, much less start stocking said fridge and cleaning your up messes? I would look at such a person like they just fell from the sky, wallahi, and by that I don't mean heaven.

Now say that same person walked down the hallway into the inner house, entered your bedroom, and started forraging through your closet in a bid to wash your dirty laundry?

Now, rewind, and imagine a scenario in which you're asking the person to do those things.

That's so boorish, and whack af.

The last part; MY/HIS dirty laundry? undecided

Uffff ufff ufff grin

If someone, anyone, wanna clean my kitchen and fill my fridge, who am I to look a gift horse in the mouth

. I'll even show them where I keep the cleaning products.

As for me doing it. I'm soft like that hun, if I'm feeling the guy and we spend a lot of time at his place because we wanna vibe and hang then yeah I'll wash some dishes and even push a hoover around for him. Some men just ain't domesticated and some are better than women in the domestic ness. Now as for demands and shi lol the op is talking about men from a different location to us. Do faraxs expect such treatment? Most faraxs I've seen enjoy their dirt and as long as it don't bother ya... They don't trouble you.

Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by shegra58: 6:06pm On Feb 04, 2016

mayonnaise:

No sex till marriage, money for Peruvian hair

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Achilles2(m): 6:08pm On Feb 04, 2016

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Joy1706:

I suppose that ur gf asking u to take over her financial responsibilities won't be an issue. You would see it as an opportunity to show her the stuff ur made of. Yeah?

My dear a man cannot claim be in a relationship without spending on his woman.

All am saying is that if you don't want to cook for me then don't but please don't complain if someone else does.

Its not just anybody that I will allow to cook for me.
For me to ask you to wash and cook for me means you are more than just a girlfriend to me. But if you choose to see it in a negative way then I have nothing to say to that.

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Re: We Aren't Married But He Wants These From Me by Nobody: 6:10pm On Feb 04, 2016

naijadeyhia:

Lol @ home invasion. Reminds me of the movie Olympus has fallen and the way the whitehouse was ruthlessly invaded

Lolll. I've never watched the movie, but I knew the expression to mean something completely different from how it's regularly used on here. I think that's great, tho, and pretty funny.

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