cherrymum:


I made the exact mistake your babe made some yrs ago and today i bite my fingers wishing God can turn back the hands of time. I wouldn't have left him. I now practically eat the crumbs that fall from his table. He still has his all time good heart but says we aren't getting back. i REGRET leaving him and moving on. i weep everyday.

Decker:
Look bro, first things first. I'll advise that you don't relent in your hard work and search for a job, but you shouldn't make the mistake of doing all this with the mindset of winning your girl back.
To be honest with you, the girl made her decision and she chose someone else, someone more financially capable over you, despite the long way you the both of you had come. It's kind of sad, I know, but it's her choice and she has her reasons. She has told you she has moved on and I think you should too. Things like this happen at some point in our lives and when this kind of things happen, the best thing to do is to just wipe the dust of pain and regret off of you and move on with your life. That girl betrayed your love and friendship, all on the altar of having a better life. That tells a lot about her character and what exactly it is she wants from life. Even if you do win her back, which is highly improbable, what's your guarantee that she won't leave you for someone else in future when the going beings to get tough?

The thing about love is that it makes you think that person you are in love with is the best person out there, but that's not true.
You might think that no one can be as pretty and fun and smart and all those good qualities you admire in her, all in one, but there are actually other girls like that out there, better girls. And out of them, there is one for you. But in other for you to see them, you first have to remove the scales of supposed love from your eyes.
So, stop crying like a baby and get this girl off your mind, free yourself from all the negativity and keep looking for a job and I know you will find one. And when you do find one, work hard to be established in it, and along the line, you will find the right girl who really deserves you.

Moz22:
na wa oo..bros. Ur moniker-Hurting, ur email add- heartyreallyheavy. Did u create this names cos of wah happened?

freecocoa:
Why do you take it very personal whenever you hear that a woman hurt a man then? E just be like say you still dey vex.

Leave am o, better women dey, my sisters follow too.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.


Sory bro, i wish i can feel ur pain but i cant. Dont usually comment but pls if u want to kill ursef, kill ursef cos u dont have money not cos of a babe my guy. Na beg i dey beg u. No babe is worth dieing for. Its painful but its the truth. I Swear if u make d mistake of marrying dat babe wtout money, u will have a very miserable life. She is gone, dont ever try to win her back, just wish her the best and move on. Marriage no be play play o.





P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

hurting:

Lol, I created all this morning, when I couldn't sleep.

hurting:

Lol, I created all this morning, when I couldn't sleep.

hurting:
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I think you should be glad bro. The time is just a number, see God has a wonderful way of not making sad thing happen. Just for a purpose. She isn't the one for you, look away from it, don't compensate her miss for your sadness bro.
On most occasion bro with hard work and diligence he who laugh last actually laugh best. Make it your watchwords

Btruth:


Hurting, you really need to take it easy oooo...... See what Mel got to say to you too.

freecocoa:
Some other person would have been offended, kudos.

Now we are talking, she's just after personal gain, I understand wanting to live a certain kind of life but not at the expense of someone you claim to love, their incomes combined can keep them afloat till they get to their desired estate, it's not like the dude she left for/with can't become penniless the next second.

She's not as great as the OP painted.

AreaFada2:


Before nko? He should have secured a good paying job himself in that company, even if not engineering if not qualified for that.

OP thought the girl would be grateful and so be faithful, for wia? The vast majority of girls would behave that way or at least constantly remind you through words or action how inferior you're earning less money. Even if your uncle or dad owns the company she earns good money from.

2sex:
bro, that person in the snapshot isn't NIGERIAN and can never be. So you see? Do you see how their reasoning is when compared to our girls down here?

Wizzz:
It's painful but try to live with the belief that every disappointment is a blessing

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You will get a good job

cruzita:
this is very serious,bro even as a woman I won't tell u to go back to her or beg her ,listen bro,its time to forget everything and move on ,she didn't see any future with you but another girl will,she feels insecure because of your job,but there is another girl who will accept u the way u are ,so wipe those years,cancel those suicidal thoughts in your mind,man up and take life easy and with time you will be your old self and nature might smile on you .SEE YA