₦airaland Forum

uckennety:
I Have been dia and back!i see ur so emotional!wt u did was wrong!but c'mon dts not enough to stoop so low to doing chores!call Her to order!d mistake you did was to call family members 4 her

obstead200:
My dear, u are in Africa. In this society, the men are superior. We did not form the rules. We just came into this world to meet it like that.
Cheating is bad. But our society, being polygamous by nature, will be more forgiving of a cheating man than a cheating woman. That is Africa for u.

To answer ur question. Of course I won't easily forgive my wife for cheating. That is why we are Africans. We expect our wives to respect us by remaining loyal in all circumstances. But we should all try not to use that fact as an excuse to make her unhappy.

Kaycee625:
You are in no position to call me a small boy, i pay my bills, u don't.
Back to the matter, the lady is his wife not gf. She should know the extent to which she acts, all in the name of revenge.
I for one dont support men to beat their wives. But theres a limit to everything.

thelish:
U begged becos u nor fit take care of d kids alone. Not that u r sorry. With this ur divorce thought and with comments full of pride. She knows u r not genuinely sorry.
So u nor even sabi cook, buying food for ur kids?

oo here comes da pride stuff again



i will just assume i didn't read this.:-/

bardella1:
Lol..some people's comment tho..OP ehyah..ur wife brought her cousin home na
Or is it now bad to have a male cousin
So bcs u cheated on her u automatically assumed shez cheating on u too..
Or did u meet them un top of eachoda like she caught u
Better reason and reposition ur life
If u don't like her again and u feel u prefer oloshos now..divorce her
Buh if u still love ur family and u dnt want ur children to say 'my parents divorced cos my dad cheated' continue d begging u caused it all..
Call d elders to her again so she can change for d better
Learn not to cheat on ur wife
Is it so hard to do

read da post again.she introduce me as a cousin not da man

cruzita:
that's what u sowed ,so my friend REAP IT

Adasun:
read da post again.she introduce me as a cousin not da man

Adasun:
haba joy why all dis

Do u want me to use an axe and break my heart bfor u knw dat it's da first and last tym i did those shamful act?

Listen i was somehw polluted in da heart dats what lead me to da heart.

Even right at it i was regreting okay.hw i wish u knw me wel

am nt dat bad as u thing.am nt even egocentric

all i want is to get confidence and controlled of my hwz again

Joy1706:
Ok. I will cut you some slack. It's just that I greatly despise cheating husbands. What u should be striving 4 is not getting control of ur house but getting ur wife back. Work towards that. Don't underestimate the power of prayer. Never again cheat on ur wife. I hope it works out for u guys

Adasun:
who is dis one,take a plier and pin ur tongue or i wil do it for u.


Are u da one dat knw beta than da mods,ar u even gud in ur own job if u have one?


get a life dude

bardella1:
lmao..omg
Ndo
U shud av corrected her immediately tho

confun:
madam, I actually bursted into laughter with ur comment.

obstead200:
My dear, u are in Africa. In this society, the men are superior. We did not form the rules. We just came into this world to meet it like that.
Cheating is bad. But our society, being polygamous by nature, will be more forgiving of a cheating man than a cheating woman. That is Africa for u.

To answer ur question. Of course I won't easily forgive my wife for cheating. That is why we are Africans. We expect our wives to respect us by remaining loyal in all circumstances. But we should all try not to use that fact as an excuse to make her unhappy.

Joy1706:
I'm sick of all u primitive men. U people should just die already and let us see the better ones

Joy1706:
Stoop so low to doing chores? In his house? What's wrong with u Nigerian men? The wife that does chores is beneath him? A maid or what? What kind of people raised these kind of men up?

Joy1706:
Stoop so low to doing chores? In his house? What's wrong with u Nigerian men? The wife that does chores is beneath him? A maid or what? What kind of people raised these kind of men up?

obstead200:
O yes!!!

Dis is arrant nonsense. The man made a mistake. He is humble enough to ask for forgiveness. The st.upid woman should forgive him so that life goes on.

There was a time I used to cheat. My wife caught me. I sincerely begged for forgiveness and everything was forgotten that nite. Like it never happened. I learned my lessons and stopped.
That is what marriage shud be. Love, understanding, respect for the man, and compromise by all.

zeongeon:
All you girls calling bebe all sorts should first try and secure a man and then hope he gets married to you and then you spend 20 years in marriage..then you can now talk trash about bebe.

The response of some girls here just shows they are not emotionally intelligent and matured for marriage.

Forgiveness, patience and wisdom are some key ingredients to marriage expected from the wife ONLY.

For the girls all blabbing about how they will bring down hell if any MAN cheats on them when married, you ladies should ask yourself this question "Is there any man ready and even willing to marry you and call you his WIFE"

Before you talk of bringing down hell on a cheating husband first get a guy to date you if you pass that stage then he proposes and then may be still goes ahead to marry you. Then you can expect he cheats and you bring down hell and we see how far you go.

businessnoni:
You should always know the type of people that you can offend...some people will give up their lives to pay you back...cos to them, the offence that you committed against them is same as killing them. You should have known the kind of person you married. In life learn to never offend the wrong person, they will prefer to die than to let you off. Take it from me!

There are things I can't forgive anyone and no matter how powerful you are, how long it was, how close you are, I will plan and execute in retaliation as long as I live.

Did I mention that my 'vengeance' will be done repeatedly and at any available opportunity? So you should note...Your wife may have that personality too

bebe2:
Me think my self as nothing ? Far from it .

I have a man who adores me and has been doing dat for 20yrs. Treats me the same he treated me wen i was 17. There will always be issues, but one needs widom to handle it.

she has taken it too far. She had my sympathy until she brought a stranger to her matrimonial home.

For me dats a No No. On no account shud dat happen. That type of anger can make her sleep with someone else just to punish her husband . She is very vulnerable at this stage and men love that they will happily take advantage of the situation.

OK, wen all this dies down wat does she tell the stranger?

U live and learn, u dat is acting like untouchable, the day u hear ur husband is cheating on u , divorce him, take the kids and marry another man. Wen dat one cheats divorce him too, add the new kids to old from previous fathers. Search for another. Let's see how far that will take you.

Joy1706:
Stoop so low to doing chores? In his house? What's wrong with u Nigerian men? The wife that does chores is beneath him? A maid or what? What kind of people raised these kind of men up?

YelloweWest:
Not all men have the right to marry a second wife..

YelloweWest:
I don't condone what she is doing but did u notice he refused to give details of his affair? If he slept with any random chic in a hotel. That would be differen but I think he did something much greater than that! Remember he said he was caught red handed. He probably brought this woman he cheated with to his house! And maybe it's someone the wife knows!
It is only in the eyes of God that all since is equal but for us humans there is sin and greater sin!
The wife should not go as far as punishing her kids and also I don't believe she brought a man to her house, what does that mean? You know when a man is looking for a loophole he will say just about anything.
For what reason did a man come to her home? Maybe a maintainance man or something certainly not her bf. If she was ready to cheat she would do it behind his back and act like all is well..
That's why I pity most men when they say their wives don't care about their affairs. .. sorry bro. She is most likely cheating and calling you idi.ot. .. that's how women play dirty.
But that's not the case her. She is just acting up. He should be patient.

edwife:
You know reading comments here made me shake my head.
*sighs*

We live in an unfair world but doesn't mean that we should behave like headless chickens just because someone hurt us.
How many women are held against their will in marriage? How many are forced to stay?

Women should start taking responsibility and stop the blame game.It's nauseating to say the least.
If a man cheats on you by all means LEAVE the marriage! Don't say i forgive him but i will show him.Like seriously?
I will debase myself and body because a man cheated on me?I will neglect and starve my kids because a man chose to be stu/pid?

Nobody forced your wife to come back,nobody! You pleaded,asked for forgiveness and she should forgive and move on!
Most of you saying if the wife cheated,what would have been the man's reaction? What stops you from acting like him? What stops you from leaving? How bringing a man home where your kids live or neglect your kids will make your husband faithful? This only happens when a woman rely and live for a man,otherwise she would have channel her energy on WORK and kids.

Most y'all sin everyday, and keep chanting Christians. Y'all only christian when it's time for God to do a favour and you can confess evn the sin you are yet to commit.Beg for forgiveness but forget easily to do same.How many of you turn to thieves when someone steal from you?
A well brought up woman will warn her husband sternly and let him know that the next mess up from him,she's gone.What she is doing is only torturing her,especially if she wasn't like this.Only weaklings change because of someone behaviour.

Adasun it's time to put that house of yours in order. You fu/cked up and that just that.You are remorseful,you repented and she agreed to come home without a gun on her head,tell her that the party is over! If she doesn't want the marriage,she can leave peacefully.

Women ask for equality but refused to take responsibility for their short comings.A strong woman of character will leave and if she decides to comeback and forgive,she needs to make the husband understand that she will leave next time he is caught in as much flirting with an opposite sex.She will concentrate on her kids and JOB while still be a good wife.Cheating is on the person who cheats and i don't see why i will cheat just because "my husband" cheated. The same society y'all trying to fight everyday is the same society you give power to.Who is fooling who?

Before you embark on a journey of revenge dig two graves

bebe2:
Aunty edwife welcome to the party

Babes dey vex oo, Revenge cheating

Me will let another man even give me a romantic hug not to talk of the other stuff becos my husband cheated?

Unless my husbands head is inside my thing we d guy thing fit burst then I might consider

And wen the issue is settled the bobo starts to feel used , getting rid of him becomes a problem. Just too messy.

poik:
Not in any way to excuse what you did.
But there us something called forgiveness. You have apologised and you are repentant. Haba.
Assert your manliness. Which one be all ds one na?

HaneefahRN:
I like and respect ur points. But, I can bet it the woman isn't cheating but the drama dey too much. I just hope those two resolve issues soon, it's the children I pity

bebe2:
Well I don't know if she is or not.

I just hope there is a lesson for all here.

I keep wondering if I wanted to pull that stunt which man wud I use?

Who is the strange man, dat was comfortable enuf to sit in her house. What did she tell him.

For the sake of my sanity let's just assume he was hired for the job.

Jaywilzee:
did I mention your name?? Was I talking to you?? Egbon mind yourself please

look at dis one oo??who did u mention then?ur wife


Get a life boy bfor i pour my anger on u

uckennety:
Ya poor men don't v d ryte