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sweetcocoa:
OP you already cheated but who am I to act all saintly?

It's commendable what you later did because you were almost at the finish line but had to give yourself brain. Then there's the lady you humiliated, nigga you have to find a way to appease her.

It also helps, defining what kind of a person you want to be to yourself, this helps you, should you find yourself in such situations, know your values and do your best to stick to them. Deciding not to cheat, is not even a decision we should make because of our partners, it should just be something we do, because we know it is wrong to cheat others, that's just how I see it, because believe me, there will be dozens of people, who will make you want to question your values (if you have any)but then, if you know where you stand, it is easier to stand firm.

Good point here......Even with personal value, can we always get it right?

ClassCaptain:
Great stand.

But this will only be reasonable in a situation where the man is 100 percent sure of the loyalty of the girl..or at least to the extent of not commiting the same act elsewhere.

Imagine all this self control only for u to hear later that one guy dey pipe her steady for where she stay..

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Na sorry case be that oo

but wait oo, u actually removed her clothes till d last outfit and u no contunu ... Shey that kind thing fit happen if na omotola , geneienve or juliet ibrahim ?

Bros no lie.. The body odour and smell oozing from the engine drive u comot

Noted Already!

Mhmmmm, so deep

DIKEnaWAR:
Your girl would cheat once a man get her out of the last piece of clothing on her, cos she'd think what the heck, he has seen it all. She'd only vow not to do it again if it wasn't better than what she has with you. Woe betide you if it turns out to be better.


There is a level you will cross with a woman and there will be no turning back for her. Once she starts pleading that you understand why she doesn't want to do it; she has surrendered. Once you reach that level, yank off the remaining piece of clothing, adorn your helmet and start shooting like you are in Sambisa forest. They can pretend to regret after; the next time, they'll be pleading that they abandoned someone for you and you shouldn't toy with their heart. If a woman doesn't want to shag you, she will not let the opportunity of you making serious moves on her to present itself(except she is a hungry and long-throat b!tch. Those ones disgust me).



@OP I have seen your posts and I can only say that you are naïve with women. The heart of a woman is a deep ocean of secrets. Men are made to brag about their sexploits but women are made to keep the secret of theirs till death. Put a knife on a woman's neck she'll never tell you that secret. Real men don't try to find out, though. Cos "you don't wanna go down there..."

It shocking how men are talking down on the op instead of commending him.

@op, please ignore them. They are only envious of your self control which they themselves lack!

starwar:
Good point here......Even with personal value, can we always get it right?

Who's to say, whether we can or can't? we can only try and I'm sure if we try hard enough, chances are higher that we are likely to get it right.

corperscorner:
You made a point.....but the fact is. Both wont be on the same scale when quantified.

Do you know what sex entails? It goes beyond sticking that thing hanging btw ur legs into something. Its deeper than that.

I admit I must have crossed the line by doing some stuffs. But I didnt allow myself to be consumed, Thats the essence of this. You didnt bring a bad news sir. You only came to seek clarification.....at least, thats the way I see it.

Anoda tin u shld knw is dat kissin (exchange of saliva) dat girl alone couldve given u HIV wc u definitely will transfer to ur 'loyal and faithful' gf. Beta go check ursef medically.

... also to support MRBrownJ, bro you don cheat!

DIKEnaWAR:
Your girl would cheat once a man get her out of the last piece of clothing on her, cos she'd think what the heck, he has seen it all. She'd only vow not to do it again if it wasn't better than what she has with you. Woe betide you if it turns out to be better.


There is a level you will cross with a woman and there will be no turning back for her. Once she starts pleading that you understand why she doesn't want to do it; she has surrendered. Once you reach that level, yank off the remaining piece of clothing, adorn your helmet and start shooting like you are in Sambisa forest. They can pretend to regret after; the next time, they'll be pleading that they abandoned someone for you and you shouldn't toy with their heart. If a woman doesn't want to shag you, she will not let the opportunity of you making serious moves on her to present itself(except she is a hungry and long-throat b!tch. Those ones disgust me).



@OP I have seen your posts and I can only say that you are naïve with women. The heart of a woman is a deep ocean of secrets. Men are made to brag about their sexploits but women are made to keep the secret of theirs till death. Put a knife on a woman's neck she'll never tell you that secret. Real men don't try to find out, though. Cos "you don't wanna go down there..."

Thats a superb and intelligent write-up...Some Guys dont understand that ladies are powerful in keeping secrets..if ur gal cheats,trust me wen i say u will never find out..

corperscorner:
Tnx for the encouragement bro......but she ain't that type..........we made our acquaintance some 6 years back. Trust me....shez that type who would tell me everything....I mean everything. She would even go as far as giving my number to guys bugging her - just for them to try calling and hearing a male voice over the phone. We've been like a team and it felt awkward trying to ruin what we've had coming a long way. The attempt is what I regret.

Good you trust your girl, but this means absolutely nothing.

Smellymouth:
OP, I admire your courage.But trust me, it also takes the courage of Samson to trust a lady.

My advice? She is just your GF, not your wife.
The only woman you should ever lose your mind over is your MOTHER or your wife.

Other than that- Get your education up, stay fit, stack ur money up to the ceiling and mess around with many chicks as you can

Life is too short, no one gets out alive!!


Stvpid reasons ladies cheat and I won't be surprised if your GF had cheated on you::
1) The grass looks greener on the other side.
2) A bit of excitement and an ego boost.
3) Pure sexual desire.
4) To feel wanted and attractive to other men.
5) Revenge.
6) To fulfill what they consider is lack of attention from their spouse.
7) Sometimes they do it just because they can.

The oldest excuse is that "something is lacking" in the relationship

A cheat is a cheat no matter of what sex or why.


Patiently waiting for the feminists and their As5lickers to quote me

Me too, shout out to all the ass kissers and those niggas who like to do it!

corperscorner:
Its been a couple of months since my girlfriend traveled and the frequent rain fall haven't really been helping matters. I initially felt I could contain my urge but sometimes it gets out of hand (GUYS WOULD UNDERSTAND BETTER).

So yesterday, I decided to invite a particular girl over, she happens to have been hoping I would do that a long time though.

To cut the long story short, the touching began and it got to the stage where she gave in and allowed me pull off her entire outfit.....like down to the last. At this point, it must have been so certain to her that we were going to get down.....

But to the glory of God, it suddenly flashed through my mind how my girlfriend would call frequently and how she would often profess her love for me.......the fact that we've grown to become an item over time made me feel a prick in my conscience and all of a sudden I started feeling disgusted with myself. While these activities were going on in my head, this particular girl that came over had already arrived cloud 9....waiting for me to 'enter the place'. But somehow, I was able to knock senses into my head and attempted to help her back into her outfit while she completed the process herself. (IT TOOK AN EFFORT - BLIV ME)

She turned to me and asked? 'Whats the problem?'...........I said 'nothing, its not happening'. Then she pulled away hurriedly and vowed never to visit me again. I was really glad but concealed this so it would not be obvious though.

Anyways, with all that past me now........one thing I can say is that. I have no regrets and if any at all, it would be inviting her to come over in the first place. I realized we guys can be faithful, it only takes a little effort towards self control. I called my girlfriend a few minutes after the drama and we spoke at length for close to an hour..............and from the conversation, all I could deduce was......I care about her feelings much more than I thought.

You were not really attracted to this girl.

And try explaining this to your girl as a sign of your fidelity .

Aviero:
See as your girlfriend de tie you down. Your girlfriend na Edo girl?

Edo yaff suffer o...

DIKEnaWAR:
Trust me dear, I have met a lot of girls; the good, the bad, the wolf, the hyena. I speak from experience.

Infact, a drama is playing out here, I already know how it will end but I am just acting like I don't; enjoying the show.

Washere correct nigga! I lyk watchin d drama b4 doin wateva d fvck ive decided a looong tym b4 den

corperscorner:
Its been a couple of months since my girlfriend traveled and the frequent rain fall haven't really been helping matters. I initially felt I could contain my urge but sometimes it gets out of hand (GUYS WOULD UNDERSTAND BETTER).

So yesterday, I decided to invite a particular girl over, she happens to have been hoping I would do that a long time though.

To cut the long story short, the touching began and it got to the stage where she gave in and allowed me pull off her entire outfit.....like down to the last. At this point, it must have been so certain to her that we were going to get down.....

But to the glory of God, it suddenly flashed through my mind how my girlfriend would call frequently and how she would often profess her love for me.......the fact that we've grown to become an item over time made me feel a prick in my conscience and all of a sudden I started feeling disgusted with myself. While these activities were going on in my head, this particular girl that came over had already arrived cloud 9....waiting for me to 'enter the place'. But somehow, I was able to knock senses into my head and attempted to help her back into her outfit while she completed the process herself. (IT TOOK AN EFFORT - BLIV ME)

She turned to me and asked? 'Whats the problem?'...........I said 'nothing, its not happening'. Then she pulled away hurriedly and vowed never to visit me again. I was really glad but concealed this so it would not be obvious though.

Anyways, with all that past me now........one thing I can say is that. I have no regrets and if any at all, it would be inviting her to come over in the first place. I realized we guys can be faithful, it only takes a little effort towards self control. I called my girlfriend a few minutes after the drama and we spoke at length for close to an hour..............and from the conversation, all I could deduce was......I care about her feelings much more than I thought.

Guy wake up from ur slumber and face reality, this gf no be ur wife, if she was I will say nice 1 to u... but 95% of gf aren't loyal @ all, they are master strategist in concealing and hiding and also deceiving... from the way u talk if this girl disappoint you u may commit suicide.... So pls I advice u for ur own good never rules out the possibility of this ur gf disappointing you in any way so that when it eventually happens u won't run nuts

Oga op, u didn't try to cheat... U cheated! So don't start telling us how much u love ur gal n all that because if u truly love her, u wouldn't av invited another gal over to ur house with d intention to do or undo....

I remember d day I tried to cheat on my gal... And I did it. Over n over again..




Oh, and I did it with her best friend too.

GothamLuke:
There was this time I tried cheating on my girl, I cried profusely like a baby all through... I just couldn't do it

Yebariba samboribobo....

DIKEnaWAR:
Your girl would cheat once a man get her out of the last piece of clothing on her, cos she'd think what the heck, he has seen it all. She'd only vow not to do it again if it wasn't better than what she has with you. Woe betide you if it turns out to be better.


There is a level you will cross with a woman and there will be no turning back for her. Once she starts pleading that you understand why she doesn't want to do it; she has surrendered. Once you reach that level, yank off the remaining piece of clothing, adorn your helmet and start shooting like you are in Sambisa forest. They can pretend to regret after; the next time, they'll be pleading that they abandoned someone for you and you shouldn't toy with their heart. If a woman doesn't want to shag you, she will not let the opportunity of you making serious moves on her to present itself(except she is a hungry and long-throat b!tch. Those ones disgust me).



@OP I have seen your posts and I can only say that you are naïve with women. The heart of a woman is a deep ocean of secrets. Men are made to brag about their sexploits but women are made to keep the secret of theirs till death. Put a knife on a woman's neck she'll never tell you that secret. Real men don't try to find out, though. Cos "you don't wanna go down there..."

I fó for u bro..
U v said it all

GothamLuke:
There was this time I tried cheating on my girl, I cried profusely like a baby all through... I just couldn't do it

ARE YOU SURE YOU ARE OKAY?

livinbygrace:
My dear have done that many years ago,am 35 so take my words to the bank.The guy ll surely regret it.Most guys with such attitude re always losers at the end.Take it or leave it.

35yrs
Are you married?
An harmless question,you don't need to reply.

dadebayo1:
Lol..... Mumu somboriiii .... You drive her nuts then abandon her on the express, welldone

I wonder why the girl no rape am. What kind of nonsense embarrasment is that one?

asids55:
nice one op,it only takes the grace of God for a guy to resist an open kitten,but you pulled through..thumbs up

Grace of God to invite an innocent girl and disgraced her? He wasn't seduced in anyway. That girl should have stabbed/rape you to death. Nonsense.

corperscorner:
Its been a couple of months since my girlfriend traveled and the frequent rain fall haven't really been helping matters. I initially felt I could contain my urge but sometimes it gets out of hand (GUYS WOULD UNDERSTAND BETTER).

So yesterday, I decided to invite a particular girl over, she happens to have been hoping I would do that a long time though.

To cut the long story short, the touching began and it got to the stage where she gave in and allowed me pull off her entire outfit.....like down to the last. At this point, it must have been so certain to her that we were going to get down.....

But to the glory of God, it suddenly flashed through my mind how my girlfriend would call frequently and how she would often profess her love for me.......the fact that we've grown to become an item over time made me feel a prick in my conscience and all of a sudden I started feeling disgusted with myself. While these activities were going on in my head, this particular girl that came over had already arrived cloud 9....waiting for me to 'enter the place'. But somehow, I was able to knock senses into my head and attempted to help her back into her outfit while she completed the process herself. (IT TOOK AN EFFORT - BLIV ME)

She turned to me and asked? 'Whats the problem?'...........I said 'nothing, its not happening'. Then she pulled away hurriedly and vowed never to visit me again. I was really glad but concealed this so it would not be obvious though.

Anyways, with all that past me now........one thing I can say is that. I have no regrets and if any at all, it would be inviting her to come over in the first place. I realized we guys can be faithful, it only takes a little effort towards self control. I called my girlfriend a few minutes after the drama and we spoke at length for close to an hour..............and from the conversation, all I could deduce was......I care about her feelings much more than I thought.

nice one, but is she 100%. Faithful to you? Can she do same when with a guy? Not all girls are to be trusted.

twoMcfemad:
Something similar had happened to me before I got married, the saving grace was that my wife, then my fiancee, called at that point of entry. Never tried that after the experience. That particular lady was celebrated on her birthday by her Husband on Nairaland few days ago.
Op, you did well, but you need not smell what you are not ready to eat.

More reason why ur fone MUST be on silent mode while straffing... no-stoppin!!!

kenonze:
Its a matter of what u believe.
If u attach much importance to s e x then it rules your world but if otherwise Its not a big deal.
Mutual respect is what i hold so high.


U may think your action is an award winning stunt but you forgot that u are the one that invited the Innocent girl and treated her like a cancer.

U don't have respect for people feelings.
Mind u u are not married yet. tomorrow same you will come up with another thread on how ur so called girl dumped u

imagine him doing all that and coming here to create a thread about it,portraying the girl as a slut and him a saint @op,you attach so much importance to not having sex with the lady,as though she came to seduce you,you called her in and started the touching,thats cheating already,then u humiliated her and her feelings like she aint human,she oughta give u a resounding slap as she stepped out,you have no self control and you a coward and a cheat,why didnt u relate the whole episode to ur gf when u called and spoke for hours??wish she does a replica of what u did and u get to find out,dont you dare scream bloody murder that all ladies are cheats.....

Africanpride:
@op did you tell your gf what happened? Cos if you did not you have actually cheated on her. When you find yourself deleting text messages from your phone so you other half don't see it, that is a form of cheating.

And before you start getting a big head that you did not cheat, have you considered what you have put the poor girl through, you have just succeeded in killing herself worth. Thanks for making her look worthless

Thank you very much.

Nienie:
if it's true...you deserve a kiss jorh

but already cheated. What he did is fornication whether sex waz involved or not.

sweetcocoa:
Who's to say, whether we can or can't? we can only try and I'm sure if we try hard enough, chances are higher that we are likely to get it right.

sometimes we try.....pressure from environment is enuf to frustrate such effort

lovinam:
Kudos to you op. You did well, nott every man can withstand such temptation. God bless your relationship.

NB: no ttry am again

sorry he didnt over come d temptation rather he fell. Infact dt is already fornication

Jerrick:
Guys been finding cure to KONJI

Since 17 Bc

twoMcfemad:
Something similar had happened to me before I got married, the saving grace was that my wife, then my fiancee, called at that point of entry. Never tried that after the experience. That particular lady was celebrated on her birthday by her Husband on Nairaland few days ago.
Op, you did well, but you need not smell what you are not ready to eat.

Which particular lady Na so una dey spoil things for people mtchewww.

If u were caught by your gf with the girl fully stack naked, how will u explain it to how? That you just wanna view the boobs, touch it and then tell her to dress up. Kia, u r so naive and dump. You will regret not banging her, the only reason I will let this pass is because of God.
Gerereherrre men.