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Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 4:42pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
dulux07: That's not the case here, I think people are saying this because he placedt he condition of marriage on her weight. Its what he said he wouldn't do that is making people doubt his love. |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Chommieblaq(f): 4:42pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Apitch:The way d guy went about was wrong, be sincere, there are many ways he can tell her to watch her weight without comparing her to another girl or making her feel bad about herself. I have always been health conscious n try to eat healthy too, buh the was a time I let go of myself n added, not really much ( buh then I was kinda depressed), ma fiance got me skipping rope and registered us in a gym(both of us), I got the message he's trying to pass, and I took it upon myself to loose weight for us, buh he was supportive, never compared me to anyone or make me feel bad. Even when he traveled n stayed long, in the morning if he calls me, he will be: 'baby where are u, snap lemme see' that was his way of making sure I followed up. PS: wasn't up to that weight n I have flat tummy. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Demallcrazy(m): 4:42pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
sas91:Madam u're too fat! QED! 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 4:43pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
YorubaWoman:dear, you've communicated only with the Yorubas and not nairalanders. I know you are trying to be original and showcase ur language prowess, but please consider others. Next time, I had appreciate if you communicate with us all. Thanks! |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Maximus85(m): 4:44pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Oliviaarims: Your weight in number can be deceiving. A person that looks sooo fat might weight less while someone lepacious might weigh more. Dem say na bone dey cause am. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Henovy: 4:44pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
jamex93:I'm sure you do not mean physical eyes because physical eyes can't see this one oo. |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Chommieblaq(f): 4:46pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Maximus85: U are very right, ppl with big bone weigh more, doesn't matter if u slim or fat. I weigh more than ma frnds n they are fatter than me. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by johnsmhelia15(m): 4:47pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
believed in ur self |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by henrydadon(m): 4:48pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
KashyBaby:seem like love has been unfair to u..I understand where u are coming from tho..I dnt give a fvck about marriage my self..I was only pulling ur legs |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 4:49pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
swaggprofessor:They aren't married yet. He asked her to lose weight and other conditions before she becomes his wife. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by pweetychyka(f): 4:50pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
If ur partner can't love for who you are or how you look, den I don't think u both r meant to be! A genuine partner should be proud of u n always remind u in *Bruno Mars voice that " U are amazing jez d way u are" We all have got our beta half trust me, He isn't urs 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Vinshu(f): 4:50pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Untainted007: Maybe she was slim.then |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Sparkles003(f): 4:52pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
sas91: [quote author=sas91 post=44021670]Pls I need your honest opinion on this matter , i'm a lady with an average height and weighing 70kg, my fiance always complain about my weight and I know I'm trying my best working on it. Very good your working on it atleast for health sake. But this time around he compared me with my friend and said my friend has a better body structure than I, Characteristics of a future cheater. that i'm not more beautiful as I used to be Loves your body more than your qualities. and that if I want to be his wife then I must Slim down. And so many things I can't even mention. Characteristics of a selfish man. He finally asked if I am ready to do all he wants. Chacteristics of an it is what I want so leave it that way man. my fear is did he truly love me? Only you go ask yourself that question. what if I Slim down now and even get fatter after giving birth to a baby, wld he then hate me so much? i'm confused and scared of going on with the relationship, Pls I need advice from experienced people. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by esonuu(m): 4:52pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Are u sure he aint fantasizing about hw to sleep wit ur frnd? Why the comparison(even saying it boldly to ur face),wat happened to covering ur ugly side with d gud side,must evrybody be slim,dnt u hav gud qualities ur frnd doesnt have?..pls be urself,if he takes a bow today,another man who wil appreciate u wil come(husband aint scarce) so stop worrying/trying to change whom u're because of a man who might not evn marry u at the end..love/marriage shouldnt totally base on physical attribute 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by ladyF(f): 4:53pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
So who go marry we the fat ones? Let me try and reduce to 120 sha |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by HARDDON: 4:56pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
KashyBaby: attracted to.... btw, he should accept her the way she is? wow! like you ladies accept guys the way they are? he wants the best for her and himself, maybe he has been using indirect ways to tell her to shed weight, she isnt listening.....hence the out burst. besides, if he accepts her the way she is and they finally get married, after the first kid, he wud have to expand all the doors in the house to accommodate his super sized/extra large momma! no need punching anybody, we all know ladies wud always fall into fat thereafter no matter how many weight they lose at the moment. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 5:01pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
fairheven:even though am not fat being fat is not a curse neither is it a blessing. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 5:01pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
sweetetlove:Abeg,she chop too much. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 5:03pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
hope4charles:dude the fact is since you don't like fat ladies you'll look for a slim lady and be sure she'll not turn fat once she starts giving birth, what happened to I LOVE THE WAY YOU ARE.? 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 5:05pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
swaggprofessor:professor tell me more about marriage please i will like to know |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Apitch(m): 5:07pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Chommieblaq:I never wrote anything about the guy cos it makes no sense when he can't read it, I only advised the lady based on her own side of the story But on the issue of the guy, he didn't go about it the right way based on her write up but have we considered how else he must have tried it in the past, have we considered if the guy was getting frustrated by the weight gain, a lot of assumptions that I wish not to stress my small brain over cos it's a sided story n I don't judge Finally, please who is in a perfect relationship? Who hasn't said or done detrimental things in their relationship or vice versa? So should I advice she leaves her 5yrs relationship to a real man who is imperfect for an ideal perfect man? Her choice |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Vision4God: 5:14pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
@sas91 70kg is not dat bad,( my opinion). Der are ladies out der hu luk slim but hv heavy bones and de weigh much more. Kip calm and trust God for som1 hu loves & appreciate God's beautiful creation (u). Btw....kip fit. Hpy easter in ad. |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by tbliss22(m): 5:15pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Look here Op, my simple advice for you is to hit the gym. We naija guys just want you ladies to be trendy, we can put on our suits, pants and a pair of shoe to look perfectly great. But for ladies, below the brea*t downward especially the waist is indeed a GREAT ASSET. it should be trimmed and ensure it's super attractive 24/7 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Ujupsy: 5:21pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Op,I can't find your picture, how do u want me to judge between you and your fiance. |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by hope4charles(m): 5:23pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
VenusBetty:i love the way u are not coming in 2 my house and going bloated like bloatware after few years, lol. The problem with alot of women is that they don't want to retain the initial stature due to i have arrivied syndrome which pisses men off, imagine walkn with her and people askin u is this u mother? Make them beyounce, tiwas weight role model at least they have given birth too and retained their stature1 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 5:26pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
sas91: Nigerian girls... looking like football since Adam .... 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by MRBrownJ: 5:26pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Toks2008: bro, you missed the point here. her weight is not the issue, her weight CHANGE is... as we can clearly understand that the lady put on weight, as she is saying herself that "she is trying her best to work on that". so the important question IS: if a man is attracted to a woman because of her mind/character AND physical appearance, should he continue and pretend to "still" be physically attracted to her if/when her appearance changes (to a level that is clearly unacceptable to him)? 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by cromz(m): 5:26pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
The comments are annoying so because he tells her to loose weight means he doesn't love her abi? there are somethings me I also can't take we all have tastes and difference. No matter how I love a woman the love diminishes when she does somethings I don't like. so it's berra u hit the gym and lose weight and if he changes continue your relationship,if he doesn't abeg quit 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 5:28pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
Maximus85: So,I've been told. |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by queencalipso(f): 5:36pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
sas91: not having a flat tummy is probably the reason he see you as being fat. I have almost the same weight as you, but I have a very flat tummy. if you are the type that eats junks, stop them entirely work on your self the best way you can. while you are at it, don't allow him to make you develop low self esteem; carry your self with courage and confidence because you are wonderfully and beautifully made. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by Nobody: 5:36pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
pweetychyka:Lol. Not really. Fattness is pretty not okay. There's nothing like someone looking fit. It gives joy. I can't marry a fat woman. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Complains That I'm Too Fat by acada111(f): 5:41pm On Mar 23, 2016 |
[quote author=sas91 post=44021670]Pls I need your honest opinion on this matter , i'm a lady with an average height and weighing 70kg, my fiance always complain about my weight and I know I'm trying my best working on it. But this time around he compared me with my friend and said my friend has a better body structure than I, that i'm not more beautiful as I used to be and that if I want to be his wife then I must Slim down. And so many things I can't even mention. He finally asked if I am ready to do all he wants. my fear is did he truly love me? what if I Slim down now and even get fatter after giving birth to a baby, wld he then hate me so much? i'm confused and scared of going on with the relationship, Pls I need advice from experienced people. [/quote He's an ass. You know what? Exercise, diet, lose weight. Work on your self esteem (because from your post, I think you have some issues there). Finally,dump his sorry ass. 1 Like |
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