krak101:
Bro it's not fight. That's a personal thing. Respect that

Did my reply seem furious
But think about it na
3-4 years older

pedrilo:
kip quiet my friend, na so ur type dey always stubborn. U go knw wetin dey soon, no worry

I really don't knw why u r pissed over sum1 else's problem.... tojubole

Randy91:


END TIME RELATIONSHIP

If u say so

Atlantian:
You pray you get married ? Sounds like you are living off her. I mean you are supposed to say, I will marry her if you are the man in the relationship. I guess not. You just happen to have the dick.

Lolzz.... u knw sumtin, av been on NL for more than five years .... comments like urs don't even move me..... I av a paying job and same applies to her.... I earn more than her... don't ask me hw I got to knw.... y'all r pissed cos of the age diff abi... av dated girls who am older than n av seen the diff.... so bro, pls no kill urself untop my matter... face ur own

tottinova:



Did my reply seem furious
But think about it na
3-4 years older

yeah. You sounded hostile. No wahala sha. Remember back then in sec school... Most of your set girls were already dating your snrs especially when you were in your younger classes. Remember? The female system is wired such that they don't have regards for their mates in most cases. Somebody said females like to be "dominated" but I don't wanna use that word. So for me worst case scenario she has to be my mate. My Snr is a no go

valdes00:
Am 26 n Bae will b 30 by November...... n we r balling strong... she hasn't giving me any reason to back out sins 2yrs ago till now...... I pray we gt married... I don't av a problem with age, so far she GATS all d qualities a man could ever wish for in a woman....

Bae abi mum? ... ...wait dere until she starts comparing herself with ur elder sisters at home.... . She'll be like "me and Seun, your elder sister arnt mates

skylane:
My baby is 9yrs older dan me yet behaves like am the older one,very humble n respecful to d core

It's quite interesting reading different views on this topic. Basically, three groups of thought have emerged. Those who see dating/marrying an older lady a 'taboo', those who given the right conditions will marry, and the supposed indifferent who seemed to be swayed by the arguments of the two aforementioned.

One commentator did talk about genes as a deciding factor in age. While this is true to some extent it's not absolute. Science has proven without reasonable doubt that nature(genes) and nurture(environment) determine what becomes of an individual in the long run. Previously, nature seemed to have the upper hand, but advancement in science has reversed this trend. Environment/nurture is now a more potent determinant!

Thus, a woman who probably due to genetics may age early can through nurture significantly delay this process. As an example medical science tells us if you have a family history of diabetes, hypertension or some other inheritable diseases your chances of developing same is high in comparison to someone without such family history. If this person with a family history of an inheritable diseases consciously imbibe healthy lifestyle his/her chances of manifesting the said disease is greatly reduced. The validity of this argument can be verified from any health practitioner.

If the above argument is valid, then it's possible that an older lady may delay the natural tendency to aging by adopting healthy lifestyles. You don't have to have much money to look younger. The most important is to be health conscious. Watch what you eat. Exercise regularly. Take fruits and lots of vegetables. Get adequate sleep especially at night. Simply put reduce stress as much as possible.

Like I said in one of my posts on this subject matter, dating/marrying an older lady are for real men. Men who understand the dynamics of relationships, and not swayed by societal perceptions. Most of the arguments against been with an older lady I have read so far are based on 'what will people say'. If you keep listening to the World you will never fulfill your destiny.

Life is a choice though. Those who cannot date/marry an older lady are right in there own way. Marriage is a life journey. Thus, it's expedient one go into it with eyes wide open. Only the shoe wearer knows where it hurts the most. My one cent though.

krak101:
No No for me. Can't have my woman looking like ma mum. I can't have her looking like my daughter either. Either am slightly older or we're mates.



Another FTC. Change

I doubt your mother is that much good looking to look just 4 years older than you.

Except you are saying you are very ugly or your mother was pregnant at the age of like 10.

Love is all that matters

The truth is that these mature girls keep you focused and stand by you to achieve your goals timeously, there's no whimsical/incessant demands like those little girls we entangle with. Trust me, every guy willing to achieve something meaningful in life needs a woman by that I mean a mature one that has "the real woman's qualities".

I'm 27 and my girl will be 30 by June and with all I've seen in her, we'll get married next year because she HAS everything l was looking for in a woman. #Age na just number oooo#

Gamesmart:


I doubt your mother is that much good looking to look just 4 years older than you.

Except you are saying you are very ugly or your mother was pregnant at the age of like 10.

none of the above. BTW beauty is in the eyes of the beholder abi you get standard measure for am I don't want my woman older than me. SIMPLE. And if you have any atom of regard for your mother you wouldn't speak of somebodys mother like that

krak101:
yeah. You sounded hostile. No wahala sha. Remember back then in sec school... Most of your set girls were already dating your snrs especially when you were in your younger classes. Remember? The female system is wired such that they don't have regards for their mates in most cases. Somebody said females like to be "dominated" but I don't wanna use that word. So for me worst case scenario she has to be my mate. My Snr is a no go

Ok bro
My girl is a year older than me
That's why I gaz do small strong head

tottinova:


Ok bro
My girl is a year older than me
That's why I gaz do small strong head

it's expected. Those e favour go give thumbs up and vice versa. Cheers to you two

Temmytea70:


Bae abi mum? ... ...wait dere until she starts comparing herself with ur elder sisters at home.... . She'll be like "me and Seun, your elder sister arnt mates

kikikikikiki... you really don't knw who she is, her attitude n hw humble she is so there is no point trying to mak u see reasons.... u r free to say anytin u like, its a free world... I Sha knw say no b u dey date am

lwanibeauty:
Be sincere with yourself....
and this goes to all real men on Nairaland...
Can you get married to a lady that's older than you ? like she collected 3 or 4 yrs from you....but she's very humble...

How can she "collect years from me"?

krak101:
none of the above. BTW beauty is in the eyes of the beholder abi you get standard measure for am I don't want my woman older than me. SIMPLE. And if you have any atom of regard for your mother you wouldn't speak of somebodys mother like that

You are free not to want any woman older than you but do not demean other women with such fantasy comparison.

The statements I made about your mother are actually most likely factual, no matter what beholder you are.

1) She is very unlikely to be good looking to the point she looks 4 years older than you.

2) She is very unlikely to have had you at an age that will allow her to look just 4 years older than you.

Those two fundamental statements I made to you are so factual, it also applies to my mother and the mothers of 99.9% of people on this forum. So what offense are you taking?

People should be more offended by your own attempt to belittle some section of womanhood.

Next time just say "No, I don't want any woman older than me". Your point is then complete and sensible.

valdes00:

kikikikikiki... you really don't knw who she is, her attitude n hw humble she is so there is no point trying to mak u see reasons.... u r free to say anytin u like, its a free world... I Sha knw say no b u dey date am

Buh invite me for una wedding o

Opoki:
you need to locate the next mfm

first comment to crack me up this morning

I only date older guys anyway. Younger men are a no-no when it comes to serious relationships for me

Gamesmart:


You are free not to want any woman older than you but do not demean other women with such fantasy comparison.

The statements I made about your mother are actually most likely factual, no matter what beholder you are.

1) She is very unlikely to be good looking to the point she looks 4 years older than you.

2) She is very unlikely to have had you at an age that will allow her to look just 4 years older than you.

Those two fundamental statements I made to you are so factual, it also applies to my mother and the mothers of 99.9% of people on this forum. So what offense are you taking?

People should be more offended by your own attempt to belittle some section of womanhood.

Next time just say "No, I don't want any woman older than me". Your point is then complete and sensible.

just shut up if you can't read up my previous comments on the matter. I specifically said again and again it's a personal thing. I don't remember insulting anybody because of their choice or in any way belittling their choice. Watch your mouth cause I never said anything demeaning about womanhood

krak101:
just shut up if you can't read up my previous comments on the matter. I specifically said again and again it's a personal thing. I don't remember insulting anybody because of their choice or in any way belittling their choice. Watch your mouth cause I never said anything demeaning about womanhood

Your statement about a woman 4 years older than you looking like your mother is senseless.

Your mother can not be that good looking that she looks 4 years older than you. Next time, make sense. It is 2016!

[quote author=Gamesmart post=44903421]

Your statement about a woman 4 years older than you looking like your mother is senseless.

Your mother can not be that good looking that she looks 4 years older than you. Next time, make sense. It is 2016![/quote ] You lack a sense of humour my bro. And why are you particular about my mum

I once dated a girl that was 5 years older than me, so I think I can marry a woman older than me. Actually, in my case, it was during NYSC, and she had reduced her age so she could go for service, cos she was already above 30. I got to find out about her real age when I had fallen in love with her. The only issue I had with her was that she usually defend me too much. I mean, she could even fight a man for me. lol! She was doing that out of love, but it kind of affected my relationship with her. A man will always want to be in charge.

valdes00:

u r entitled to ur opinion... if u tink tym will tell, den let's see.... its pointless trying to mak u see reasons wif me

Pls don't mind anyone discouraging you. As long as you and Yur partner understands each other and there's love.. my dear, build dreams and castles with her..
Typical majority of Nigerians will always want to discourage or make you feel doubts about whom your dating.. it's their Logo
simply follow your mind and heart.. it pays at the end...if some people think it's easy to date someone for 2years without having problems but only good things to say about each other... well, .I wish them luck with the type of relationship they have. Some women can marry and respect a younger man while some can't. Everyone is not the same. And if your jewel loves and respect u, mehn go for her with full throttle. Simple.
Best of luck

Maximus85:


How can she "collect years from me"?

Lol..... no mind the Op, as if anyone can collect person years and add to his or her own...they be wizard or winch?

FreeBSD:


When you are ready to send a message. Write clearly. I don't have to strain my sight to read the text of a bloody woman.

ah! has it gotten to that..easy bro!!!

Pls o help your fellow brother oooo. My girl is still communicating via phone with her ex- the guy that disvirgined her. The guy still beg her to come back according to her. I told her to stop communicating with him. I told her to call and tell him not to call her again. She did in my front (using loud speaker). But two days later the guy called her and she picked. They talked for 9 minutes. I talked to her condemned her action. Though she later appologised. I made her promise me never to communicate with him again. For hours now she's been unhappy and moody.

Pls someone should tell me o, what's really going on?.

lwanibeauty:
Be sincere with yourself....
and this goes to all real men on Nairaland...
Can you get married to a lady that's older than you ? like she collected 3 or 4 yrs from you....but she's very humble...

if its not something everyone knows and if she is not visibly older at the time we are dating. You would be surprised to find out it is quite common. People just don't broadcast it.

Amelian:



Pls don't mind anyone discouraging you. As long as you and Yur partner understands each other and there's love.. my dear, build dreams and castles with her..
Typical majority of Nigerians will always want to discourage or make you feel doubts about whom your dating.. it's their Logo
simply follow your mind and heart.. it pays at the end...if some people think it's easy to date someone for 2years without having problems but only good things to say about each other... well, .I wish them luck with the type of relationship they have. Some women can marry and respect a younger man while some can't. Everyone is not the same. And if your jewel loves and respect u, mehn go for her with full throttle. Simple.
Best of luck

Thank u sis.... I knw all this ppl on NL... so I can't b moved by their comments.... The kind of respect she gives me in this relationship is unbelievable... I didn't even gt such from my ex even wit d fact dat am older Dan her with 2yrs.... She's jus so exceptional.... 2yrs+ now n she has Neva given me any reason to back out...

Temmytea70:


Buh invite me for una wedding o

I will try not to forget u.

BaconSandwich:


first comment to crack me up this morning

I only date older guys anyway. Younger men are a no-no when it comes to serious relationships for me

it's normal to date older guys. Older men are meant to understand your emotions inside out but dating older women is a no no for me but I still ave to respect the guys opinion. Whatever rocks his boat.

Why not? P square mr p did it and he looks happy,Brock Lesnar's wife is 10yrs older than him n they are happy,who I be wey I go see better babe dey form?