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ladyF:
All I see is a one sided story. What exactly did you do that made her call off her own engagement? Have you ever hit her, do you yell, are you controlling?

No be by proposing, a smart lady will see tendencies when you guys are dating and decide she will never settle down with your kind of person. So please tell us exactly what happened.

He should drag the lady here to talk her own torry

There are three sides to every story.

Yimu!

Florblu:
I was feeling your pain abnitio until you started dishing out your unsought for advice.The fact that someone dies in his sleep doesn't mean sleep is harmful to the body.Same way you've gotten your share of heart break doesn't mean other men has not been responsible for ladies heart break.Just move on as she has said and stop misleading the already misled sane minds.

. GBAM!!! BOSS LADY HAS SPOKEN NEXT!!!

FoxyFlow:
I did not want to say something that would hurt you because of the fact that you sound hurt already... Back to the matter, what happened when she came to spend some weeks in your place? Returned home and started acting funny? Tell me, why did you say you are less of a man?

Okay, you work in a hospital and practice privately but is money everything that a Lady wants?

About the side chick, how did you feel when you discovered she left you for the side dude who was a far "better man" than you?

I will drop my pen here. Nobody knows about the bravery of the dead lion, only the living hunter who has tales to tell.

I remain Foxy and I Flow...

I thought as much she must have seen or experience something during her visit which made her change her mind,at times it may not be all about the money as one has to put different things into consideration especially when it concerns marriage.If only we could get to hear her own side of the story? One thing is certain if she had to go that means she not meant for u and the special lady meant for you will surely come. It is well.

Op, I love ur last line n i see a new player born in u to wreck havoc on dem bitches camp. For dem dude out dere, never compromise ur hustle or future fr any bitch!!!!!

We live and learn. My own story is something similar and quite different also, fell in love with a girl I knew nothing about. Like play like play, came to Nigeria to meet her and immediately introduced her to my folks. Within 6 months, introduction done and marriage date set, brought her to the U.S and gbam wahala began! All sorts of lies were discovered thanks to my I.T background including the fact that she uses a fake age, still in a relationship with her supposed ex and her history of abortion. Even after all that, as a responsible guy, sat her down, showed her the plans I had for her. Paid 8k per semester in school fees for her, all with the hope that I can guide her to a comfortable life. Mehn was I wrong! This whacko would skip classes, run up debts on my credit cards and drank all my alcohol. To make things worse, when I confronted her, she would vex and repeat her favorite slogan 'Who send am?" To cut the long story short, she packed her load by herself and never came back. I don't know if it was my parents' prayers or if it was the countless number of good deeds I've done in the past but to God be the glory. When she left I was depressed thinking I'm done with relationship but God works mysteriously. My guy, keep doing good and good will always come your way. See it as a learning experience towards your ultimate destination!

garnet2:
When we Tell men not to fall in love..... They won't hear

When will Tell men "if you must fall in love then fall with your head and not your heart"..... They won't hear

When we Tell men" Be the boss of your relationship and call the shots"... They won't hear

When we Tell men that it is in our DNA to mate with multiple partners..... They won't hear, They will be forming Real, Gentleman, Nice guys to win women approval

When we Tell men our stories and ask them to learn from it..... They won't hear until they become victims

When we Tell men to stop spending on Girlfriends.... They won't hear, They will be forming Mr Responsible

................................................................................................................................................

Anyways,.. Welcome to the club of the big boiz... Drink away your sins 'cos you have towed the path of self recovery and a player is born.

PUAs please join me and let's give a heartily welcome to our newest member!

You're a badddddddd boy.

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

A little addendum.

Never date a woman thinking she would be humble because of what you have achieved.

Women are not logical, they are emotional. This is why even if you train her thru school, she can still walk out on you.

GUY U ARE ON POINT, U ARE RIGHT TO SAY...NEVER PUT YOUR EGG IN ONE BASKET.I WAS ONCE A VICTIM, BUT SHE CAME BACK TO ME, NOW WITH MY XPERIENCE I NEARLY RAN MAD COS OF MY LOVE FOR HER, NW I LOVE SOMEONE ELSE DESPITE THAT SHE IS BACK AND I STILL LOVE HER, NOW I HAVE 3 EGGS IN DIFFERENT BASKET.

Truth is .....it's about finance.....she expected more but was disappointed. Simple hard as it may be....move on. You will meet someone that will make You ask yourself what were you doing with such person at first.

Bros, I think your story like most of it's kind, is one sided and skimpy in facts. I always believe there are three sides to a story, the centre, left and middle and often times, the truth lies in the middle. It is had to believe that a lady in her thirties that should be thirsty for marriage, will find a ready made man (doctor), goes into a relationship with him willfully, is engaged to him by choice, a wedding date is set mutually, visits him on her own accord, goes back and ends the relationship in a whim. I strongly suspect one or two reasons for her attitude. First, and no insult intended, you have a tiny prick or extremely and unredeemably lousy in bed. Or you may unbeknown to you, be a bully, chauvinistic and egotistic to a fault throwing your doctor weight around inadvertently and she felt choked and sapped of oxygen. It also could be a third reason - incurably argumentative. The third reason is often more of a defense mechanism intended as a cover for the two supra. The fact that she did not want discussion, mediation etc clearly shows grave concern and she decided to severe the cancerous element. Therefore, look inwards to avoid a repeat when the next babe comes around. Some of the things that drive women bunkers in a relationship are sexual ineptitude, bombastic, chauvinistic, unrepentant and unfathomable thin skin egos, money, cheaters, lies, mama's boy and incommunicado partners who know one thing only, bark orders.

ladyF:
All I see is a one sided story. What exactly did you do that made her call off her own engagement? Have you ever hit her, do you yell, are you controlling?

No be by proposing, a smart lady will see tendencies when you guys are dating and decide she will never settle down with your kind of person. So please tell us exactly what happened.

....
Are u mensturating?

ladyF:
All I see is a one sided story. What exactly did you do that made her call off her own engagement? Have you ever hit her, do you yell, are you controlling?

No be by proposing, a smart lady will see tendencies when you guys are dating and decide she will never settle down with your kind of person. So please tell us exactly what happened.

....

Are u mensturating?

Lexusgs430:
He should drag the lady here to talk her own torry

but guilty conscience will not allow him do that... The lady is somewhere thinking "good riddance to bad rubbish"

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

because of this ur story, I won't fall in love, but will stand in love ...........chaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

kuchikau:
....

Are u mensturating?

Are you a ritual killer?

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

You didn't state why she always said you're not man enough?
I'm sure she wouldn't leave just like that for no cause..

someone cannot wake up over night and just start acting that way... even when possessed. so you need to start talking mr man...

for a 30+ woman to run without looking back?

hmmmmmmm

tranxo:
Bro, deal with your pride. Being a medical doctor does not make you a god. Women still reject more established men as long as they are not getting what they NEED. You are hurt because you think as a medical doctor with a flourishing practice (made no meaning to this girl), no girl can reject you. Well, you have been proved wrong. You also thought her being in her thirties should make her desperate for marriage. Some in their forties are not even desperate.

She insulted you about your capabilities as a man? What does she mean? You think only in terms of providing for her? What of sexual capabilities? Are you weak in bed? Women are complex beings. What moves one may mean nothing to another.

Fact is you never knew what this girl NEEDED. She was just hanging with you probably because of the status of your profession, while she waits for another to get ready. Just like most guys will front and hang out with the most dazzling and pretty chic, but when its time for the real deal, settle for a conservative and homely girl for marriage, girls also make similar choices.

She has made her choice. Move on.

My advice to you is not to let revenge or payback be the foundation of your next relationship. Invest quality time in knowing what your girl NEEDS in order to know if its something you can offer or not. Better to call off a relationship on mutual agreement than have one person live through a lie and gets disappointed at the end of the day.

Shalom.

PS: Note the capitalized word.

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Signs of mensturation?

naughtynaughty:
Maybe she went to c a pastor or someone and they said something odawise about u guys relatnshp.
Am sorry

You dont have to be sorry. Okay ?

Don't do it next time..

ted1741:
Bros, I think your story like most of it's kind, is one sided and skimpy in facts. I always believe there are three sides to a story, the centre, left and middle and often times, the truth lies in the middle. It is had to believe that a lady in her thirties that should be thirsty for marriage, will find a ready made man (doctor), goes into a relationship with him willfully, is engaged to him by choice, a wedding date is set mutually, visits him on her own accord, goes back and ends the relationship in a whim. I strongly suspect one or two reasons for her attitude. First, and no insult intended, you have a tiny prick or extremely and unredeemably lousy in bed. Or you may unbeknown to you, be a bully, chauvinistic and egotistic to a fault throwing your doctor weight around inadvertently and she felt choked and sapped of oxygen. It also could be a third reason - incurably argumentative. The third reason is often more of a defense mechanism intended as a cover for the two supra. The fact that she did not want discussion, mediation etc clearly shows grave concern and she decided to severe the cancerous element. Therefore, look inwards to avoid a repeat when the next babe comes around. Some of the things that drive women bunkers in a relationship are sexual ineptitude, bombastic, chauvinistic, unrepentant and unfathomable thin skin egos, money, cheaters, lies, mama's boy and incommunicado partners who know one thing only, bark orders.

olisa gozie gi...

acxlers2014:
Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

It's bad though...... but please don't allow your set back to turn you into a bad person. Take time out, breath fresh air, work on yourself and you'll just see all coming into shape.

My one cent: Love story has 3 angles
1. The man's
2. The woman's
3. The truth

Life goes on Bros!

In this era of "girls re plenty" that men ring in our ears some chic still walk out of her engagement,without dr X being at fault.
Something is fishy

wilybebsy:
Dis hoe's ain't loyal

Florblu:
I was feeling your pain abnitio until you started dishing out your unsought for advice.The fact that someone dies in his sleep doesn't mean sleep is harmful to the body.Same way you've gotten your share of heart break doesn't mean other men has not been responsible for ladies heart break.Just move on as she has said and stop misleading the already misled sane minds.

I swear, I pitied him up until he started with all the rubbish advice. The girl was even plain to have told u of ur 'inadequacies'. Your side-chick(s) or option Bs would just wreck you emotionally, financially. If they marry you, you would only die before your time. Your being a doctor would even only help their philandering cause. Guy, suck it in, tighten ur belt, be a man and move forward. Better this than bastard children

These hoes they for everybody and yet not for anybody.








I love it when my brothers see the light.we should have a drink sometime.

fuckshit:
OP; shιt happens; can fυcking tell you've fυcking moved on and still fυcking standing strong; you're fυcking blessed; and a big fυcking thanks for sharing this;

OP; again; you're fυcking blessed for this comment; from fυcking experience; without a fυcking side chick; it's fυcking terrible;

guys fυcking wise up; most ladies fυcking know this rule and are fυcking good at it; most ladies do not restrict their pυssy to only one diςk

Hello Mr Fuckshit..

[quote aWhen she left I was depressed thinking I'm done with relationship but God works mysteriously. My guy, keep doing good and good will always come your way. See it as a learning experience towards your ultimate destination![/quote]Never cast your pearls before swine.....
Love is wicked oooooo!

garnet2:
When we Tell men not to fall in love..... They won't hear

When will Tell men "if you must fall in love then fall with your head and not your heart"..... They won't hear

When we Tell men" Be the boss of your relationship and call the shots"... They won't hear

When we Tell men that it is in our DNA to mate with multiple partners..... They won't hear, They will be forming Real, Gentleman, Nice guys to win women approval

When we Tell men our stories and ask them to learn from it..... They won't hear until they become victims

When we Tell men to stop spending on Girlfriends.... They won't hear, They will be forming Mr Responsible

................................................................................................................................................

Anyways,.. Welcome to the club of the big boiz... Drink away your sins 'cos you have towed the path of self recovery and a player is born.

PUAs please join me and let's give a heartily welcome to our newest member!

What's your point now? Last time I checked, players don't refer to themselves as players. Your advice wouldn't work for him. that one girl dumped him doesn't mean another won't appreciate you. that people die in plane crash doesn't mean planes are bad. Give sane, matured and reasonable advice in your next comment OK, it would go a long way in showing you are matured.

STFUareyouG0d:
you can't blame him. He's only being emotional

If Snake don bite you before, if you see rope, you go run

......... GBAMMMMMMMMM

Elbizzcklinz:
GUY U ARE ON POINT, U ARE RIGHT TO SAY...NEVER PUT YOUR EGG IN ONE BASKET.I WAS ONCE A VICTIM, BUT SHE CAME BACK TO ME, NOW WITH MY XPERIENCE I NEARLY RAN MAD COS OF MY LOVE FOR HER, NW I LOVE SOMEONE ELSE DESPITE THAT SHE IS BACK AND I STILL LOVE HER, NOW I HAVE 3 EGGS IN DIFFERENT BASKET.

I just pray Your BASKETS know your moniker..... Have you heard of chasing two rats?

acxlers2014:
My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.

Eigther you don't know how to fvck or she is posses, in anyway just move on.
A broke relationshop is better than a failed marriage "every disappointment is a blessing".

quote author=acxlers2014 post=46497404]My experience buttresses the point that human nature is such that they look out for self first. I met, dated, proposed and did introduction with a lady in her thirties with the anticipation to marry her three months after that. Well I was charged up and ready to go and I was excited about the whole thing. She came over to my station in one of these northern states and she left after few weeks. I had thought everything was fine when I saw her off to the airport. Well a week after her attitude became funny, she started by asking for a postponement on the wedding, then she became very aggressive and later on she barred my numbers and started acting funny. Before I knew what was happening she started insulting me and saying different things about my capabilities as a man. Well by the grace of God I am a doctor in A government hospital and I own a flourishing practice in my domicile. Sadly no matter how much I tried she never seemed to be ready to come back. Well at a point in the deterioration of our relationship she returned my rings engagement and wedding bands and all the gifts I had given her
She was interviewed by her pastor, my pastor, my folks and she reiterated that she was not coming back. I did not relent even after all these but I had even a stronger resolve to carry on with the whole process. I thought it was a moment of temporary set back that maybe she may come through. How wrong was I. Several texts afterwards. She came out with a bold statement " MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AS I HAVE MOVED ON WITH MINE". IT hurt but is didn't matter to me. Then the deal breaker.......... she sends me conversations between her and a guy who was chiking her via whatsapp and was professing his love to her and she was tripping. With the caption " I WOULD RATHER MOVE ON WITH THIS GUY, HE IS A BETTER MAN TO YOU". She calls up my folks and tell them that I should stay off her back as well as my siblings. That was the CLOSURE I needed and I must say it was a tough call.

As for her family, they supported their own.
Lessons learnt.
The truth is when it is gone don't fight it, just move
on.

Never put your eggs in one basket, the concept of a side chick for every guy is valid, it is for your sanity, little wonder our fathers always seemed to have one

Old women, middle aged women, girls and baby girls are all the same their psyche is way different maybe it has something to do with hormones.

Never stick to an opinionated women, you can't be so silly to think feminism can work in our society

Beautiful women always feel they have an option.

Lastly never compromise your hustle for a woman.[/quote]Bros,i feel 4 u. Not all women are same. But dats ur own story, i dnt judge based on one side statment
Meaning u ar nt destined together
Thank ur God cos u av nt married her