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sukkot:
dayummmmmmm

no be only path ways, pathfinder ways nkor ?

Ok thanks for the correction. I meant part ways.

Really, I feel u guys were arguing and in d process u hurt each other's feelings (am sure u must have hurt hers too) that was why she said those words to hurt u more she might not even mean them, but pls if know u can't take her back wholeheartedly pls let her go,

queencalipso:
Hey honey! I didn't ask you or any1 else to take me serious that's entirely your choice and am cool with it. My point is in an argument pple could say anything out of anger that doesn't necessary mean that they meant their words. His about what he said to her?

Why not call a spade a spade and not taking sides. Can u say such to ur bf. Dat u r just managing him. Ur benefactor. Smh

eiBADAn:
Guy, well said. If you do 99 things for a girl, it's the one thing you didn't that she would remember. If I make 300k a month, her personal budget is already over half of it and when there's an argument, she remembers one stupid thing I didn't buy or get for her, I'm talking about my gf. What do I do in my own case? She's not working cuz she's still searching. Let's assume I have 700k now, her budget would be 450k when I finish calculating expenses. She would do hair, change nails, buy makeup, but expensive creams, buy new clothes even tho she just bought few weeks back. She wants to send money to her mom, to her sister, to her brother. She's owing her friend, she has to pay. I do all these and the smallest argument we have, she would suddenly remember one stupid thing I didn't buy for her. How long do I keep up with these. O ti su mi o.

It's like you are addicted to her. The same way people are addicted to drugs, alcohol etc you can be addicted to a person. How? They are bad for you and like drugs you can't stop taking them. Set yourself free.

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

Guy, u just dey show ur talent. Are u saying u didn't say hurtful words to her too?

All girls/women are useless and ungrateful...

Bro if what you said is true then honestly you are a FOOL and I believe you wlll always be a FOOL. Women are only good for ONE thing and that is SEX, forget sentiments. Take them serious at your own doom.

eiBADAn:
Honestly, there is no lie in all I said. I'm not trying to brag, but my dad is a billionaire and she knows this. I'm currently planning to leave the country to further my studies for the benefits of the family company. I had to apply for a visa for her which was refused. A blessing in disguise I must say. Now she wants me to try again. I have dropped her sisters CV with my dad tho he doesn't know them. She wants me to buy her brother a phone. Also my expensive wristwatch she wants me to dash her brother. Some times when we argue, she would be like, don't forget we are not married o. That got me thinking a lot. I talk to her mom so I don't know how to dump her without much hassles. I have a very soft heart which she's capitalizing on. I love and I'm sad as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.

eiBADAn:
Honestly, there is no lie in all I said. I'm not trying to brag, but my dad is a billionaire and she knows this. I'm currently planning to leave the country to further my studies for the benefits of the family company. I had to apply for a visa for her which was refused. A blessing in disguise I must say. Now she wants me to try again. I have dropped her sisters CV with my dad tho he doesn't know them. She wants me to buy her brother a phone. Also my expensive wristwatch she wants me to dash her brother. Some times when we argue, she would be like, don't forget we are not married o. That got me thinking a lot. I talk to her mom so I don't know how to dump her without much hassles. I have a very soft heart which she's capitalizing on. I love and I'm sad as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.

Honestly dis story of urs is a sorry one...if dere r still ladies like DAT in dis century den its a sorry case...pls wake up cos marrying a liability is like signing a death warrant...m a lady as well

eiBADAn:
Honestly, there is no lie in all I said. I'm not trying to brag, but my dad is a billionaire and she knows this. I'm currently planning to leave the country to further my studies for the benefits of the family company. I had to apply for a visa for her which was refused. A blessing in disguise I must say. Now she wants me to try again. I have dropped her sisters CV with my dad tho he doesn't know them. She wants me to buy her brother a phone. Also my expensive wristwatch she wants me to dash her brother. Some times when we argue, she would be like, don't forget we are not married o. That got me thinking a lot. I talk to her mom so I don't know how to dump her without much hassles. I have a very soft heart which she's capitalizing on. I love and I'm sad as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.

One word 'maga'

Men can be selfish ehn.

Bros c'mon, people say a lot of nasty stuff in the heat of the moment...it don't mean a thang...what matters is what they do afterwards..the girl came back, begging and saying sorry, why are you still holding on to an irrelevancy,na you get problem in my own opinion.

hormawhume:
Honestly dis story of urs is a sorry one...if dere r still ladies like DAT in dis century den its a sorry case...pls wake up cos marrying a liability is like signing a death warrant...m a lady as well

Did I mention that she converted to Christianity when we met and we pray together now. I'm a Christain.This adds to the confusion, is it a more sophisticated way of deceit, well she can't deceive God if she deceives herself.

mimicue:
One word 'maga'

I'm no mumu or maga, my bad is embedded in me. I'm only helping a poor soul. It costs me nothing. God is doing more in my life. If I dump her, they would say guys are wicked. I will just cope till I travel abroad. Can't hurt a fly unlike before when I never cared. My old self would vanish, change my sims, block her on all social media so that I can forget about her quickly but that's not the only way. I'm happy for the response. She's sleeping as I'm typing this after cooking, cleaning and washing.

adellam16:
he is d one that came to tell us d story on nairaland, how r we sure she begged him. It could b a lie o

My dear see the way all these guys wan chop off my head o!! Na op mk decision, na him carry matter come nl after him Don decide, no be make we give our opinion?

Honestly I don't know why you guys are taking it personal. Am not saying the op should take her back rather he should let her go instead of making her believe that he has forgiven her when in truth he didn't. That is deception and wickedness to an extent.

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

I beg hussh not all ladies are like that so please give ur advice with a pinch of wisdom

eiBADAn:
Honestly, there is no lie in all I said. I'm not trying to brag, but my dad is a billionaire and she knows this. I'm currently planning to leave the country to further my studies for the benefits of the family company. I had to apply for a visa for her which was refused. A blessing in disguise I must say. Now she wants me to try again. I have dropped her sisters CV with my dad tho he doesn't know them. She wants me to buy her brother a phone. Also my expensive wristwatch she wants me to dash her brother. Some times when we argue, she would be like, don't forget we are not married o. That got me thinking a lot. I talk to her mom so I don't know how to dump her without much hassles. I have a very soft heart which she's capitalizing on. I love and I'm sad as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.

Ladies beware of 419!!!

What did you say to her?

I have always thought men were the ones to watch their mouths not women! If not for Nairaland, I would never have believed that men consider women more verbally abusive.

Bovis:
Ladies beware of 419!!!

Young man, watch what you utter from the gutter you call mouth

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

So you want her to keep managing you?.
Sharap dia u must be benefitting a lot from that relationship. Truth be told.

Ceccylia:
Men can be selfish ehn.

Women are not selfish, abi?

You can't use your gf as yardstick yo measure other women. Women have as much horrible tales take to tell as you men. It is unfortunate that you experienced this. She isn't your wife and you have a choice to leave her. Therefore you are in no position to feel somehow about her actions.

eiBADAn:
Guy, well said. If you do 99 things for a girl, it's the one thing you didn't that she would remember. If I make 300k a month, her personal budget is already over half of it and when there's an argument, she remembers one stupid thing I didn't buy or get for her, I'm talking about my gf. What do I do in my own case? She's not working cuz she's still searching. Let's assume I have 700k now, her budget would be 450k when I finish calculating expenses. She would do hair, change nails, buy makeup, but expensive creams, buy new clothes even tho she just bought few weeks back. She wants to send money to her mom, to her sister, to her brother. She's owing her friend, she has to pay. I do all these and the smallest argument we have, she would suddenly remember one stupid thing I didn't buy for her. How long do I keep up with these. O ti su mi o.

Mediator97:
LIKE SERIOUSLY?

I love this sentence.

NoBrake:
She's the one on ur profile I guess? She's ugly tho.. #NoOffence

Ugly girls makes ugly statements and mistakes.

jenigurl:

Childish and immature post.
Go ahead don't stop there why not also tell em to have a side boo too?
If you can't accept her back genuinely then let her go or else you would be nothing short of a user and that's bad for you.
Sticks and stones , our words don't harm you.

We are women words are the only ammunition we have got, and a real man knows this.

1. Never try to win an argument with your girl she will only look for something to say to hurt you but at the end of the day she don't mean it.
2. Don't hold what we say against us, we are flawed that way.

So while you are here feeling all macho you failed to realize and appreciate the fact that she is an open soul, who just says stuff when she is angry? That means you have a loyal lady by your side and you don't appreciate it?
Trust me there are girls who really are managing their men and the poor guys have no clue, because these girls can pretend, and would never say it in anger to his face.

Now those type of girls you don't need in your life.

Instead you have e simple lass who just blurts stuff out due to emotions ,

You don't know what you have and I pray you don't loose it

aunty, that was a very weak attempt at justifying thoughtless speech sha (anger or not). A person is not thoughtless because she's a woman. Whoever accepts it as her nature is all shades of lazy, especially mentally.

The op has a big point about minding one's tongue, just that he didn't follow his own advice and in no position to play the victim.

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

confirm!


some moderators dey seriously smoke weed


last month on jun14!

Adesiji77:
Women are not selfish, abi?

But the guy insulted the lady too nah, can't he fogive n forget? U men r d same.

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

try and read queencalipso comment as related yo this post of yours. u shall kno d truth and d truth shall set u free, she has told u the truth.

Ceccylia:
But the guy insulted the lady too nah, can't he fogive n forget? U men r d same.

Don't generalize. Children born by same parents cannot be the same, how much more men...

Respect55:
Why not call a spade a spade and not taking sides. Can u say such to ur bf. Dat u r just managing him. Ur b[bbenefactor[b][/b]. Smh

That's what the op said, that he's her benefactor, that doesn't mean its true, its his word against her's. Besides even if he's her benefactor that doesn't mean she should continue taking all his insults BC she's afraid to die. You forget that everything has its limit and maybe she reached hers. It gets to a point where you will choose to die than continue being at the mercy of someone who thinks he's your God, he subjects you to the cruelest of his will and expects you not to fight back and when you do, he tags you ungrateful.

Remember, he threw the first punch.

eiBADAn:
Honestly, there is no lie in all I said. I'm not trying to brag, but my dad is a billionaire and she knows this. I'm currently planning to leave the country to further my studies for the benefits of the family company. I had to apply for a visa for her which was refused. A blessing in disguise I must say. Now she wants me to try again. I have dropped her sisters CV with my dad tho he doesn't know them. She wants me to buy her brother a phone. Also my expensive wristwatch she wants me to dash her brother. Some times when we argue, she would be like, don't forget we are not married o. That got me thinking a lot. I talk to her mom so I don't know how to dump her without much hassles. I have a very soft heart which she's capitalizing on. I love and I'm sad as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.

I pity you... I just pity you.

Now read this: https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

If you don't you might end up a miserable fellow.

Also read this: https://www.nairaland.com/806457/shes-killing-me

The OP was removed but someone quoted it before it was done. So carefully read this 2 threads for your own good.

Oksman:
@queencalipso words are like eggs dropped from a height once released, i guess you know the outcome. The power of life and death belongs to the tongue, hence,watch what you say tnx and remain blessed.

it shldn't just be one party,but the both party involve in the relationship shld watch their mouth too bcus I know the guy also said smtin dat hurt the girl too...she's a nice person to humble herself to come n beg you,so swallow ur own pride n forgive n forget it all or let the girl go.

I don't comment on relationship stuvs cos I'm not in any