Oga,abeg stay where you dey o. We wey dey here never see wife wey we dey find. No come add join our problem.

odimbannamdi:


5 freaking years!? And u never got to know?

Knowing is not the difficult part, forgiving is. I think I'm done forgiving.

Buhahahahha

Me i fit hook you up for this same UK

What kind of Job do you have that makes it difficult to find time to socialise?

Hmmm big man! I can authoritatively tell you that 9ja girls are even worse like one of my brother comments above. I aswell lives in London and I do go home very often, atleast twice in a year. Although, my fiancee is in Nigeria but it only takes the grace of God to get a good girl in Nigeria. Like what one of the guys above said " they will always want you for what you are but not for whom you are". There are lots of good ladies here to the extent that you will even doubt it that they were born and brought u here. Just pray to God to connect you to the right lady here or back home.

Be patient God will do it

chubbygal:
Funny kids

Post those kids in MTN advert, they sabi code wella

Dude I understand you. At least you tried to find one.The prospects with many ladies in UK are not bright. Some now think they are oyinbo, only without the financial responsibilities that oyinbo ladies share in a relationship or the civility & manners of oyinbo.

At the end they are neither here nor there. There are good ones but so few that you might not be lucky enough to meet one.

Marrying from home/9ja is not quite as straightforward as it used to be. Because the girl you will bring over might already have several social media boyfriends in UK. You could end up ferrying her down for another man.

If you do find a nice lady in 9ja, do not promise her heaven and earth. Also do not promise taking her to UK at all. Because the ones that want to just go abroad can pretend to like you. Whereas they might be worse than the UK girls you are running away from.

The one who does not mind giving it ago even if staying behind for years in 9ja might be better. But of course you know keeping her in 9ja is not an option. But let it NOT be the central theme in your discussion.

A guy from another African country was in love with a 9ja babe in UK. From the story the guy told me, the 9ja sister was just dribbling him left, right & centre. And I told him so but he was so much in love. Looking at his religious background & other aspects, I advised him to forget her and return to his country to marry from there. He finally found out the dribbling about 18 months later.

He went to his country, married & brought the lady to UK. They have 3 kids now & all are doing just fine.

martyns303:
Goodluck!!!

You made it seem like you are coming to buy something off the shelve. Something as important as marriage.

A Nigerian girl will pretend to be anything you want sensing your desperation, and move to the UK, then you will see her real color.

I know most UK girls (Nigerian) can be difficult, mostly girls from South London. But the truth is they are already used to the system. If you marry a home based and take her to the UK, I give you 2yrs max, you will regret it. When she realize the liberty and right she has, she will want to exercise it and will abuse it. I have seen this happen 100 times over...

I believe you are looking for a "yes sir" kind of girl, and you think you will find that in Nigeria? You are in for a shocker.

gbam! nothing can be added to this. OP for the last time, you better stay there and save your lonely head from headache. You are even better off with the many black single mums over there than most of the girls here, how you have failed to hook up one of the plenty desperate black ladies there is surprising, hope you have no obvious issues?

hopeforcharles:

Hahahahhahahahahhaha ' iam inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along
Lol these days it's hard find a good girl don't know what went wrong

lol ur own bad oh mine was just 1yr and 7months before i discovered bae na certified olsho.this babes ain't loyal at all

jaybee3:
Buhahahahha

Me i fit hook you up for this same UK

What kind of Job do you have that makes it difficult to find time to socialise?

dat nigga do the night shift driving tube from walthamstow to brixton on the victoria line. i know the nigga

Please pinshure yourself, let's access you first. ..

Cutehector:
are u serious? be like say dis u.k ibx1976 op dey find maga.. emm let me suggest notoriousbabe or iyangbali

yeepa!!!

I cannot imagine the amount of pms you have gotten so far especially from nairaland shemales

story for the gods
as if when you finally see one you will keep her

abegi

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

It is good move but you better not showcase yourself. Otherwise, Nija ladies will play you too. I definitely understand you. It is hard. Sometimes some of this Oyinbo dont want to settle. They want to fling fling bcus of their freedom mentality.

Brother, you may have to put aside "I am from UK" thing if you want real one in Nija. Otherwise, ready for players man.

finalboss:
hmmm

u are makin no sense. U are are harsh.

emeraldknytt:
My brother, my only candid advice is to find someone to pop out kids for you. what I Am saying in essence is, don't think of getting married to true loving Nigerian lady or any woman who is gonna be a 100% with such period of check and see… cos our women only dance to the tune of Dallas and Nairas. The economy is hard and the HUSTLE IS REAL YOU are warned.







AJA (girls) Gberaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The same way nigeria guys are knuckle head

If you are searching for a Nigerian wife visit http://nigerianbrides.com.ng

Guy nawa for u oo,,,na since 2011 u don dey find wifey on top Nairaland,,, bro mi u don miss Road o.
Shey girls for ur area don finish na online u cum dey find wife,,, well done.

martineinstein:
i pity u...u think naija women are what dey used to be....dey ve changed
majority of dem are 'olosho' and gold-diggers.

U better find one dia.if u fall into naija girls hand(especially this recession period),dey will dig holes into ur pockets and dump u inside dustbin.


Trouble dey sleep,yanga wan wake am

And nigeria guys are useless,gold digging males

HungerBAD:
Lol see format.

Leave our girls on Nairaland alone with this COME and MARRY format.

What is the difference between the girls in Nigeria and the UK?since the UK is an extention of Nigeria anyway.

And you think 1 month is enough to meet a girl,develop a relationship and then marry her?

Story is not adding up.

You want a Nigeria girl?then go to Nigeria in the UK to look for them. Nigeria in the UK is the South East part of London.

I lived there for almost 10 years,and I can authoritatively tell you that all the kinds of girls you want from your village,then some, is there.

ur points are jst baseless

OP sorry to disappoint you. you will likely not find good girls here again oh. only pretending good girls. we don mash all of them finish. so, just kuku dey UK find Watin you want.

be warned

I don't know why , a friend complained of same issue and I tried in vain to convince him to marry in UK he keeps saying Nigeria babes in UK are wayward and disrespectful and he has been coming back and forth every Year end to "searchlight" Nigerian base... nothing concrete yet

sukkot:
dat nigga do the night shift driving tube from walthamstow to brixton on the victoria line. i know the nigga

Even at that with maximum working hours per week limitation, social time shouldn't be premium.


Heck, tube drivers do rolling shifts so there should be enough time to socialise if he wanted to

Dude just wants to knack cheap akpako on NL

May Jah bless his hustle though

guy, the gods r still silent on ur matter o.
come back in three market days

by then ur lists go don reach page 11

just say u wan test multiple punannies.

Nairaland (smh)

ok

I pray that you will come across my reply when y because it is d situation of which I have try and I can tell you from experience my brother 1 month is never enough to find someone you want to settled down with 2011 till last year I always travel to Nigeeia with the hope that I will find someone my brothee finding a right partner is grace and favor of God.......please for God sake take your time and dont rush its a life time thing....I lived abroad too. I have a good job since 2012 . Have my owwwn place got alot of good things going for me but not married I understand the presure and life style abroad wwhere you go to do not work and ce back home without now one at home to welcome you...a situation where by people you started with already have family and their kids growing and they look at you as if yiu wasnt serious....but only you understand your pain and what u go througj emotionally. ...do not allowed all this presure push you to do something you wwill regret for the rest of your life....another thing I wwill like to advise you is never let anyone choose a woman for you because you may end up not liking the person and the fact that she is introduce to you from someone close to you or her may let u compromise even if u didn't like her naturally....all this will just end up depressed and pretend to be happy meanwhile deep down you you are never happy but you said yes because of d circumstances. ..take your time pray to God....dedicate yourself...stay away from sexual relationahip and God will direct you to that special woman....stay bless.........finally remember all you go througj nefore you have your permanent or temporary resident...if you end up with a wrong woman my brother.....it is a big sorry....I wish you beat of luck

EkoErrands:


Pls if the girls there didn't cheat on you kuku marry them...and endure their luggage.the ones here will cheat on you and still give you luggage to carry. All of them except those that will not bash me for saying this secret of theirs are olosho.

I'm inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along.

All of you are kukuma the same
Sorry sha

You will get good girls in lagos

jaybee3:


Even at that with maximum working hours per week limitation, social time shouldn't be premium.


Heck, tube drivers do rolling shifts so there should be enough time to socialise if he wanted to

Dude just wants to knack cheap akpako on NL

May Jah bless his hustle though

hehehehe. personally i think the nigga has control issues. he has napoleon complex. he is looking for a girl who will say YES SIR to him, and cook and wash his plates and wash his clothes and UK girls are not down with that. he needs to sort out his control issues and he will see many women to marry in the UK.

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

Why head to Nigeria, when we already have nairaland? Oya Nairaland Babes, soup don done o............ Straight ticket to obodo oyinbo..............

gbens2000:
lol ur own bad oh mine was just 1yr and 7months before i discovered bae na certified olsho.this babes ain't loyal at all

Ha!! God abeg o, this is frightening