Hello beautiful people..

Please don't mind my screaming Topic..I only just made the discovery.

OK straight to the point.

I met this lady a couple of years back (I was 26 then) through a cousin of mine (they were friends). One thing led to the other after the usual introduction by my cousin and we found each other dating.

Though I have always sensed she was older than I was but when I asked her she told me she was 28 (then). I thought to myself... OK.. Even if we date for a couple of years she will still be within the 'safe' age of 30 or thereabout before we formalize anything.

Just last week...I stumble upon her International passport which she did before we met.. And was shocked when I saw she was born in Jan'82..

Mind you.. She has used this period of dating to buy her way into all of my family members' heart. And they all seem to take to her.

Also she is not working (although has OND)...I seem to be the one carrying all her responsibility even at this dating period

Now I am seriously having a second thought of the possibility of taking a 35 year old lady to the alter at my age (remember I mention I never thought the gap was so much). I know some will say age is but a number but with 7 year difference. This is certainly more than a number.

I haven't spoken to her since the discovery and this is already causing a rift between us..

I need some matured talking-to right now on way forward from here..

Please ignore any grammatical blunders... It's a reflection of my state of mind right now


Mods.. Pls I need a wider audience for this
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SmellingAnus:
I can deal with high body count but I can't deal with this type of deceitful nature... A relationship sustained by deceit... Well its your choice to make... Look out for other possible areas she must have been very deceitful, if she is really a honest and respectfully loving person excluding what you just found, then there is nothing really wrong in going ahead with your good plans for her.... Let me leave you with this food for thought.... What if you find out later that she is actually older than 35 what will you do

Goethe:
Thanks for this..

LegendaryArnold:
Oga ade marry her if she's perfect for you....na age you won chop...besides I even like older women sef...they're more understanding and experienced in a lot of aspects

Smellymouth:
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naijaboiy:
[b]You have to really settle down and think this through. Despite the age difference, is she the kind of person you'll like to have as a wife?

Does she tick all/most of the boxes? If she does then I don't think her age should be a problem. But if it's otherwise then you really need to take your steps gently so you don't make a mistake.

Personally I wouldn't marry a lady older than I am. A younger girl would do for me. But if she's very okay and she ticks my boxes I'll definitely go ahead and marry her.

But it's really surprising that you're the one taking care of all the financial responsibilities despite her age. Just make your decision and remember that your happiness comes first before you please your family.

However, I'd advise that you be careful with her cos of her situation. Time is running out on her and I guess that's why she lied about her age. She wants to quickly marry and that shows desperation, be careful of desperate women. They can do anything.

My two cents...[/b]

Sunnymatey:
When u were licking the oil, u never discover any passport now that oil is finished u want run. She must be good looking for u not to have notice the gab. If she's a wife material, go ahead cus the younger generation are wild and stubborn.

Goethe:
Respect..nai jaboiy

I was filled with hope when I saw you viewing the thread!

TrapQueen77:


Lemme run to traphedges and him this one..

OP age is just a number and if you really love her.. But in the other hand, if she kept such secret for long.. Who knows what she'll be hiding. I also think she's scared of losing you and kind of unsecured.. So don't blame her that much.. Just make sure she tells you everything..

TrapHedges:


OP age is just a number and if you really love her.. But in the other hand, if she kept such secret for long.. Who knows what she'll be hiding. I also think she's scared of losing you and kind of unsecured.. So don't blame her that much.. Just make sure she tells you everything..

royalemperors:
Oga continue with her but dump her age.

BabaRamota1980:
I sense sincerity in your palaver, so Im going to exchange with you sincerely.

First, I liked smellinganus input, give it thought, it has weight. Second, have you shared your discovery with family members, and what do they say? Bring them along in your fears.

A man's discrimination for physical beauty in the opposite gender improves with age. As you advance in age your senses demand sharper refinement in feminine beauty and appeal.

A woman's beauty peaks at menopause and begins to depreciate as she adds more years to age. Taken with the vagaries to her body from childbirth and other social stress, by age 50 her physical and sexual appeal takes a nose dive.

You will be the one to live with her, not your relatives and not us in nl. Appreciate our input but decision is yours. It does no damage to check her pulse about polygamous household. If you decide to go ahead and marry her you will have that option available to activate if in future, for reasons I explained, she is no longer bae.

Good luck!