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rosalieene:
What advice exactly do you need.
Please just leave her alone to move on with her life irrespective of any unfinished business. You will only end up causing her more hurt.

I knw. Already done that. Just don't want hostility 4 now. But wait, I really want to know, are a lot of ladies like this? As in, Can't respect agreement? Why shud there be HOSTILITY at all. That's what I don't get. Hostility is for when someone plays u, not when they respect u and are completely honest with u all the way. C'mon.

Don't go into a close relationship with a lady you are not sure you will go the distance with. Also, when you are friends with a lady, emphasise and keep reiterating it to her that you don't have plans for marriage cause ladies get so comfortable easily and begin to think ahead.

As for you bro, you can't keep postponing the evil day.

SweetBoyFriend:

This is how to identify a dumb guy

Why can't you keep your mouth shut for once ??

Going around telling her you don't wanna marry her, how do you want her to act ?? You want her to Laugh and tell you "I don't think I'm the right one for you"

She's the smartest person on earth, she was acting like she loves you and want to marry you

The money and the dick for good, she did a great job using your little brain

Do you know how many niggas she bursted it open for when you where dying in love and calling her your girlfriend ??

You don't tell a girl that type of stuff even if you don't love her, just act on it, your behavior will drive her away

exactly

Charlentine:
So here's the problem, I do love this lady to a degree, but I ain't going for that marriage stuff. Not yet, and definitely not with her. I told her my plans from the day we officially started dating and she was totally cool with it. only to suddenly go mafia and change everything and become super possessive and pester me for marriage after some months, in a "If u won't marry me then ENEMY mode activated!" kind of way. That's unfair na! I've not dated much but my last gf wasn't unreasonable na, she even loved me for being straightforward with her and we dated exclusively until I had to travel. Then i adviced her to move on with her life (tho it was a very hard decision cos she's an awesome person, beautiful too) but we're friends till date.


Anyway, so Im letting this lady go so she can find a proper husband, but I don't want her beef (she gets very hostile and vengeful whenever she feels slighted even for the best of reasons, no matter how much u try to reason with her) cos I still have some unfinished business with her and don't want her to ruin it. Shes the type that, if something isn't going her way then it is BAD no matter how great it has been. She has potential husbands (ex'es) and has quickly resorted to hooking up with one for marriage. I wish her well, but don't need the hostility now.


How does one deal with this? Wud it have been better to give her false hope, and then bail once I get my stuff out? Won't that be unfair to her? Are the majority of ladies selfish like this cos I always hear ladies cry "he jilted me bla bla bla"? because guys have learnt to be dishonest with them? Is there another way? Like Ive confessed, I haven't dated much, but I want to believe we don't all have to be bad.

drop her picture.....and better beg that igbo girl before dey use juju for you head...oponu

Elesta:
Nawa oh in my entire life i havent come across this kind of self centered person n i dont pray to see.Na real wa.Hisses

How exactly is this self-centered for chrisakes?

Charlentine:
I knw. Already done that. Just don't want hostility 4 now. But wait, I really want to know, are a lot of ladies like this? As in, Can't respect agreement? Why shud there be HOSTILITY at all. That's what I don't get. Hostility is for when someone plays u, not when they respect u and are completely honest with u all the way. C'mon.

Probably she fell deeply in love with you and started imagining a future with you.
Don't blame her.

ToriBlue:
I don't know why guys keep dating women the can't marry. Its sheer wickedness.

u are a mumu....if na so i for don marry more than 30 girls by now

Charlentine:
So here's the problem, I do love this lady to a degree, but I ain't going for that marriage stuff. Not yet, and definitely not with her. I told her my plans from the day we officially started dating and she was totally cool with it. only to suddenly go mafia and change everything and become super possessive and pester me for marriage after some months, in a "If u won't marry me then ENEMY mode activated!" kind of way. That's unfair na! I've not dated much but my last gf wasn't unreasonable na, she even loved me for being straightforward with her and we dated exclusively until I had to travel. Then i adviced her to move on with her life (tho it was a very hard decision cos she's an awesome person, beautiful too) but we're friends till date.


Anyway, so Im letting this lady go so she can find a proper husband, but I don't want her beef (she gets very hostile and vengeful whenever she feels slighted even for the best of reasons, no matter how much u try to reason with her) cos I still have some unfinished business with her and don't want her to ruin it. Shes the type that, if something isn't going her way then it is BAD no matter how great it has been. She has potential husbands (ex'es) and has quickly resorted to hooking up with one for marriage. I wish her well, but don't need the hostility now.


How does one deal with this? Wud it have been better to give her false hope, and then bail once I get my stuff out? Won't that be unfair to her? Are the majority of ladies selfish like this cos I always hear ladies cry "he jilted me bla bla bla"? because guys have learnt to be dishonest with them? Is there another way? Like Ive confessed, I haven't dated much, but I want to believe we don't all have to be bad.

OP I'm unable to understand comic work,

yedidiah:
Don't go into a close relationship with a lady you are not sure you will go the distance with. Also, when you are friends with a lady, emphasise and keep reiterating it to her that you don't have plans for marriage cause ladies get so comfortable easily and begin to think ahead.

As for you bro, you can't keep postponing the evil day.

Lols. Naa. I'm protected from all evil. And I did do as u stated in ur first paragraph. But I guess u just can't emphasize enough.

Op karmaly is coming for you just be alert, whether daughter or sisters!!!

be like woman Neva pour u acid before

ToriBlue:
I don't know why guys keep dating women the can't marry. Its sheer wickedness.

What are you even saying? You don't just see the opposite sex from afar and conclude you want to marry him/her.

Like someone once said, "you look before you leap. Dating is an opportunity to discover the other person and rediscover ourselves. I'm not sure any reasonable person commits to such emotional venture with battered intent". If it fails to work out you move on with your head high up. It was not meant to be. If it works out fine, take it to the next level.

So before the relationship you told her the status quo and she still agreed. I think the girl is the witch here. if she were not deceptive hoping she'd change your mind she wouldn't have agreed.

see hypocrites criticizing the OP, same idiots who watch BBNigeria where immorality is being promoted.

for those of you blasting the OP. to hell.

Kennyodinye:
drop her picture.....and better beg that igbo girl before dey use juju for you head...oponu

Lols. Oponu back at u! Lolz

Charlentine:
So here's the problem, I do love this lady to a degree, but I ain't going for that marriage stuff. Not yet, and definitely not with her. I told her my plans from the day we officially started dating and she was totally cool with it. only to suddenly go mafia and change everything and become super possessive and pester me for marriage after some months, in a "If u won't marry me then ENEMY mode activated!" kind of way. That's unfair na! I've not dated much but my last gf wasn't unreasonable na, she even loved me for being straightforward with her and we dated exclusively until I had to travel. Then i adviced her to move on with her life (tho it was a very hard decision cos she's an awesome person, beautiful too) but we're friends till date.


Anyway, so Im letting this lady go so she can find a proper husband, but I don't want her beef (she gets very hostile and vengeful whenever she feels slighted even for the best of reasons, no matter how much u try to reason with her) cos I still have some unfinished business with her and don't want her to ruin it. Shes the type that, if something isn't going her way then it is BAD no matter how great it has been. She has potential husbands (ex'es) and has quickly resorted to hooking up with one for marriage. I wish her well, but don't need the hostility now.


How does one deal with this? Wud it have been better to give her false hope, and then bail once I get my stuff out? Won't that be unfair to her? Are the majority of ladies selfish like this cos I always hear ladies cry "he jilted me bla bla bla"? because guys have learnt to be dishonest with them? Is there another way? Like Ive confessed, I haven't dated much, but I want to believe we don't all have to be bad.

if u dnt wana marry her den beeak up with her. The more ure tigeda d more she get d hope of u marryng her. By d way y dating smbdy u knw ure nt gonna marry? I dont blame her at all

AngelsAndStars:
So before the relationship you told her the status quo and she still agreed. I think the girl is the witch here. if she were not deceptive hoping she'd change your mind she wouldn't have agreed.

see hypocrites criticizing the OP, same idiots who watch BBNigeria where immorality is being promoted.

for those of you blasting the OP. to hell.

Thanks bro! I think you really get the picture.

what would you think if you were the brother of the girl? Women aren't toys man! If i were the girls bro i'd beat the shi*t out of you for the disrespect.The sister aint your prostitute nigguh.

You took advantage of a clearly vulnerable girl to satisfy ur glut gtfo. Ask the girls dad for advice.

Thank God Muslim countries worth their name do not tolerate such impunity.

op you don't have a problem... d only problem Yu have is that your stewpidity has no bounds.... did is wat gals Gat wen d date under-25 Niqqaz

OP u are very stoopi.d , after eating her puny u are letting her go. It shows u are among the 99% of irresponsible non-husband material in Nigeria.

People like you lack commitment, and eventually become serial cheaters in marriages.

I promise u , if you keep jumping from one woman to the other, u will never find a wife material and when u eventually do, she will cheat on you.

If it's me , I will break your head if you dump me. And I hope she does.

Funkybabee:
Op karmaly is coming for you just be alert, whether daughter or sisters!!!

Guys, watch out for dis babe. By their fruits u shall know them. U half-read the OP and just flew to karma conclusions?? Jeez! P.S: there's nothing like karma in this situation.

You did right by telling her from the word go. She did wrong by agreeing and assuming she could later change your mind. You are not liable. She is an adult who agreed to your yeye conditions.

The earlier you get out, the better for you. But try with all your might to make it an easy breakup. If possible, let the fault be from her so you can avoid her wrath and still be friends.

PrickGetSize:
That's how one has been bugging my life with marriage talks. But I'm scared of this girl because she's a sex freak. I fvck her 3 rounds minimum every time she visits but she's never satisfied. Her sexual appetite is intimidating! There was one night I woke up to find her sucking my dick...and we just had the 3rd round for one day! And being a very busy person (I work from Monday to Friday. Leave early morning and come back late, say 7-8pm) I don't think I'll be able to cope with her sexuality if we marry; and this might lead her to cheat on me. Besides sex wahala, she's a very nice girl though.

Nice, i wonder which movie is that

ToriBlue:
I don't know why guys keep dating women the can't marry. Its sheer wickedness.

No mind such guys. I wonder why the babe could not decipher that he's not the serious type. Such guys I smell them from afar and avoid them like plagues.
You can't come and waste my time. Smhhh.
He should pray she's not diabolic, if not his future don set be that.

Let the girl go, why go on deceiving her when you know you won't marry her...repent ooo!!!!

Damfostopper:
op you don't have a problem... d only problem Yu have is that your stewpidity has no bounds.... did is wat gals Gat wen d date under-25 Niqqaz

Enlighten me, your highness! Is there a better way to handle it?

Bro, If U love her I see no problem getting married to her. But if U dnt, then tell her your "church" mind, that U dnt feel her anymore and let her knw that it'll be better U both go ur seperate ways, before we start hearing "stories that touch the heart"

This is a confirmation that people see relationship/dating only as a license to have "free" sex. What on earth are you dating a girl for if you have no intention to marry her?
I just don't understand this our generation.

Op, your intentions right from the beginning was wrong. So I don't know how you expect that to work. Since you don't want to marry her, why are you finding it difficult to release her to pursue what she sees as important to her? I think you are selfish.

alexialin:
No mind such guys. I wonder why the babe could not decipher that he's not the serious type. Such guys I smell them from afar and avoid them like plagues.
You can't come and waste my time. Smhhh.
He should pray she's not diabolic, if not his future don set be that.

why na? Ya'll are that wicked and SELFISH?!

Charlentine:
Thanks bro! I think you really get the picture.

bro. be on the guard anytime she comes around. be ready to strike back as self defense. I'd advise you leave her alone and report her to the police for threatening your life. you did not break any law here.

report to the police that your life is at risk, if possible ask that she be invited for warning.

U have successfully used a girl, wasted her time and u are here talking rubbish .

When her puna was sweeting u , did u allow advise her to date other guys that the relationship was for fun only ?















Na thunder go fire that utr blorkors

Charlentine:
why na? Ya'll are that wicked and SELFISH?!

We are not wicked or selfish. If u know u can't marry a babe u are wooing? Then hands off! Women are like flowers. You don't keep fucvking and dumping when u are tired. That's pure wickedness on your part. Pray your babe does not go extreme and deal with u diabolically.. Na then!, when u come. Life next time.. You will run away from pussssies.

Evil guy.

Well my candid advice is
You better call ur family members to prepare ur coffin coz u cnt eat yo cake nd av it.

Nd tnk God no b person like me u dey form daddy yo 4 coz d romantic way u will join yo ancestors eeehn, it will b lyk neva b4