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Your issue is not spiritual, it is psycological.
One, your environment matters a lot about your sexual performance, your state of mind is another thing.
There are some people that are not aroused by people that they dont feel something for to a certain degree, actually it is very normal for some men not to get aroused when they are agitated.
my advice is simple, forget about your first attempt, clear your mind totally and try again with someone in a better environment, definitely not a brothel, if possible not a prostitute.
relax your mind, talk to the person, get to know her, try and bond, let there be fore play and you will come here to give a testimony.
Remember, so many things can make you loose interest in sex temporarily, one is foul smell, sometimes it is a certain feature you see on your partner, it may even be words, some like vulgar talk it turns them on while it turn others off.
It has not worked with a prostitute, so I will advice that you try someone that is not a proffessional.

helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy

Condition your mind and you will be okay, hard as rock.

Just direct positive energy towards your joystick, and use the affirmation "i have hard Rock elections right now" 8 times always.

If you do this properly you will see the results okay.

Best time to do this

When the sun is in Leo, the new moon will be in Leo. The full moon will be in Leo when the sun is in Aquarius.

If you want maximum result, if you are ready I will post how to do healing working using sun mantra,

Aiit, dunno much about this but I think it's a thing of the mind. First your first experience with sex and the scene it created conditioned your mind that maybe something is wrong with you and unfortunately it stuck.

Now let me tell you, YOU ARE NOT IMPORTENT, just that an unfortunate incident stuck in your head. Its more psycological than medical.

First calm yourself down and get composed. Burying yourself in books and business isnt the way out. You need to come out of your shell.

My suggestion. You have female friends or probably a girl you love and you know loves you. Open up to her, before opening up make sure that she is mature and very understanding. Tell her everything, exclude nothing. Ask her to help get your confidence back sexually. If she is game, Definitely it will involve sex over a while. Might be frustrating at first but it won't be for long. While on this, keep reminding yourself that nothing is wrong with you and avoid anything that will drag ur esteem down.

Avoid all these guys and topics that tell you how they lasted 1000 hours, e no go good for you yet.

If it finally works out better no leave the girl if not ...........


All the best don't forget to come back and tell us whats up after o.

Op, your problem is more psychological than spiritual or medical, if I got u right, u had a 100% erection with a particular girl, why dont u get a girlfriend that u can open up to, relax with her allow her to touch u, let there be enough pre-intimacy before the main thing, try to exercise and lose weight, eat more fruits and vegetable.
There's a drug, sidenafil or tadalafil (populary known as viagra) which helps to increase blood flow to the phalus, they can help u achieve and maintain an erection.
Masturbation does not cause impotence.
You talked about having a sharp pain while urinating why dont u go and test for ghonorrhea.
It is well.

rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona

Please help him if you can since you are not yet married.

yaqq:
the way u calculates ur erection per percentage leaves me Rotfl

I tell you. Never knew erection get %

Your situation is really pathetic and you must take it serious. Intimacy with the right opposite sex is sweet, a morale booster and support. Behind most successful men are good women.
You can start with a good cleanser to purge your tummy of excess sugar, oil and free your arteries.
You also need to start exercising your body regularly. That helps to free the joints and keep your heart and arteries healthy. Erection is all about blood circulation. A little garlic in your diet could also help in that direction.
But I seriously advice you to halt maturation as experts listed poorly and persistently administered maturation as a cause of impotency/premature ejaculation.
I could have recommend a good tradomedical practitioner that has a good cleanser which I periodically use to ginger myself. You must be serious as your condition has the potential to cause you embarrassment, could affect your self esteem and may deny you some leadership positions. In my place an impotent man cannot marry, cannot be a leader or an imam. May you be relieved of your ailment but you must stop masturbation.

I will advise you inform your mum I think she will know what to do before its too late. Please don't give up life is full of ups and downs. I salute your courage.

helpforever:
I can remember early 2015 or late 2014 when I went to a popular brothel in Bariga to try out my luck again. About 4 prostitutes came to meet me so I will pick them, they were all flaunting their body around me. Then immediately noticed the way I looked helpless and confused and started feeling my joystick. Speaking edo language to themselves. I'm not sure, but I think they noticed something was not right or so and they all left to look for another customer

Bariga

99foxxy:
How possible can one masturbate and not have erection? Don't you have erect diick when you masturbate? I guess your mind is playing you. Your claim of excess fat can't and won't hinder erection. Make friend with lemon orange, get moringa leaves, I mean fresh leaves and boil them, drink for one week. Don't worry, set your mind straight and the problem will solve itself cause I had a cousin who had a similar issue but he's very ok now.

I get erection when I masturbate, but it's 80% hard and not sustainable

Op, u v tried so many things except where u could possibly get help " HOSPITAL " visit a doctor before concluding that it's spiritual or not. This is 21St century and almost all ailments has a remedy.

See a Doctor please.

You are not alone my brother,so many people out there with the same problem,masturbation is hard to stop.I can bet it,masturbation is the epiccentre of ur problem.if u can overcome it u hit it but the secret to overcoming masturbation i dont know

rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona

So u re hotter dan fire,can I meet u.
Happy Sunday

rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona

you think everything is a joke? Be serious

Why the hell is this kind of topic on the front page. Has nairaland become an adult site?

Graphic sh!t like this should be edited or hidden away in the red light district of nairaland

helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Pls can you pm me. I passed through same stuff and felt suicidal most times . I brought my case here and to be candid with u, it is all psychological . pm me on chigozieodo007@gmail.com . Let's talk

Step one- get off nairaland
Step 2- go see a doctor

cummando:
ogbeni I no believe all this Una story jare.. If its real I for like render help but these days help dey dangerous....
Anyways pray hard

I swear to God. my story is real. If I lie, let me die today.

I am not asking for monetary help just advise and solution

I agree with this. To add all this visits to prostitutes self will end up giving you something that would damage your reproductive health.

You need to concentrate on building a genuine loving, loyal, trusting relationship and the rest will be added on.

Try and do away with this its a spiritual bs. This comes to play in your believe of after marriage consummation.

nmreports:
I think you should stop masturbating and stay away from anything sex for a long while.
I seriously think you should do this.
You are absolutely not impotent and I think your issue is psychological but I am not an expert to analyse this for you.

So you need to regenerate your mind to understand the following:

1. Sex gets better when you are with someone who likes you and you like in return.
2. You need to read books on how to overcome anxiety and being nervous.
3. You need to work on your health by eating the right things and drinking the right things to improve your health.
4. You dont find excitement in other girls other than your virtual women so you need to let go of those women.
5. Excessive masturbation just like every other excessive things is bad. If you are that smart, you would have stopped it.

I wish you good luck bro. Get yourself together.

gratiaeo:
I tell you. Never knew erection get %

By percentage I mean it gets hard but not very hard

rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona

trying so hard to be funny.....only makes u look a silly immature kid.....take note

helpforever:
Bro, this is a serious issue.

Stop masturbating, go see your doctor and also eat a lot of watermelon.

helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

U need an operation. U can send me ur no on private mail. I will explain better.

Oh thank Jehovah i started masturbating late in life. I know your problem, it is actually common. You have been masturbating vigorously since 17 and now your dïck is used to your hands probably and don't know the feeling of a warm juicy pussy. How you masturbate matters also that's why some people who masturbate frequently can still have pleasurable sex with a women. But you must be doing it vigorously considering you started at a young age. Here is what you will do, Get a intimacy gadget that looks like a woman pussy with the same warmness and juicy characteristics and try masturbating with it and get back to us, While watching a hardcôre screaming organms porn(I said screaming cause maybe a woman moan during orgams may turn you ON like everyone). If your dïck didn't stand despite using realistic pussy then your problem is certified, your hands have replace pussy in your brain...If that's the case you should totally stop or reduce masturbation. And for the sake of God don't use your imagination or unfathomable things while masturbating, Always have your hand core porn or pictures of Naked women with you so your brain wouldn't be deceived. Some people can masturbate over anything, if a woman says hi they go and masturbate over her using only their imagination. Stop that please, Sex is the only thing you should masturbate over.

Your problem is psychological, You need to seriously reconditioned your brain.

Bro... Google 'how to cure impotence with urinotherapy' thank me later...

I will advise that you seek God sincerely and go medical as well...These should work!

helpforever:
I swear to God. my story is real. If I lie, let me die today.

I am not asking for monetary help just advise and solution

Hmmm this one is strong!
Come to my church....I be cele boy! Their fada...everything go disappear

GAZZUZZ:
Get your. Blood pumping, start to exercise,. You do not exercise. Jog every morning for 1month then come back and testify.

This one no be engine matter o.... But true sha

yaqq:
the way u calculates ur erection per percentage leaves me Rotfl

I swear that guy sabi calculate wella ooooo

Chai! Dearlordinheaven!

Dude...I think you ought to have tried getting down with the babe you were able to get an errecction with. Plus stop masstibation pls. It is well o.