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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by afbstrategies: 11:32am On Mar 19, 2017
I believe you have both medical and psychological problems but I find it amazing that you have not consulted a medical doctor. Viagra may help if prescribed since you stated that you have money. Sorry bro!
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by dominicson: 11:34am On Mar 19, 2017
idakole, simply. not impotence, not an attack. nothing! herbs cure!
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Draei: 11:35am On Mar 19, 2017
rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona
Dumbest post of the day...

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:37am On Mar 19, 2017
pokipoki:

What you need to understand is that life does not revolve only on sex and been married. The hard truth is if you cannot solve your erection problems, I think what you need to do is to structure your life on other important things other than sex and marriage. I must confess it won't be easy but you really don't have an option. Wish you all the best.

So OP should just give up hun ? undecided
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by uboma(m): 11:37am On Mar 19, 2017
rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona



I clicked on your profile to see how "smoking HOT" you look but got disappointed.

Please upload a picture.

grin

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by CHARLOE(m): 11:38am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I can remember early 2015 or late 2014 when I went to a popular brothel in Bariga to try out my luck again. About 4 prostitutes came to meet me so I will pick them, they were all flaunting their body around me. Then immediately noticed the way I looked helpless and confused and started feeling my joystick. Speaking edo language to themselves. I'm not sure, but I think they noticed something was not right or so and they all left to look for another customer
Your problem is; u think ur problem is spiritual. Won't blame u tho cos I came to that point when I was having same issue n let me repeat it here; Your problem is NOT spiritual! You've not seen d doc, not done any test, not stopped taking sugar, yet u believe ur problem is spiritual. No p, continue .
I already offered u my advise in d other thread which u obviously don't take serious.
I've bin in ur shoes many years ago n I finally overcame it (after some fraudster chop my money wella. Today I enjoy regular sex with my wife with 2 kids Maybe after dem chop ur money u go learn
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by afbstrategies: 11:39am On Mar 19, 2017
Collins0609:
All u need is bitter kola.eat one in d morning,one at night.do it for one week and notice d difference.but know ur problem is psycological and u are d only one to help urself
Bitter kola that is currently cheap in Nigeria. Now you are going to make it expensive. I am rushing to increase my reserve before the aboki start telling me they raised the price because of the exchange rate cheesy

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by kendrick9(m): 11:43am On Mar 19, 2017
Everfrank:
Your situation is really pathetic and you must take it serious. Intimacy with the right opposite sex is sweet, a morale booster and support. Behind most successful men are good women.
You can start with a good cleanser to purge your tummy of excess sugar, oil and free your arteries.
You also need to start exercising your body regularly. That helps to free the joints and keep your heart and arteries healthy. Erection is all about blood circulation. A little garlic in your diet could also help in that direction.
But I seriously advice you to halt maturation as experts listed poorly and persistently administered maturation as a cause of impotency/premature ejaculation.
I could have recommend a good tradomedical practitioner that has a good cleanser which I periodically use to ginger myself. You must be serious as your condition has the potential to cause you embarrassment, could affect your self esteem and may deny you some leadership positions. In my place an impotent man cannot marry, cannot be a leader or an imam. May you be relieved of your ailment but you must stop masturbation.
nonsense...masturbation does not cause ED...stop this false information..

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by GodsOwnFav: 11:43am On Mar 19, 2017
rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona

Stupid moc'fucker!
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Mskrisx(f): 11:43am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:


I have not gone to a brothel since 2014. I am actually scared of prostitutes now.


Good. That is one step forwards.

Next get a woman and a doctor.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by XtraTochi: 11:44am On Mar 19, 2017
Well I really don't know what causes this type of problem but I've had such experience though not for long.

Mine was just for a week then I got back normal
Seek medical help first before going spiritual, I don't really believe in all this church stuffs buy you can try if you didn't see any good result after medication
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:44am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Your best friend is very right brother, your condition is medical+psychological, nothing spiritual about it, have you tried seeking solutions at all? I mean real solutions o, not chasing after illusions. The problem you have could be one or more of many things, you have to seek solutions, medical, dietary, personal and psychological in that order.

What is your diet like? are you obese? do you exercise?? have you gone for a lab test, make sure you don't have any hidden infection or hormonal condition? have you tried erection drugs to see what difference they would make?

Masturbation causes psychological damage that could be responsible for inability to perform with women. The fact that you still get hot, and still produce semen when you masturbate shows you system still works ok, just that they may have been reconfigured to respond to porn and your imaginations instead of the real thing. You can got for a semen analysis test to see if you sperm count and quality is still ok, that way you'd at least have the confidence that you can impregnate a women, then go ahead and start solving the erectile problem. You're gonna be okay bro...
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by shumuel(m): 11:46am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy




Go and seek a Doctor, your case is Medical, you are not channeling enough blood down there, try using one of those steriods and see if it would work, i suggest this because i strongly believe in the above; it takes blood flow from the brain to the peniss to gain erection.

And if you still believe it's spiritual after trying the above mentioned suggestions and it didn't work, please seek that older prostitute and beg her; don't let her know anything about your encounter with her, approch her for her service, if then you still didn't get an erection, then spill, and beg her.

Chai! This world is wicked, where me is getting ''Erection malfunction grin'' i get hard-on anyday, anytime grin
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by chiraqDemon(m): 11:46am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Bros all this ur long story just show say u nor wan epp urself
White ppl tell u make u visit counsellor or doctor and u r sayin ur story will confuse them
If u were so good that u diagnosed urself of having spiritual impotence then u dont have a problem
Now im talking u will say that nairaland ppl always bash and insult ppl that post their cases
Guy stop being unconcerned about ur health
Better go to a counsellor or a doctor and tell them ur situation
Ur never even made an attempt to take ur case to a professional, u just stayed at home and decided that professionals wont understand ur problem and that its spiritual

If u like run go prophet suleiman ur solution na for inside hospital

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by uboma(m): 11:46am On Mar 19, 2017
GAZZUZZ:


Get your. Blood pumping, start to exercise,. You do not exercise. Jog every morning for 1month then come back and testify.


Gazzuzz,

You are better off at the Car talk section grin

The op needs to kill the shyness in him and visit a competent doctor.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by browseyd22(m): 11:46am On Mar 19, 2017
Go to TB joshua
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by chuka5000(m): 11:48am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy





call on this guy, I saw his post one time online.

his name is

flexherbal
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by lawrence7: 11:49am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:


Thank you.

How will you now explaining my not having erection after I wake up.

Some people have them all the time. Some rarely. I'm sure you've had once or twice. If its that you've never had them theres an organic problem. But based on what you described. I doubt it.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by AnthonioAlsaid(m): 11:49am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever I know your your problem and believe me I have your solution

the treatment wont cost you but the information i want to give you will

it will require determination from your and also it might take long say 1year but you will heal if you follow my words to the letters

send a mail to BEXTBETLIFE@gmail.com

i would reply you with my watsapp contact.

goodluck.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Medunah(f): 11:51am On Mar 19, 2017
Cutehector:
hahahaha.. Make I pray for u join?
Haha, yes oo...I need prayers
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by obua: 11:51am On Mar 19, 2017
JustinSlayer69:
Forget the spiritual aspect... we Africans are too quick to blame that.

1. Eliminate the medical & psychological by seeing a urologist preferably at a teaching hospital.

2. You should have married that Edo gal who got you 100% hard (just kidding).

3. check yourbrainonporn.com and READ AS MANY articles as possible there. it helps with porn addiction

4. Delete ALL your porn and try to end masturbation. Both are destructive, you would see a change IMMEDIATELY.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) most times is psychological. My strong advise is to visit a teaching hospital.

GOODLUCK
the problem is caused by masturbation and pornography. You need to stop all that and start to eat nourishing food and avoid any form of sexual stimulation for 3-6months
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by captainmuyi(m): 11:51am On Mar 19, 2017
just go see a doctor
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by aobinna79(m): 11:52am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy
it could be hormonal imbalance? Go to hospital and run some test
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Blonchilli(m): 11:54am On Mar 19, 2017
OmaniPadmeHum:
Hahahaha

YOU ONLY HAVE WHAT IS CALLED

"PERFORMANCE ANXIETY"

You panic and have conditioned your mind with that first incident. Your mind now sees sex as something that you would fail at and that would be embarrassing.

IT IS NOT SPIRITUAL. Naaaaah. only in Nigeria do we make everything spiritual. Left alone we might still have thought small pox/chicken proxy was caused by "Sopana" and that Thunder and Lightning by Sango. Look with all these spiritual bla bla we were taken as slaves for hundred of years. We were colonized for years too in Africa. No spirit could help us or our fore fathers.

It is purely psychological. You have been psychologically scarred due to the experience at the brothel. You feel you are going to fail again and again.

Infact, subconsciously, your mind sees sex as a fight or flight thing. It is a sexual anxiety and perhaps panic issue. It is very normal and not spiritual.

Unfortunately, your WAFTS (worries, anxieties, fears, thoughts and sensations) are things you have tried to fight off. Your mind now sees sex as a battle and gets your body to fight/flee.

You immediately started avoiding the thing that embarrassed you and found another quick fix. It is like having insomnia and instead of allowing sleep to come naturally, you decide to take pills or use other stuff like sleeping tea, alcohol etc. They will work for a while, but soon their effects will be useless to the point of not working at all.

It is a flight or flight thing. Your body sees sex as something you would fail at. Can you get an erection when in danger? When fighting with someone or fleeing from danger? Nope. During fight or flight response, your body removes blood from places like the stomach, sex organs etc and send to the brain and muscles prepRing them for danger. How can you get an erection when due to that first traumatic experience, you feel that you might fail again and you worry about how embarrassing it would be.

That one experience made you worry little by little and you took actions (unknowingly) that made matters worse psychologically. You sound like a worrier by nature. Lol.

Unfortunately our brain is very silly and does not know the difference between real and perceived danger. If we worry too much, our brain tries to protect us by throwing all manner of things that can go wrong for us to act on them. But keeping calm, noticing these WAFTS, and mindfully letting them go/be whenever this happens helps to reassure your brain that all is cool and calm.

What book on Acceptance and Commitment/Mindfulness can I suggest to you....

Let me see....

Will look for something.


By far the most accurate post/comment I've seen on nairaland on this issue. Btw are you an ECK( hope the question is not offensive), you sound so much like my aunty and I'm believing you're not like the average Nigerians who have blinded themselves spiritually. You could even be my friendly consultant, for free btt wink
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Esepayne(f): 11:54am On Mar 19, 2017
it is well with you
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by fammo: 11:55am On Mar 19, 2017
Go see a doctor
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:56am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy
There is nothing spiritual about your problem.
It's either medical, psychological, or both.
Masturbation isn't the cause either.
I see you have missed what could be a solution to your problem.
Try to fall deeply in love with a Lady that meets most, if not all of your fantasies in a woman.
Twice you had girls love or flirt around you and you had erection. Falling in love with a girl that meets your desires could be the solution you need.
From my experience, being in love gives erection. I have confirmed this from several Friends and it's true.
Fall head over heels in love with a lady and you could be dealing with 101% erection round the clock. grin
Marry her and your life will be a blessing. wink
Good luck.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by CHARLOE(m): 11:58am On Mar 19, 2017
Joavid:
No where in your post did you mention seeing a doctor.

and if you haven't, then am ashmed of you.

after BSc and MSc , after so much education, you don't know your way to the doctor's office or atleast do a thorough research on your situation.

instead you're saying it's spiritual problem.

smh

No mind d op, he's just been stubborn. When I was facing Sam problem no 1 offered help, had to remove shame from my face n sought help.
I overcame d problem many years ago n today am happily married with kids.
Advised him on another thread on how I went bout it but its like his mind is made its spiritual, good luck to him.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by uboma(m): 12:00pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I will go to the hospital tomorrow or Tuesday for test. I actually didn't go because I resolved within myself that my case was spiritual. I agree, I was very FOOLISH


Don't forget to let us know how it goes after your visit to the Hospital.

Good health to you
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by IamLucy(f): 12:00pm On Mar 19, 2017
Lexusgs430:


Your perceived erectile dysfunction, could be as a result of 2 things -:

(1) Untreated STD infection
(2) Excessive masturbation

Visit your nearest hospital for a blood test ................
Rightt.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by divinelove(m): 12:01pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

U have erectile dysfunction

Have u taken Viagra b4 100mg, jst try it n u shld ve rock hard erection if nt u have a big problem.

Again u have to get used to sex with females n stay off masturbation. Excessive masturbation esp d ones u do for years without ever having sex with a real girl is a killer.

U r nt impotent say dt 100times daily, exercise, take lots of fruits n vegetables n ur rod will come to live IJN grin thank me later

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