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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Clearer01: 10:46am On Mar 19, 2017
I can help you if mean it, 08094024793, the very day you take medicine you will able to perform well.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Jj222(f): 10:46am On Mar 19, 2017
so sorry bro.don't worry is not a problem I kno some one who can help u solve it n you will bring more people with same problems to him. yours is not a problem. you will enjoy your life back. Am serious. be blessed
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by abeg222(m): 10:47am On Mar 19, 2017
rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona
Really?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Ganjafama: 10:47am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy
You need to eat less (if possible fast at regular intervals) and do away with sugar and sweets. Take lots of water and make physical exercise your daily routine. Finally, stop mssturbating. You can thank me later.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 10:48am On Mar 19, 2017
There's no such thing as spiritual attack.

Mate, you need a serious girlfriend that will be patient with you.

Edit: you have proof that you're not impotent or under spiritual attack because 100% of the times that you self service you reach 100% rigidity.

You need a woman that'll be gentle and work with you.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by PharmAlfred: 10:48am On Mar 19, 2017
Hello,
I can relate to your frustrations. part of the problem is you have is that you have been unwilling to share and get help from medical experts.
In all your search for answers, did you use medications at any time. Do you have any know medical condition?

I will ask you to seek professional help,you have experimented enough to know you are not improving or helping yourself in anyway.

Lose your guard a bit. Don't be shy anymore. Plug your brain off some things you have assimilated that is not helping you.
Read widely around this subject area. If you can get a focused group with similar situation to discuss with, that will be fine.
I hope to read your testimony soon.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by princeSammyz: 10:48am On Mar 19, 2017
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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by lawrence7: 10:49am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Seems the condition hasn't really bothered you yet. Obviously you aren't impotent. The prostitute encounters of course you were very nervous and as such couldn't perform. It happens. The Other times your nervousness and expectation that you wouldn't perform must have been the cause.
Please see a doctor. No shame in that. Imagine a lifetime without sex simply because you won't see a doctor. The fact that you sometimes get erections means you are most likely fine sir.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 10:52am On Mar 19, 2017
lawrence7:


Seems the condition hasn't really bothered you yet. Obviously you aren't impotent. The prostitute encounters of course you were very nervous and as such couldn't perform. It happens. The Other times your nervousness and expectation that you wouldn't perform must have been the cause.
Please see a doctor. No shame in that. Imagine a lifetime without sex simply because you won't see a doctor. The fact that you sometimes get erections means you are most likely fine sir.

Thank you.

How will you now explaining my not having erection after I wake up.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Mskrisx(f): 10:53am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
Bro, this is a serious issue.


U are not impotent. U need a woman in ur life who u can call ur own.

When u get her, explain all this to her and let her give u a good head then u back it up with seeing a good doctor.

Boyyy u need a wild wild girl.

Pls can u now stop the brothel thingy??
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Collins0609(m): 10:53am On Mar 19, 2017
All u need is bitter kola.eat one in d morning,one at night.do it for one week and notice d difference.but know ur problem is psycological and u are d only one to help urself

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Uchefrancis16(m): 10:54am On Mar 19, 2017
Hello helpforever you are not alone.

Glad I came across this. As a friend of mine was exactly in the same situation as u. And glad he is very fine now and I mean very fine.

Started masturbating at a tender age far less than urs (guess 14 or there about) and then at about 20, started suffering from weak errection and later to no errection at all. Even the morning wood stopped coming.

According to him, his first encounter with a lady (his girlfriend - not a prostitute) was one time sex over a 3 days stay due to this problem as the erection managed to come only but a few times and not as strong too.

What I advice u to do, as this worked for him is to;


Relax. Get a girl and stay with her for days. While u are with her, let her understand what you're passing through trust me she will help give the calmness u need which will relax ur brain and get rid of performance anxiety.

Get a girl not prostitutes. Maybe u're not moved by them my friend.

Stop porn. Its messing with ur brain. And view of girls. Leaving you with what they call PIED (Porn induced erectile dysfunction)... Remember the feeling of not being able to even get a solid errection with a particular porn after jecking off with it a couple of time? That makes u go for another, higher/more rugged/romantic one instead? The brain is simply tired with that particular one and has elevated/increased what triggers you making it impossible for that same porn to trigger you except u leave it entirely and watch it again after months have passed and ur brain has been reset.

This things get you addicted to porn and makes ur brain feel nothing for real women/girls. And even if you do, the penis is so dam weak that it can't even penetrate a lady or lift ur boxers.

Having read all of the above, the best thing for u is to go on a challenge of 6 months without porn. http://yourbrainonporn.com will be of help.

Just delete all porn, stop watching any movie with sex and romantic scenses (since most movies does, listen to music and forget movies entirly), quit being alone as that can make u think sex and then make u masturbate. focus on solving ur issues and trust me, mastubation go use him hand run.

Then get a loyal lady who understands you and loves u for whom u are my friend. She will help u deal with anxiety. It may take 6 months, 12 months 2 years depending on how bad porn has damaged ur brain but the thing u should be after is the fact that u will be fine eventually.

My friends own took 6 months after which he went to a girl, had slight erection and went back to his challenge for another 6 months withoutbporn or masturbation. Instead he worked on having girls around, thinking about having sex with them, not porn and actually having sex with them.

Do indoor exercises at least 30 minutes daily and make sure u sweat Weller. Also search for exercises for weak erection and add it to. YouTube is ur friend bro.

Then see a doctor if you could to rule out any medical condition.

As for my friend, his problem was solved cos he shared it. And we both went in together looking for solution. In case u don't know, I was into porn too. But was brave enough to dispose the act on time.

My friend bangs this his girl friend like four times a day now wen she comes visiting or vice versa. My man is loyal to her for being loyal and understandable and from the best of my knowledge, masturbation is a thing of the past for him.

START BY QUITING PORN... you can do this by first deleting all the available once. Starve ur phone of internet data, use Nokia touch, quit being alone, spend less time in the bathroom/toilet, think about ur problem and its effects on u etc. Best of luck bro and quit believing ur problem is spiritual. ONCE U FEEL LIKE MASTUBATING, RUB PEPER OR CHINEESE BALM FOR HAND... UR PENIS GO LEAVE U. if him no leave u, touch am small with am the konji go run.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by shinebabe(f): 10:55am On Mar 19, 2017
nmreports:
I think you should stop masturbating and stay away from anything sex for a long while.
I seriously think you should do this.
You are absolutely not impotent and I think your issue is psychological but I am not an expert to analyse this for you.

So you need to regenerate your mind to understand the following:

1. Sex gets better when you are with someone who likes you and you like in return.
2. You need to read books on how to overcome anxiety and being nervous.
3. You need to work on your health by eating the right things and drinking the right things to improve your health.
4. You dont find excitement in other girls other than your virtual women so you need to let go of those women.
5. Excessive masturbation just like every other excessive things is bad. If you are that smart, you would have stopped it.

I wish you good luck bro. Get yourself together.

@help forever. This is actually all you need.

Apart from regenerating your mind. You need to actually take care of your body. Get a Ruzu bottle. It will help to lose that belly fat and get your sedual issues sorted. Stay away from porn and masturbation..at least for like 1 month while taking this product and following all nmreports said.

You are not impotent.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Adefemiaderoju1: 10:57am On Mar 19, 2017
Your problem is not spiritual but things of mind, first get all the negativity out from your mind and believe in yourself that you can do it, also stop the masturbation as that might be the architect of your problem with sugar and I will also advise you to visit Baba Alagbo shop for treatment.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 10:57am On Mar 19, 2017
Neddstark:
You are not alone bro. My own problem is that i dont cum easily. I only cumm during masturbation. Now I'm trying to quit masturbation completely. Perhaps it could solve it. For what i think, you aren't impotent. You just need a sex therapist and a very patient sex partner

I have a friend also with the same case as yours,he has been to 10 docs anf they told him that it will come with time...no drugs or injection...try to quit mastirbation,it might work.This guy also is a chronic masturbator and thats the only time he cum.The wife has acvepted her fate and the love continues.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by shigoslim(m): 10:57am On Mar 19, 2017
Bros no man is destiny to be impotent my advice is that your problem is psychology not spiritual . U should start to eat right , take more Vegetation and fruit, exercise daily and free your mind as if nothing bordering you ... Take excess water ur problem will become past. Impotent is as a result of infertility so don't lose hope.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by bayulll011(m): 10:58am On Mar 19, 2017
TonyeBarcanista:
It is well


it's better for u to SHUT Up than that ur pathetic sympathy there,d guy need help profer solutions or stay away
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:00am On Mar 19, 2017
No where in your post did you mention seeing a doctor.

and if you haven't, then am ashmed of you.

after BSc and MSc , after so much education, you don't know your way to the doctor's office or atleast do a thorough research on your situation.

instead you're saying it's spiritual problem.

smh

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Ehinmola(m): 11:00am On Mar 19, 2017
What happened to you may not necessarily mean spiritual problems. Like u mentioned sharp pain when u urinated sometimes ago could have some underline infection tendencies. Firstly why not see your doctor to actually confirm your true position. Also note that sex is a thing of the mind. Why not remove your past experiences with prostitutes as this can constitute to your condition. Better still, go down on your knees and call on BABA GOD to interven and surely he will. GOD healeth
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by BlinkyBling: 11:00am On Mar 19, 2017
Look for a girl you can confide in. Not for girlfriend levels or sort.
She might be a prostitute, runs girlor whatever but just make her a friend intimately sort of.
If you have to pay her to beyour friend so be it.
Then take the sex thingg playfully, don't force the erection.
I thin with time you"ll learn to trust. And confide in h

Most guys experience anxiety sometimes and areunable to getan erection but don't ever let it bother youcos u"ll only make matters worse
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by yemozn: 11:01am On Mar 19, 2017
Eat alot of watermelon with the seed, trust me... It helps alot

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by senier007(m): 11:02am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:


Thank you.

How will you now explaining my not having erection after I wake up.

That's a sign of low tetestorone plus increase body fat (being fat), feeling tired, fail to developed muscles after vigorous exercise,
Just do the hormonal essay

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Toks2008(m): 11:04am On Mar 19, 2017
20% 30% 50% 80% 100% 200% erections. ..lmao!
OP walahi you have no problem just that you are psychologically troubled.
Since your self service act is disturbing you then stop it and get a girl.
With a lady around you,there will be improvement even without premarital sex.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by shigoslim(m): 11:04am On Mar 19, 2017
In additional always stay away from sugar or sweet thing. Cook unripe plantain twice in a week or it smoke plantain
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by shigoslim(m): 11:04am On Mar 19, 2017
In additional always stay away from sugar or sweet thing. Cook unripe plantain twice in a week or smoke plantain.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:05am On Mar 19, 2017
Uchefrancis16:
Hello helpforever you are not alone.

Glad I came across this. As a friend of mine was exactly in the same situation as u. And glad he is very fine now and I mean very fine.

Started masturbating at a tender age far less than urs (guess 14 or there about) and then at about 20, started suffering from weak errection and later to no errection at all. Even the morning wood stopped coming.

According to him, his first encounter with a lady (his girlfriend - not a prostitute) was one time sex over a 3 days stay due to this problem as the erection managed to come only but a few times and not as strong too.

What I advice u to do, as this worked for him is to;


Relax. Get a girl and stay with her for days. While u are with her, let her understand what you're passing through trust me she will help give the calmness u need which will relax ur brain and get rid of performance anxiety.

Get a girl not prostitutes. Maybe u're not moved by them my friend.

Stop porn. Its messing with ur brain. And view of girls. Leaving you with what they call PIED (Porn induced erectile dysfunction)... Remember the feeling of not being able to even get a solid errection with a particular porn after jecking off with it a couple of time? That makes u go for another, higher/more rugged/romantic one instead? The brain is simply tired with that particular one and has elevated/increased what triggers you making it impossible for that same porn to trigger you except u leave it entirely and watch it again after months have passed and ur brain has been reset.

This things get you addicted to porn and makes ur brain feel nothing for real women/girls. And even if you do, the penis is so dam weak that it can't even penetrate a lady or lift ur boxers.

Having read all of the above, the best thing for u is to go on a challenge of 6 months without porn. http://yourbrainonporn.com will be of help.

Just delete all porn, stop watching any movie with sex and romantic scenses (since most movies does, listen to music and forget movies entirly), quit being alone as that can make u think sex and then make u masturbate. focus on solving ur issues and trust me, mastubation go use him hand run.

Then get a loyal lady who understands you and loves u for whom u are my friend. She will help u deal with anxiety. It may take 6 months, 12 months 2 years depending on how bad porn has damaged ur brain but the thing u should be after is the fact that u will be fine eventually.

My friends own took 6 months after which he went to a girl, had slight erection and went back to his challenge for another 6 months withoutbporn or masturbation. Instead he worked on having girls around, thinking about having sex with them, not porn and actually having sex with them.

Do indoor exercises at least 30 minutes daily and make sure u sweat Weller. Also search for exercises for weak erection and add it to. YouTube is ur friend bro.

Then see a doctor if you could to rule out any medical condition.

As for my friend, his problem was solved cos he shared it. And we both went in together looking for solution. In case u don't know, I was into porn too. But was brave enough to dispose the act on time.

My friend bangs this his girl friend like four times a day now wen she comes visiting or vice versa. My man is loyal to her for being loyal and understandable and from the best of my knowledge, masturbation is a thing of the past for him.

START BY QUITING PORN... you can do this by first deleting all the available once. Starve ur phone of internet data, use Nokia touch, quit being alone, spend less time in the bathroom/toilet, think about ur problem and its effects on u etc. Best of luck bro and quit believing ur problem is spiritual. ONCE U FEEL LIKE MASTUBATING, RUB PEPER OR CHINEESE BALM FOR HAND... UR PENIS GO LEAVE U. if him no leave u, touch am small with am the konji go run.

Thanks man. God bless you

I have hope...I am so happy

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by martinsfm(m): 11:05am On Mar 19, 2017
Sex is a thing of the mind... youre prolly always scared to have sex... thats the main reason... in your mind youre thinking that you dont wanna commit sin... thats why you try and resist it...In my opinion... dont use any drug ooo....never do that... just try and and put your mind there... if you wanna have sex with a girl...u and the girl should talk dirty first either through chat or in person...it works...then fantasies too help
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Clearer01: 11:06am On Mar 19, 2017
I witnessed the case of many young guys that came with the same similar problem to our house to have their problem solved by my father, the one my father can not solve if the born you importent from day one, my father will not attend to it. [color=#006600][/color]
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:09am On Mar 19, 2017
Mskrisx:



U are not impotent. U need a woman in ur life who u can call ur own.

When u get her, explain all this to her and let her give u a good head then u back it up with seeing a good doctor.

Boyyy u need a wild wild girl.

Pls can u now stop the brothel thingy??


I have not gone to a brothel since 2014. I am actually scared of prostitutes now.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Donjazzy12(m): 11:10am On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy
My brother. You are very very lucky. Masturbation is key. Women of nowadays are not worth it at all.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by oluxy(m): 11:10am On Mar 19, 2017
This may sound meaningless.
In ur writeup, u said for some moments u went to church n stop. Pls dont go to church because u have problem, go to church because u want to serve God. Pray always.

Find yorubal harbal market, solidly harbal market. Visit the place n explain to the women who sales herbal. There is miracle in harbs. God gave us harbs for our healings that is why i said earlier, pray to God and try herbs.

I'm not against u visiting a doctor but they will only placed u on drugs but herbs would flush out anything at all that is causing it out.

I have my reason of saying u should visit yoruba herbal market, its thier long time inherited profession.

Pls dont ignore this i tell u. If u go by it as i write then, u would have me contacted for a thank God message.

Shalom.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:10am On Mar 19, 2017
Clearer01:
I witnessed the case of many young guys that came with the same similar problem to our house to have their problem solved by my father, the one my father can not solve if the born you importent from day one, my father will not attend to it. [color=#006600][/color]
Is your father a pastor or doctor ?

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