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baba4thegehs:
You're looking at it from a man like point of view, the major reason she got married to you is to procreate with you and that goal seems defeated ESP when the problem is from her side. She begins to scramble around for solutions even when you the husband understands and not creating pressure on her. Every woman wants her own baby. I'm not talking of ladies that aren't married. But once you decided to settle and start a family of course you start thinking of making children.

Go to Redeem and MFM and you'll understand.

Makke God no let us experience this kind predicament.

Hmmm. I get your point of view.

I will simply divorce her and let her go peacefully than keep her and cheat or try to have a child outside wedlock. I can't be the victim of someone's youthful exuberance.

ikp120:
Kini big deal? I married her for who she is, not who she was! She also married me for who I am, not who I was! I didn't even marry her for babies sef

Abi pikins to adopt don finish for "market" ni?

Abeg this no be problem jare.

I just stumbled on your diary....... you are freaking queer

After going through so many comments, for me. IT IS A BIG DEAL.

We adopt then .
Kini big deal.
Can't judge her wt her past. Provided she's good. I mean good.

Rtopzy:
I just stumbled on your diary....... you are freaking queer

Queer? As in homosexual?

ikp120:
Queer? As in homosexual?

Nope, strange, weird, odd.........lolz

ikp120:
Kini big deal? I married her for who she is, not who she was! She also married me for who I am, not who I was! I didn't even marry her for babies sef

Abi pikins to adopt don finish for "market" ni?

Abeg this no be problem jare.

you nailed it. May u never lack wisdom,as long as God still dey

thornapple:
1. For the ladies:
You are a Lady with wonderful prospects and great suitors. You accepted the proposal of a man that seems the best for you only to discover after your wedding that he is impotent.

2. For the guys:
You worked hard all your life to get to where you are today. You could've decided to remain single for a while and catch some fun but for the love of family decided to marry. You got married to a lady of your choice who made you believe is the most decent to start a family with. Several months afterwards it was discovered she was barren resulting from multiple abortions due to a promiscuous life she lived before you met.

What will you do given either of these situations?.

DIVORCE IS ALWAYS AN OPTION

Rtopzy:
Nope, strange, weird, odd.........lolz

I for fear o.

Titilayooni:
you nailed it. May u never lack wisdom,as long as God still dey

I like your signature sha.

on point

ForValour:
DIVORCE IS ALWAYS AN OPTION

mekyno777:
It is very easy. It a pure deceit/ cover up with evil intent. The marriage was not suppose to stand in the first place.
In catholic church, which is one of the strictest in such a case, dissolution (or a word lyk dat is used to separate the marriage), not divorce, is used for it because it lacks all the requirements/ingredients to stand as marriage before it took place/ the wedding.

So catholics have found a way round divorce.
u are right though.

gazilion:
The reason you should not assume or fearfully imagine it could happen to you! Please reject the thoughts and do not concretise the imageries in your writings! !

Thanks but the reactions here could be helping people already in this state.

skyfada:
I will just rewind everything and start afresh

CoolVoice:
The only reason i would not divorce her is if she had tell me all this before we got married. But eventually in these scenario she never did... So i will divorce her and leave marriage alone for a long time.

Your points are valid except the part you said you would leave marriage alone for a long time. you don't have to.

ajalaolanr:
If she had told me about her past and i still married her, i will stand with her! marriage is more than just kids etc... However, such things as health issues and status is very important to know prior to knotting your bride.

Yes, but in this case it is assumed she didn't. So i guess you'll show no mercy uuhn.

Ruggedpen:
I'm glad that i made a point have a nice bro

UWC but that was struck and not truck.
Wish you could amend that for me.

ikp120:
Sure na!

Girls no like good boys like me

Hiannnnnnn... Don't mind those girls, they know nothing about real men like you hun.

Oya oya, wee you marry me?

ikp120:
It's a problem for a very selfish and hypocritical fellow. Not a problem for me so long as I can fvck my wife freely, no wahala.

u sound like a kid... that is y its not a problem to u

IamJix:
divorce is just the simple tactic.

No need for divorce. You can annul the marriage. That means the marriage is not supposed to have existed in the first place.

Divorce....
Non Disclosure of salient information.

ikp120:
Kini big deal? I married her for who she is, not who she was! She also married me for who I am, not who I was! I didn't even marry her for babies sef

Abi pikins to adopt don finish for "market" ni?

Abeg this no be problem jare.

u Neva married her for babies.....interesting

The guy in 1 will marry the woman in 2. Swapping is the game

i stand wit you

IamJix:
divorce is just the simple tactic.

I will mix prayers for myself, by fasting, Psalms and thanks giving

eazisky:
u sound like a kid... that is y its not a problem to u

You sound like a very selfish hypocrite... That's why it is an issue to you.
#GrowUp
Nobody holy pass.

Aderola15:
Hiannnnnnn... Don't mind those girls, they know nothing about real men like you hun.

Oya oya, wee you marry me?

You never even reply my pm

Consula:
This is the simplest question to ask naa.... Haba! Okay, i will explain it to you like this;
Marriage is a union contracted before God and man in "purity". That means both parties are suppose to come "Clean" not only in sexual purity but also devoid of falsehood (impediments). Impediments in marriage is a serious SIN, it means u knew sometin dat could have made the other person decline from going ahead yet you kept quiet and led him/her on. In the case of the impotent man, the lady walks away easily and freely because the union has not been consummated (sex), it is a legitimate ground for the church to dissolve the marriage. It is harder for the guy cos he would have already consummated the marriage before finding out, but IF the church pronounce the lady's action enough ground for a valid impediment and the Man isn't willing to continue, then the marriage stands dissolved because it was a union based on falsehood in the first instance.
I may not have been detailed enough though, but you can approach any Rev Fr (If you are a Catholic) to counsel you properly, it happens everyday and thats why Marriage counselling is advised.

Thank you

Excellent.
This is an excellent reply. You know, things like this happen all the time and i have even come across a topic here where a girl's sister was tricked into such marriage. Didn't leave a reply but the thought lingered in my head and was one of the reasons for this thread.
In case you never came across it, here is the link.

https://www.nairaland.com/3684481/sister-married-impotent-man#54619328.

xtervaganza:
I'll tie the lady up. Beat he'll out of her and send her away.



For conning me into a marriage

you are wicked o
pls no tying and beating oga. dissolving the marriage is ok.