True, but she didnt ask, i kinda have my policies about the thing, besides i gave her my laptop to do her final year project before it crashed.

Originalsly:

I get it concerning the laptop...guess she is just unlucky when t comes to that. The bf promised her a phone... did he say when? Since he is poor....wouldn't it be when he can afford it? As a friend sooo concerned about her why didn't you buy her one instead of allowing the toaster to?

Please dont insult me, this wasnt the original topic i put up, we put it up yesterday, and this morning i woke up to find out the topic was changed by a mod and put on front page.

menxer:


Story!

So at this your level of education you don't know the difference between a "suitor" and a "toaster?"
SMH

I am not ashamed to ask for help if i was the one regardless whether i am seen as a gold digger or not, i sincerely didn't know what advise to give her. So we both decided to put it online since she is not on nairaland. Feel free to assume i am the one, i wont deny her cos this can happen to anyone. Your comments have been noted though, thanks.

idnobleg:


Your friend or you? stop the lie jare. Collect the gift since you stated here that the guy said 'No String Attached'. Good luck.

He isnt a student o, he is a long term graduate who just quit his job to go into business 2 years ago. His business hasnt picked up yet i think.

Spidermon:
why would a female student be billing a fellow male student like this because he is her boyfriend and she has a vajinah ??

I no get advice for you.

every abokii with his transistor radio

in Chris browns voice " when a rich nigga wants you n your nigga can do nothing for ya" .................ain't loyal

awonwerey:
Anybody who boils hot water should be ready to do EBA


Once she don collect the gadget, she should be ready to drop pant or get married to the dude

Over and out

Really?I am not saying she should collect the phone so when u collect a gift from someone u must marry the person or sleep with the person. Abeg which school of tot Is that one o?Is that the agreement......?This your line of tot pass me.

I enjoyed your advice until you started insulting her parents, please desist from such. I know their family, they are not broke, they live in ajah in a nice house, her parents are strict diciplinarians and have strict rules on everything, especially money. They are good people,advice without giving insults thanks.

Psoul:
OP, I kw you already kw the right thing to tell your friend concerning this, though depending on your own moral standard.

But to help you more incase you don't kw the right thing to do. Do it this way. Let us switch positions. Assume that you are the guy nd your boyfriend is ur babe. How will u feel if he(she now) accepts the gift and come to tell you where it comes from.

Still confused? Let's take another one. Assuming ur boyfriend that u loves so much and who also loves you and u want to settle down with him. He is poor and you and ur family is not all that rich. He comes to u one day and tell u that there is this girl from a very rich family who has bn toasting him and that she want to help him secure a very nice apartment where she want him to pack into. Babe how will u feel?

See, my dear, if u girls think that making money is all that easy, why not go out there and make money, buy urslf all u need and leave broke men alone. You cant afford it, ur papa and mama join together cannot afford it and if your boyfriend cant afford it, u call him broke. What are u and ur parents...broken or break...abi

funmisticqueen:
Please dont insult me, this wasnt the original topic i put up, we put it up yesterday, and this morning i woke up to find out the topic was changed by a mod and put on front page.

Story story stories

If you like take it as insult or as correction, I have been on nairaland long enough, I have never heard or seen a situation where Mod tamper with the content or topic of a thread.

You made a mistake, accept it and correct it.

funmisticqueen:
There is this friend of mine, she's still a student, she has a steady boyfriend whom she loves but is broke, but there has been this persistent toaster on her case who is financially buoyant. My friend has not had a laptop and phone for quite a while cos hers was stolen a while ago, and these things are necessary to read with in her school. Her parents said they weren't getting any gadgets for her again cos the last laptop they bought was also stolen when raiders came to the reading rooms in her school. Her parents are also against her doing business in school as they think it would disrupt her studies?p.
She told this her steady boyfriend that she needs a phone and not an expensive one, i think she asked for a techno about five months ago, but her boyfriend kept telling her he would get with no show, he didn't give her a gift on valentine even though she got him one cos he forgot and didn't have money.
A month ago, her boyfriend moved to a new apartment. She feels he should be settled first before she reminds him about the phone.

Yesterday, she called me and told me that the persistent toaster just got her a phone. She doesn't know what type but he said he noticed she didnt have a phone and she wasnt on whatsapp. He said it was a gift for her with no strings attached.
Our question is this, should she collect the phone, even though she doesnt really like the guy? If she does and her boyfriend sees it should she say she got it from another guy? Wont it lead to issues in their relationship?
Would really appreciate your wise and helpful comments? No insults please?

If she is ready 2 collect, she should be prepared 2 part with southern goody too. Her bf shdnt be her source of income. Girls of nowaday too cheap.

she should follow what her mind tells her

annyronnie:
I like asking people 4 what I can afford for myself she claims she loves the guy then every other suitor should not be given attention
Truth of d matter is she's making a move already its better she tells d guy rather than beating about the bush I'm just sick n tired of being in love cos d will use ur impediment as an excuse gals of nowadays wants everything to happen now d old ones rushed 4 iphone4 did things dat took their life not knowing iphone7 is coming you're a student he's a student judge him based on he has it n he does not want to gv u than u going out simply because he did not get u what u can't get 4 urself

I respect your likes.

funmisticqueen:
Please at least use glasses or enrol for adult education, only they can help you read the nonsense especially with your poor use of english cos even falz and jenifa write better than this. Please dont quote me if you can't read it, it is plain insulting.

Bebe pliss pliss and pliss if u are no haff anysin realsonabu to talk dont qoutes me

2dugged:
if he was a twin ,I would say you are his twin,anyway, I just hope the op puts herself first, there is no guarantee or indication that her bf is ready to walk down the aisle with her,so turning down other guys at her age, where she is in her prime may bite her in the ass,its just a risk, for some it turns out well,but for most ladies,it doesn't

Now m anxious to know if I have a look-a-like or is it our mindset that is similar ni..... I cud be d ex Gan Gan sef who knows....no pics on your profile to c if u are my ex

Don't try it

Lol. Its all good sha

mykel25:


Now m anxious to know if I have a look-a-like or is it our mindset that is similar ni..... I cud be d ex Gan Gan sef who knows....no pics on your profile to c if u are my ex

just pulling your legs, you are not ,as for pics ,I deliberately don't want to put it ,cos politics section can be brutal

vicfuntop:
you ehn. But why should I be ashamed of my husband because he can't meet my "financial obligations"(I believe you are talking about the kids, house rent, and basic household obligations). I will definitely plan the future with my hubby before marriage. Honestly I want the best for my kids. I want them to go to good schools, have the best of life. I had those and I wouldn't want them to suffer. hopefully i should be able to take care of that financial problem, but I wouldn't disrespect the man I love. I want to be a career woman, and I believe I should be able to afford those things if my hubby can't but that won't change the way I see him. Marriage is for better for worse.

So you wouldn't mind being the breadwinner. How about your kids though? Imagine they come to 'daddy' when its time to pay school fees and daddy tells them to go and meet mummy. Or you'll be giving him the money to give them. Doesn't sound like much of a man. Their friends and classmates would make fun of them, not to talk of relatives and neighbours

funmisticqueen:
There is this friend of mine, she's still a student, she has a steady boyfriend whom she loves but is broke, but there has been this persistent toaster on her case who is financially buoyant. My friend has not had a laptop and phone for quite a while cos hers was stolen a while ago, and these things are necessary to read with in her school. Her parents said they weren't getting any gadgets for her again cos the last laptop they bought was also stolen when raiders came to the reading rooms in her school. Her parents are also against her doing business in school as they think it would disrupt her studies?p.
She told this her steady boyfriend that she needs a phone and not an expensive one, i think she asked for a techno about five months ago, but her boyfriend kept telling her he would get with no show, he didn't give her a gift on valentine even though she got him one cos he forgot and didn't have money.
A month ago, her boyfriend moved to a new apartment. She feels he should be settled first before she reminds him about the phone.

Yesterday, she called me and told me that the persistent toaster just got her a phone. She doesn't know what type but he said he noticed she didnt have a phone and she wasnt on whatsapp. He said it was a gift for her with no strings attached.
Our question is this, should she collect the phone, even though she doesnt really like the guy? If she does and her boyfriend sees it should she say she got it from another guy? Wont it lead to issues in their relationship?
Would really appreciate your wise and helpful comments? No insults please?

Why m i aving this feeling...you're d Lady involved....

2dugged:
just pulling your legs, you are not ,as for pics ,I deliberately don't want to put it ,cos politics section can be brutal

U mean people on politics section can trace one or what?.... I chat there too buh m always cautious cuz internet don't forget as I still have political ambition...

mykel25:


U mean people on politics section can trace one or what?.... I chat there too buh m always cautious cuz internet don't forget as I still have political ambition...

not that, I just think it's better you read what I have to say first before seeing the face, I have a lot of friends that know me off line, its just that most people are more of haunters who's only interest is to check profiles, its easier to eliminate unserious elements

H

Izen:


Y'all act like women don't have their struggles too or something they're running after. Would you feel the same way if the situation was reversed? That's how one bobo was telling me not to be too ambitious because he felt I didn't have enough time for him. So Mr, while your comment is idealistic, would the same excuse be tenable if a woman gave it for not placing priority on you in her life. Because I've noticed it's the same men who comment like this that who insult ladies who say they cannot be cooking and cleaning and doing all shorts for their boyfriends. Same men who say they're not women's fathers are the same ones who want girlfriends who would care for them like their mothers. I'm not pro ask men for money, I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy here.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander.... No hypocrisy on my watch

2dugged:
not that, I just think it's better you read what I have to say first before seeing the face, I have a lot of friends that know me off line, its just that most people are more of haunters who's only interest is to check profiles, its easier to eliminate unserious elements

Lol In that case lemme follow...we myt have diverse opinion in politics issue.... Then u just have a new bug

funmisticqueen:
I enjoyed your advice until you started insulting her parents, please desist from such. I know their family, they are not broke, they live in ajah in a nice house, her parents are strict diciplinarians and have strict rules on everything, especially money. They are good people,advice without giving insults thanks.

Oh....my dear sorry about that. Actually, that part of my post was not even referring to her or anyone in particular. I was using that as a general example and was not meant to insult anyone in particular. It was a general expression not meant for anyone in particular. I'm sorry if you understood it differently and consequently got offended by that. Have a great day.

mykel25:


Lol In that case lemme follow...we myt have diverse opinion in politics issue.... Then u just have a new bug

welcome Buddy

Why is it that all girl's post on advice here is always my friend, my colleague etc.??

Philpham:
Advice your friend to leave the broke guy, he is nice now cos he is broke, once he has money now, he will either turn her into a punching bag or marry another person. She should go for a guy that is already established. Nigerian men are not keepers I tell you. They are all cheats and abusers.

Eyaaaa sorry you went through such thing you need some therapy dear, you really do believe me because the guy really messed your mind up.

repogirl:
I can not see anything in you.

Because you're too blind to see just like most Nigerian girls of nowadays dear. :-) Do you jareh.

crunchyg:

That's because there is nothing you can see with your eyes of materialism

hahahahahaha she definitely can't, are females of nowadays evolving to wh*res or what? is that an evolution or something? how can one marry when d potential fiance is just as loose as the prostitutes on the streets?! nowadays all you need to do is beep your horn at most girls, give her a ride or take her out and bam you're pounding life out of her the same day or next of the same week! what's wrong?! is the economy of Nigeria the cause of this?

funmisticqueen:
Torchlight phone na, no be me o

She already has a phone be that...
She should be contented with what she has, what you think ?

Can you be content with a torchlight fone that cant browse when consultants asks you a question in the ward round and you cant google the answer fast. Android phone is a necessity in med school.

Cmanforall:


She already has a phone be that...
She should be contented with what she has, what you think ?

Collect and phuck