Sunstorm100:
there's no perfect time for marriage ,especially for man. I want to get married and have one or two kids when I'm 40 to a 20 year old girl. when I'm 60 she'll be 40. When i'm 80,my kids will be 40 and grand child will be around 12 .
Lionel Richie is 70 and his son is 20 year old . Michael Jackson would have been 60 and his daughter is 19 years old . Quincy Jones is 88 and his son is 44 years old . Leonardo DiCaprio is 42 and single .
who made the rules that everyone must get married and have kids like zombies? I want only one child ,and marriage is not a top priority to me .

Lol........... I like you. One's life shouldn't end because of marriage. One of the Greek philosophers said and I quote "the goal of life is Happiness". I know someone whose parents forced into marriage at 18 to alleviate their poverty. Without any form of empowerment she entered and gave birth to children she and the husband can't provide for. Now everyone is not happy - the lady, husband and children.

I laugh when people say "eat the fruit of labor ". If you are successful in your own right you'll not be waiting for your children to grow up and provide for you. Apparently when you are not able to provide for yourself it translates that you don't have anything to offer to the children you are bringing into this world. On top of it you expect them to succeed so you can reap which fruit of labour?

I get really pissed when left thinking individuals marry for the wrong reasons bringing children into this competitive world without equipping them with what they need to survive. Some parents go as far as saddling the elders ones with the responsibility of training their younger ones as well as catering for them. You see individuals in their late teens already weighed down with responsibilities they didn't partake in creating.

My goal is to build my own house, buy my own cars, go on holidays and make enough investment to secure my future and my children's future rather than rush into marriage unprepared to have children that will give these to me in the name of reaping fruit of labor.

Bottom line is marry when you are ready and capable of taking responsibility of whatever comes out of it.

hizzylife:

Everyone has a different life path. A poor individual today may become a millionaire at 40 or 50,even though the individual doesn't know how that will be . there are people who marry early and become millionaires at a very young age and then die young.
For my path, I want to get married and have only one child around 35 or 40.
My cousin who got married at 25 is always posting and celebrating anniversary on Facebook despite the fact that his marriage is full of turmoil. It's all a facade. What does marriage have to do with how many years you've been married? it's like they're staying together just to break a record.

Evaberry:
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marry early so U can see your grandkids

do you want to be 60 and your first child is in ss3

is 60 old to you? from my view point , 80 years to 100+ is old .it's all about your view. this means that I'l live long.

I you can take care of family and have good relationship with God, marrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyy.

its not about how far but how well.....if I may ask self....is marriage a must?

Mbkite:
I sincerely need to know our views about getting married at the age of 35 for men. Is it late to marry at 35?

^^^^^^^
Congrats to you...

You finally got on the Nairaland From Page today after 4 months of posting
this HOT question on April 17, 2017!


On the other hand, men should get married at anytime before 50 years!
SEAL got married to Heidi Klum at 43 years and several guys also got
married in their 30s and 40s.


What if a man gets married at 24 years and loses his children in a fire, car accident
or plane crash or illness from sickle cell like we have seen severally or in real-life situations?


NOTHING is set in stone on the face of this planet.

It is not too late at 35 at all, even at 45 to 55, you can even decide to have grey hair before getting married and when you are finally ready come and take one grandma in village!

Im between 30 and 40. Got married last year and Im expecting my first issue.

The way I see it is a man should check 3 things before he gets i to marriage.

1) Marriage is not a game for boys, it is for men. If you are still a young boy chasing everything in skirt, living the high life, partying hard, coming back late. Marriage is not yet for you. It is when have become a man and everything is no longer about 'living it up', thats when to consider marriage.


2) Finding the right person is not easy. Finding wife material is not easy to even talk about who you jell with . I searched for years, so many disappointments. I will never advice anybody to marry for the sake of marrying because if you rush into marriage without taking the time to study and find if your partner is right for you, you could be crying for a very long time.

3) Finance. You dont have to have all the money in the world but you have to have some sort of financial stability.


I feel it is better that a man achieves all these 3 points at 45 and marries and is happy rather than marry at 25 and is misreable for a long long time

JONNYSPUTE:
Marriage is never a competition Nd besides who told u that if u marry early let's say 25 or 30 that its a guarantee that u will ve babies so early? I know of a guy that got married earlier than his elder brother because he said he wants his kids to be all grown by the time he gets to 50, he is about 48 now no issue. The elder bros that married 4yrs after,is now 52 with grown boys Nd girls. Also even if u starts having issue immediately,is it a guarantee that they will grow to become successful people in life? Just pray to ur God to always lead u in everything u do,so pls don't try to compete with anybody in life especially in marriage.Also marrying at 35 should not be ur worry,u should ask urself if u re ready,mentally,emotionally spiritual Nd even financially.

May God bless u.
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sweatlana:

There's much more to marriage than procreation. Besides technology has made it possible for women to give birth in their 60s.

Still marry young and grow with ur wife.
Those who wait have it worse.

Sure there is more to marriage than procreation.

Yes, technology has made it possible for women to give birth in their 60s. However, scientific evidence shows that there are enormous risks associated with child births by older women. A typical example is Down Syndrome.

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/getting-pregnant/in-depth/pregnancy/art-20045756
https://academic.oup.com/aje/article/168/11/1268/121274/Advanced-Parental-Age-and-the-Risk-of-Autism
http://www.nhs.uk/news/2009/06June/Pages/WarningToOlderMothers.aspx

I'm all for early marriage (for couples who are procreation inclined) because biologically, giving birth early is good. However, if economics does not support the marriage, it can wait. For economics trumps biology during marriage as it is not the number of children (function of biology) that pays house rent or school fees but how much one has (function of economics).

Based on science and psychology, a man can marry anytime he desires ditto procreation. Although, males' sperm quality and quantity drops with old age, it does not deter procreation as opposed to females who stop producing eggs - no more procreation.

For your last statement, you have unfortunately refused to cite studies proving your claim (meaning it is false).

dljbd1:

Lolz...as expected. You didn't disappoint

I don't understand you.

Konquest:


^^^^^^^
Congrats to you...

You finally got on the Nairaland From Page today after 4 months of posting
this HOT question on April 17, 2017!


On the other hand, men should get married at anytime before 50 years!
SEAL got married to Heidi Klum at 43 years and several guys also got
married in their 30s and 40s.


What if a man gets married at 24 years and loses his children in a fire, car accident
or plane crash or illness from sickle cell like we have seen severally or in real-life situations?


NOTHING is set in stone on the face of this planet.

lol

ezelous:
May God bless u.
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Nd bless u too

uzobaby:
I will start bothering you. ..go and marrryyyy ooooooooiooooo���

lol too late. Ive hit menopause already

Jbleenk:


lol too late. Ive hit menopause already

looooolllll....menopause ke??nd El-Rufai is still scoring goal?

uzobaby:
looooolllll....menopause ke??nd El-Rufai is still scoring goal?

lol come and marry me then

Jbleenk:


lol come and marry me then

off the market. .I will ask baba God on your behalf

Stellie:
swithrt its nt, infct its far from late

"far from late " are you serious. I won't exceed 32 , in fact 32 is even late...

Is it not their mates that are getting married at the age of 28-30?

JONNYSPUTE:
Marriage is never a competition Nd besides who told u that if u marry early let's say 25 or 30 that its a guarantee that u will ve babies so early? I know of a guy that got married earlier than his elder brother because he said he wants his kids to be all grown by the time he gets to 50, he is about 48 now no issue. The elder bros that married 4yrs after,is now 52 with grown boys Nd girls. Also even if u starts having issue immediately,is it a guarantee that they will grow to become successful people in life? Just pray to ur God to always lead u in everything u do,so pls don't try to compete with anybody in life especially in marriage.Also marrying at 35 should not be ur worry,u should ask urself if u re ready,mentally,emotionally spiritual Nd even financially.

ahh, Bro you kill everything notig is left, that is how alots of parents brought children to this word without proper planing, and they will keep capitalizing on future they did not set. hopeng for thimgs to Change like magic

habayinc:
yes it is ... marry early and grow with your children ..marrying at 35 is just nonsense looking at this generation life span
You marry at 35 yrs .yiur first child will be 20yrs when you are 56 years old and you want to eat the fruit of your Labour...its only water yu will drink o

Lol, exactly. Am married, 25 years old with a pretty daughter. Early marriage is good bcoz whatever we have in this life are for our kids... Money, cars, houses, name it. Yes there may not be enough money to spend on ur wife and kids most times if u marry early, then if u wait too longer and even if the money has arrived, what if u die and leave ur kids to suffer. Money comes money goes away. Say for instance, you marry rich at 35-40, another 20 years from now u are already old and if u die from illness or external forces(say accident) d money u made for ur wife n young kids can run out since u are longer there to make more, over time they can go completely bankrupt, very poor...so what are we talking about? Let's live life the way it comes, most time things don't even work as planned. So why make all d money in the world first before having to marry? You can start somewhere. Like I said, Am happily married with a child and am only 25years old, I look at my daughter everyday and there's this happiness/fulfilment that comes with it! Another baby will soon be on the way!

Let me not forget to mention that there are even guys that are very financially stable yet have refused to marry. I have a friend, 40 years old this year, making money yet said he is not ready for marriage now....he was among my men on suit during my wedding, his gf was just looking at him in her mind "Dey do Men On suit follow small pikin while u are getting old" � he said that marriage draws a man backwards financially bcoz of too much responsibilties, I look at him and smiles, have advice him severally he won't listen. Well it's so partly bcoz his both parents are late, if not, trust mummy yo, she for don bring wife come for am from village... Lol