oceanized25:
So my girl friend wants to go for industrial training, I.T, for close to two months in another state and she intends to stay at a male's house, this male she calls "family friend", bear in mind that he does not have a girlfriend or lady that stays with him, he lives alone, she says there is an empty room that she will own all through the duration of her stay so they won't be sleeping or staying in the same room.....

But the idea of her staying with this guy, that they are not related at all does not sit right with me, am not saying he will definitely make a pass or move on her or vice versa but these are members of the opposite sex.......

Am I just being paranoid?

Rent a apartment for her, since you are not comfortable. ASAP

Hmmmmm!!!! Please don't try it, something will definitely happen, talking from experience.

futprintz:
guy leave motivational talk..de dude is in trouble

lmao
...I feel for OP..hahahahhaha

Yellowdayzee:
Ok since you don't feel comfortable... Did you offer her an alternative solution

Can you get her another place to stay?

Don't point out a problem without a solution

I hope you'd still hold same view if the situation was reversed, that's if the guy was going to live with a single girl?

Zhahovic:

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When a lady tells U a guy she's close with is her family friend..guy beware.....personal experience

Walahi it is highly dangerous base on personal experience but sometime it might nt be but it is 85% probability and 15% it won't happen.. Even d so called spirit filled will think deep abt it and dis has nothing 2 do wit trust Hummmm something somehow wud initiate dis even without d two involved and d story wud be how did it happened but Lol it has happened. I wish u can get alternative Bro. Na family friend ting sweat pass walahi no toasting plus no commitment na free style

MrBrownJay1:


so you mean to say that the OP should worry about her possibly being raped by this dude?! thats too much stress, as such evil act could bloody well happen in her home neighborhood/house. if the gal is innocent then let him tell her that this is the reason why he wouldnt want her to go etc... but unless he tells her exactly how he feels, how can he expect her to act accordingly.

the important issue here is for the OP to answer this simple question:"why do you see this trip as a negative thing. what really bothers you?!"

The main problem here is just communication nd nt evn the stranger.

stilldoingokay:
she is just your girlfriend not wife, you guys should stop having Headache because of women.

God go bless you... infact i owe you one bottle of orijin and a plate of peppersoup for this comment

pocohantas:

Reading comments here makes me weak, is this generation now so sex starved? Lord help your children.

You mean, once a guy and a girl are together, next thing is to start fukcing each other? Nawa! Na real wa!!!!

Baby I swear no time o. If she reach there today, the loloxing fit even start for night gaan sef! Y'all should forget about all these trust talks.. people get carried away and it takes just a split second for shit to change

sinaj:
The main problem here is just communication nd nt evn the stranger.

exactly... here he is worrying while i am sure the babe knows nothing about his state of mind on this issue.

My guy I feel for you badly. I cant even leave my girlfriend with my best friend to cross the road to buy a bottle of beer. It is that bad with a country where KONJI has eaten up all the young men. My guy if you live alone tell her to stay with you otherwise look for a female relation that she can stay with. If you allow her stay with this guy, you have lost her completely. You said she will be in a separate room under the same building. Even if she lives at the end of the street the unspeakable will still happen. The good Lord is your strength bro.

FiddyEn:


Baby I swear no time o. If she reach there today, the loloxing fit even start for night gaan sef! Y'all should forget about all these trust talks.. people get carried away and it takes just a split second for shit to change

Yes, thanks for reminding me some people have no sex control and go about fukcing every single person. I expect too much from people...

I.T----- Intimacy

sinaj:
Hehe


I comment my reserve

Op abeg even if it's mud house, just rent for her b4...

Before we start 'addressing' story that touch the heart

Bro....if you find a mansion for her to stay..... she'll prefer to stay in ehmmm.... the other room. Even if she stays somewhere else...she'll find herself in the other room....and you should know what that is all about Her mind is made up....yellow flag waving in your face.

Essentials1:


Let me advice you with my experience, other people's experience and the NYSC experience...

You are right to be paranoid and the fact that you are means you don't trust your girl so much and that means she is not the kind of person you can say is very faithful no matter what...

I wouldn't advice you looking for another alternative right now... I will advice you to get ready for whatever happens, in fact make friends with this so called guy, incase any thing happens he will be able to tell you and so that you will know..

The reason why I wouldn't advice you to seek for another alternative is because it is better to solve a problem (trust) immediately than postponing it. If you think you girl cannot keep her legs closed long enough, then it is time you know.

I am not saying that your girl is a cheat or a hoe, all I am saying is that if you are paranoid it means that there is one part of you that don't trust your girl completely and it is time to kill that part forever than giving your all into this relationship and finding out that she is the worst for you...

I hope you understand

Absolutely correct

Mimzyy:


What is wrong with the young lady staying with an opposite sex?? So that automatically means that she has sinister motives Na wah

Lol!...don't get me wrong ma'am....I know there are ladies (few) that wont slip up in such a scenario. But I know most will.

I'm sure she can find female acquaintance to stay with, that would be better. PROXIMITY BREEDS FEELINGS

BTW ..it seems I saw you at Adekunle axis (light traffic) last week Thursday thereabout, you were beside me but wasn't sure.

Essentials1:


Let me advice you with my experience, other people's experience and the NYSC experience...

You are right to be paranoid and the fact that you are means you don't trust your girl so much and that means she is not the kind of person you can say is very faithful no matter what...

I wouldn't advice you looking for another alternative right now... I will advice you to get ready for whatever happens, in fact make friends with this so called guy, incase any thing happens he will be able to tell you and so that you will know..

The reason why I wouldn't advice you to seek for another alternative is because it is better to solve a problem (trust) immediately than postponing it. If you think you girl cannot keep her legs closed long enough, then it is time you know.

I am not saying that your girl is a cheat or a hoe, all I am saying is that if you are paranoid it means that there is one part of you that don't trust your girl completely and it is time to kill that part forever than giving your all into this relationship and finding out that she is the worst for you...

I hope you understand

I don't think the issue has to do with trust. She's just exposing herself to unnecessary temptation. Let's reverse the case. A guy going to stay with a lady. Won't my gf have any cause to be concerned ?

oceanized25:
So my girl friend wants to go for industrial training, I.T, for close to two months in another state and she intends to stay at a male's house, this male she calls "family friend", bear in mind that he does not have a girlfriend or lady that stays with him, he lives alone, she says there is an empty room that she will own all through the duration of her stay so they won't be sleeping or staying in the same room.....

But the idea of her staying with this guy, that they are not related at all does not sit right with me, am not saying he will definitely make a pass or move on her or vice versa but these are members of the opposite sex.......

Am I just being paranoid?

yes u are being paranoid. Shes just a girl friend not yr wife.pls look unto greater things boy.
Abeg you help me see Amaka?

It takes less than 5 minutes for the thing to go down.

Trust or no trust, shirt happens.

Years ago, my girlfriend went to Ado ekiti to write post UME, decided to stay with a church member (male), just that night, the nigga wanted to have carnal knowledge of her.

She told me some days/months later. This is a guy I know, sleep in their family house and eat their food. He also had lived at my own place before for days, ate my food. Infact we eat from the same plates.

She had to sleep overnight on the chair because she couldn't trust the guy and his bed again, in my mind I even wondered why she would even accept to share a bed with a total stranger for the first night! (I believe she was naive because she was around 17-18 then).


When it comes to sexx, trust is not enough, try as much as possible not to give room for anything that can trigger such situations.

The Lord's prayer says : lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil.

oceanized25:
So my girl friend wants to go for industrial training, I.T, for close to two months in another state and she intends to stay at a male's house, this male she calls "family friend", bear in mind that he does not have a girlfriend or lady that stays with him, he lives alone, she says there is an empty room that she will own all through the duration of her stay so they won't be sleeping or staying in the same room.....

But the idea of her staying with this guy, that they are not related at all does not sit right with me, am not saying he will definitely make a pass or move on her or vice versa but these are members of the opposite sex.......

Am I just being paranoid?

U r not. U r just been careful cuz u have done it to someone gf also.
The probability of the guy having sex with ur gf is very high. She might not actually date him. But the guy will be there for her wen u r not, and trust me girls r very emotional wen it comes to stuff like dis, knowing her bf is far away from her, so bro there r two things u can do,
1. Rent a house for ur bae
2. Cross ur mind that ur bae ain't gonna come back the way she left if u don't have money for a house rent.
Talking from a personal experience. I know of a guy that stays in Abuja, he was the one that dis flowers his gf, he trust his gf 100%, not knowing his gf was banging another guy in the corper lodge where she is serving , to the extent she told me her bf dick is too small compared to her current one. To the guy he has no trust issue, cuz he knew how he met his gf. And they r planning on getting married soon without the guy knowing poo about what's really happening. Just me, cuz she tells me everything.

Intrepid01:


Lol!...don't get me wrong ma'am....I know there are ladies (few) that wont slip up in such a scenario. But I know most will.

I'm sure she can find female acquaintance to stay with, that would be better. PROXIMITY BREEDS FEELINGS

BTW ..it seems I saw you at Adekunle axis (light traffic) last week Thursday thereabout, you were beside me but wasn't sure.

You should have buzzed my cell na to confirm right away. I ply that route often so it is possible.

Mimzyy:


You should have buzzed my cell na to confirm right away. I ply that route often so it is possible.

Naaahhh I don't use the fone while driving (lol...na lie o)..hope you good?

sinaj:
I hope you dnt give the op heart attack

I have not mentioned anything to scare him....... All I mentioned was washing *2..........

pocohantas:

Reading comments here makes me weak, is this generation now so sex starved? Lord help your children.

You mean, once a guy and a girl are together, next thing is to start fukcing each other? Nawa! Na real wa!!!!

Oops. You got it backwards my lady, sex is now the next course after the regular meal...bon apetite..

Snowkel:

U r not. U r just been careful cuz u have done it to someone gf also.
The probability of the guy having sex with ur gf is very high. She might not actually date him. But the guy will be there for her wen u r not, and trust me girls r very emotional wen it comes to stuff like dis, knowing her bf is far away from her, so bro there r two things u can do,
1. Rent a house for ur bae
2. Cross ur mind that ur bae ain't gonna come back the way she left if u don't have money for a house rent.
Talking from a personal experience. I know of a guy that stays in Abuja, he was the one that dis flowers his gf, he trust his gf 100%, not knowing his gf was banging another guy in the corper lodge where she is serving , to the extent she told me her bf dick is too small compared to her current one. To the guy he has no trust issue, cuz he knew how he met his gf. And they r planning on getting married soon without the guy knowing poo about what's really happening. Just me, cuz she tells me everything.

Oga park well....she dey tell you everything, na so!! no be you dey shag the babe?

The truth is loyal and disciplined girls are becoming extinct....A former colleague of mine would say....."Guy, I pity those of you wey never marry, na panda you people go marry"....he isn't far from the truth you know.

Intrepid01:


Naaahhh I don't use the fone while driving (lol...na lie o)..hope you good?

Yinmu, we all do, albeit sparingly. I am as cool as ice jawe. How's your end?

If she is already giving you many reason why she has to stay in that guys "empty" house, omo take style find new gf o, this one don enter voicemail.

Does ur girl not have parents? Wat are dey sayin abt it? I mean I Dnt understand y I wld allow my daughter 2 stay in a single man's haus for 2 months, never. I knw u must hav tuked 2 her abt it, but dd truth is dat women will neva understand & keep makin it seem u're insecure or u Dnt trust her. Trust is earned not given. Smetyn wey she don plan, ow u sure is nt d guy dat got d place of IT for her. Baba wen she go 4get her. Infact wat type of house does d guy live in? Selfcon or 1 bed room? & 4 pple sayin he doesn't hav money 2 rent haus 4 her if it wer ur sister wld be comftable wit her livin wit anoda man. D morality of children nowadays hav gone 2 d dogs, if her parents can be ok wit dis, jst knw Ders nuttin u can do. & thank ur stars lest u make a Hoe a house wife. Guy free her o, cos u'll soon be in a world of pain, she cld be ridin a guy wen u call... guy sorry 4 u.

Alert:
Hmmmmm!!!! Please don't try it, something will definitely happen, talking from experience.

You mind sharing your experience?