oceanized25:
So my girl friend wants to go for industrial training, I.T, for close to two months in another state and she intends to stay at a male's house, this male she calls "family friend", bear in mind that he does not have a girlfriend or lady that stays with him, he lives alone, she says there is an empty room that she will own all through the duration of her stay so they won't be sleeping or staying in the same room.....

But the idea of her staying with this guy, that they are not related at all does not sit right with me, am not saying he will definitely make a pass or move on her or vice versa but these are members of the opposite sex.......

Am I just being paranoid?

Why don't you give her Money to rent a place for two months..

sinaj:
Hehe


I comment my reserve

Alphamale2017:


u are very wise . the way people stress that talk of " trust " in relationship makes me tired . trust does not deny reality . u may trust her sooo soo much that she won't cheat
but that does not deny the reality that some guys think with their dick . what if he forces himself on her ??

does the trust these guys are hammering on covers for that scenario ?? of course not .

people always over stress that "trust" talk whenever relationship issues come up . without looking at reality .

u are wish tho . I feel fulfilled that someone understands from this perspective . I feel so happy . this is the same thing I was explaining to a female friend trying to weather the storm in her relationship a few days ago an I felt like she didn't get my point .

people always over stress this I trust him , he trusts me kind of talk in relationships without considering the actually .

its 2am over here , I can go to bed now . I feel fulfilled that someone understands what I was trying to explain a few days ago .

you are really smart .

we just can't deny the reality that lots of guys reason with their dicks and can go any length .

6 months nor be 2 weeks oh

greatnaija01:
Bros for naija today we can officially call u the assistant boyfriend cos she will not come back the same way o.... KONJI is real and with distance she will bond with that guy like james bond and the guy will claim a space in her heart like Caretaker..... and that is how she will think twice about you and compare u both o. She may come back to u but many things will be hidden and her character will change during those six months.


Wow! This dude got a lot of experience about relationships. I duff my hat for the relationship expert.

Feel bad for you bro but next time make money first before making love so u can afford it.

oceanized25:
So my girl friend wants to go for industrial training, I.T, for close to two months in another state and she intends to stay at a male's house, this male she calls "family friend", bear in mind that he does not have a girlfriend or lady that stays with him, he lives alone, she says there is an empty room that she will own all through the duration of her stay so they won't be sleeping or staying in the same room.....

But the idea of her staying with this guy, that they are not related at all does not sit right with me, am not saying he will definitely make a pass or move on her or vice versa but these are members of the opposite sex.......

Am I just being paranoid?

Yellowdayzee:
Ok since you don't feel comfortable... Did you offer her an alternative solution

Can you get her another place to stay?

Don't point out a problem without a solution

Benita27:
This really has nothing to do with trust but jealousy which is a normal human feeling among spouses.

Whether family friend or not, it's not advisable to live under the same roof with someone of the opposite sex 'cause one can't really tell what would happen. Certain unplanned events just happen. The op doesn't have a choice 'cause whether he likes it or not, she'll still stay with the guy 'cause her mind is made up, his best option is to offer her where to stay while she's there.

vertueptime:
Free kpekus for the guy free of charge

jomagibs:
tie a red robe to your waist when the robe becomes blue then you know the otherwised happened.


someone is trying to render a helping hand to another that's not his sister or Bea in a country wia brothers forget each other you're here been paranoid .. beta use your paranoid and pay for a hotel or you rent a room and provide her the needful..



you have trust issues and it has eaten very deep in you. just few months and your shivering..
Guy you are talking trash. Its normal feeling for any guy in this situation to feel like this.

No matter how much the girl loves him, she might just fall into another guys temptation OK. Your point about lack of trust shows u don't know much about relationship.

MrBrownJay1:


if i have any issues that bothers me, i communicate with my woman specifically about what/how/why it is a bother... thats the 1st step into finding a solution to any issue. if your woman cares for you, she will understand and seek for an alternative (unless she is a hoe planning the whole thing).

the dude is confused about it but yet is such a chicken that he cant even tell his babe about it?! what kind of failed r/ship is this?! no wonder he doesnt trust her.

Benita27:
Your post is hammered on trust. What if he trust her and she could close her legs but the dude forces himself on her?.

Essentials1:


Let me advice you with my experience, other people's experience and the NYSC experience...

You are right to be paranoid and the fact that you are means you don't trust your girl so much and that means she is not the kind of person you can say is very faithful no matter what...

I wouldn't advice you looking for another alternative right now... I will advice you to get ready for whatever happens, in fact make friends with this so called guy, incase any thing happens he will be able to tell you and so that you will know..

The reason why I wouldn't advice you to seek for another alternative is because it is better to solve a problem (trust) immediately than postponing it. If you think you girl cannot keep her legs closed long enough, then it is time you know.

I am not saying that your girl is a cheat or a hoe, all I am saying is that if you are paranoid it means that there is one part of you that don't trust your girl completely and it is time to kill that part forever than giving your all into this relationship and finding out that she is the worst for you...

I hope you understand

greggng:


Don't deceive ur self conji doesn't respect anyone. You cannot ve food in ur house and refuse to eat it. If she doesn't give out willingly, the guy will rape her which ever way she is giving. Pls rent a house for ur girl friend away from that guy otherwise good bye to ur relationship. If my landlord can even attempt to rape my girl while I was away on nysc. Urs na small package