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| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
missloluwa: Sorry to say, but let me spill this out for you. If you hang out where lower middle class / struggling guys hang out. Those are who will come your way. Your circle of friends too also matters. Your location also matters, if you are doing well but staying in a local area on the mainland. Who do you think you would mix with? Your church / mosque also matters. You cannot be worshiping at House on the Rock or Redeem church in Banana island & be mixing up with Riff Raff's. If you want to meet rich guys, you need to set yourself up. How do you think all those Runs girls make the moves? 15 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Rukkydelta(f): 9:22pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
sunshineR:I pray that your main should remain unban till 2030 cos it's so scary |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:24pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
sunshineR: Hahahhhaha Funny boy I see u!!! I prefer the other moniker too 1 Like
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| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:25pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Rukkydelta:  i see "you still love your mom" when would "you love sunshine.R"  |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:25pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
pocohantas: Exactly sis. Exactly. She's rolling with lower class people and friends / co-workers and expecting a miracle rich husband. If you Roll with chickens. More chickens would come way. 7 Likes |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:27pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
missloluwa:LOL! Chill gurl. The right man would come for you. Meanwhile, you have just invited some desperate guys on Nairaland. They gonna bomb you with PMs. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:28pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Evaberry: we all do hun and ermm dont i get a reward for freely forgiving |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:28pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
truthsayer009: You know I was in the office fixing something for a friend and I felt a sharp pain in my chest I didn't understand for a while but now I do  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Olanrefront3355(m): 9:29pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Rukkydelta: Except No one ever prayed for unrighteous partner... and life still keeps fvcking everyone... Luck, Luck sweet! 1 Like |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by silkytouch(m): 9:31pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
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| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by walepackage(m): 9:34pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
@op,I wish you the best in your search or waiting for your dream man.But,just know that nothing is "functional without its dysfunctional".If those criteria set above are your wish then so be it.Nothing is impossible, in as much you are not perturbed with your status quo.But, i fear if you can persevered enough,cos you sound "uncertainty" |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by ehix89(m): 9:36pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Go for what makes you happy, everyone belong to his/her own school of though, we are all wired to think differently and finally never be influenced by comments down here....Cheers 3 Likes |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:40pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
pcguru1: Its not as bad as that tho. We all appreciate you on NL and we know u are a great guy. Sorry for attacking u like that. I apologize. |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 9:57pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
truthsayer009: Nah I was joking , I have no advice for OP, but would it weird if I didn't go for a girl because She's below my financial status ? Because if its one thing I know situation changes. I hope she finds her made man truly I wish she does, so that she can be fulfilled in her objective. 3 Likes |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by missloluwa(f): 10:00pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Rukkydelta: Aww thank you  truthsayer009: Lool! This is very true, but it's not 100% fool proof. I live in a nice area and attend a good church, I think I have a look that says i'm not so high maintenance (not really into weaves or makeup) which may work against me. I'm also a bit shy, which doesn't help either. truthsayer009: Looool chickens my chest!!DeeTus: Lol, i'm impatient I know, i'm working on it.  NCANpatroller: Actually, sometimes luck comes into play. I was lucky/blessed to get this job, but I also worked hard to make sure I had the necessary skills so that when the oppurtunity came I killed the interview! 2 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 10:05pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
pcguru1: Sadly when the case is being turned around. Its not the same anymore. |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 10:14pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Don't rush into marriage by settling for the less. I will never settle for the less cos I won't be happy, and my aspiration in life is to be happy. |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 10:22pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
When u clock 30 u will settle for lesser. I know a babe just like u . has 15m in her account. Already a deputy manager in a bank. But no husband. Shes getting married to an old divorcee lol. Continue 14 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
missloluwa: Since you've heard talks about dreams maybe it's time you start asking about finance... I recommend you ask the salary range of any guy you get intimate/or start getting intimate with, this way, you can make your decision before things start getting serious..But its a long journey and while many guys remain stuck in their conditions, some breaktrhough and climax, my dear...Don't make permanent decisions in temporary situations...Be tact, be wise, but keep it simple and classy, share your dream with guys you meet, and let them know what your expectations are... You have a right to your choice, don't settle for less. It doesn't make you a gold digger... 4 Likes |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 10:37pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
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| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by bloodmoneyspita: 10:57pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
OP following your career isn't worth it, your more likely to go barren as you grow older, you need to drop one first. I'm telling you the truth. career for women is a scam that's why women abroad are freezing their eggs. so that if they decide to get a child at a certain age they can do it, don't forget by 29 you are already declining as a woman. take my advise or leave it. when you grow old, beautiful dogs and cats won't take you to the hospital if you have a doctor's appointment. only grown up kids do that. |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 11:16pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
sunshineR:Pussyhunter like you. Biko swerve. 1 Like |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by toksbisola: 11:28pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
@OP; first things first; try not to look down on any man; be it a poor/rich man. A MAN IS A MAN WHETHER HE’S FROM A HUMBLE, AVERAGE OR RICH BACKGROUND. Looking at it from another angle, to love someone is a beautiful thing; and when one is seeking a partner, it’s not just the status of the man you should look at. There are other factors that needs consideration before taking the “I DO” step as MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES. The factors are; Love, Compatibility, Respect and Friendship. You should ask yourself the few questions mentioned below when you meet someone; Does he love you? Is he caring? Is he decent? Is he hardworking? Is he supportive? No doubt, we all have preference’ as to what we want in a partner; but laying so much emphasis on RICHES can be a dangerous game. Besides, you’re entitled to marry a rich man IF THAT’S WHAT YOU WANT AND WOULD MAKE YOU HAPPY. But let me tell you, a man who’s rich today can become poor tomorrow; likewise a man who’s poor today can become rich tomorrow. Always look at the potential for the future in a man when seeking for a mate and not riches. If he has the potentials to make it big tomorrow; I can’t see what stops you from using your influence (as you mentioned that you come from a comfortable family) to bring the not so well to do guy up financial. Do you know how many ladies wants to marry a rich man? There are more ladies seeking rich men than there are rich men available. The sensible ladies, would look for a man with potentials even though he might not be currently rich and encourage him to push ahead to make it and become comfortable later on in life. You might say what if I marry a poor man and he remains poor? Well you’re not in a position to see the future; hence, you can’t answer that question correctly. If he has a job and can take good care of you and the kids you’ll have; then why not? It’s not as if the not so well to do guy wouldn’t want to improve his lot in life. I am pretty sure he would want to work hard and become comfortable. WITH GOD, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. There are lots of women who have toiled the part in marrying a rich guy/higher status; and they are miserable in their marriages as their husbands see them as not adding any value to their life’s financially; some are even termed as GOLD-DIGGERS. On the other hand, there are also women who have married rich men/higher status that are not facing that dilemma; hence you never know. Always note, that you can marry a man with higher status who’ll deal with you mercilessly and disrespect you on every occasion and not give you the peace of mind you require. On the other hand you can also marry a man with higher status that would give you peace of mind and love you dearly; you just never know. Look for more important qualities that a man has aside money/riches before settling down with him to avoid stories that touch/hurt. NEVER EVER PUT HIS MONEY AND RICHES FIRST AND BLIND YOU IN HIS SHORT-COMINGS TO AVOID POTENTIAL PROBLEMS AFTER MARRIAGE. On a final note, have you told a few people that you are looking; in case a man is looking as well and you can be recommended to him. Don’t limit yourself to only seeing people on the street as you can also meet your partner via the online avenue as well. Even here on NL is not left out as a few people have met their partners on here too. At least, I have seen a few of such threads testifying to that effect. You can also use other social media such as facebook, whatsapp, instigma etc in which you can meet someone. If you also like someone, you can give the green light to him (this is the 21st century) as some guys are quite shy to even toast a lady and if you give them the green light, it becomes a bit easier for them to approach you. Finally, never give up in trying to gain/get what you want to achieve; and pray for direction as well. All the best gurl I rest my case 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 11:53pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
sunshineR:go for whatever gives YOU happiness but never make the mistake of looking down on any as a second is enough for someone's story to be changed. The one you turn down today because of your taste may be the one to take you to your promised land.. Do not neglect little beginnings. Just an advice 3 Likes |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 12:01am On Sep 07, 2017 |
Biadoyo: hun i used to tell people same advice till i got to learn some hard facts about life from two diff demon-hoes in woman form now like i said earlier i would never date a gold digging hoe who aiint average or above average in life again................ Thanks anyways 1 Like |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by MrMcJay(m): 1:52am On Sep 07, 2017 |
missloluwa: You obviously are a young adult old enough to know what she wants. However, I'll point out a few things to you. Firstly, men and women are wired differently. In matters of looks, money, age, education and class, men date downwards while women date upwards. Having a woman date downwards or sideways is abnormal. Hence, you're not a gold digger as your dating requirements are in accordance with nature. However, you should borrow yourself brain o! As to the most guys being in their struggling phases, you should understand that nature has made it that we all won't bloom at the same time. Some are early bloomers and others bloom late. A bungalow can be finished in a month, but when building a superstructure, one month is not enough for the foundation alone. I believe that you should look beyond the present and consider the character, prospects and personality of a man. The kind of men you seek are established men in their career, business and are comfortable. However, such men that fulfil such criteria and are suitable are within the ages of 30-40. You'll notice that such men are already married. If you wish to keep seeking made guys, I can assure you that you'll find them. My question for you is that when you find them, would you satisfy their requirements before they kick you out? You can meet young and upwardly mobile young men at various places. Polo Club on Friday evenings, Churches in Lekki, VI and Ikoyi on Sundays. Also, you can volunteer at events in the aforementioned localities. Don't snub anyone and receive all with a smile, helps to attract good people. Don't be desperate, never be snobbish; Be ready to build with your man; Don't despise the days of little beginnings; Don't always be about what you're getting from the relationship, give freely, Smile often and be prayerful. You'll meet wonderful people. I know you find a good guy so that I can wear my white Agbada with sunshades and beards in my complete Yoruba demon outfit to celebrate with you. Cheers. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by bigcp(m): 1:55am On Sep 07, 2017 |
9ja girls are all d same...u are looking for an already made man...at dis time wen things hard like hell....how many hv u made?..how many hv u helped?...de dia de wait till u get to 30 or 35...dis is why so many well to do ladies are still very single..till dem end up as a 2nd or 3rd wife....u knw getting a job these days is very very difficult...even a job dat pays as low as 30k...na problem too....if na man now...e no mind to marry a jobless woman and invest in her...open a good business 4 her....but 9ja woman...lai lai...dis is why there's high rate of single women in 9ja and more of baby mamas...see what gender equality has brought now...if na man de ur position...he go don help so many other men...and he go don even marry sef and open business 4 his wife...bt instead of women 2 do d same...they'll be looking for already made man...stingy set of ppl...wen job no de at all...now so how many men would agree to get married without a job...i never see ppl wen women don help for dis country without tellin d whole world abt it...dat na wetin men de do all d time n no one go knw abt am...if na man de ur position nw he'd v gotten married n established a good business for his wife.. .can u fo that for ur man? ofcos np...u can't...that's d work of a man...u wnt gender equality yet u can't do anything for ur partner. ..de dia de expect manner 2 drop frm heaven...most of d man you'd get frm dat range would be married to d lady dat struggled with him...or go get girlfriend dat was there for him wen he had nothing...while he'll help u while away ur time as his side chick....ppl sayin ur own de come...I've seen it happened over n over again...uptil nw Genevieve own never still come...i ain't against looking for what u want....wat I'm against is u looking down on men...well, good luck 18 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by handsomebanana(m): 2:42am On Sep 07, 2017 |
Do wateva d Fûck u wanna do. U re alreddi comfy. If going below that level iz Sth u don't wanna do, Derez no need doing it because some people wuld praise u. Put urself first. U alreddi knw Wat u want 2 do, u jst need validation |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 3:16am On Sep 07, 2017 |
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| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by agrovick(m): 3:49am On Sep 07, 2017 |
bigcp: O boy! See Para 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Candyness(f): 4:23am On Sep 07, 2017 |
missloluwa: You never settle for less,I don't. There is someone out there for everyone. I hold my head up high |
| Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Nobody: 7:21am On Sep 07, 2017 |
I can already imagine your mouth twisted by poverty! When was the last time you ate a real meal? Why's her choice paining you so much? Look at this wretched and broke ass fool looking for a rich babe. You'll not go and work hard and make something out of your miserable and useless life! SmellyPig And not everyone sTarted out poor. I'm sure you're one of those lazy, indolent dolts that stay in bed all day jerking off to porn and imagining "blowing", while screaming "Oluwa bless my hustle". God doesn't bless redundant masturbators. Be a man and work hard and live an okay life, maybe then you'll be able to have an opinion when relevant people are talking. carzola: 6 Likes |
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