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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Yoshy: 7:25am On Sep 07, 2017
I'm not saying you should settle for less, I'm saying you should settle for happiness.

Personally, I won't marry a girl that doesn't have a good job, though if she has good prospects and willing to do what's necessary to upgrade, I will help her and see where it leads.

Nobody is certain of tomorrow we can only do our best to secure it and try not to be short sighted.

The guy you call poor today might be rich tomorrow and the guy you call rich might be poor tomorrow.

Seek the face of God and follow his directions on this matter.

Finally OP, gather your self together, be open and genuinely happy as a single, the universe will send the right person to you naturally.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by ochobaba(m): 7:33am On Sep 07, 2017
pocohantas:
You are not a gold-digger or any of those plenty adjectives.

Settle for where you find love, respect and fulfilment.

The probability you would find all of the above in a social status way below yours is low.

As I have come to notice our daily cycle, religious, social and professional association ...plays a huge influence on who we meet.

The emotional blackmailers and masters in scare tactics are here. They'll tell you of that aunty who has gotten to menopause for having a standard. They won't tell you of the ones who ended up emotionally shattered for not having a standard. There is no one formula for getting this right.

We all have things that helps our association with the opposite sex, be it financial, educational, religious, cultural...even sexual. There must be one 'vain' thing that keeps you glued to a partner, no matter how non-superficial you try to portray yourself. It only becomes a set-back if you pay no attention to other qualities.

That said, everything is done with moderation. There is no guaranty a struggling guy will treat you right. There is also no guarantee a rich man will treat you right.

The only man that would treat you right is that man who loves and respects you. Direct your association to your target kind of men. If you are bringing something to the table, you are deserving of a partner who does same. Let no one guilt trip you!!!

Our young men are getting 'smarter' too. Financial compatibility is important.
Well articulated
If we could be blessed with women like you in the world..definitely we won't have cause for women-men inequalities
We need more like you
Thanks

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by carzola(m): 7:50am On Sep 07, 2017
LadyGoddiva:
I can already imagine your mouth twisted by poverty! When was the last time you ate a real meal? Why's her choice paining you so much? Look at this wretched and broke ass fool looking for a rich babe. You'll not go and work hard and make something out of your miserable and useless life! SmellyPig
And not everyone sTarted out poor. I'm sure you're one of those lazy, indolent dolts that stay in bed all day jerking off to porn and imagining "blowing", while screaming "Oluwa bless my hustle". God doesn't bless redundant masturbators. Be a man and work hard and live an okay life, maybe then you'll be able to have an opinion when relevant people are talking.

Tomorrow u will say u are a christian.... 5kobo LovePeddler burn by a 2kobo poll dancer.... its to early to lend you my attention... cause some of us are not jobless like your father..

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Babacele: 8:20am On Sep 07, 2017
Life is all about choices; the ball is in your court.
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by hammerX: 8:57am On Sep 07, 2017
Evaberry:
Lol op sorry to ask but how old are you


missloluwa just relax, you seem to be in a hurry.




The man you desire will definitely come, just be patient concentrate more on your career, be outgoing and socialise more.

lemme call Someone that's good at giving relationship and marital advise.

cc Pcguru1
Na ur brother be dis, from isoko land. kiss
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Ifedith(m): 8:58am On Sep 07, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Define less.
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by CandidSeeker(m): 8:59am On Sep 07, 2017

It depends on your definition of less.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by beautiful232(f): 9:00am On Sep 07, 2017
dear guys,May you never marry a woman that need marriage more than she needs you.

that's all I can say..

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Lexusgs430: 9:00am On Sep 07, 2017
Keep waiting...... He might come along, if not ............

Beautiful232, took it out of my mouth ........ Seeing that she is above me, it feels like we are having lady on top .......
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by MrDoGood: 9:00am On Sep 07, 2017
I don't react to these kind of people.

Am I controlling your life for you?
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by okerekeikpo: 9:01am On Sep 07, 2017
Stupid question, but millionaires will travel to the village and pick a dirty girl who can't boast of 1k, girls and their thinking ehn

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by poseidon12: 9:03am On Sep 07, 2017
NCANpatroller:



Marry your mothers husband!
Im sure is already made
Oponu
Sow and reap!
Gerrahia mehn

Don't mind her. Nigerian ladies and their selfish, gold-digging mindset.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by hedonistic: 9:04am On Sep 07, 2017
This is why I hate the fact that girls are favoured over guys in the job market. Selling their bodies and feminine charms to get good jobs that they're barely qualified for, while better qualified guys roam the streets.

This is the outcome... Unfairly favoured bimbos would now be feeling special and talking about not "settling for less". The effrontery is mind-boggling.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Maxvasia(m): 9:04am On Sep 07, 2017
Looking for the rich guys? Lol. Ok na.

The truth is that the responsible, rich guys which huge potential are the ones most overlooked as they NEVER flaunt their riches and potential on social media or elsewhere. smiley

So I guess u would have to use ur 6th sense here while being patient and alert. If u rush into marriage, u either rush out or get flung out of it before u know it. Watchful wait is key. Its even obvious that genuine LOVE is not ur priority here but maintenance of ur "standard". smiley

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by lollmaolol(m): 9:04am On Sep 07, 2017
Lets talk

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by kingdenny(m): 9:04am On Sep 07, 2017
People think marriage is boyfriend and girlfriend thing.
At the end of the day you might find a man that fits that criteria. But he might be lacking in an area that might make you crazy..
No man is a total package. No marriage is a total package.
Your man's fault should be something you can endure for the rest of life and his good qualities should be a spring of life to your marriage

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by greggng: 9:05am On Sep 07, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Your are still a small girl otherwise I would ve made you an offer of marriage. When you get mature with age call me

Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by kingdenny(m): 9:07am On Sep 07, 2017
Maxvasia:
Looking for the rich guys? Lol. Ok na.

The truth is that the responsible, rich guys which huge potential are the ones most overlooked as they NEVER flaunt their riches and potential on social media or elsewhere. smiley

So I guess u would have to use ur 6th sense here while being patient and alert. If u rush into marriage, u either rush out or get flung out of it before u know it. Watchful wait is key. Its even obvious that genuine LOVE is not ur priority here but maintenance of ur "standard". smiley
No mind her. She doesn't understand what marriage is yet

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Amhappy(f): 9:08am On Sep 07, 2017
An average guy in a good career path will do. Even if he cannot match all your tastes,he can reason with you. And you will spur him to work hard. Don't settle for someone who you will carry his burden. All the best.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Maxvasia(m): 9:08am On Sep 07, 2017
kingdenny:

No mind her. She doesn't understand what marriage is yet
Smiles. Yea i have since been smiling at her subtle naivety here. grin

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by galax1: 9:08am On Sep 07, 2017
Hmmm ..young lady ask yourself what exactly do you want in a man.mind you no man with potential is poor just that maybe he might be needing a little help to explode.and actually u never stated what u want in from your man apart from class.Love is the only bedrock that can keep a home.u can't get anyman that's 60% ok ,he might lack elsewhere.so ask yourself wat he lacks can u manage it ,if not run run run.
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by luminouz(m): 9:10am On Sep 07, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.


I can just imagine how many guys go don PM u now....
Nice advert babe!!! Nice advert!!!

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by varmint: 9:10am On Sep 07, 2017
carzola:
This is why God should not
bless all the poor people

look at this bitch that use
to beg for sub money..

now has a taste.
Lol... Thank God say God no be man

Hardwork brings taste
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by millionboi(m): 9:10am On Sep 07, 2017
missloluwa:
Hey guys,

I'm in my mid 20's and i've been working for a few years now, my current salary is very decent and i'm striving to earn more. Obviously at my age, i'm thinking of the long term which obviously includes my career but i'm also looking forward to and marriage and kids. However, the vast majority of guys i've met are either not ready for the long term, or they're still in their 'struggling' phase.

Is it bad that I want someone who is at least on the same level as me, or maybe even slightly below? Am I a 'gold-digger' because i don't really want to 'eat garri' with a guy before he blows? I've dated these guys before but even till now their level hasn't changed much despite all their talk about potential.

I don't mind having to split the bill once in a while or even contribute but i'm a lady that's used to certain tastes. My family isn't Dangote rich but we're doing quite well, and i'd like to continue living that life or at least not drop too far below. What do you guys think? Do I keep looking for these 'almost/made guys'(can anyone tell me where to find them? lol) or do I settle for a struggler.

Wait ontil u are 45yrs

The ans will fall on u.
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by millionboi(m): 9:12am On Sep 07, 2017
galax1:
Hmmm ..young lady ask yourself what exactly do you want in a man.mind you no man with potential is poor just that maybe he might be needing a little help to explode.and actually u never stated what u want in from your man apart from class.Love is the only bedrock that can keep a home.u can't get anyman that's 60% ok ,he might lack elsewhere.so ask yourself wat he lacks can u manage it ,if not run run run.
abeg she go undstnd when she clock 45yrs
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by AFONJACOW(m): 9:12am On Sep 07, 2017
I want to donate my sperm to the female IDP's grin grin grin
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by bettercreature(m): 9:12am On Sep 07, 2017
These same thing I was telling a friend few days ago,I don't have any advice for the this poster as I have many people around me suffering from this same problem
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by Funkybabee(f): 9:14am On Sep 07, 2017
Sister don't settle for less!!!! don't be desperate, you have to marry who worth your standard so that you may have happy home..

May God grant you ur own husband that will take care of you.... just remember this wait for your time
Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by hedonistic: 9:14am On Sep 07, 2017
beautiful232:
dear guys,May you never marry a woman that need marriage more than she needs you.

that's all I can say..




Words on marble. Guys, take note of this... And read the deep meaning between the lines.

Meanwhile, like I mentioned elsewhere, people need to stop making long-term decisions on the basis of short-term considerations. So-called good jobs and so-called money are things that can disappear at any point. And then you're stuck with a partner you barely love or understand, with a couple of kids and battered bodies as baggage. What do you do, then? Live the rest of your life in misery and discontent, ruing a paradise lost?

You can't assume that someone who has a good job or a thriving business today will have that in 5 or 10 years time. We all know people who were large yesterday and are nothing today, and vice versa. It's called life, and it has very many vicissitudes.

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Re: I'm A Young Female With A Good Job, Do I Really Have To Settle For Less? by goodnewscliff(m): 9:17am On Sep 07, 2017
LET ME GO SO PLAIN WITH U BAE!!!!! U AINT MATURED ENOUGH TO GET MARRIED!!!!! u aint ready yet!!! just wait a bit for d right time wen u get emotional , marriage wise, sacrifice wise matured den u can get married!!!

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