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Piiko:
Lool you know I am having a convo with a chic on my whatsapp now and I can swear it's inching towards that please give me money story in her words I am going through a lot, so I will just gently go to bed and end the convo, I have some weird taste in luxury she noticed and thinks I am loaded abeg goodnight

Piiko:
Lool you know I am having a convo with a chic on my whatsapp now and I can swear it's inching towards that please give me money story in her words I am going through a lot, so I will just gently go to bed and end the convo, I have some weird taste in luxury she noticed and thinks I am loaded abeg goodnight

Piiko:
Lool you know I am having a convo with a chic on my whatsapp now and I can swear it's inching towards that please give me money story in her words I am going through a lot, so I will just gently go to bed and end the convo, I have some weird taste in luxury she noticed and thinks I am loaded abeg goodnight

Maduawuchukwu:
Lol. Almost all Nigerian men spend nothing less than 20% of their pay on their women and very few talk about it in the open. So Nigerian men no dey cast. There is a reason Kenyan and SA wome dey rush us.

pocohantas:
Eeeya, if only that was true...
Make my boobs reduce the day I allow the typical egoistic Nigerian man spend 5% of his pay on me. That's the day you lose your right. Except na my husband...

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

Ginaz:
But the guy didn't try on his part too, for those of you criticizing her but giving lame excuses for the guy are not being fair.

You have the guts to borrow money, not the guts to explain your position? How will she be able to trust him? At least you read where she said she hasn't taken a dime from her man, it shows she is responsible and not the materialistic person who only cares about money.

She worked hard for the money, helped him with it. But look what he did. Not picking her calls and not even feeling bothered to cool her temper. His show of gratitude would have gone a long way.

Let's try to show gratitude abeg, whether man or woman. We should show we appreciate.

Girl run for your life, that man doesn't deserve you. You have a giving heart and it's not bad to help your man when he is in need. His actions doesn't speak of someone worth trusting at all.

Find a way to talk to him to ascertain the reasons for his uncalled actions , if it proved abortive, count the money as a offering to him and move on with your life.

OLUJOSHINS:
He asked His lover for financial support when passing thru hard times.

She gave half of the agreed sum with the excuse that His business is in a very bad shape that it might not recover from. (This is a massive eye opener. Now he can calculate the strength of any possible support she will ever give him. He also knows the conditions attached to their love now).

He decided to tag along in a bid to rescue his business (This is more or less the same as making a deal with the devil. No more strings attached. just get all the support you can & hope to have enough time to pay back).

Luck smiled on him when she brought in technical support from her end to salvage the situation. (This can be likened to a new investor pumping strength to his new investment to help it gain enough ground to rise again). This is not an act of love.

His business is back on its feet.

The loan shark is knocking on his door.

With time, I believe He will pay her back. But He won't be silly enough to make the mistake of settling down with a woman like this.

Issues like this make me scared of the gender I am supposed to call my help meet.

Daeylar:
Let it just be a lady that did want the man did. Sister you will fear the comments that day, LMAO

We have seen something on this nairaland sha,

I'm hoping and praying for op that she is able to collect her money soon, her boyfriend apologizes and hopefully they also make up, settle and better their communication, I hope she comes back to give us update.

OLUJOSHINS:
He asked His lover for financial support when passing thru hard times.

She gave half of the agreed sum with the excuse that His business is in a very bad shape that it might not recover from. (This is a massive eye opener. Now he can calculate the strength of any possible support she will ever give him. He also knows the conditions attached to their love now).

He decided to tag along in a bid to rescue his business (This is more or less the same as making a deal with the devil. No more strings attached. just get all the support you can & hope to have enough time to pay back).

Luck smiled on him when she brought in technical support from her end to salvage the situation. (This can be likened to a new investor pumping strength to his new investment to help it gain enough ground to rise again). This is not an act of love.

His business is back on its feet.

The loan shark is knocking on his door.

With time, I believe He will pay her back. But He won't be silly enough to make the mistake of settling down with a woman like this.

Issues like this make me scared of the gender I am supposed to call my help meet.

ANOTHER REAL MAN WITH SENSE

rosalieene:
Even if they settle, the hurt would still be there, the trust would have died since

rosalieene:
Even if they settle, the hurt would still be there, the trust would have died since

Ninethmare:
You said he is your fiance and you guys are planning for marriage
you borrowed him some money to help in revitalising his company.
Now the question is have you asked him how business is moving? he maybe having some problems...
You are all after ur money not knowing that after ur marriage with him the company is also urs
.
.
Now see what you are going to do...
Stop talking about ur money for now and try to know how the business is going.
Build the love again
Focus on your marriage
.
After marriage then you can skin him alive if you want.

lighternote:
This is most likely your so called boyfriend or his cohort �
Abeg, borrow sense. That guy isn't your fiance or husband. He's a destiny destroyer who just took advantage of you. Go for your money by any legal [color=#990000][/color]means.

Ninethmare:
You said he is your fiance and you guys are planning for marriage
you borrowed him some money to help in revitalising his company.
Now the question is have you asked him how business is moving? he maybe having some problems...
You are all after ur money not knowing that after ur marriage with him the company is also urs
.
.
Now see what you are going to do...
Stop talking about ur money for now and try to know how the business is going.
Build the love again
Focus on your marriage
.
After marriage then you can skin him alive if you want.

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

Maduawuchukwu:
Madam have you thought about the fact that the man's business is still not even and the babe has been pestering him for the money like though he is a scam?

YelloweWest:
Why does he no longer take her calls?

pedrilo:
Lol, Good for u, but stop casting urself online, coz u might be shocked to realize u r chatting with someone richer than u and ur hubby.

escapefromusa:
Calm .. down

YelloweWest:
Except u are outside Nigeria or on night shift, why are u awake like me?

escapefromusa:
N.Y. for now

Lasgidi .. soon. U nko

YelloweWest:
Pregnancy insomnia

Missonas:
Guys chill. Its her money she has the right to react the way she wants especially with trust being an issue these days.

My dear, recent happenings have made me learn to give people the benefit of doubt. Make excuses for them. It really may not be what you think it is. From all indication everything that could wrong in the biz happened right before your eyes. You even proferred solution by bringing in ur own people. It wasnt planned if it was he would never have allowed that or you in.

Be patient with him. He knows you must be thinking the way you are right nw hence the refusal to speak with u. He sends text so you knw he means you no harm. Talk to him, give him time. YoU will get ur money back but please dont loose your sense ofunderstanding and maturity over it.

Thats business for you. Win some loose some. Welcome to his world baby. Show him you can handle when you eventually get together

BUT if he's shady you'll know when the time you've given him is up. His actions overtime will tell.

chynie:
Is your brain paining u? u cant even praise her for giving him in the first place.
issues like this is why girls don't give guys financial support until they are rightfully married.
if she has lost her trust in him, then don't blame her, something caused it

pocohantas:
READ EVERY SINGLE THREAD ON BREAKUP BY NAIRALAND GUYS...

THEY DON'T EVER MISS THIS LINE

"AFTER EVERYTHING I SPENT ON HER...I DID MY BEST TO MAkE HER COMFORTABLE"

Read the following comments from NL [m], come back and read their comments here.

Oluwaseyi00:
I sight you

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

TheRealestGuy:
Don't mind that girl.

We guys sacrifice a whole lot for relationships and we don't make noise about it.

Obviously, the guy may be yet to fully bounce back from the losses he may have incurred from the production halt for a while and all the babe has been doing since she learnt he's back in production is ask for her money.

To all the men out there, this is a classic example of how many women think.

If you must borrow money, please avoid borrowing from a woman you're romantically involved with cos she'll rub it on your face and spite you if for any reason you don't pay back as agreed.