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My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 7:48pm On Dec 04, 2017
Good day,

Good people of nairaland, I am new to the thread so please bear my mishaps. Nairaland was Introduced to me by a colleague of mine at the office yesterday. So i said i should seek your advice on an issue bothering me.. Back to the topic.

Name withheld, My fiancee has been my girl for over 4 months now, and by early next year am thinking of taking it to the alter by God's grace but here is the problem....

On 3 or 4 occasions i have invited her to spend the night at my place, she do agrees but the problem is she over sleeps. She would sleep from 11 till 7am, A working class lady. I dunno how to tell her again, Cause i told her jokingly she laughed about it and said Is It my sleep. Imagine marrying her and she wakes by 7 or 8, Were is the time to take care of our kids nd d home I.E, Preparing breakfast and bathing the kids and also preparing for her work hour..... Please Nairalanders, Your opinions will be highly welcomed.

Mods please push to front page for more assistance

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ofonike: 7:51pm On Dec 04, 2017
Buy alarm clock for her.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Ayo4251(m): 7:54pm On Dec 04, 2017
You know China phones right? (Chinko)....Use the phone to set alarm...if the phone alarm tone does not wake her, you know one church down ur street, take her there

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by HarunaWest(m): 7:56pm On Dec 04, 2017
lol....I thought you had one serious problem as such....she shud sleep early then so she could wake up early,,and start ringing it into her ear that you would not marry a jobless lady....she will adjust

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Mynd44: 7:58pm On Dec 04, 2017
She wakes up 7am……yen yen yen

Is there something that needs doing that she doesn't do?

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ifex370(m): 7:59pm On Dec 04, 2017
Op stop wasting peoples mb




Be kiafu

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Mynd44: 7:59pm On Dec 04, 2017
HarunaWest:
lol....I thought you had one serious problem as such....she shud sleep early then so she could wake up early,,and start ringing it into her ear that you would not marry a jobless lady....she will adjust
She does not have a job. If she wakes 5am, what will she be doing ooooo?

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by MhizzAJ(f): 7:59pm On Dec 04, 2017
What are you calling the mods for undecided

You don't need advise...You've already concluded that she isn't a wife material...

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by HeyCorleone(m): 7:59pm On Dec 04, 2017
Realitycheck007:
Good day,
Good people of nairaland, I am new to the thread so please bear my mishaps. Nairaland was Introduced to me by a colleague of mine at the office yesterday. So i said i should seek your advice on an issue bothering me.. Back to the topic.
Name withheld, My fiancee has been my girl for over 4 months now, and by early next year am thinking of taking it to the alter by God's grace but here is the problem....
On 3 or 4 occasions i have invited her to spend the night at my place, she do agrees but the problem is she over sleeps. She would sleep from 11 till 7am, A working class lady. I dunno how to tell her again, Cause i told her jokingly she laughed about it and said Is It my sleep. Imagine marrying her and she wakes by 7 or 8, Were is the time to take care of our kids nd d home I.E, Preparing breakfast and bathing the kids and also preparing for her work hour..... Please Nairalanders, Your opinions will be highly welcomed.

Mods please push to front page for more assistance Rocktation Farano lalasticlala seun Mynd44


emboldened.

When you get to the bridge, you'd cross it.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by SmellingAnus(m): 8:00pm On Dec 04, 2017
Lol... Truth is that, there will always be a reason why we may not want a particular lady, so also there will always be a reason why despite other short comings, we still want a particular lady... It solely depends on what you feel you can't live without or what is most important to you...

On a lighter note... What if you meet another girl that wakes up early but she has a smellingpussy, you will still come to nairaland to complain to us grin

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Xcelinteriors(f): 8:00pm On Dec 04, 2017
Are you marrying her because you love her or because you want to turn her to maid. That girl should dump you as soon as possible. I am self employed and it is my husband that do prepare my baby for school every morning. I will just wake up like 7am and prepare breakfast but he will be the one to bath him and feed him. We brought the baby into this world together and should take care of him together, omolomo o le wa pa iyaoniya( ask any Yoruba to translate it for you)

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by MissWrite(f): 8:04pm On Dec 04, 2017
When her day gets fuller, she'll cut back on the sleep. If you want, you can schedule some activities for 5am and see if she cannot get with the program.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ClitoPen: 8:05pm On Dec 04, 2017
What advice do you want to read from here? Na u go wear the shoe. You already know what you want to do. Just looking for supporters....

Hope you are taking a good census via the comments....
1)supporters for her stay
2)supporters for her exit
3)the bats (neither stay nor exit)

Cheers...

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:05pm On Dec 04, 2017
HarunaWest:
lol....I thought you had one serious problem as such....she shud sleep early then so she could wake up early,,and start ringing it into her ear that you would not marry a jobless lady....she will adjust
Told her on 2 occasion... She just laughs and secondly she's not Jobless. She's a working class lady
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:08pm On Dec 04, 2017
Mynd44:
She wakes up 7am……yen yen yen

Is there something that needs doing that she doesn't do?
Her work hours are from 8am-4pm, So if she wakes by 7, Break fast and Kids nko? I Will assist definitely but She shouldn't just be Rolling on the bed.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 8:08pm On Dec 04, 2017
Bathe children, make breakfast, get ready for work... while YOU do what I wonder?

Forever looking for someone's daughter to abuse angry

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Mille: 8:08pm On Dec 04, 2017
Realitycheck007:
Told her on 2 occasion... She just laughs and secondly she's not Jobless. She's a working class lady

The fact that you are deeply bothered by a woman who sleeps for 8hrs says a lot about you. If I see your woman today, I will advice her against going into the marriage.

Like seriously? People sleep according to their schedules. If I don't have anything to do on a Saturday or Sunday morning or even free weekdays, coupled with any earlier-in-the-week stress, I can sleep up to 13hrs. The same way I sleep for just 3hrs in weekdays or days where I have earlier schedule.

If she doesn't have anything to do, why wake up so early. Or are you the type who expects a woman to have less sleep or time for herself simply because she is married to you. The one you expect to sleep at 12 midnight and wake up at 4AM.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:09pm On Dec 04, 2017
Mynd44:

She does not have a job. If she wakes 5am, what will she be doing ooooo?
She has a job ohh. Work hours 8-4
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:10pm On Dec 04, 2017
HeyCorleone:



emboldened.

When you get to the bridge, you'd cross it.
Seriously? I think we should clear easier issues like diz before the complicated one's start coming in
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by HarunaWest(m): 8:10pm On Dec 04, 2017
Realitycheck007:
Told her on 2 occasion... She just laughs and secondly she's not Jobless. She's a working class lady

I don't see her situation as a problem though sha...ma fiancee sleeps alot, buh she can't sacrifice it for work or family from ma observation....the best bet is that she sleeps early,encourage her to sleep early...am sure your d reason she sleeps late..u probably engage her into tha early nights

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by IAMSASHY(f): 8:11pm On Dec 04, 2017
Probably she visited during weekends and decided to relax more but if Dats hw she wakes during working days, den its now a habit and may take time 4 her 2 adjust.

If Dats d only problem she has, dnt b discouraged, nobody is perfect, wen ur kids arrives u can always wake her

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Gofwane(m): 8:13pm On Dec 04, 2017
ifex370:
Op stop wasting peoples mb




Be kiafu
don't mind the op. I thought he was going to say something serious like the lady only knows how to party, smoking and chasing men upandan

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by w1n5t0n(m): 8:13pm On Dec 04, 2017
op, after only 4 months? That's too short.

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Hector09(m): 8:16pm On Dec 04, 2017
I thought that u ve a genuine reason mitcheeeew, only sleep, if thats is ur only problem,bros u own better

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by ifex370(m): 8:16pm On Dec 04, 2017
Gofwane:
don't mind the op. I thought he was going to say something serious like the lady only knows how to party, smoking and chasing men upandan


Or like say she de shit for bed

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:22pm On Dec 04, 2017
MhizzAJ:
What are you calling the mods for undecided

You don't need advise...You've already concluded that she isn't a wife material...
i didn't call only the mods.. If you take 1 naira from 1 million, It no longer a Million anymore. I love her to core, She has every oda quality. Isn't a wife material as the subject is just an expression or Bait to have opinion and advice on how to change her and talk to her
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:25pm On Dec 04, 2017
Xcelinteriors:
Are you marrying her because you love her or because you want to turn her to maid. That girl should dump you as soon as possible. I am self employed and it is my husband that do prepare my baby for school every morning. I will just wake up like 7am and prepare breakfast but he will be the one to bath him and feed him. We brought the baby into this world together and should take care of him together
Thank you so much. Yes definitely i will assist her regularly. But should i be the one doing it daily? I love her to the moon

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:26pm On Dec 04, 2017
SmellingAnus:
Lol... Truth is that, there will always be a reason why we may not want a particular lady, so also there will always be a reason why despite other short comings, we still want a particular lady... It solely depends on what you feel you can't live without or what is most important to you...

On a lighter note... What if you meet another girl that wakes up early but she has a smellingpussy, you will still come to nairaland to complain to us grin
Thanks Mister, I love her and I just came here to seek advice on how to tell her and treat her
Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Nobody: 8:26pm On Dec 04, 2017
Which kind time waster be this op sef

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:26pm On Dec 04, 2017
MissWrite:
When her day gets fuller, she'll cut back on the sleep. If you want, you can schedule some activities for 5am and see if she cannot get with the program.
i think i will go with diz, I will watch her as her day get fuller

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Re: My Fiancée Isn't A Wife Material, Please Help. by Realitycheck007(m): 8:28pm On Dec 04, 2017
ClitoPen:
What advice do you want to read from here? Na u go wear the shoe. You already know what you want to do. Just looking for supporters....

Hope you are taking a good census via the comments....
1)supporters for her stay
2)supporters for her exit
3)the bats (neither stay nor exit)

Cheers...
hahahah. Nairalanders i have heard alot about this forum. The funny ones, The bad ones, The annoying ones.. Nairaland jack of all sites

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