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Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by MiddleDimension: 7:50pm On Dec 25, 2017
verygudbadguy:

True also.
这个人是例如的。
the op is an example.
我觉得很多基督徒的建议不对！
i think the idea held by majority of christians is wrong.
只学习比有爱人好多。
the idea that being more focused ia better than being in a relationship.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Edonojie007(m): 7:50pm On Dec 25, 2017
[quote author=BlessMySoul post=63603182]Sorry about that but you have to step up your game.

Meanwhile adninisher, you said the below in another thread and some hopeless Nigerians were liking it.



My response to you is this;

You worthless Vulture and Rabid dog.

May this curse you sent out to Igbo people return to you and your worthless tribe be you from the North or South.

Your immediate whole family will never know peace.

Before the the year runs out, 3 of your family members will die by terrible accident.

May the thunder of the holy ghost destroy and light up your family house.

May the curse of Ichabod and Jabez never depart from your life and your children both born and unborn and may it remain so till eternity.

The earth will reject you from this day forth.

Go to hell with your Nigerian presidency. All we Igbos want is our freedom which God will give us soon.
Brother,i Dont Know Whats Pissing You Off. But Pls Do REPENT.
What You Just Did Is EVIL!....TRUE.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by SirMichael1: 7:51pm On Dec 25, 2017
No need to be in a haste. There's not much you can do with a lady in a relationship at that age
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by aamstih: 7:51pm On Dec 25, 2017
Op, I just wish I could be in your position with what I know now.


Vibesking:

Throughout my teenage years I never indulged in anything that is remotely considered as youthful exuberances. No parties.. No hangouts.. No rebellion.. No fun.. No girls.

I'm what you'll consider as a pretty decent kid. Been always studious and devote. I felt those stuff were distractions and a waste of time. so I was always buried in books and church activities.

I thought being uptight and serious would make me "successful" . Unfortunately.... It appears I might have been wrong. I see my friends who practically live in orgies and revelries enjoy life and still have things work fine for them. So I guess screw seriousness!

Recently I've been having a strange feeling of emptiness. I read up some books and most suggested that lack of love/companionship can be a major reason for feelings of emptiness.

It then dawned on me that I've never asked a girl out in my entire life. I've never dated. I never thought it was a big deal and I pretty enjoy my company alone. I assumed I'll get a girl when am ready for marriage. But hey... I don't even know if I'll be alive that long (tomorrow isn't guaranteed).

I've recently been feeling very lonely .. do you think it's a problem I've never experienced relationship with a girl at my age? I'll be 23 next year.

I don't care about intimacy cus you can easily get that without dating no body.

Constructive suggestions please

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Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by jaxxy(m): 7:51pm On Dec 25, 2017
Ure perfectly fine. Take ur time and the no stress life for awhile.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by 1samm: 7:54pm On Dec 25, 2017
Vibesking:
Thanks for the kind words.. Very inspiring.
bro I was once like you... there
is notn wrong wit being alone for now since that is not part of your priorities..
I got my first real girlfriend just dis yr and am 25 yrs old...I ve always felt dat real relationship should be more than wat is available this days so despite pressure from my friends I held my ground and today I am glad DAT I did...I ve d most beautiful girl in d world..not just facial beauty alone but beauty of d soul... just wait for d TANGIBLE and leave all dis SUPERFICIAL relationships DAT won't stand d test of time!!!
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Nobody: 7:55pm On Dec 25, 2017
Vibesking:

Throughout my teenage years I never indulged in anything that is remotely considered as youthful exuberances. No parties.. No hangouts.. No rebellion.. No fun.. No girls.

I'm what you'll consider as a pretty decent kid. Been always studious and devote. I felt those stuff were distractions and a waste of time. so I was always buried in books and church activities.

I thought being uptight and serious would make me "successful" . Unfortunately.... It appears I might have been wrong. I see my friends who practically live in orgies and revelries enjoy life and still have things work fine for them. So I guess screw seriousness!

Recently I've been having a strange feeling of emptiness. I read up some books and most suggested that lack of love/companionship can be a major reason for feelings of emptiness.

It then dawned on me that I've never asked a girl out in my entire life. I've never dated. I never thought it was a big deal and I pretty enjoy my company alone. I assumed I'll get a girl when am ready for marriage. But hey... I don't even know if I'll be alive that long (tomorrow isn't guaranteed).

I've recently been feeling very lonely .. do you think it's a problem I've never experienced relationship with a girl at my age? I'll be 23 next year.

I don't care about intimacy cus you can easily get that without dating no body.

Constructive suggestions please



@22 u r complainin of Loneliness already
I wish u knw hw old som ppl wr b4 dey had d ballz to woo a lady.
Individual difference comes in
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by verygudbadguy(m): 7:55pm On Dec 25, 2017
MiddleDimension:

这个人是例如的。
the op is an example.
我觉得很多基督徒的建议不对！
i think the idea held by majority of christians is wrong.
只学习比有爱人好多。
the idea that being more focused ia better than being in a relationship.
grin
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by ehinorlive: 7:57pm On Dec 25, 2017
am 22, never had a gf still, i am like u when it comes to study and religion, thought i was alone. nothing like more relationship with pipo around u. if u have girls as friends u will not feel dis way
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by dkdmy: 7:58pm On Dec 25, 2017
BeeBeeOoh:
tOtO don dey hungry dis 1

Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Nobody: 7:59pm On Dec 25, 2017
Vibesking:
Read my post mongrel.. Sex isn't my priority.!
You've gotta take a chill pill man, how would you handle the often annoyind behavior and constant nagging of ladies if you can't take a man friend's banter in good faith.
Perhaps you should wait till 28 before getting one, else we may be reading your stories on NL soon.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Edonojie007(m): 8:00pm On Dec 25, 2017
harriet412:
Well, I'm 19 op,I've not had a boyfriend and there is nothing wrong with me.. I'm perfectly alrightundecided

But u need to work on ur social life, go out more often and hang out with friends.
Op,this One Just Started Marketing. Dont Be Distracted.

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Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Frankicent(m): 8:02pm On Dec 25, 2017
Smh you a scare crow. Don't you know how to woo a lady?
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Nobody: 8:02pm On Dec 25, 2017
Vibesking:

Throughout my teenage years I never indulged in anything that is remotely considered as youthful exuberances. No parties.. No hangouts.. No rebellion.. No fun.. No girls.

I'm what you'll consider as a pretty decent kid. Been always studious and devote. I felt those stuff were distractions and a waste of time. so I was always buried in books and church activities.

I thought being uptight and serious would make me "successful" . Unfortunately.... It appears I might have been wrong. I see my friends who practically live in orgies and revelries enjoy life and still have things work fine for them. So I guess screw seriousness!

Recently I've been having a strange feeling of emptiness. I read up some books and most suggested that lack of love/companionship can be a major reason for feelings of emptiness.

It then dawned on me that I've never asked a girl out in my entire life. I've never dated. I never thought it was a big deal and I pretty enjoy my company alone. I assumed I'll get a girl when am ready for marriage. But hey... I don't even know if I'll be alive that long (tomorrow isn't guaranteed).

I've recently been feeling very lonely .. do you think it's a problem I've never experienced relationship with a girl at my age? I'll be 23 next year.

I don't care about intimacy cus you can easily get that without dating no body.

Constructive suggestions please
grin grin
of course u dont care about intimacy na
vaseline is readily available grin
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Scout60(m): 8:03pm On Dec 25, 2017
Vibesking:
Read my post mongrel.. Sex isn't my priority.!

I was in your shoe before....
I don't talk to girls, too shy to talk to them but now fear don comot body

since you do go church, make friends with some good females in your church. it will teach you about girl character
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Forestry123(m): 8:03pm On Dec 25, 2017
22? I had my first girlfriend at 25 in my final year .You don't need it now.Chill bro.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Mypeople2(m): 8:05pm On Dec 25, 2017
Vibesking:

Throughout my teenage years I never indulged in anything that is remotely considered as youthful exuberances. No parties.. No hangouts.. No rebellion.. No fun.. No girls.

I'm what you'll consider as a pretty decent kid. Been always studious and devote. I felt those stuff were distractions and a waste of time. so I was always buried in books and church activities.

I thought being uptight and serious would make me "successful" . Unfortunately.... It appears I might have been wrong. I see my friends who practically live in orgies and revelries enjoy life and still have things work fine for them. So I guess screw seriousness!

Recently I've been having a strange feeling of emptiness. I read up some books and most suggested that lack of love/companionship can be a major reason for feelings of emptiness.

It then dawned on me that I've never asked a girl out in my entire life. I've never dated. I never thought it was a big deal and I pretty enjoy my company alone. I assumed I'll get a girl when am ready for marriage. But hey... I don't even know if I'll be alive that long (tomorrow isn't guaranteed).

I've recently been feeling very lonely .. do you think it's a problem I've never experienced relationship with a girl at my age? I'll be 23 next year.

I don't care about intimacy cus you can easily get that without dating no body.

Constructive suggestions please
Youngman you need to finish your education first before entering " women" educational institution. Secondly, you will not die , you are too young to die.You have much to accomplish in this life.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by borntosuccess(m): 8:06pm On Dec 25, 2017
u ar on d right path,dont change
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Edonojie007(m): 8:07pm On Dec 25, 2017
Op...! Leave Woman. Focus On Your Life!
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by bleskid: 8:08pm On Dec 25, 2017
BeeBeeOoh:
tOtO don dey hungry dis 1
cheesy
BeeBeeOoh:
tOtO don dey hungry dis 1
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Edonojie007(m): 8:10pm On Dec 25, 2017
tyrant111:
am Igbo but I swear u be mumu....people like u are the reason this country will never move forward.... he goat
Real Goat!
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by encryptjay(m): 8:12pm On Dec 25, 2017
Ups01:


I wouldn't advise you to get into a relationship now except if you have solid stable income or you've achieved most of your major Goals in Life.
As per your "feeling of emptiness" it can be due to a variety of reasons.

Here's are some tips to cure the emptiness
1. Get out of your Comfort Zone, try everything you can every day to shift your comfort zone.
2. Go Jogging Every Morning
3. Work on your Ideas - write that book, apply for that job/scholarship, read fiction and non fiction.
4. Flirt with girls, yes i mean it, go to random beautiful girls and say stuff like "Hey, I noticed you look really beautiful and i thought i should come tell you in person and also introduce myself, am Jeffery". be creative!
5. Stop watching porn/MasturbXxxxx. Porn Masturbation have dangerous side effects on the brain such as mood swings, brain fog etc.
6. Chase your Dreams!
Why you come dey use my name dey practice?grin
Op should forget the gf thoughts cos it won't lead him anywhere.
Hope he's not introverted?
I've attempted the gf stuff and it's not so could, I wish I could create a thread and write some sort of detailed stuff concerning this 'not having gf' in early 20s but it won't get a lot of replies but I might drop the thread.
There's this empty I felt couple of years back and it comes periodically at times.

I'll just create the thread.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by bleskid: 8:13pm On Dec 25, 2017
cooltola:
no worry, things go improve, just improve on yourself and focus on how to be successful.
iAM 56 BUT IAM STILL..SINGLE SO RELAX
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Edonojie007(m): 8:14pm On Dec 25, 2017
Richardabbey:
Toto Wey U Dey Find , Me I Don Do Like 56 In My Short Fucking Career ,

Ur Life Don Finish Patapata angry
If You Say His Finish,then You Are So...Gone. Just Believe Me.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by blessingsonflee(f): 8:14pm On Dec 25, 2017
You are good to go dear...Do not major in the minor. Focus on other things you won't feel empty . Do you have a complete degree? Do you have investments? . Trust me at 23 you don't want female headaches . You would wish for this moment.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Edonojie007(m): 8:16pm On Dec 25, 2017
justmi1:
From personal experience I think you should be worried. I would be 29 in some months and trust me I have never been in a relationship. I was serious with studies, I finished with good grades, got a job and a fairly decent apartment. I think I have what I "need" but I wish I could be with someone. I feel so lonely. I didn't see it as an issue at 22. Don't take life too seriously, nothing is more fulfilling in life than good relationship with people.
Simply Tell Us You Want A Girl From Nairaland Or This Thread Self;than Indirectly Showing Off.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by babadee1(m): 8:18pm On Dec 25, 2017
Vibesking:

Throughout my teenage years I never indulged in anything that is remotely considered as youthful exuberances. No parties.. No hangouts.. No rebellion.. No fun.. No girls.

I'm what you'll consider as a pretty decent kid. Been always studious and devote. I felt those stuff were distractions and a waste of time. so I was always buried in books and church activities.

I thought being uptight and serious would make me "successful" . Unfortunately.... It appears I might have been wrong. I see my friends who practically live in orgies and revelries enjoy life and still have things work fine for them. So I guess screw seriousness!

Recently I've been having a strange feeling of emptiness. I read up some books and most suggested that lack of love/companionship can be a major reason for feelings of emptiness.

It then dawned on me that I've never asked a girl out in my entire life. I've never dated. I never thought it was a big deal and I pretty enjoy my company alone. I assumed I'll get a girl when am ready for marriage. But hey... I don't even know if I'll be alive that long (tomorrow isn't guaranteed).

I've recently been feeling very lonely .. do you think it's a problem I've never experienced relationship with a girl at my age? I'll be 23 next year.

I don't care about intimacy cus you can easily get that without dating no body.

Constructive suggestions please

Some of us are late bloomers. I didn't have my first girlfriend till I was 25, but once I did I more than made up for lost time. You are at an age where you are best able to lay a foundation for your future success. Focus on being a success and the girls will come flocking later.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Nobody: 8:18pm On Dec 25, 2017
U just gotta chill and keep ur head straight.. I have similar condition also... It's just a matter of time zone...
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by PotatoSalad(m): 8:18pm On Dec 25, 2017
I'm 24 and don't have a girlfriend. Infact never had one.
Go and make money my friend. Don't do because others are doing. When it's your time, it's your time.
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Shollay20(m): 8:19pm On Dec 25, 2017
Am 105 years am still single
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by olafotad: 8:19pm On Dec 25, 2017
You are right on point....
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by TrillionBrains(m): 8:22pm On Dec 25, 2017
Jodha:


Oga to tell yhu the truth...this yhur lie really weak me...
Hey, jodha hook up on Facebook @Nwachukwu Excel. Love your threads

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