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| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 8:56pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Martin0:this has nothing to do with this topic. But yes i know what i want |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 8:58pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
pocohantas:lol it is not Financial independence shouldn't be about greater control in a relationship. it should be about the lady's financial freedom. I.e. ability to buy whatever she likes and so on. Any man not willing to give a lady greater freedom or dominance in a relationship will still find a way to make life hellish for her in that relationship. The misconception is the reason why we see threads like this. Making untrue and baseless generalization. After most ladies must have deluded themselves into thinking financial independence should guarantee freedom or greater control in a relationship and they failed, they tag all men as thesame |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by kazyhm(m): 9:00pm On Dec 27, 2017*. Modified: 2:41pm On Dec 28, 2017 |
Jupxter:Because they realized i'm a classic man and i added meanifully during the period.....and my decisions proves i'm better in reasoning..........in fact one of them is dating an understanding gold digger right now and i told her its non of my business |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:00pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
greiboy:Any man not willing to give a lady freedom ( TO ACHIEVE WHATEVER SHE WANTS ) or dominance in a relationship will still find a way to make life hellish for her in that relationship. After most ladies must have deluded themselves into thinking financial independence should guarantee freedom ( TO EXERCISE TOTAL CONTROL WITHOUT NEGOTIATION OF DECISIONS ) or greater control in a relationship and the failed, they tag all men at the same They aren't fixers, these kinds are dictatorial in nature |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:00pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Jupxter:hey i didnt ask for insults please. It is simple, just because you didnt hear of them having issues doesnt mean they never had issues cos it is their marriage, not yours, something always has to give way and it is not always the woman. Even though, your sisters may seem humble, i dont think you picked up the trait cos you clearly cannot type with respect. Think maturely, or is that too much to ask?. Good day |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by LordKO(m): 9:02pm On Dec 27, 2017*. Modified: 1:43pm On Apr 25, 2019 |
Well, only small-minded men hold an opinion that women have only pussy to offer men. Also, they're the ones that believe that all independent women are not palatable to put up with. That being said, believe you me that most men usually run away from independent women of bad ethical leanings - no sane man will ever run away from an independent woman of good ethical leanings - not because of inferiority complex, but because a woman of bad ethical leanings will automatically be/get worse if/when well placed financially or socially. The worst form of poverty out there isn't financial poverty but ethical poverty. For example, a dependent conceited woman - there's nothing wrong with an outspoken woman, but believe you me that there's everything wrong with an opinionated/contentious woman - is hell enough to put up with then, you can only imagine what such a woman will become if she's financially and socially well/better placed than her man. I doff my hat for all financially independent women of good ethical leanings. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:03pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
kazyhm:Well, at times we humans make mistakes before we get it right. So bros, which one you dey now? Financially independent or less financially independent. I always use a chick i know about as a point of reference, earns around 1Mil per month, Omg, she's so humble, so easy-going. I'm like Jesus, if i see this kind woman, i go kanck am belle, straight na quadruplets she go born for me ![]() |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Martin0(m): 9:03pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
I feel ashamed that most ladies till now don't even understand the tails of relationship and how it should be managed! I wonder if these ladies ever asked themselves what has kept the like of married celebrities such as: • Mercy johnso •Omotola! Or don't the believe these celebrities are richer and very and may even be richer than their husbands and yet the relationship has been on the going for year's for them... They should be compared to other celebrities like •Toke makinwa. •Agbe and co And ask questions as to why it collapse unlike the above as I earlier mentioned.. Well it so clear ladies don't really know what they want expecially majority.. It only takes the right man who's serious about relationship with whoevere she is to bring out exactly what she want from a man.. Out side that I believe ladies can't get the spec of what they want all alone! |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:04pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:Aunty, I mentor these marriages, and we see and talk over four times weekly since ten years. You're not in my family, please take your imaginations of my mention and go learn the act of being a good woman for a man, and quit whining |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:06pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
LordKO:As usual, you make me doff my hat for you o ye wise one... ALLOW ME MAKE IT BOLD FOR BETTER APPRECIATION That being said, believe you me that most men usually run away from bad ethical independent women - no sane man will ever run away from an independent woman of good ethical leanings - not because of inferiority complex, but because a woman of bad ethical leanings will automatically get worse when well placed financially or socially. The worst form of poverty out there isn't financial poverty but ethical poverty. For example, a dependent conceited woman - there's nothing wrong with an outspoken woman, but believe you me that there's everything wrong with an opinionated/contentious woman - is hell enough to put up with, then you can only imagine what such a woman will become if she's financially and socially well/better placed than her man. I doff my hat for all independent women of good ethical leanings. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by kazyhm(m): 9:09pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:if it doesn't why not stick to those slowpoke of a guy that understand financially independent ladies................i'm telling you non of these op category of gals have dated a smart handsome guy that knows his onions well......op makes poor choices and its very obvious |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:09pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Jupxter:Most of what you're saying falls back to exactly what I was initially saying. Pride, Ego, Jealousy is a serious issue with our men. Due to these insecurities, our men would interpret the slightest things in the wrong way and would assume the woman is trying to take on their 'role'. Assume she's prideful and all other things related. Anything threatening their 'role' is dangerous to them. The ego is like an egg that constantly needs to be protected. This is the reason why they avoid women in the financially stable category 90% time, they have the 'power' to damage that egg. I wish men would learn to be more realistic and truthful. It's not a crime to prefer financially dependent women, just stop being deceitful about it. I've also realised that Nigerian men like to play the blame game, it's quite sad. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:10pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
kazyhm:They keep dating boys, and think it's men they're dating...SO even when they move to move, they bring lessons from boy-girl dating to adult relationships...Kolework ! |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:11pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Jupxter:mentoring indeed. Come back when you have learned how to talk properly to a lady. I have nothing more to say to you that would sink in. Even if you reply this mention cos i know you will, it will be nothing more than empty rantings of a chest beater pure nonsense. I bid you adieu and a good night's sleep. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by BabbanBura(m): 9:12pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Safiaaa:Nice piece, so so true for the most part. Please note that every human craves for something he/she has deficiency and no matter your financial muscle, everyone has that deficiency and will rely on others to compliment. Superiority tool for men against women isn't only finance. For your information, independant ladies MAY not crave for finance as a deficiency but for social status, class - this will be the Achilles heel. Other financially stable ones will crave for beautiful happy family, others for companionship, others for romance, others for physical security and safety, etc. Secondly, the superioriority tool (manipulative) tool goes both ways - Women have theirs and many sure know how to use it very well. Let me give u an example, A guy i consider as 'arrived' in all aspect of life while this gal is a sales gal who only finished secondary school and have a boyfriend who she is even assisting from her 20k monthly stipend. He was interested in this gal, but she was so manipulative typical of hard-to-get card ladies play. He persisted but the gal want to turn him to Maga because she os using her superiority tool very well. In summary, everyone, males and females alike have superiority tools and all parties use them. These tools arent limited to finance. Therefore it may be misrepresentation of fact to imply men use finance as such tool against dependant ladies but break down in the presence of independant ones. I rest my case |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:13pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Safiaaa:If i've ever felt insecure to any woman, let me fall down now and die. What it is is what it is, pride and arrogance has nothing to do with a man's perception. My ealder sisters own businesses and cash in six zeros monthly, yet i've never gotten a call from my brother in law to come settle quarrels, why, cause they give them peace of mind. It's not so, with my sophisticated financially independent woman. Ladies should learn the act of being good wives and support for men, it's not too much to ask |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:14pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Jupxter:Would you be able to deal with your wife making more than you? Dont lie. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:14pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:Reverse Psychology..Lol. This doesn't work on me I hold you? You;re angry my sisters are married and financially independent, yet humble? Your frustrtaion at their goodness doesn't provide your relief. Want a better you?Start with yourself. Bye |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Martin0(m): 9:15pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:This is the more reason I say una nor dey understand... Do u know the meaning of willing to? Even if they had problems or neither the lady nor the man,but most be willing to agree to some certain things in other to achieve and build on a common lagacy btw themselves!! Ah na wa for una ooo most they explain everything for una to understand? |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:16pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
kazyhm:keep deluding yourself with such belief |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:16pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Safiaaa:I be a happier man. Infact, i make consider early retirement. Infact, i've never dated a lady without guts all my life, i swear it. When i go for ladies, i go for the top of the ladder, but then the ethical leanings matter. Having money isn't the big deal, it's character. Many financially independent ladies need to work on this department, simple ! Naturally women were not designed to hunt, but with sophistication, women now hunt, putting a lid on the glory after making much spoil is difficult, hence lots of ladies can't manage success. Isn't Agbani Darego a woman for goodness sake? Isn't Isio Wanogho a woman, ladies should take a chill pill joor, I would rather pass on a finacially independent lady with bad morals for one with lesser standing |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by pocohantas(f): 9:17pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
greiboy:My dear, leave long talk. The main tool most Nigerian men use to control their woman is finance. The fear of losing it is the beginning of wisdom... EOD That said, she never generalised. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:18pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Nice. Guys that harbour negative feelings for "successful" women have inferiority complex. On a normal day a guy won't go out of his way to date a "made" woman, he might be with an average girl because that's who he had access to. E.g you can't expect a hustling guy to go to a millionaires club to hunt for women, which is where a successful woman might frequent (just an example). I can understand if a guy is doing odd/demeaning jobs, but if you've got an okay job with a reasonable pay, I see no reason to feel inferior to anybody, male or female. Your car may not be as posh as their's, your clothes may not be as fancy, but you'll have that self assurance. I've only noticed this when it comes to approaching "big girls". I don't believe in walking up to a stranger and spewing jargons, some call it being shy, others call it pride, I call it courtesy. Why would you harass someone you've never met before? Such guys try to awe the girls by impressing them, and how are you going to impress someone in a G-wagon when you're probably jumping okadas? The sane thing to do is find a polite way of engaging a girl in a conversation. Say there's a fuel queue and I see a girl driving a Range Rover and I'm driving a Corolla, I won't feel intimidated, I just won't whistle at her or say pssst. I could start a conversation by commenting on the fuel scarcity and somehow work it into the conversation that I don't know a cool spot where one can get blah blah and she'll mention a place....etc. Hope you see where I'm going with this? Sorry for segueing, it just irritates me when I see guys chasing girls down the road and begging for phone numbers. Guys pls let that end with 2017, learn when and where to strike up a conversation that could lead to a hookup instead of debasing yourselves. So yeah, back to the topic, I'm not interested in competing with anybody financially, the only reason I want a hardworking person is because I want someone that will instill proper values and ethics in my kids not someone that will teach my daughters how to pass through university and end up a liability to one poor guy. Not that I want to chop her money, by God's grace I've reached that stage where I can never collect one naira from any woman to do anything. Her money is hers, so I couldn't care less how much she has, it doesn't freak me |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by BabbanBura(m): 9:19pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Jupxter:That's right bro. I have seen women with over 2m monthly pay subjecting that finance to the dictate of the husband and there is harmony. on the contrast, in same office i have seen a couple of women who refuse to let the hubbies in and there are chaos even 2 such cases ended in divorce A third scenario was a case of evetually getting a better paying job than the husband and then she now wants to dictate what happens in the home - ofcourse it's only an idiot that will permit that in his house so the matter ended in separation but no divorce |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:19pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Jupxter:I don't think you're being honest. Will take your word. Fair enough some independent ladies need to work on their character, but the deeper problem lies in men and their issues. That's not hard to understand. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:19pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Martin0:concerning juxpter's issue, i am done with someone who doesnt know how to argue without resorting to insults. Please let it rest and pls ignore him. But concerning what you said, it is called compromise, on that we agree. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Martin0(m): 9:20pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:I did not see any insults in his comments to you! Please if any show me and I will apologise on his behalf! |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:23pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Safiaaa:Lets do a week dating to find out naah ! I'll pay for my dates...What's my business if a lady earned more?I've been preparing for that since i was a kid... Can't date a woman that doesn't have stature abeg 1 We men need to work on our character to, we need to be more tolerant, patient and help you ladies trust us, and work towards building a stable and solid relationship. We all need one another |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:24pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
Martin0:I like being tagged a villain, leave her dont apologise on my behalf please, otherwise when you come na ONLY you go pay for all the drinks we go take o |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:24pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
kazyhm:You should be the one that should stop being sentimental because you know you just lied. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Martin0(m): 9:24pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:Please tell me where that dude has offended you either by mean's of insults or where u don't like about him and I will apologise or rather I will talk to him! Oh atleast now u understand! That exactly what keeps relationship going! Then finally I will say this to you! ____________________________________ While searching for the perfect man, some women fail to see their own imperfections. While some ladies are so busy finding fault with everyone, they fail to look at themselves and their own flaws. Some of these flaws are the reason they are still single as most men can’t handle it. Look inwards and change those habits and attitudes that drive people away from you. Do not not allow your past mistakes compromise your hope for the future. Never let your fear of the unknown and things being too difficult make your choices for you in life. Taking a chance at love means you take a chance with your heart. |
| Re: Nigerian Men, you Are Confused by Nobody: 9:24pm On Dec 27, 2017 |
BenShammer:thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Finally a man who has made so much sense and understands tyebmessage safiaa is trying to convey. Most women, especially those with tyeir act together wouldnt think twice about saying yes to someone who thinks like yoy and takes your approach. This is what some people refused to learn, simple courtesy. God bless you once again. If anyone want to mention me pls refer to his post. Thanks. |
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