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Jupxter:
If communication is healthy, relationships have a higher chance of working out right !

Martin0:
Well I don't know about the majority..

My father is very very smart infact he did diploma in law though we see him as a lawyer coz of the qualities in him and my mother is another smart one there very smart as u can ever imagine,and I ve not withness any of these things u mention all through the time I spent with them...

Like I said the dumb will marry the dumb,I don't think there will be any normal intelligent man who will wanna spend the rest of his whole life with a dumb women,I doubt but all thesame I will do my finding on this dumb women issue !

And again I like intelligent women who won't be dumb to me coz if she's dumb I may start developing being dumb too!

Jupxter:
They're dating average men or boys, i've never dated a chick that's not super smart. That's one shining quality with al ladies i've dated. Wetin i want take UN-smart chick do? Anyways, i think i'm hunting not-so-smart less financially independent chick next....

Ladyhippolyta88:
See me see JAMB question.Yes,a lot of relationship experts I have watched or listened to and even relatives have all said communication is key.

Jupxter:
that would be you

Ladyhippolyta88:
No nor be me,Education first.

Jupxter:
Intelligence is a subtle curse, bros, ignorance is bliss !

Gerrard59:
Safiaa, get ready for smack down from majority of NL males. I don talk tire say, that money changes people and today's women who fend for themselves (at legally) will not tolerate the BS their moms got. It is not westernisation as some claim, it is the change (which is constant) that comes with money. Moreover, today's economy does not encourage only one partner contributing to the household. Most males have noticed this, but like you said still erroneously accuse the females of bringing only pussy to the table. This is false.

You cannot date a financially independent lady and expect she will 'bow' or 'kneel' (in 9ice's voice) to you when you order her to. It won't just happen! Yet, these are the same women majority of NL (judging from posts and topics across the forum) desire and expect the "Agama lifestyle"? It's same men who shout white girls, white women, foreign women, but will be "Eboued" should they try to date any white lady. Asking for what they cannot handle. Blatant hypocrisy everywhere.

Martin0:
Well I don't know about the majority..

My father is very very smart infact he did diploma in law though we see him as a lawyer coz of the qualities in him and my mother is another smart one there very smart as u can ever imagine,and I ve not withness any of these things u mention all through the time I spent with them...

Like I said the dumb will marry the dumb,I don't think there will be any normal intelligent man who will wanna spend the rest of his whole life with a dumb women,I doubt but all thesame I will do my finding on this dumb women issue !

And again I like intelligent women who won't be dumb to me coz if she's dumb I may start developing being dumb too!

Jupxter:
The law, the law

Build your relationship/friendship while on the way !

Martin0:
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When I said subtle curse! I mean in some human's !

I read one article sometime 3year's back and the guy was saying it more of a curse on some human's coz they sound intelligent but yet they don't posses it either!

Ignorance is never going to be bliss! But in some people it is

Jupxter:
The law, the law

Build your relationship/friendship while on the way !

DrinkLimca:
so what's wrong with it?

Martin0:
Leav that to me,I will put her on the way

Jupxter:
Intelligent people are difficult to correct. They are not aware of their conditions, when a person can't be corrected or don't listen to make corrections, how can they make corrections and improve. I've always maintained intelligence has a downside, that's the tact to appl with intelligence,intelligence is like a fast speeding train, it needs sound character, to tame it. It's a roaring fire and without control mechanisms, it will destroy its owner...Intelligence is a subtle curse. Ignorance is bliss !

Gerrard59:
Safiaa, get ready for smack down from majority of NL males. I don talk tire say, that money changes people and today's women who fend for themselves (at least legally) will not tolerate the BS their moms got. It is not westernisation as some claim, it is the change (which is constant) that comes with money. Moreover, today's economy does not encourage only one partner contributing to the household, and maintaining a desirable standard of living. Most males have noticed this, but like you said still erroneously accuse the females of bringing only pussy to the table. This is false.

You cannot date a financially independent lady and expect she will 'bow' or 'kneel' (in 9ice's voice) to you when you order her to. It won't just happen! Yet, these are the same women majority of NL (judging from posts and topics across the forum) desire and expect the "Agama lifestyle"? It's the same men who shout white girls, white women, foreign women, but will be "Eboued" should they try to date any white lady. Asking for what they cannot handle. Blatant hypocrisy everywhere.

Yes, people should date within their class/level. From my rough research, it solves wahala and egos being bruised. The level of partners need to be very close or same for the relationship to really progress. Even The Economist and Brookings have written on this:

https://www.brookings.edu/blog/social-mobility-memos/2016/04/08/the-rich-marrying-the-rich-makes-the-income-gap-worse-but-its-not-our-biggest-problem/
https://www.economist.com/news/leaders/21640331-importance-intellectual-capital-grows-privilege-has-become-increasingly

But we should not also forget that ladies desire things to be bought for them by men; however, not with their money. It is psychology and nature. It is another reason why the gender pay gap is a myth.

DrinkLimca:
99.9% of female romancelanders will never get married..
some will stay single or become a baby mama..

All the females in nairaland that their pre wedding pics had featured in front page..
Non are romance landers..

This shows that 99.9% of female romance landers are not wife materials.

pocohantas:
We can keep typing...it doesn't change anything.

Yes, some financially independent women can be proud but truth is, most men love to dominate, money makes it a whole lot easier for them. Some of the ones that marry financially independent women, would still use tactical and manipulative ways to ensure she doesn't cross a safe point..

Nice points...

Blackhawk03:
Oh! You don't know? You shouldn't be here talking about dirty girls then, go do your assignment on "superlatives" young man.

Sfiaaa, ride on.

Martin0:
Now u see!

Ladyhippolyta88:
Seriously Mr man are you sure you are well?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Okay since you are a guy and you know so much on men's issues no problem.

Jupxter:
bros we don enter am, an intelligent chick will rationalise and debate all your decisions, the constant questioning of a man's judgement is enough to make him go crazy

DrinkLimca:
Truth is bitter.

Martin0:
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Hay!
I don't know so much on men's issue we are all learning here and am one of those learner's!

Safiaaa:
Most of what you're saying falls back to exactly what I was initially saying. Pride, Ego, Jealousy is a serious issue with our men. Due to these insecurities, our men would interpret the slightest things in the wrong way and would assume the woman is trying to take on their 'role'. Assume she's prideful and all other things related. Anything threatening their 'role' is dangerous to them. The ego is like an egg that constantly needs to be protected. This is the reason why they avoid women in the financially stable category 90% time, they have the 'power' to damage that egg. I wish men would learn to be more realistic and truthful. It's not a crime to prefer financially dependent women, just stop being deceitful about it. I've also realised that Nigerian men like to play the blame game, it's quite sad.

Safiaaa:
On the other hand, when a women is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A women who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long tin

greiboy:
This was what I was saying before that you dismissed.

Jupxter:
Even for guys, intelligence makes people difficult to " agree with ", not control or manipulate, they see things as a contest and prepare in advance against a war, it's the mental posture, it's what i call a war mindse always thinking someone is out to outwit them, it makes one unpeaceful and subjects its vessel to a war-ring mindset always thinking they want to use me. It puts a toll on the other party, even in work, bros, i rather tag with less intelligent people. I've seen illiterates work peacefully, but hardly do we see smart chaps come together to work on a project, na lie, na fight go end am

Ladyhippolyta88:
Put who?on what way.

richythePH:
Aunty i'm certain you must have been observing a very minutescule set of nigerian men albiet the wrong ones too


an average nigerian man is more attracted to a financially independent woman than he is to a financially dependent woman


majority of these financially dependent ladies mostly end up being side chics