suicide is never an option.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
the best way to be happy is to stop expecting people to give you happiness. The greater part of happiness comes from within. To be honest with you there are people you see everyday wearingacheerful faces but are actually going thru a lot of bad stuff. Don't take what people tell u very serious. Laugh when people tell u some hurtful things.
Don't even let any man born of a woman to make you feel worthless. Some people derive pleasure from that and u must not allow to take a upper hand. Try listening to micheal Bolton's "when I'm back on my feeta again'.
Make sure you don't take the horrible things people tell you serious. You really need to love yourself and stop expecting love from anyone except God who's your maker.

Thanks I will put your opinions into motion. Hopefully it works. But it's hard but I know with determination I will get over it. Thanks once again.

Arondizuogu:


Thanks I will put your opinions into motion. Hopefully it works. But it's hard but I know with determination I will get over it. Thanks once again.

you must get over it dear. It's necessary and good for your health.

I could see many people are suffering from depression here and i dont know if to share the fatest way to cure it here just open another thread for averyone to learn from.

Painting, photography, music, exercise or writing in a journal are all ways you can explore your feelings and express what's on your mind. The goal isn't to create a masterpiece. Do something that gives you pleasure. It may help you better understand who you are and how you feel.Also try to eat healthy.. Serotonin-rich foods don’t boost serotonin, but a special serotonin diet and some specific foods can elevate mood and help treat disorders like depression.The spice turmeric contains the active ingredient curcumin which readily crosses the blood-brain barrier and increases levels of both serotonin and dopamine...Dark chocolate, always a popular brain booster, increases serotonin levels in both the brain and the digestive tract... A healthy alternative to chocolate candy bars are cacao nibs which contain all the mood-boosting compounds found in chocolate, minus the sugar...Green tea is one of the healthiest drinks on the planet.
It contains over 700 bioactive compounds including l-theanine.
This naturally relaxing amino acid increases levels of serotonin, dopamine, and GABA... Cold-Water Fatty Fish
People with low serotonin levels commonly have low levels of DHA, an omega-3 fatty acid that is an essential structural building block of the brain.Eating cold-water fatty fish like salmon that’s high in omega-3 fatty acids can help raise serotonin levels..Fermented foods like yogurt, kefir and unpasteurized sauerkraut naturally contain psychobiotics, probiotics that help establish a normal balance between good and bad bacteria in your intestines...
An overabundance of bad bacteria creates toxic byproducts called lipopolysaccharides which have numerous negative effects on your brain including lowering serotonin levels and causing depression ..

Life is beautiful and it will be better.. My brother killed himself and you have no idea what suicide do to friends and family members.. I too almost died.. I collapesed outside.. had convultions.. trew up all over my self.. My heart stopped.. Ambulance came and started my heart.. I was in a coma as Nina doe.. Had a stroke while I was in a coma.. Woke up after a week.. Had lost my job.. Couldnt pay my bills.. Lost my apartment my 86 inch TV and leather couches everything I had.. I was depressed too now.. Had to stay with a friend.. Had to go get a new job.. I prayed.. God guided my step.. Now I'm a Gm Manager.. A bosslady and I live in a house in the country club.. God is great.. Never give up.. It will be better..

Oyindidi:
I was like you till I decided to change that in 2016.

I share same issue with you
But am really coping with mine

dis depression im also going 2ru it since i b4 i gained admission and after... im a brilliant student bt i dont know wah happened oi.... i wud write exams nd see opposite results every year/level im been changed department previously cgpa waz 0.9...200level ...1.2 ......300level 1.5.and i read like madt... friends think I'm a snub bt im just carryin a restless soul up n down.... nd i dnt give a f**k abt life... even in my phone gallery 80percent of the photos are RIp so iv been preparing 4 d beyond.
Bt i just adopted a new strategy working partially for me... just do wat u like nd dont think about anythin.... to cut it short it is only d pleasure of S*X dt made me know atleast there is fun living. also pray n attend new churches every sunday so u can start mixing wit pple nd feel welcomed. (from a fellow depressed brother )

Visit a therapist if you can afford one. Sometimes just having someone listen to your problems can help you are depressed because there a lot of things in you wanting to be poured out.

Dee9977:
dis depression im also going 2ru it since i b4 i gained admission and after... im a brilliant student bt i dont know wah happened oi.... i wud write exams nd see opposite results every year/level im been changed department previously cgpa waz 0.9...200level ...1.2 ......300level 1.5.and i read like madt... friends think I'm a snub bt im just carryin a restless soul up n down.... nd i dnt give a f**k abt life... even in my phone gallery 80percent of the photos are RIp so iv been preparing 4 d beyond.
Bt i just adopted a new strategy working partially for me... just do wat u like nd dont think about anythin.... to cut it short it is only d pleasure of S*X dt made me know atleast there is fun living. also pray n attend new churches every sunday so u can start mixing wit pple nd feel welcomed. (from a fellow depressed brother )

are you still in school?

@ Bool3 im still in school oi

Depression ain't no joke bro, but a lot of people fall into it though in varying stages.

Here are some tips that worked for me

1. Always remind yourself that this is a test to make you stronger emotionally.

2. Try to be happy within yourself and stop trying too hard to please others.

3. CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT. Sometimes what causes these unpleasant episodes are things or people that around us a change of environment (maybe a vacation) can help you get over events people or things that trigger depression.

4. Always associate yourself with delightful company.

5. Stop dwelling in the past except you can do something about that past.


That's all I can say for now. Buy remember; rule your emotions and never allow them rule you because, the spirit of a man is subject to the man

Dee9977:
@ Bool3 im still in school oi

how re you handling it?

Alcohol or drug isn't the main solution, my opinion. Drug can help but alcohol would do no help.

Try this, have a look at true Christianity, sure d entrance is simple, accept him in your heart, declared with your mouth his lordship over your life henceforth.

I tell you that would be all, and I mean all to your nightmare too, trust me. Cheers.

touch1234:
I grew up like this.

I just get sad for nothing or stupid reasons. I have tried drugs and alcohol but I always come back to the same spot.

It has gotten worse now that the country is in a bad shape.

I have had suicidal thoughts countless times and am afraid one day I would yield.

My life is miserable. Nobody knows am dying inside, people just think am proud or being a snob.

I need someone to at least tell me if this is a common problem or how to go about it before it gets out of hand totally.

first of. Alcohol and pills will not help you...it will only make things worse.

1. You need to start making new friends. Make many friends...you will find the ones that are always fun to be with. Join whatzapp groups and be active

2. You need to go out more often.

3. If you are used to your headsets or earpiece. Throw them away. You dont need any alone time for now.

4. Depression sets in when you start seeing negativity in things and this will bring lose of hope for the future. So please be positive by seeing the positivity in everything.

5. Be spiritual...join a service unit in your church or mosque. The best is drama group. This wil help you switch personalities and manage your feelings.

6. Most importantly:..Start dating. Dating gives you a sense of responsibility and belonging. You wake up everyday to know that someone somewhere cares.

7. If you are a girl. Dont wait for him to be the first to message you everytime. Send him a message kus guys like girls that reciprocates and are sponteanous

@ boole3 i just gave up on thinking nd worryn... bt i do feel bad atimes sha wen parents begin dia usuall talk. ( left to me i wont bother at all... bt to them im not making them proud )... bt i thank God im sha doing my best.

touch1234:


I have given it a thought. I know it's probably bipolar but the problem I have is that I don't want to be diagnosed of something like that here in this environment. Everybody will say am crazy, I have heard medical practitioners in Nigeria talk about these things. The stigmatization is enough to ruin a person.

I have been struggling with this all my life. I wanted to open up to my mum when I was around 6 or 7. I told her I was sad, she looked at me with disgust and told me never to say such. That's how I kept quiet and I have always kept to myself.

Most of the advice the posters are giving you isn't going to help you because their solutions are for people who suffer with regular/normal depression.
From reading and understanding your post and symptoms I'm pretty sure that you are suffering with clinical depression ( I have a family member who suffers with bipolar) and it's hell for the person and the love ones if the person goes untreated. Suicide is a symtom of clinical depression

Please listen to me, it is EXTREMELY important that you see a doctor IMMEDIATELY.
You need to be diagnosed so that you can be treated, don't concern yourself with the things other people say or think because their ignorance is not your problem.
Make getting yourself healthy and well your number 1 priority.
Please heed by advice, and take care.

Also this could be hereditary.

Dee9977:
@ boole3 i just gave up on thinking nd worryn... bt i do feel bad atimes sha wen parents begin dia usuall talk. ( left to me i wont bother at all... bt to them im not making them proud )... bt i thank God im sha doing my best.

God will see us through

@touch1234

No amount of drugs can work. You alone can heal yourself.

Everyone on earth faces depression at a point in their lives even pastors, what matter is how you deal with it.

I still get depressed sometimes without reasons but immediately i realize what i'm going through, i rather play music (hiphop preferably to ginger my spirit) watch movie or call a friend to come over.

I bet some still hinge their depression on their temperament claiming #i'm a melancholy#

Just tell yourself the truth and watch how depression goes away

#Suicide should not be an option please like someone suggested SEE A DOCTOR please...

MsRoe:

I know that I should probably create a new moniker for this just like you have done, but Bleep it! ...

Thanks for sharing. Those drugs bother me too. I took them, they didn't work. Until I was told they don't work for folks like me.

Debbielam:

Hi a lot of people don't know this but if you grew up like this then you're probably bipolar (probably stage 1).....its something a lot of people don't really take into consideration in nigeria. ..
My friend has the same problem. ..He was on meds before but he stopped now ....He learnt to take control over his feelings. ...its quite complicated but easy. .are you the only child?
Ps- he was treated abroad

I was going to make a similar suggestion. There are possibilities - bipolar disorder, autism spectrum disorder, etc - that Nigerians aren't terribly familiar with.

touch1234:


I have given it a thought. I know it's probably bipolar but the problem I have is that I don't want to be diagnosed of something like that here in this environment. Everybody will say am crazy, I have heard medical practitioners in Nigeria talk about these things. The stigmatization is enough to ruin a person.

I have been struggling with this all my life. I wanted to open up to my mum when I was around 6 or 7. I told her I was sad, she looked at me with disgust and told me never to say such. That's how I kept quiet and I have always kept to myself.

A diagnosis does two things. It lets you know it's not your fault. It lets you know WHAT you're dealing with so you can read the experiences of others like you and learn coping strategies. You may even access assistive technology.

There is no need to worry about stigma since the doctors aren't going to send your results to TVC or Ibadan FM. I was diagnosed with ASD but nobody knows unless I tell them.

Arondizuogu:


I feel worthless. Hurtful words has been said to me by friends and family. I feel like this stupid creature that shouldn't have been given birth to. Nothing seems to be helping. I just feel empty and useless. And I don't want to feel this way. I just want acceptance if you can put it that way. I can't remember the last time I was happy.

Bipolar disorder. Asperger's syndrome, schizophrenia, APD, etc. Have you considered these possibilities? I suggest you read up on them. There are even online tests before you go to a psychiatrist for confirmation.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
the best way to be happy is to stop expecting people to give you happiness. The greater part of happiness comes from within. To be honest with you there are people you see everyday wearingacheerful faces but are actually going thru a lot of bad stuff. Don't take what people tell u very serious. Laugh when people tell u some hurtful things.
Don't even let any man born of a woman to make you feel worthless. Some people derive pleasure from that and u must not allow to take a upper hand. Try listening to micheal Bolton's "when I'm back on my feeta again'.
Make sure you don't take the horrible things people tell you serious. You really need to love yourself and stop expecting love from anyone except God who's your maker.

Thank u v much for this piece.its what I need this v moment

See a psychiatrist. Do not be ashamed to take medication.

Dee9977:
@ boole3 i just gave up on thinking nd worryn... bt i do feel bad atimes sha wen parents begin dia usuall talk. ( left to me i wont bother at all... bt to them im not making them proud )... bt i thank God im sha doing my best.

baba, how far? how school?

Boole3:

baba, how far? how school?

omo school dey oi .... I just dey ova try my best oi I no wan get carry over oi .
hope ya dept no dey worry u oi

my G.... in every race there must be an end and a price... don't listen to that deciving voice just hang on and you will say I told you.

Dee9977:


omo school dey oi .... I just dey ova try my best oi I no wan get carry over oi .
hope ya dept no dey worry u oi

oboy the day wey I leave this school na the day wey my dpt no go worry me o..
which level u dey sef?

Dee9977:


omo school dey oi .... I just dey ova try my best oi I no wan get carry over oi .
hope ya dept no dey worry u oi

we fit chat for Facebook?... just want to talk to someone.... feeling like i'm going through this alone

yemmit90:
I could see many people are suffering from depression here and i dont know if to share the fatest way to cure it here just open another thread for averyone to learn from.

Open a separate thread. Depression is no respecter of class, everyone suffers depression-rich or poor. Please open a thread on this if you really know you can help people

Folks talking about excercises, reading novels and all that!


Bro, your case is either clinical depression or bipolar disorder!

Clinical depression, u feel useless and worthless, feel like nothing is worth living for and that's when suicidal thoughts sets in... in clinical depression u are always low, lack of concentration, loss of interest, I mean the depression will disable you totally and u can just lay on ur bed all day without motivation to get up and do anything. I know so much about clinical depression cuz I suffered from it last year April! Was totally disabled for like 6 months, always inside the house, always in bed might not bath for two days straight!

PS: I wasn't born like that, it just started all of a sudden!

My loved ones thought everything was fine, I knew something was wrong with me, they know too but I could not even explain what was wrong.
I could not work, if not for my family!
Even in my sleep I always had the scariest dream.
Suicide was all I could think of...

To cut the long story short!

After about 6months of same routine, mom suggested that I see a doctor, man I was so shy when I got to Aro Abeokuta to see the doctor, then I explained everything to him, I told him exactly how I was feeling and he diagnoised me of Major depression/Clinical depression.

Doctor recommended an antidepressant for me (Amitriptyline) 100mg for a start! The first day I used that drug, I slept from 4pm till like 1pm the next day ( haven't had any sound sleep in like six months). After I woke up, I felt a bit relieved... I get small joy. I came out of the room and smiled at my sis and she was like " this is the first time u smiled since like 6 months ago"
Doctor told me I have to keep using the drug for life..

Well... at some point the depression came back and it disappeared again, so basically I got tired of buying the drug so I stopped taking it around October 2017, and I have been very happy ever since!!! I mean real Joy o!

WHEN I SAID I ALMOST COMMITED SUICIDE MAN THAT WAS SO REAL!!! IF NOT FOR MY LOVED ONES, I WAS NEVER LEFT ALONE, IF I HAD BEEN LEFT ALONE AT SOME POINT THEN, I WOULD HAVE BEEN DEAD!!!

As for bipolar disorder, I don't know much about it but I do know that Antidepressant doesn't treat that cuz if u are bipolar u have ur high time when u will be extremely happy and then u have the extremely low which disables you! unlike clinical when you are always low... Well there are treatments for bipolar tooo maybe some drugs and seeing a psychologist! (I don't know much).

As for you op, forget exercise and all that poo.. it can never help you, all those telling you I do that do not know what real depression is, sadness better pass depression o... I advice you to get the help you need, see a doctor, get diagnosed and know what exactly is wrong with you first! Then the doctor will help you out. Might be drugs or whatever! Accept my 10 kobo

Secondly: Be close to God! Pray tha he should heal your soul. Finish!

Just for the books, IF THIS WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER� Do you know stormzy?? The U.K. Rap artiste that sang "Shut up" ? You can google him. He suffers from depression and after he dropped
Shut up in 2015, he had to take like almost a year break due to depression, cancelled all tours and all that, Guess what?? He came back early February 2017, dropped the album GSAP and he went number one in the U.K. Don't give up! Get help!

You can listen to these two stormzy songs
"First things first" and "lay me bare" especially the latter! You will understand!

Finally, bro u are not alone!





God bless!