obaataaokpaewu:
Majority of the No was from the female.... Maybe the husbands claimed to be Dangote before marriage and they now saw that "nothing dey house" after marriage?

Not that ooo. We all want to be Mrs. Especially those of us that are lazy. We think we are running from home and problems at home. Na we marriage dey hungry pass. Then during courtship we will close eye and be planning wedding. We will not see what we are supposed to see, or we will see it and pretend it's not a problem. God help us all.

Majority of the nos from the females can be traced to "money"

obaataaokpaewu:
Majority of the No was from the female.... Maybe the husbands claimed to be Dangote before marriage and they now saw that "nothing dey house" after marriage?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You can try that tactics though. But looking at it, I think foreign culture and ideologies are part of the reason why things are like this, even social media is a culprit.

Too much knowledge my dear. Knowledge has reduced tolerance and many people don't grow their souls to match their intellect level. It's highly troubling the way relationships break thesedays and actions of so-called loved ones. He poured water on me 5 days before wedding i called it off, the other one too that poured the water is a slowpoke. The thing my lady is, we need to see more reason to remain onboard the ship that reasons to vacate it.

The devil keeps whispering things that aren't there into people's ears and it triggers a response.

Also, rather than many working on themselves, they spend their youthful days lusting and sleeping around, when it's time for the real deal, they aren't psychologically and mentally prepared.

Finally, it's okay to be ill prepared, but then the desire to get it right should be the motivating factor for many of us, but na lie. When i read comments like anyone that can't marry me for who i am should walk.

It's the new maady ive seen in town, even God wants us transformed and renewed in our mind after we become renewed, then when should i not demand for slight improvement/changes in issues i don't like or can't deal with, especially since i'm winlling to make some changes myself.

Selfishness,self-centerness,self-preservation all of this are the culprits, it's easier to marry, but these things hinders cleaving process in marriage, in one body, one soul,one mind in two different bodies, this is what's missing, the binding factor.

234GT:
Married people should stop making the thing look like rocket science. Marriage requires only the commitment and determination of the 2 individuals involved to work.
A woman committed to the success of her marriage won't pick up FOOLISH quarrels with her husband, and a committed man won't start sleeping around.
It's simple.

Really... that simple ....right?

ajl:


What if your partner wouldn't stop messing up.

Marriage is meant for those who can bear it. It is sweet and at the same time very challenging.
If one's partner will not stop messing up, keep loving him/her. That's the oath they took. For better for worse, till death do us part, I will keep loving.
That's the same love God showed to us even when we always mess up, He keeps loving us.

chiddyok:

Not that ooo. We all want to be Mrs. Especially those of us that are lazy. We think we are running from home and problems at home. Na we marriage dey hungry pass. Then during courtship we will close eye and be planning wedding. We will not see what we are supposed to see, or we will see it and pretend it's not a problem. God help us all.

It boils down to selfishness, even if there are issues and we marry a person with issue, if the person is willing to improve, i see no reason why such marriage will not stand the test of time. People have a demaning culture that stinks, that self entitlement, that comes with how i want to be treated, plus, an unwillingness to improve even during marriage is another issue. The key to me is to never marry/date or even consider any person who's not on the path of contoinous improvement. Also, run away from anyone that appears perfect like a brother mentioned earlier.


Joseph did not date, Issac did not date, but we never heard a single wahala in the marriage of Joseph despite marrying a foreigner, it's self-entitlement,self-aggrandizement,over-inflated sense of self, selfishness,self-centernedness is making people run maad


If people stop using their lives/marriages to prove a point, then marriages will be better. Some ladies will spend their entire lives wearing themselves out to make money cause they don't want to be told by their partners he helped them. Some men want it their way or no other way and are not opened for discussion, i recommend registry to check for psychiatric tests on people to determine their psychological wellness before they grant them license to marry, many people by themselves are seeck, and need help. Both genders alike


Education and knowledge should improve things instead it's making many of us unbearable and intolerant, we have it in the reverse, too much knowledge is the problem


Time for church. See you guys later

revolt:
women r getting more feminist men are getting less masculine

ahaaaaa... That's the world we live in. Now the anthem on men's lips is "what's she bringing to the table ". So what could be the possible solution?

pantherblack:




Too much knowledge my dear. Knowledge has reduced tolerance and many people don't grow their souls to match their intellect level. It's highly troubling the way relationships break thesedays and actions of so-called loved ones. He poured water on me 5 days before wedding i called it off, the other one too that poured the water is a slowpoke. The thing my lady is, we need to see more reason to remain onboard the ship that reasons to vacate it.

The devil keeps whispering things that aren't there into people's ears and it triggers a response.

Also, rather than many working on themselves, they spend their youthful days lusting and sleeping around, when it's time for the real deal, they aren't psychologically and mentally prepared.

Finally, it's okay to be ill prepared, but then the desire to get it right should be the motivating factor for many of us, but na lie. When i read comments like anyone that can't marry me for who i am should walk.

It's the new maady ive seen in town, even God wants us transformed and renewed in our mind after we become renewed, then when should i not demand for slight improvement/changes in issues i don't like or can't deal with, especially since i'm winlling to make some changes myself.

Selfishness,self-centerness,self-preservation all of this are the culprits, it's easier to marry, but these things hinders cleaving process in marriage, in one body, one soul,one mind in two different bodies, this is what's missing, the binding factor.

Quite a write-up. Many are getting it right. You just have to find that person you compatible with. All the best

Oblongata:
bros that orgasm aspect sef...

na if she dey gree you do

e go reach time wey una vex no go gree you sex for months

una go just be flatmates

e go resemble prison only say you can move around the city

you become emotional punching bag

this happens usually towards the 10th year

have been there, and i have great talks with friends

we mostly make fun of ourselves nowadays

True True.

revolt:
women r getting more feminist men are getting less masculine

Men love feminists(liberal). A woman who knows what she wants, has her say, independent, and can communicate effectively in any intellectual discourse. I think social media is the cause of men becoming less masculine

Olumyyde:

I totally disagree with your standpoint sir.

Ofcourse you should. I appreciate it when people disagree with my assertions, cos it shows we have 7 colours in a rainbow, though beam comes from one color, called white. So there are 7 perspectives to the Truth, mine is just louder.

timsbee:
Over and over again....





Him like no other

That man go get money big time.

NwanyiAwka:
Men love feminists(liberal).I think social media is the cause of men becoming less masculine

This.

engrelvis:
u never ready.r relationship or baby mamas nt scary these.most people change when dey marry .is how u it handle dat matters.u cannot b young forever.u need someone to take care of u when u r old n who deos dat better dan yr biological children

A situation where you are ready to give your best but your spouse is not cooperating, it can be disheartening. Marriage is not only about bearing children.

Tinamoore:


Yes, from my own experience, love is pain.wouldn't have married him if I knew what I know now.

What do you know now that you didn't know before? Can you sort of shed more light? I'll like to learn from you

Never. My greatest mistake in life is the wife I married

Liliyann:
All this married people just keep on scaring the single ones
Truth is nobody forced them to get married,that your marriage isn't a bed of roses or what you envisioned for shouldn't make you discourage others!!

As for me,the only thing that can make me have a second thought about my husband that is if I eventually decide to marry is poverty,nothing turns me off more than a broke and lazy guy.

So, if your husband had a great profitable business before marriage but things went downhill some years into marriage due to circumstances beyond his control and not his fault, you will dump him and marry another person?

It's either you think with a brain soaked in hot feces or you are a curse to womanhood.

Your understanding of marriage is very poor, immature and undignifying. Please stay single for the rest of your life and have no kids, lest you pour your useless, unearthly ideas into the poor hapless, helpless kids.

kimbraa:
Why do you have this sickening formed opinion that everything revolve around money? Before they said NO, they must have had reasons enough to say NO that doesn't necessarily revolve around money. What of nauseating characters, incompatibility, etc. And FYI, marriage isn't boring with the right person.

If you read my comment properly, you'll discover that I said that I'm of the opinion that money is not the catalyst to happiness.It'll never be.Does money makes things easier? YES. It is money (and God's Grace) that kept the late Stephen Hawking till 76.I he was in a village in Maiduguri,he would have been dead long time ago.

You are right, many things rate higher than money.I know that.

Also, are you married?

Now, no one in life hates comfort and ease. The question on the thread is, would you marry your spouse if you know what you know now?. Many married people are living lives they did not envisaged, would they want that again if they were to have another go at it? My comment was just an analysis based on this objective question.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Men love feminists(liberal). A woman who knows what she wants, has her say, independent, and can communicate effectively in any intellectual discourse. I think social media is the cause of men becoming less masculine

NO...men love women that are a lil helpless, but super tactical. This ensures he takes responsibility or becomes onerous to her, thus boosting his ego. Independent women make men feel useless, and we all know how women don't really handle power cos of their emmotions.
This is the ideal position tho. No man wants to share responsibility with his woman. That's basically the only way hell guard his queen like an egg.

revolt:
NO...men love women that are a lil helpless, but super tactical. This ensures he takes responsibility or becomes onerous to her, thus boosting his ego. Independent women make men feel useless, and we all know how women don't really handle power cos of their emmotions.
This is the ideal position tho. No man wants to share responsibility with his woman. That's basically the only way hell guard his queen like an egg.

You sure about that Where are you from?

234GT:
Married people should stop making the thing look like rocket science. Marriage requires only the commitment and determination of the 2 individuals involved to work.
A woman committed to the success of her marriage won't pick up FOOLISH quarrels with her husband, and a committed man won't start sleeping around.
It's simple.

Huncle abi Hanty marriage isn't how you look at it from afar, it takes only the grace of God to stand, only the married understands marriage, it's not easy that's why we are being advised to be mentally, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually ready before getting married. Someone once said it is a bitter sweet experience but if the bitterness exceeds the sweetness then it will only get worse. Quarrels are ALWAYS bound to take place, we are humans. Prayer is the key to a successful marriage, if not the devil will make you form a mountain out of a molehill.

Waffarianman:


Guy marriage no b ahm pray you don't fall on the wrong wife. From delta got married to Igbo woman, bro d battle no b here they trying taking my kids away from me. Shapaly I remove my 2kids remaining our new born son... She decided to stay in her father's house but the battle continue.... Guys that never gotten married be praying oo women are wicked, D's 1 I jamm na Jezebel. Still know Oghene(God) pass dem

Chai God dey your back.

YelloweWest:

U think m9ney can keep a marriage?

Go to court and see rich people filing for divorce everyday.

By the way are u even aware that dangote is a 3 time divorcee??

I used "Maybe", didn't conclude

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You sure about that Where are you from?

I'm a mallam.

obaataaokpaewu:
I used "Maybe", didn't conclude

Senseless assumption.

Those saying 'No' may even be the problem in their marriages.

YelloweWest:

Senseless assumption.

k

Oh my Jesus, I'm afraid of marriage, I feel like crying

revolt:
I'm a mallam.

Only a sweeping glance at your threads tells all. Bye Mr mallam

Yes, yes, and yes
I will choose him over and over again. God bless you my husband and bless the work of your �
I love you Taiyelolu ejire

chiddyok:

Not that ooo. We all want to be Mrs. Especially those of us that are lazy. We think we are running from home and problems at home. Na we marriage dey hungry pass. Then during courtship we will close eye and be planning wedding. We will not see what we are supposed to see, or we will see it and pretend it's not a problem. God help us all.

Blessed are you madam, for these was not reveal to you by flesh and blood, but byGod in heaven. You said it all